SassyKiwi

Was at Hawaii last year and it's swamped with nothing but middle to upper class Trump supporters. Majority of the locals are raised to work for the tourist industry. It's a mess of its own.

Dw like you I had once considered if I wanna run away to Hawaii and become like a yoga instructor. I also been considering other countries but I can't stand cold climate. My Canadian friend is trying to convince me Canada is practically like US without the issues.

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While I agree sex is a transfer of material and spiritual energy, but not everyone is capable of handling a fully committed partner/spouse. Some are just better suited to live the gypsy life. *Cough aries venus gemini venus cough*

#notallgeminivenus

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Idk but those entire spring-summer signs are just too way out there for my old souled venus cap

While I agree sex is a transfer of material and spiritual energy, but not everyone is capable of handling a fully committed partner/spouse. Some are just better suited to live the gypsy life. *Cough aries venus gemini venus cough*

I cry more often than I'd like to admit and completely blame my moon conj. mars. It's in the 9th house. I have lots of squares and opposition to both. I mostly cry when I'm angry, it's like my body's natural response to release the excess energy. I hate it but it is what it is. Crying instantly makes me feel better. I even shortly forget what I was angry about. It makes me incapable of holding grudges. But then my other placements step in and I just ignore the offending person's existence as necessary.

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But successful men are usually very aware they're sought after so they're usually picky af. Which leave most women stuck with finding someone from the average pool. I've been seeing a lot of successful women end up with significantly less successful counterparts these days.

There is some truth to this. Once a person knows they're worth, the dating pool gets a lot bigger but the selection pool gets a hell of a lot smaller.

I don't think that's going to change for me quite yet.

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I'm getting the impression you resonate with being categorized as a successful guy? What qualifications would you say puts you as that. Certain career/scholar achievements or something like six figure income or seven figure net worth? And do you ideally seek someone of a similar caliber or near it?

Ignore his comments about how you dress

Literally just don't respond to him

Act like you didn't hear anything

What's he gonna do then? Nuthin

Btw what kind of things does he specifically say about how you dress? It definitely sounds creepy

But successful men are usually very aware they're sought after so they're usually picky af. Which leave most women stuck with finding someone from the average pool. I've been seeing a lot of successful women end up with significantly less successful counterparts these days.

I'm 5'1, husband 6'1. I wore 5"+ inch heels during my wedding and kept praying that I don't trip ugh lol. I find extreme height differences in couples soo cute. But I think I'm shrinking. At this rate by old age I might hit 4'11. Omg... 😭

I've always preferred guys above 5'10. You know that dad bod guy and the teenage girl looking type couple that people like questioning... 😂

Every short girl/tall guy couple I've known have had kids taller than the parents. The guys a lot of the time pass their dads.

I see you were on incognito mode. I see you are ashamed of dxp.

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Yep. Very true. I’ve been preaching this since I’ve been celibate these last two years. I was just talking to a friend about this very thing last week! I’ve experienced it firsthand and have only now been able to fully reflect upon the damage it did. I completely lost myself over years of relationship after relationship since I was 15 and now, in my mid thirties, am I just really coming to find myself. I’ve taken more than a few psychedelic trips to break through different plateaus I was at in life and I’m very grateful I did. I’ve become very introspective and more introverted. I think overly sexual people are running from something too. It’s easy to do the physical stuff because intimacy is hard and takes work. Anyone who disagrees with this sentiment, I’m hardpressed to hear a rational counter.

I think this is the main root issue with most people. Getting into relationships and commitments from an young age. You're more than ever susceptible of being impressionable by others then. And if you continue going from one relationship to another since, it's very hard to develop introspection and self-aware. You don't easily step back and *objectively* analyze, learn and grow from your relationship mistakes in order to get into a healthier one in the future. Adolescent hormones just don't let you do that.

I was on the opposite spectrum. From a very young age I had no desire to be in a relationship until I was all settled into my future career, etc. (cappy venus). I always knew I wanted to marry an older guy so obviously I thought dating people around my age would be a complete waste of time. Friends around me went into and fell out of relationships so quickly that it also made me more secure of my decision. It wasn't until after graduating uni that I started dating seriously in the prospects of finding a life partner, not some boy toy to pass time with. And surprisingly I didn't have a hard time getting into the dating game which I thought I would with the childhood anxiety I had. I had plenty of time to get to know myself up until that point and knew what I wanted. It was also easy to identify toxicity from the get go since I was clearly more mature than a teenager wearing their heart on their sleeve. I always used my friends' and relatives' experiences and heartbreaks as my own so it was easier for me to not waste time on people. Never underestimate the power of others' experiences. That's how you avoid wasting time repeating average human mistakes.

Therefore I think the only way to be able to find yourself while you're in a relationship is to have been actively working on yourself before getting into the relationship (as you already have the proper tools and outlets to do that). Yes you want to grow with your significant other, but you both *also* need space and time for yourselves to continue growing as individuals. That can't happen if you want to cling to your significant other. When the OP was implying isolation, I took it in the context of always giving oneself space for self-development which is very crucial to maintain in relationships.

Men with close female friends are far from a rare category... Clearly you did not know yourself well enough to know it's something that you would eventually end up resenting before getting serious with someone... You have no one but yourself to blame for that.

Yes you can focus on yourself as someone suggested and act like you don't need him every moment to fulfill your days... but I think that will only temporarily sugar coat the issue. I'm sure your subconscious will still not leave it alone as he most likely won't change significantly.

"I simply do not want someone who doesn't want me as much as I do."

You really couldn't have figured that out before deciding to attempt to bring a baby into the world for the 2nd time..? It's not like he suddenly increased his frequency of conversing with female friends after you both married.. if he did that's obviously concerning. My point is I'm sure you were also aware he was doing it to some degree before marriage.. did you honestly think he would suddenly change after a marriage certificate (a piece of paper)? Women who think like that baffle me.

I don't know what expectations you had but it seems like you have been living in your own fantasy ignoring what has actually ALWAYS been in front of you until it all came crashing down one day.

Yep it's very real and yep it's always other women. I also have seen the negative energy come back to them... I've also seen it not deter them from continuing. That's why even among family and relatives I don't share many pictures of my personal life or lucky news. I've also been randomly told by a deep spiritual person (completely unsolicited) that when people are giving me the evil eye, I will feel lethargic suddenly. I don't bother to entertain these people so I just use some things as a protection shield and move on staying fab ✌️

I like pondering this periodically. I'm constantly trying to spiritually transform myself. Deriving positivity from my surrounding. Trying to be in a constant state of gratitude. I know we are all out seeking our soul’s purpose but for now instead of making myself feel bad over not finding a specific calling yet, I am just focused on achieving internal peace. This is coming from someone who had a quarter life crisis and was indecisive on which career field to change to... I was deciding a new thing every week. I felt this great pressure of needing to be something big and inspiring that possibly required further degrees/schooling. The last couple of years I been releasing myself of all that pressure and letting myself flow with the currents while making sure my mental and physical state remain well so that no matter what age I’m at, I’m ready for whatever my soul’s purpose presents itself as. Even if it means going back to school at 45!

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Adam Sandler clothes

I loved Uncut Gems. His side cookiemonster was hot

Good movie if you want your cortisol to spike

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Need to find more movies that do the same