I don't get to talk to him too much at work and since we don't really hang out often.. would writing a note about my feelings work? We work at a school which I think makes it funnier and he had written me a note a few months ago when he asked me for my number again when we first started talkin since he forgot to save it the first time.
I wish it was that easy! lol This guy is a 25 yr old who just got out of a 3 yr relationship last year and has 2 kids with the girl so I feel like he may not want to have anything too serious right now. I know he was talkin to another girl, but that didn't last too long. Me and him have been "talking" since around May but didn't even get to hang out til the end of July. We also work together so we see each other every day but we dont talk much at work cus we didnt want it to be the subject of gossip around there. He also doesn't have a car right now, but I just feel like we're not hanging out enough (which is only once every 2-3 weeks). He was the one who had pursued me at first, but he just lets me initiate EVERYTHING now. When we hang out, what we do, texting eah other... he goes with the flow of it, but I dont get why he seems so unsure of what to do now. Any thoughts or advice?
Like Ovi said... I don't think he would act that way in person. The Aries guy I talk to now will text me tons of sexual stuff but when we're all alone in person.. he doesn't say a word sexual even if I'm the one who starts saying stuff. Online talking and text messaging give people a lot more confidence. I would just tell him you're not comfortable with all the blunt sex talk and that you would prefer not talking to him if he can't stop being so forward. It's not being mean.. it's abut you demanding the respect that you deserve. If you don't like it, you don't deserve for someone to continue such a rude behavior towards you.
This is actually really interesting to me becuase I feel like I'm having some of the same confusion only I'm a Scorpio girl with an Aries man. As a Scorpio, I can tell that he definitely really likes you a lot; however, it sounds like you both may be confusing each other. Scorpios prefer that the other person makes the first move and Aries are known to make the first move, but I seem to be having this backward problem wih mine as well where neither one of us is making any real first moves, but we feel a lot more comfortable texting each other about all the things we wanna do. I have a lot of Scorpio guy friends and believe it or not... they're pretty nervous about what to say or do when they like a girl even when they seem so much more sure of themselves. Scorpios and Aries both like independence, but they also love the stability of relationships; therefore, we find ourselves unsure of whether or not we want a serious relationship which can put a strain on what you are trying to achieve with the person you like. Sometimes we want it, sometimes we don't... so both Aries and Scorpios are just putting out very mixed signals.
My advice... do a subtle move... like if you hug him goodbye... give him a little soft kiss on the neck. Something that shows him that you want him without actually having to say it since everyone seems to have such a hard time voicing their feelings nowadays.
Haha exactly MissMorals! I might be crushing hard core and over-analyzing every bit of a guy's behavior but as soon as I decide he's not worth it; the next guy that makes me feel special will be the target of my infatuation lol
As a Scorpio... the only way I get over someone completely is by finding someone else to keep all my interests. If he can find someone else that makes him feel SPECIAL, you won't have any more problems. Plus.. speaking from experience, the more he feels he can't have you anymore; the more he's gonna want you right now until he finds something to replace those feelings.
Wow.. I can't believe how long you guys have been going for. And nope... I'm not gonna make any judgements on the over-analyzing and obsessing.. I'm a Scorpio too.. it's only natural for us to do that lol.
Thanks Xtina! I think your advice is helpful as well. I just think its so weird how he acts so much more different around me and so mnay people tell me how he acts like he can't even talk around me. It's strange though cus I'm never nervous around anyone, but I can barely speak around him either. Lol we're impossible! And yes stuff did happen when I stayed the night, but he was the one who kept in contact with me while he was out of state for a month and he told me that he didn't want to just stop talking to me cus he loves the conversations we have. However... the only time we are comfortable enough to have a conversation is through text lol.
Thanks for all the replies so far. Even when I had stayed at his house, there was a lot of shyness there. According to everyone else, they say he likes me and he does tell me how good I look and stuff in text messages. It's just that I don't get why we're not hanging out more often then.
I get obsessed with things quickly and then am just over it after a few weeks. But yeah, I definitely have to have some sort of obsession or infatuation at all times whether its to a TV Show, a person, a restaurant.. anything!!
I still talk to almost all of my exes unless they have a current girlfriend who would rather them not talk to me. I just like keeping people that had been a big part of my life still close to me. I'm like this with friends, family, and boyfriends.
I began working with an Aries man almost an entire year ago. We spoke to each other probably 3 times the entire year. We even played Scrabble together, sat next to each other, and never even spoke a single word. I'm a Scorpio and I never seem to get nervous, but something about him makes me so shy and apparently I do the same thing to him because after almost 8 months of working with each other, another worker told me that he has had a crush on me since I started, which he then confirmed through text messages. Both of us had been in relationships at the time, but are single now. He started pursuing me, so I spent the night at his house twice during our vacation time. Now work has started back up and he still texts me and flirts with me, but when I ask him if he wants to hang out, I never get a definite answer and it usually doesn't happen. And we still barely talk at work since we're both so shy only to each other for some reason. We just look at each other and smile. No talking. What does this mean? What should I do?
I had a Leo boyfriend once. It lasted about 8 months, but it began fizzling out because I wasn't over my ex of 2 years from right before this relationship. My Leo practically worshipped me though and made me feel so amazing. I just couldn't keep the chemistry with him though on my part.