Hi The only social media I have is Facebook but for some reason I like to keep some things private and that's why I don't have my parents on Facebook. I wouldn't like them being nosy and knowing everything I do or reading everything that comes out of my mind. Facebook is almost like a diary to me.
My dad just sent me a friend request and I don't know what to do. I feel bad because he's my dad and I shouldn't ignore him but I'm a really private person. Also I'm a little angry because my mom keeps telling me that he's disrespectful towards her, telling her that she's old and stuff.
What should I do???? I want to accept but once I do it my privacy will be gone. My dad will know everything I do and I will have to add my mom too since I want to be fair with both. I'm an adult by the way.
Before you give me an answer please read my story so you can understand my situation. I know I've been posting a lot about my relationship and I think it has come to an end unfortunately. Early this morning my boyfriend sent me like 50 messages in which he insulted and offended me. I have never insulted him. He pretty much gets mad for everything.
As a Cancer I feel extremely offended that I don't even want to respond to his messages or see him, but the problem is that he lives with me. The apartment is mine and I could just tell him to leave but I feel like he will win because he already made me feel like crap so I feel that I should do something about this. I pretty much want him to feel like I'm dead. I want him to regret every word he said and not because I care anymore but because I'm a good person and he's the psycho that has issues.
What would you do in my situation? I don't want to go back to my own apartment because all I want to do is avoid him so badly. I don't want to see him or speak to him. If I go back and tell him to just leave I will let him get away with what he did and he deserves to feel some pain just as I have felt it all the time I dealt with him. Any thoughts?
He's a Libra. But he keeps asking me to forgive him just to make the same mistakes over and over again. So that's why I feel he has some issues going on. Maybe he's frustrated deep inside for some reason. I really wished I could help him because I love him but if he's not willing to help himself get better I don't think I have a future with him.
My boyfriend keeps getting mad over stupid things. It has gotten to the point that I feel nervous of saying something or doing something wrong that might get him mad. Just yesterday he asked me to forgive him because he got mad at me and was moody for 2 days straight. I forgave him and today he started another stupid fight again.
I already mentioned to him that maybe we could try going to therapy because I need someone to give feedback on his attitude problems since he won't recognize he's wrong. He says he doesn't need therapy and refuses to go. He recognizes he has anger issues but says he can fix them himself, which I don't see hapenning. So if I can't help him and he doesn't want to see help what else is there to do? I love him and I know he could get better but I'm getting tired of his behavior. What would you do?
I think I can give you an answer based on my experience. I'm a Cancer female and my boyfriend is a Libra male. And like you said, he's super charming and outgoing which I like because Cancers are the complete opposite. I'm shy and introverted so I like being with him. But I don't want to lie, we do fight often because we have our differences and I can be very sensitive when he likes to joke around and says things he doesn't mean. Another thing you have to watch out is that some Libras are known to be players. My boyfriend was sincere from the beginning and told me he was a big player before he met me. So far he hasn't cheated on me and we're trying to work on our problems. I don't know if the relationship will last but I do love him and he's different and special unlike other men I've met. That's why I'm still with him.
Hi I live on my own and during my childhood years my parents argued a lot. There was some physical abuse both from my mom and dad. My mom insulted my dad so much that he couldn't handle it and hurt my mom physically. I don't live with them anymore and they still argued but are no longer physically abusive to one another. They started going to church and changing but for some reason sometimes I have dreams about my dad hitting my mom. And I get so sad when I have those dreams and scared, like I can't do anything, like helpless.
I want to stop having these nightmares but I've had them numerous times. Why do I have these dreams if my dad changed and is no longer abusive to my mom? And I'm not experiencing or witnessing any abuse?
I'm a Cancer woman and from my point of view, I like men who are sincere. So if you care about her and want her back, show it to her but be SINCERE. Don't play any mind games and show her that you've changed. If a guy doesn't make an effort with me or doesn't speak to me for days I assumed that he moved on and no longer cares. She might be different but that's my personal opinion.
Ok, here's what I think. I agree that sometimes people can make mistakes. They can be in love at the beginning and then things can fall apart once they have a child. But at the same time I don't understand why people don't make smart choices? I've seen couples in a rush to get children right after marriage. Why so quickly? They should live each season of their lives properly and make sure to have a good marriage before starting a family. Unfortunately I grew up with parents who argued all the time and they still do after my brother and I moved out of their house. I went on vacations with them during summer and they kept acting like little children arguing in front of me about everything. It was so uncomfortable and I if I ever have kids I don't want to give that example. I'm in my 30's currently living with my boyfriend and we've thought of having a family but I don't want to rush like most people. I'd rather see if my relationship will work even if I'd like to become a mom someday. I want to be a good mom though, not an ordinary one.
I'm pretty sure you've heard of stories about couples who stay together just because they have a child. I find this very silly. Why have a kid in the first place if the love was not strong enough? I really think making a baby is a huge deal and our job as adults is to be a good example to that child. The child should grow up with the idea that his/her parents love and respect each other but not fake that they get along just because of a child. What are your opinions? It just seems like it's becoming very common for kids to come to this world without a real family.
I don't know if it's normal but I'm strong when it comes to crying. When people die, such as my grandma I did not cry. I don't think I'm heartless but there are other situations that make me cry. Like, something unfair happening, seeing someone suffer or something like that. And for some reason I'm embarassed to cry in front of others. A few tears are ok, but not snobbing. That's just me.
Awww thank you!!! The bad thing about our sign is how sensitive we are. We suffer a lot because we tend to live in a world beyond reality. We also can't stand when people make fun of us. Thanks for loving our sign.
Do you settle for someone who doesn't fit your criteria just to be with someone or are you picky and expect to find the best partner out there?
My personal experience is that I used to settle for anyone because I thought the perfect man didn't exist, until I met my boyfriend. 😍 I do argue with him sometimes but he has all the qualities I was looking for in a man. And now that I met him I feel like my expectations will now remain HIGH. I just can't settle for less anymore. I'm hoping to be with him forever but if anything bad happened I could not see myself with an average or mediocre man. I love the fact that he's still romantic after almost a year with me and I feel like no other guy will treat me the same. I know it's hard to find true love but would you rather lower your expectations or remain single until you find that special someone?
I've noticed that when people joke about something I have a hard time laughing. I often take things personally and I change my mood immediately. I become silent and angry with that person. People can't stand my sudden mood swings and I would like to get better at this. Does this happen to any of you? How can I control my emotions and not get offended easily?
I'm 32 years old and I hear from people that I look younger. When I go to the store to buy beer for my boyfriend, they always ask me for an identification. My aunt also told me I have a young girl's face. I'm glad I look younger and I have never drinked or smoked by the way. My boyfriend is the one who likes to drink. But surprisingly he looks young too.
Hi. I just want an opinion because I don't know if my boyfriend is being a jerk. We live together and I cook breakfast and dinner everyday (except for the weekends). I also work full time.
When my boyfriend and I fight I'm not in the mood to cook. I can't pretend that I'm not mad at him.
Today my boyfriend started a fight when we got home from work over something insignificant so instead of going straight to the kitchen I went to my room to do something else. I was going to cook but I wanted to calm my anger a bit. Well he got more mad and told me that I'm expected to cook as soon as we get home from work because he's hungry as hell. So it doesn't matter if he starts a fight, I still have to feed him. I mean, if he's hungry he can also get something to eat or cook himself but he doesn't think that way.
I just want to know if it's normal for me not to be in the mood for cooking after we fight? And most of the time he starts the fights so I don't think it's fair to pretend there's nothing going on. I have emotions.