Posted by LilliLou
You poor thing, sounds like a truly horrible experience.
Of course, what's done is done. But it does sound that regardless of this man's sign he has been a right jerk. A massive manipulator, and sounds terrible.
And you are right in thinking that it the relationship wasn't a very stable environment for a child to be brought into. TBH the 'relationship' doesn't sound like a very good environment for you either.
Please try not to be so hard on yourself. Thank you for sharing, hugs, and I hope you feel better soon.
Posted by kalin
He's been telling me everything I did wrong when we were together, as well as how I could Not repeat the same mistakes with *another him*. I told him I'm Not going to look for a bf and I am generally happier when I'm single. However, he insisted that I should Not give up on finding another him, and that "you are going to feel lonely and miserable on Friday nights." (and of course we got into an argument and of course he still didn't believe anything I said and of course he was not happy that I didn't agree with everything he said that's going to *help me*.)
I think it's funny that I have to argue with him regarding how *I* feel and what *I* want. For some reason, he believes that he can read "every thought in my mind" and that he can "predict my future". When we were dating, it was worse. Every time I told him I was not happy with something he said/did, he'd say, "You are just trying to be mad at me, because You don't want to love me anymore." (and of course he didn't remember anything I actually said that upset me in the first place.)
I don't know why he just has this egocentric way of thinking and has to take everything personally. He is also worried that if we keep spending time together, "It's going to be too hard for you after your move. You will be missing me so much and you are going to be sad." (Again, how does he know? I don't even know how I'd feel about him in 3 months myself. I was speechless when he said that. I literally didn't know what to say. I knew he's going to be mad if I said I won't miss him...)