As a 35 year old Cancer woman with no kids, I will give you my point of view on this. Us Cancers take family and commitment very seriously. To me, it’s either black or white when it comes to starting a family. If I bring a baby into this world, I want to make sure I can provide that baby with a real family. I don’t understand why many people start families to divorce later down the road. And with kids in the middle it gets worst.
I don’t know about those Cancer women you mentioned, but I’ve never found a lifetime partner to commit with. Because that’s what us Cancers want. As far as being a single mom that is a no no for me. Like I said, it’s either black or white. I went through some childhood trauma as well. My parents hated each other but stayed together? Why? Because they thought it was the best for me and my brother and I’m telling you it’s not. It’s not fun watching two people pretending to love each other and playing happy family just to look good in front of their kids. It’s pathetic actually.
So just consider that Cancers are not the type of people who take commitment lightly. I would never hook up with someone just to become a mommy. I want a real family.
The problem is that now I feel like I have to compete with these girls for him to notice me. He already noticed me because we’re friends and he has liked my pictures but sometimes he acts like he’s not into me because he can go days without talking to me. I’m not 100% sure if he’ll ask me out. And now that I saw him following sexy girls it makes me feel worst. I can’t compete with these sexy younger women. I’m beautiful and I’m aware of it but I just don’t get naked. Even if I could, I will feel embarrassed if my family saw me like that. Since I’m not a big social media person, maybe he even sees me as a nerdy and an outcast person and he might not like it. Maybe he prefers the popular and hot girls who put themselves out there.
Hi I’m sure this topic is common, but I really want to know if this is a red flag. I know I’ll get different answers from men and women.
I really like this guy but I have an issue. He’s all over social media. He has a Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, Linkedin. I think Twitter too. I’m so much different in that aspect. I only have a Facebook which I rarely use but it’s only to communicate with my long distance family and friends. I used to be into social media but I think, as you age, you become more mature and you care less about being popular.
The reason why my crush is all over social media is because he works in marketing and he’s a social media manager or something like that. He doesn’t work for a company but he’s self employed and has his own marketing business. So he uses all those social media accounts to attract clients, make connections, make his business grow, etc. I recently saw his following list and discovered that he follows a few attractive/provocative girls. These girls are in bikinis or showing a lot of skin dancing or just seeking validation. It makes me jealous and insecure because I don’t post any sexy photos of myself. I just post normal photos, which sometimes he likes or sometimes he’ll ignore. Also, these girls are young, like in their 20s and I’m a lot older. I’m in my early 30s.
I totally understand that men are visual creatures but one thing is to look at a hot woman walking by and another thing is to follow a woman to constantly see her posts and get aroused by them. I don’t know if I’m exaggerating or is this is a “normal” thing now a days that I need to accept. I bet you since he uses social media for his job, he’s bombarded every day with pictures and videos of these girls. I wish he used social media strictly for work but it seems he uses it for entertainment too. Can you tell me your opinions on this? Should it bother me?
So I heard it on the radio this morning. Gerard Piqué is a soccer player from Barcelona and he has 2 boys with singer Shakira. He’s an Aqua man and he supposedly cheated on her. He even had a girlfriend before he flirted with Shakira. To be honest, I’m not that surprised. I had an Aqua ex too. He would chat with women a lot and I saw it as a red flag and decided to run. No offense to aquas.
Hi, Sorry I took a while to respond. As you can see, I DO have a life and I’m busy! Hahaha 😙 I’m not too available.
Anyway, say that I write “Happy Birthday” to a guy on his Facebook wall but I’m the ONLY person that writes that. The thing is he has his birthday hidden so people don’t get notified when his birthday is. That’s why no one will write to him. I know his birthday because I kind of stalked his profile 🤫 ooopppsss I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday because he always wished me a Happy Birthday and I’ve never done it for him. It’s a way of showing him that he matters to me. But I’m scared he might already assume I like him and think: “well, why put any effort? She’s so into me already. She even knows my birthday!”
Is this a bad idea? Will I seem desperate or too straightforward? At the same time, I will try to not be too available. Like, after the birthday wish, I will not be clingy but keep busy and do my own thing.
So they say men like a challenge and that’s my problem. When I like someone, I like him. Period. Why do I have to pretend I don’t want to see him or text him if I really want to? I hate playing games and I prefer to be straightforward and transparent but still, men seem to prefer doing all the work. I have attempted to make the first move a couple of times and men seem to lose interest. Not necessary asking them out or telling them I like them, but just talking to them first instead of waiting for them to come to me. Why are men scared of women who are straightforward? I would like to be a challenge but I will have to pretend to be something I’m not.
Say that you’re in a committed relationship and someone from the opposite sex that you find interesting both mentally and physically starts flirting with you. How would you handle it? Scorpios are loyal but also very sexual and passionate. How do you deal with both traits? Have you ever been in a situation like this?
So I got an invitation because my cousin is getting married in 3 months. I think it will be a small wedding with just family and close friend’s of the bride and groom. The problem is that my aunt (the groom’s mom) is not vaccinated and doesn’t believe in the vaccine. As a result, other family members are not vaccinated either, like the groom’s sister. The groom though is vaccinated and apparently he’s mad at my aunt because she’s stubborn about getting the vaccine. My mom doesn’t want to go to the wedding because of this reason and because she’s pre diabetic and had minor heart problems in the past. I feel like I shouldn’t go either because I could put my mom at risk. She’s 65 years old. Are we bad/selfish for declining the invitation?
I feel bad for my cousin. It’s not his fault that his mom only thinks about herself. I am planning on sending a nice gift though. I just wanted to hear your thoughts because I’m sure my aunt won’t be happy that we’re not attending. I even heard that she has lost a lot of friendships too. How bad is it to decline during the pandemic?
Last night I was dreaming that I was going to get attacked by a raindeer. I know, it’s kind of funny. That’s why I’m curious to know which animal scares you the most? I’m talking about dangerous/wild animals like bears, lions, gorillas, sharks, etc…. Which animal would you be scared to encounter face to face?
Sometimes I can’t help but wonder what it feels like when you die. They say we’re obviously going somewhere and that we will be judged, according to the Bible. I thought maybe dying was like sleeping for eternity but that’s not how it is. We have a soul and our soul will not die. How will it feel to just have a soul and not a body? It’s like we will become angels or spirits. I am just curious of the unknown. Even talking about it gives me chills because we also cannot predict when that day will come. It’s just destined to happen for all of us but we don’t know when. How do you feel about this topic? I know it’s a very deep and serious topic but I was thinking about it lately.
If you dare to share, what have been one of the most embarrassing moments you’ve experienced. I will share 2.
# 1) I was at the mall with my dad and brother eating pizza at the food court. Then while I was drinking soda my brother started singing a song I found funny. Since I was drinking I couldn’t contain myself. I spit the soda all over the place. But I was a kid at that time, so it was innocent.
# 2) I was very straightforward with guys when I was younger. I reallyyyy liked this guy and I would send him love notes through friends, leave voice mails on his phone and even showed up at his house one day. Now that I think about it, I can’t believe what I did. He even told me he was not attracted to me but I still wanted to get his attention. Thank God I’m more mature now. Hahaha. I’m still romantic but not a stalker!
So I’ve seen a little progress here and there with Covid. They’re getting more strict about the vaccines and now also children are getting vaccinated. It still doesn’t mean we’re back to normal. But when do you predict we’ll be able to take our masks off? How much longer?
I’m obviously not speaking for all men, I just want to know…. why??? What in the world goes through their mind??? Do these men not care to use people for their needs??? Sometimes I’ve been too innocent to believe that people like this can even exist. They’re just pure evil with no compassion or care for others. The funny thing is that later in life some of these men end up having daughters and they don’t want anyone touching their little princess. They cannot expect a fabulous man for their daughters if they don’t know how to respect women themselves. Will they get their Karma one day?
Oh boy! This is a good topic. I’m divorced and I wish I knew being married is not a fairytale like everyone sees it. It’s a lot harder than you think.
I wish I knew that having a wedding ring on your finger doesn’t guarantee faithfulness in a marriage. It’s all BS and a lie!!! People need to open their eyes 👀 and realize that a marriage is just papers. That’s it. It doesn’t guarantee happiness. Also the whole wedding thing should be intimate. No need to spend thousands of $ $ $ and do a whole year of planning for an event that will only last a day. It’s quite pathetic.
I decided to post about this topic because I rarely have close friends anymore. I used to be besties with this girl. Let’s call her Cindy. So Cindy and I used to hang out all the time, talk about our problems, joke around and do stuff together. I considered her a close friend.
Then I met this other girl named Natalie who I talked to ocasionally but I wouldn’t consider her a close friend. I had a better connection with Cindy. One day I was with Natalie and I had to introduce her to Cindy because she happened to be at a friend’s house and we were meeting with other people as a group. I don’t know how it happened but Cindy and Natalie slowly started becoming friends and now they are like besties.
Cindy talks to Natalie a lot more than she talks to me 😟 and I hate it for some reason. I have both of them on social media and I haven’t talk to them in ages but I see how they always interract while I am pretty much pushed to the side. And it’s not the first time it happens. Back in middle school I remember a girl who always had to hang out with different people, otherwise she would get bored. So she went from being a cool friend to totally distancing herself once she found a more interesting person.
I do know I had a really good friend who was an Aquarius. She had TONS of friends but never “ditched” me to hang out with someone else. They say Aquas make good friends and maybe it’s true. But she went to different schools and we didn’t see each other again.
Do you have similar experiences? Are you jealous of your friends or hate it when they prefer to hang out with others rather than with you?
Well, I don’t know what else to say at this point. I think I’m being fair with my boyfriend as far as his financial share. His only payments are half of the rent, the electric bill and groceries. That’s it. I pay the other half of the rent, the rest of the bills and my car, which he sometimes uses because he doesn’t have his own. And I make a little less money than him. It’s not a huge difference but it’s still less.
I know my BF sounds like a loser but he was totally different when I met him. Now he has shown his true colors. As far as his sons, he does spend money on them! One time he’s youngest son stayed with us for a week and every single day he would buy him food from outside. Whatever he desired even though BF was on a tight budget. I don’t think it was necessary to eat out EVERY day when we have food at home. And then he ran out of money and asked me if I could lend him money to buy his precious boy a chicken from some random fast food place. Sometimes all I could do is stay quiet because when I mention that his sons need to be financially independent, he gets pretty defensive. But I will be firm in not lending him more money and I will consider breaking up since his sons are # 1 in his life and he already showed it.
He doesn’t tell me specifically how he spends his money. He’s a lot older than me and with sons from a previous relationship! But his sons are not children anymore. The youngest is 18 and the oldest 24. He still supports his sons. The youngest doesn’t work and has a girlfriend. My BF actually gives his son money to take his girlfriend out on dates. I have told him his son should become financially independent but he says he’s too “young” and needs to focus on school. So I’m sure a big part of his money goes to his adult sons. If he wants to continue supporting them that’s fine but he needs to pay his bills and not ask me when he rans out of money. He has not specifically told me how much he gives his sons monthly. If he’s on a tight budget, his sons are fully capable of working. They could help out.