Posted by SagMalePosted by greylaternPosted by SagMalePosted by greylaternPosted by SagMale
So I'm seeing a Taurus female but she's really caught up on her ex. She has an old family home in Italy, and she left her ex to be with me. But then the ex moved near to her home in Italy, where she frequents often. Back to the story: the ex flew in from Italy to spend my girl's birthday weekend with her, but to be fair they hung out with her dad for at least part of the time. Then she flew to Italy with some girl friends on her routine trip, but spent several days alone with her ex. To be fair, she posted on social media that she was with a "best friend" whereas she referred to him as a "companion" while they were dating. Now she is planning a Christmas trip to Italy, and it seems like she is spending Christmas Day with him. I was not invited to any of this. In fact, my Taurus has not been willing to see me since I moved closer to her. I think this is because I don't have my own place yet: I just moved to one of my dad's places and am saving some money until I get my own pad.
So is this normal? It doesn't make sense, because all common sense says it's a red flag, but she's otherwise very supportive and loving. I don't think it's that big of a deal tbh, but it's strange and I wanna make sense of it.
If she has stopped engaging you, then she isn't just "not over her ex". Time to move on.
She engages me as much as ever, even more so over the last few days after she dropped the Christmas bomb. She insists that I'm all hers physically, but emotionally she is clearly feeling something for this ex. It bugs the hell out of me, but she doesn't let up. I'm pretty open to making her happy, but it's at the point where we're competing over her spending birthdays and holidays with her ex. She still gets the benefit of the doubt, but everytime this happens it's like a blow to our relationship. The Aries needs to grow up really, and stop manipuating to be the gay best friend. One of the most resilient people I know is an Aries male, but he got that way through life challenges, not getting spoon fed by his ex "companion." My girl is way too accomodating in this regard as well.
Then you make it clear to her you must always come first. I'm assuming she realises she isn't over him. Talk to her about drawing boundaries and stay out of compromising situations, to not slip into "old habits" with him. It's understandable how that could happen. So it needs to be avoided.Make that clear to her. I know this is hard on you but don't forget it isn't easy for her either.
If she is strong enough, ask her to have a heart to heart with him in public to remove any uncertainty with him about there relationship. He will either back off OR show his true intentions.
Thank you. That is the crux of the issue. In private she frames it as him being a gay best friend, but in public she's always spending this quality time with "a best friend." She also doesn't want me saying anything lovey on her social media, because it will hurt his feelings. This shoots down the "gay best friend" narrative, but in a private discussion between the three of us I think she will stand by it. I messaged him today on social media, respectfully, asking what his intentions are, since it seems odd he would spend so much time with an ex who is now coupled up. I think the main issue is she is being much slower than I would like in transitioning from a private relationship to public. Of course, all these quality time trips with him bugs me to no end, but at least he has been downgraded publicly to "a best friend," which is a step in the right direction as far as I'm concered. I'm going to stick with it, because I think she's just being glacially slow with this.click to expand
Posted by peachy06Posted by Redbull
Im Leo Mars but my Taurus Caution and maybe a shyness factor has me never posting pics on internet. Who would see it/ Would I be at the store one day and somebody say "I saw you on the internet" haha. I already run into people who know me gotta be low key haha.Im not really a spotlight type but over the years hmm maybe I can mess with it a little bit but I prefer it controlled.
I can relate. Since I posted one pic once on internet once, someone actually recognized me and I've been scared of posting one since then...click to expand
Posted by tctaap
a lot of people want children but not everyone should have children - too many are suffering in this awful world - if too many people decide to not have children there might be a shortage in the future generations but hey, maybe the planet will implode anyway so hey - do what you want to do now - you might change your mind or not but you need to live with it - no one else but you
Posted by Gobby
Another dumb drama queen with no moral compass. Seriously, just treetrunk off, will you...
Posted by Wanderer27
We've lost contact for over a year. Somewhere, he got married and recently had a baby girl. His wife looks hella pretty like a model. But why the trtrk is he sliding in my DM's saying I miss you? BTW I didn't even find out he got married until he tried to use his " beauty wife card " against me when I told him he must be on some wacky drugs and ignored his ass. I know for a fact he's also on dating sites looking for fwb. I'm ignoring this drama king but I need some confirmation that it's not a Taurus thing, but rather he's just a jerk. Because deep down, I don't want this marker to ruin my impression of Tauruses because I always thought I might end up marrying one in the future. What are your experiences with Tauruses cheating? Is it just me or are they just insanely good at hiding it? His wife doesn't seem to have a clue.
Posted by Araujo97
95% of capricorn friends are for network and business sake only, i find this so annoying