SagittariusXO

sagittariusxo
joined June 05, 2017
31 years old femaleSun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
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Venus in Scorpio
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by Damnata
    I used to be really emotionally volatile when I hit puberty. Prior to that I was very melancholic and shy.

    My mother's way of dealing with this was to yell back and slam doors and cry and make scenes and I never was one for theatrics. Deep down I was ashamed of my own, let alone witness someone else. I remember looking at her and thinking "this woman is barely managing her own emotions, let alone doing anything in the way of discipline. nothing to respect here". To this day that behavior in people leaves me cold.

    My father on the other hand..he would refuse to engage me. He'd walk out the room and all I could get from him was silence or looking at me sad and sighing. I'd want the ground to open up and swallow me...that's the level of shame I felt. I'd get my act together quick.




    i have heard this before. and im not sure where i stand or how my son sees me.
    i think im emotionally stable but at times, not often i do lose it, i get very overwhelmed with him, and how he is treating me, how he is acting, ungrateful and disrespectful and i will go Hulk monster on him... just Yelling, throwing things away, i will slap his mouth or grab his arm and toss him (not abusively but aggressively) in his room. he will cry and he will say he hates his life.. i always feel terrible when this happens, that i let him get me so upset that much......and i usually always apologize when times settle (ill say that im sorry, that i hate when i get that way, that he made me so angry by doing or pushing me the way that he did. i tell him i don't want to be that way but i need his help. it doesn't happen often tho. but i can only imagine him getting older and that getting worse. and that scares me.

    my sons dad, although has been up and down with his abilities to be a proper man and able to be present has recenely turned his life around but welcoming a new son, and has establish a new relationship and family with someone my son does like so their relationship is a good one. and i stay positive for him in that aspect because i think its important for my son and his father to be friends while we raise him. so luckily i support my sons love for his dad and his dad is doing his best to be the best for our son. i don't know how that relationship is behind closed doors but he loves his dad and can talk to his dad and defends his dad unmeasurablity so i support that and i think that's good for my son.

    but i do feel very hurt that my son may want to leave me for the family his dad so QUICKLY establish and i move slowly into allowing that to be my life.

  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by dewiklaessen26
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
    he is 8

    and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.

    things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...

    he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
    also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.

    what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.

    Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
    thanks.


    As a Virgo child i would tell my mom not to smoke and if she cried i told her to stop crying i was very straightforward what did not always work in my favor even if i didn't mean to upset anybody.
    Also as a Virgo child i was very neat i didn't want my mom to clean my room or random people touch my stuff specially if i didn't like people. I would put my books in order my clothes in order by color etc i was very clean but my mom was a chaos so as my brother.
    I had a big mouth but i always listened to my parents even if i would go against them verbally i was always home on time except when i would go out i would know that my stepdad never woke up from sound so i took advantage of that a Virgo child will test you and see how far they can go, as i did with my cancer mom she was very unstable and sensitive so if she would be mad i knew how to get things my way not that i was spoiled i just knew how to be on her good side.

    Sometimes as a virgo child i would want to spend time alone to recharge so if someone would force me to talk or do something i would get very angry and simply go to my room.
    You do need to watch a Virgo child with emotions often i would cry in my pillow and not show my parents my emotions because of that as i grew up i had a hard time showing emotions and it would eat me up from the inside so to talk about emotions with your Virgo child.

    I have a sagg moon and ascendant so i was always an outdoorsy i needed freedom as a child to function normal freedom of speech freedom to believe in what i would want to do. Virgo child doesn't need many rules because they themselves always make rules in their head they themselves want things to be proper and perfect. Because a Virgo is about rules makes sure you don't make too many rules it will make them control freaks at older age and a Virgo needs to go through changes so he/she can adapt

    You will have many arguments with your Virgo child since you're a sagg it will be debate after debate which is normal just make sure you do not come off careless it will make a virgo child distance themselves from you.
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    thank you so much for that.
    im really thankful for the insight on how you liked to be alone, and would cry and hide your emotions. i don't want that to happen, i want to at least be there if he is feeling emotional to give him a hug. i will difinately talk to him about expressing emotions. i think maybe just talking to him, say something like....
    "i know we argue about things, but i don't want you to hide your feels, can we start using words like angry, happy, sad, embarrassed, scared when we want to express ourselves so that we know how we are feeling"

    i don't know. how should i approach that. now at his age (8) and moving forward?

  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by Damnata
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    i would never want him to feel like he cant talk to be about things, especially in this world i don't want to miss any signs.


    ^That's a good mindset for a parent. Mine left me unattended and banked on me making good choices. When I was a kid I would think...so cool, SO MUCH FREDOM. I remember when I went to the seaside by myself when I was 12 for 3 days and came back and they didn't even notice I was missing. Looking back though, that's irresponsible behavior on their end. I should've been grounded or something. Generally I walked the straight and narrow in life and whenever I took a detour I snapped out of it quickly...but you cannot bank on that just because you feel your child is mature.

    About the wetting the bed thing...that's a Virgo double standard. All signs have them and ours is about criticism. As good as we dish it, it takes a lot of emotional maturity to take it back and let's just say we don't have that going for us in terms of criticism a lot of times.

    The junk food part and the "you're starving me" manipulation, I'm with you on that. Children are excellent manipulators and lines have to be drawn. Do not lose your cool with a Virgo, we see emotional displays of anger as "we got to you" and deem you weak. Don't argue logically in circles. Say once "This is the food we have for dinner." and do not budge to whatever reply he gives. Don't get angry if he doesn't eat and rolls his eyes at you, don't feel bad if he goes bambi eyes that he is going to bed starving. It's disrespectful to have someone cook food for you (my parents never did) yet feel an appetite for different food. Tell him he can get food for himself out of his pocket money if his budget affords it. I used to have pocket money from scholarships and contests and doing errands for my folks and use those for stuff I felt I needed.
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    thank you thank you so much for your insight and feedback
    i really appreciate the help and honestly.
    it was also night to get to know a little about you, and i hope you are doing well.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by Boots1313
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Posted by Waterbearerwearer
    Oedipal complex is a very real Taurus affliction.
    They all suffer from it


    The Oedipus complex is a concept of psychoanalytic theory. Sigmund Freud introduced the concept in his Interpretation of Dreams (1899). The positive Oedipus complex refers to a child's unconscious sexual desire for the opposite-sex parent and hatred for the same-sex parent.

    you are terrible. lol

    This seems accurate for my Taurus at least.
    His mother and him have a weird relationship and he despises his father..kind of.
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    omg that is so weird to me.
    i don't think this applys to my Taurus i think he equally has a good relationship with both parents.
    maybe a littler resentment toward his mother for leaving his father. but they have both since moved on and it seems he is happy they both are happy. i think he is maybe upset with him regarding how they divorced. it was a surprise to both him and his brother and it would appear on the outside they never tried to make it work.

    person that's how i think he sees it from what he has said. but at the same time don't think his parently argued infront of them, the divorced when his brother where in the early 20's so, grown men on there own. so who knows how long they had been drifting before they pulled the plug.

    but no i don't think this applys lol
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by Boots1313
    @Sagittariusxo any update?




    thank you all for your feedback. I really really appreciate when you can talk to people and get honest and respectful opinion.

    the night of out arguments i felt internal guilt for ruining his moment to open up by getting hurt by out communication differences. i recognize now, and need to recognize this better in the moment that i need to be able to just let my Taurus work through his thoughts without my opinion BUT ill probably going to always circle back after the fact to provide him my feedback. for the most part i am supportive of him and i will always provide positive affirmative words to the things i think he is doing right, but when i think he is in the wrong or is being stubborn or closed minded. the struggle with always be making sure he knows that my opinion is coming and its not to offend but only to shed light on a different side of things.

    after the night we didn't really talk about it again. we went to work the next day and it was normal in terms of interaction, i did go and meet him at work for his lunch and when we said goodbye he game me a big hug and told me he was sorry for last night. i told him i was sorry as well and that its just important that we know how one of us can affect the other with things. - does that make since? isn't that important?

    i said that because i think im more aware of things about us, not perfect by any means but i don't think he recognizes things that effect me without me verbally acknowledging it.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by euphony
    I can’t count how many times my Sag guy and I have said, “Thank you for helping with that.” Or “Thank you for helping me see the other side of things.” I’m a Libra, we talk through a lot of things. That kind of blunt talk and discussion works better with other signs.

    Taurus are great when you just say what you have to say bluntly (if you really have to) and don’t push more. Don’t discuss it more. Just let him talk. If someone rarely talks about their feelings, more than likely they are doing it only when they are really sad or frustrated or overwhelmed. He’s not looking for someone to give him advice or judge the situation or try to fix it. He’s looking to vent. That’s it.

    If I learned anything from my ex Taurus, it was that all he needed was a rock. Someone to be there to listen, that he could trust to be there, and to lean on. Rocks don’t talk back, they don’t give advice, they don’t judge the situation. They just are there. Be there consistently enough and you have a Taurus’ heart.

    Now it’s up to you if that’s the kind of relationship you want. This is why you might hear of relationships not working out with Taurus. They aren’t going to budge. He’s never going to just let you give him advice or try to fix things if that’s not what he wants. He will be consistent if nothing else. He may later on down the line, but I’ve only seen this happen with consistent partners who don’t mind waiting a decade for their Taurus to come around. Or those who have learned not to push for more info from them.

    If this is going to be frustrating for you, then you need to find someone who is not like him.



    probably not going to be a normal rock.
    I am a rock for my man, all I want is to be there for him and support him and I will always be that. but I also will never be able to keep my mouth shut to hypocrisy or to negativity. I will always be the partner/friend/person that pushs people to their full potential.

    I think my bull knows this. I believe he appreciates this in me, but he resists.
    its just hard. i don't want to change who i am but i do want to figure out the right way to approach a bull in a way that he can appreciate and not be defensive to
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by Waterbearerwearer
    Oedipal complex is a very real Taurus affliction.
    They all suffer from it


    The Oedipus complex is a concept of psychoanalytic theory. Sigmund Freud introduced the concept in his Interpretation of Dreams (1899). The positive Oedipus complex refers to a child's unconscious sexual desire for the opposite-sex parent and hatred for the same-sex parent.

    you are terrible. lol
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Last night we were laying in bed and my Taurus was opening up.

    I THINK that my Taurus was really effected by his parents divorce a few years ago.
    it is something he has opened up about a lot thru out our relationship but only in bits in pieces to what I believe.
    he opened up and was pretty much walking him self thru his thoughts. I recognized that but at the same time Im a fire and I philosopher or so iv always been told. I also was feeling a lot of his pain thru his words about how he wishes he was closer with his family and how the divorce really separated them all.
    his brother is also leaving to move to china with his wife in the next couple months and I think he is really sad about that too.

    he doesn't talk about these things a lot. and when he does they are scattered and hard to understand because I feel they can by really messy...

    "I love my family, I wish we were closer, why do I have to be the one to reach out and make that happen"
    to
    when his brother invites us places he bails on the plans, his dad invites us to dinner all the time and he passes or even bails last minute. he doesn't call them very often that I know of. it seams to me that they try really hard to be closer to him and he is too lazy to make the effort, like it or not.

    but I try not to say that to him because in the past I did, and you guys set me straight that its not my place. and for a really long time I have bite my lip and kept my mouth shut and just tried to listen to him when he does open up. WHICH HAS NEVER BEEN BY MUCH.

    so last night he opened up.
    and all I heard what "my family is seperated, we aren't close, I love them, I want to be close, I wish we were close, why should I be the one to make that happen" and I it drove me crazy inside.

    IF SOMETHING IS NOT WHAT YOU LIKE, CHANGE IT. THERE IS ALWAYS A SOLUTION. STRIVE FOR THE THINGS THAT GIVE YOU VALUE. MAKE THE EFFORT.

    that is how I live. so I said " your family are all really wonderful people, my relationship with my family is terrible but I try to have a relationship even tho it never works I still try" the he got made at me like I was saying "BOO HOO for him"
    he cut me off and all I wanted to say is that he had good people as family and he should nourish that. but he snapped at me in such a rude way that I lost it. i said loudly back to him " YOUR SO HARD TO TALK TO, JESUS" and i rolled over.
    he then said i wasn't done talking about. and i said how can i talk to you if you don't even want me to speak. you snap at everything i say because it offends you as if my intentions are to be rude, or to mean. i don't know if he realizes that his tone and verbiage is harsh and i take it really personal because i cant help it.
    im deep person, i want to connect with him deeper so badly, and i know that's not easy for him or us in general. and it hurts when i feel as if he doesn't trust my words, or takes offense to what i say as if i mean something hurtful, or that my thoughts just don't matter to him..

    don't tell me im crazy. try to understand me as a different type of person from all you bulls
    but let me know what you think.

    i cried so hard in front of him i just burst so much sadness.
    i told him that we just don't know how to talk to eachother. and its hard because its what i need.
    im really sad because i know if we don't figure this out it will be why we don't work out.
    everything always comes down to communication.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
    he is 8

    and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.

    things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...

    he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
    also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.

    what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.

    Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
    thanks.


    So what exactly is he doing that you find so weird? Every single thing you mentioned sounds just like any other 8 year old boy. Let him be a child instead of trying to find ways to control him through astrology (which is pointless anyway) I get the feeling you're a single mother and the lack of a father figure in the child's life is becoming difficult for you to handle. It is important for a boy to get his space to be...a boy, do boy stuff, be in touch with his male energy, without getting the feeling he's doing something wrong.
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    I don't find him weird. I know he is a child and a good one at that. and I don't think im trying to "control" him im more so just trying to guild him because he seems to not like to try because of fear of failure. most importantly I just want to understand my child on a deeper level so that I know how to approach situations that occur. the world is crazy and I don't want to be blind to important things if I can help it.

  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by solidsnake
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Posted by solidsnake
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Posted by solidsnake
    If you can’t mentally face mask a child I don’t know what to tell u

    He needs to be around positive male figures. No one wants to hang around their mom but cancers



    I dont understand the facemask comment

    but, I totally get the mommy/cancer comment which was funny.
    and totally agree and try to provide him male interaction = his dad and him are close, they have a very fun relationship but unfortunately I needed to take control of my son for school and stability so I have 5 days a week. my boyfriend is cool and I think they have a lot in common, but I guess all I can say about that is their relationship is not really how I envisioned it to be or progress but its neither bad or good from what I can tell on my sons side.

    im tryin to make sure to surround ethan with men i want him to learn from.
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    Once he hits puberty & stuff he’ll probably be more open to feminine energy. Right now he needs to learn how to be a man. In regards to ur bf. No boy wants to have a relationship with a man who’s screwing his mother unless he just happens to be a 1 in 1,000,000 kind of guy. He needs to spend more time with his dad if possible.


    true. he loves his dad. but at the same time he knows its important to me that him and Bf can be friends.
    and i think for the most part that's as far as it can go. being friends.

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    If they click they click
    If they don’t they don’t
    As long as they are respectful 2 one another I don’t see the need to try & be friends
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    agreed.
    and i don't force anything.
    i take what i get which is better then nothing.


  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    @Damata

    thank you so much for your insight.
    so, it was a little tough to swallow. I can see where I do struggle with some thing.

    thinks i feel i have a good understanding of that you confirmed is the physical affection, i am not as affectionate generally but i know that he needs a lot of hugs and kisses. when he has a bad day and he gets really grouche about it i always have to get down on his level and give him a good hug to relieve the stress he must be feeling.

    i do however vocalize a lot of things, sometimes ill call him out on embarrassing things. like he wet the bed and because ill be upset it happen i will remind him of "go to the bathroom before you go to sleep so you don't wet the bed!" I'm sure he loathes me for that. but i will definitely keep his business more private. i would never want him to feel like he cant talk to be about things, especially in this world i don't want to miss any signs.

    the im the boss thing, UGH. its just my end game. the kid can argue. and its almost disrespectful how comfortable he is with just fighting me on everything. i make him food, he says hes not hungry, then i see him going to the junk food and i cut him off and he tells me im starving him. i let him know i make him food and that's his option, he argues then why do i even buy junk food. it will go on and on before i just completely lose my butter over the fact that he is arguing his way thru topics he is smart enough to know.

    but i will work on it.





  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    he is married.

    point blank. HE ASKED SOMEONE ELSE TO MARRY HIM. do not block his view with you selfish infatuated face.. there are millions of millions of good Taurus men in this world without 3 people who love and depend on him to be go man.

    don't be that girl, shame on you.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by solidsnake
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Posted by solidsnake
    If you can’t mentally face mask a child I don’t know what to tell u

    He needs to be around positive male figures. No one wants to hang around their mom but cancers



    I dont understand the facemask comment

    but, I totally get the mommy/cancer comment which was funny.
    and totally agree and try to provide him male interaction = his dad and him are close, they have a very fun relationship but unfortunately I needed to take control of my son for school and stability so I have 5 days a week. my boyfriend is cool and I think they have a lot in common, but I guess all I can say about that is their relationship is not really how I envisioned it to be or progress but its neither bad or good from what I can tell on my sons side.

    im tryin to make sure to surround ethan with men i want him to learn from.
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    Once he hits puberty & stuff he’ll probably be more open to feminine energy. Right now he needs to learn how to be a man. In regards to ur bf. No boy wants to have a relationship with a man who’s screwing his mother unless he just happens to be a 1 in 1,000,000 kind of guy. He needs to spend more time with his dad if possible.
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    true. he loves his dad. but at the same time he knows its important to me that him and Bf can be friends.
    and i think for the most part that's as far as it can go. being friends.

  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by solidsnake
    If you can’t mentally face mask a child I don’t know what to tell u

    He needs to be around positive male figures. No one wants to hang around their mom but cancers



    I dont understand the facemask comment

    but, I totally get the mommy/cancer comment which was funny.
    and totally agree and try to provide him male interaction = his dad and him are close, they have a very fun relationship but unfortunately I needed to take control of my son for school and stability so I have 5 days a week. my boyfriend is cool and I think they have a lot in common, but I guess all I can say about that is their relationship is not really how I envisioned it to be or progress but its neither bad or good from what I can tell on my sons side.

    im tryin to make sure to surround ethan with men i want him to learn from.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by ufo
    Posted by sagittariusxo
    Posted by ufo
    idk, i was a quiet kid who kept to myself also was goofy and super naive and most likely crying in a corner cuz i believed the lies i was told

    also i was the last out of like 7 so maybe if your kid is a single child he probably has only child syndrome



    what does that mean? he is the only child and had a lot if not all of my attention.
    he is a type of loner in a way, but it does seem to bum him out because he has friends and plays good for the most part. click to expand


    idk ppl say only children tend to get what they want, or be spoiled in a sense therefore get used to such a life so end up demanding more from the parent
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    oh yeah, totally.

    I mean its clear as glass. I only need to focus my attention on one child instead of multiple.
    I only buy things for him so he has never had to feel as if I need share or make even

    but this just to my perspective as the parent of a single child, I dont think he is as spoiled as others. I think I keep him pretty grounded for the most part because im a single mom, A: im not rich and work to support and save for us primarily so that leave little to just spend on thingssss...... but also I dont feel any value from material things, stuff is just stuff to me ....but I do indulge in experience and adventure so I spoil us buy creating experiences. ie vacation, day trips or attractions.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by ufo
    idk, i was a quiet kid who kept to myself also was goofy and super naive and most likely crying in a corner cuz i believed the lies i was told

    also i was the last out of like 7 so maybe if your kid is a single child he probably has only child syndrome



    what does that mean? he is the only child and had a lot if not all of my attention.
    he is a type of loner in a way, but it does seem to bum him out because he has friends and plays good for the most part.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    @PinsNNeedles

    wow, that is tough.
    im sure it was hard for your father to understand you. especially without the will to seek understanding. hopefully those hiccups didn't effect a positive relationship now. but parenting is not for everyone I suppose.
    im sorry those are memories of yours.

    I can say that sometime I forget the things I need to remember when it comes to my son.
    he listens to this annoying mumble rap stuff, and I always tell him I hate it because it makes me feel dumb
    I know he likes it and I allow him to play it In the car but it doesn't take long for me to take over the music. I just dont want him falling into that. I do push my son toward nerd things, like STEM activities for computer science and engineering only because I think A. he would be good at that type of thing and B. its an excellent direction for a successful career in his later years. the thing that drives me crazy is he shows signs of the ability and even the desire to engage in things like this but because I push him and express that this is what I want for him he resists. he resists so bad, always tells me he doesn't want to do it, and he wont. but he rubs it in my face that he know that is what I want for him and I cant explain enough the reason.
    I tell him its because, I think its cool, and nerds are smart, and nerd things are hard so to be a nerd is to do things other cant, that is he wants his dream this will help him get it, that he can do to collage and make video games, or create buildings or inventions or he can make websites or robots but knowing all of that stuff which I know he is totally into he still resists.
    I just dont have the will to force it, nore the patients but I still wont let it go.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Posted by abf905
    Being a Virgo, I really enjoyed when my mom did fun things with me. I know you said your son is hesitant to do fun things with you but next time try to make any fun activities a surprise for him. Even at a young age he will appreciate a nice surprise. I liked the theater, sports and music. I'm sure your son is self-sufficient, but please don't use this skill against him as he will naturally feel that he does not need help with anything. Always remind him that you are there to help him if he needs it. One of the best things my mom did when raising me is if I had a question and she did not know the answer, we would find the answer together. She would always tell me that she wasn't sure but she would find out. And when she'd find out she would show me the proof of where the answer was. Also, please don't leave your little Virgo to worry. If you are stuck in traffic or if it's taking longer than normal to get home after work or you picked up an extra shift, please let him know. Speak with him directly so that he may hear your voice and know that you are okay and you're just running late. This will give him comfort and keep him content until he sees you. Be as truthful as possible for an 8 year old, as we can feel if the truth has been spoken. If he has a point when in an a disagreement, let him know that you make the final decision and stand firm but when the disagreement is over go to him and let him know that you understand his point of view and tell him that you respect it and explain to him why you ultimately made the decision that you did. He will understand. Never make him feel like his opinions and thoughts don't matter. Listen to him he may surprise you with nuggets of wisdom that you, yourself did not know or think of, even at a this young age. I remember my mom and I going to the mall and she was stressed but trying to hide it. I was around your son's age and I told her not to worry because we may not be rich but we're rich in our hearts and I assured her that everything would be okay. I never knew what the problem was but she has since told me that those words really helped her see past the stress she was experiencing. Lastly, Virgos are a intelligent bunch of people. Give him toys that stimulate his analytical and logical mind. I always wanted K'Nex, Legos, stethoscopes, telescopes, globes/maps and science kits and I really liked rocks and the rain. I always got Barbie dolls (bad mommy lol) In short, listen to your little Virgo, communicate with him (he'll understand where your coming from and we LOVE communicating). Stimulate his analytical and logical mind. You can even ask his opinion about the President or current events or any topic and find out his point of view and share yours with him. I hope this helps and I applaud you for asking this question because Virgo children sometime are left to their own devices because of how easy going and self-sufficient we are.


    this was wonderful and so insightful. thank you for taking the time to help me.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    Im trying to get an understanding of my Virgo child.
    he is 8

    and im curious about your childhood as a virgo and things what you wished people understood about you more growing up.

    things that he does that relate to what I believe is a virgo is...

    he says "no, I don't want to" when I offer to do stuff fun or what I feel would be a good time for him.
    also the talk back, I know this is normal in all children but this kid always has something to say, sometime he has a point but at the end of the day im boss so he needs to go with it. but the talking back is so smart asses.

    what are things your parents would tell you about yourself as a child. how did they handle it or you think they should have handled it.

    Im just very curious so tell me your thoughts
    thanks.
  • sagittariusxo
    Sun in Sagittarius / Moon in Capricorn / Venus in Scorpio
    31 years old female
    totally. to me I just hate feeling bad. bad inside, like hurt or angry or emotional so I just forget and move past it.
    but I don't forget, and Im pretty good at understand people for their actions so bouderies are always placed and those bounderies get further and further away the more BS that occurs to make me feel bad until I just cut people from my life.

    motto to ask yourself as often as possible.
    "Does this bring value to my life?"