Posted by Librissy
I totally understand you pain! I have been through this with a cancer man, it seems we speak about the same person lol
He would also say to me"i have never met someone like you before, our connection is crazy" crap 😂
And it was a strong connection, felt it and still feel if he's thinking about me, we will same thoughts in the same moment, we will text each other from nowhere at the exact time saying we miss each other.
The hugs and energy...like a DRUG!
But one day he started to back off, had some discussions and me not wanting to delete some messages he wanted and boom, blocked everywhere! And that was it! Just because I did not do what he wanted😁
Now, not sure if something is missing from your story, but as libras we give so much love and pour our souls to the person we love...Doing everything and anything, sometimes too much, we get obsessed !
Now with these guys, I heard and after my experience, I really think they need to be treated like butter and they LIKE it. Then they will pursue.
So, the moral of the story? He did not have the courage to even give me a message, or answering on the phone, I was left in the dark with broken heart. I did not matter to him. Not a tiny bit.
I know he will receive what he deserves at some point in life for what he's done, because I was so genuine.
I am not going to tell you what to do, because that will not change how you feel about him.
I know is hard to be alone, I know you may be scared, but everything is happening with a reason.
Please do not allow him to destroy your self esteem!
Bear hug from me🐼
Posted by Arielle83
Cancers don’t like being smothered with other people’s emotions and needs.
Especially when he’s working through his own emotional needs. He doesn’t need you claiming you’re in love so he’s now got your feelings to manage, and not hurt.
Cancer needs space now. You seem to be rebounding. He doesn’t want commitment. He wants freedom to chase women cuz he was tied down with someone.
He’d be nuts to jump into something else. He’s not a douche. He was honest. You just seem to want what you want and will “act” a certain way to get what you want.
He’d be ghosting to get away from your mission to keep him, for you.
Externally - Influenced Ed when it comes to my marriage and Overly romantic Ronald with the Cancer guy. It made me laugh which is pretty ironic.
It was funny how I was justifying his actions by saying that he was a Cancer man and he was hurt from his old relationship, shy and needed more time etc etc. after I read a few discussions on dxpnet on this topic. I simply switched off my logic for this guy, hoping things will be better once he feels safe enough to trust me. And to begin with, he was the one who initiated all of this.
I have actually never dated much to be smart with these things. The only thing I am taking away from this thing is that he introduced me to camping and hiking Treetrunking- never knew what that word meant. Now I doPosted by AgentP911Posted by rose78451235
Harsh but the truth.
My marriage, I didn't provide enough back story to justify why I wanted to end it, but I prefer to keep it that way.
We caught feelings way too fast, I stuck with it, he realized and pulled back and just wanted the fun part of it. We met each other at very low points of our life. I believe in the fairytale crap, guess I need to get out of that world.
But thank you. I really appreciate your response.
There could be a hundred reasons regarding your marriage. It's not my business. butter unfortunately happens. I assume you're no longer married. I can't recall without scrolling through again. Best thing is to work on what is present now. That's you. Block this guy. Delete his number. Delete all messages so you can't sit and dwell on him. Every day you'll be a little further away from that situation. You'll be fine. There's right billion people on this planet. You'll find one another day.
Here's some links I've found useful before.
https://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/what-he-says-vs-what-he-means/click to expand