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Posted by Scorpiogrlll
Why wouldnt he initiate dates tho... Afraid of rejection?

In general, Pisces like to really go with the flow. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule (I know a few that initiate everything and plan well)... but most, don’t like planning too much. They are super chill, do things last minute, thrive on spontaneity, and get more excited about the unexpected.

He might be the relaxed type. If so, don’t worry so much about formalities. He would rather throw those formalities out the window and will just feel out the mood of the room/moment and go by that.

The important thing is to have experiences with him and for you to truly be yourself while you share those experiences. That is where he will float into your energy field and if he’s comfortable enough with you, he will make a move.

Until a physical move has been made, that is when you will start hearing him wanting more of your time, presence and commitment.

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Soo helpful, thanks!!!

Why wouldnt he initiate dates tho... Afraid of rejection?

Posted by LittleStar

Posted by Scorpiogrlll
If a pisces guy texts often, is very sweet and touchy when we meet, but doesn't initiate dates, should I bother continuing to ask him out or is he just not interested?

The last time I asked him out, he already had plans with his friends, but invited me to come along and introduced me to them. Is this something a pisces guy would do with every girl they're just seeing or does this mean they treat this as something serious?

He’s investing in you.

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Define investing? :-)

If a pisces guy texts often, is very sweet and touchy when we meet, but doesn't initiate dates, should I bother continuing to ask him out or is he just not interested?

The last time I asked him out, he already had plans with his friends, but invited me to come along and introduced me to them. Is this something a pisces guy would do with every girl they're just seeing or does this mean they treat this as something serious?

Posted by Dreamy88
Personally, I wouldn’t date with that kind of age gap, or even associate, but it sounds like he likes you. I’m also guilty of not initiating plans. It’s just not something on my mind often and I’ll also not respond for a while. As far as long term, as mentioned before, that’s definitely up to him. For me, it’d be a no and that’s dependent on how you carry yourself.

How should I carry myself?

Posted by Jade_Alexander
My pisces is 12 years older

He was a gentle mentor, excellent lover and good friend

Have fun!

sounds exactly like how mine is haha.. Are you still with him?

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What does he think you need teaching with?

Honestly just very minor things like how to roll a ciggie

Oh k then what’s the issue?

That's not an issue for me, my issue now is whether he's as into this as I am

Probably not long term yet, as you’re probably at different life stages.

What is he looking for in his future?

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Its too soon to talk about the future, but I'm wondering if he's this sweet to all the girls he meet or if this is something more special than the usual fling

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What does he think you need teaching with?

Honestly just very minor things like how to roll a ciggie

Oh k then what’s the issue?

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That's not an issue for me, my issue now is whether he's as into this as I am

Posted by Arielle83
What does he think you need teaching with?

Honestly just very minor things like how to roll a ciggie

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Only he knows that.
And 11 years isn't that big of a difference so go for it.
I wouldn't worry about the mentor/teacher vibes. He wants the best for you and is giving you advice. Soak that up, especially if he is successful in business. Be taking notes.

This... I dated a Pisces in my early 20’s that was older than my (10 yrs) and also was a huge mentor for me... he was amazing. Very protective of me. Were together for three years.

I also say go for it.

The mentoring thing is so crazy tho, like I just want to have fun playing pool for example and he'd be correcting me and fixing my pose every single time.. I did end up improving greatly by the end of the game tho, so I get what you mean aha

Oh... does he get on your nerves?

I actually liked it when my Pisces did it. I honestly felt like I was constantly learning something, it kept me interested.

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It does a little when I just want to have fun and do an activity, but keep getting interrupted in the process. I did realise afterwards that I actually benefitted from it tho, so alls good aha

Posted by pisceanloves
About initiating specifically.. I'd say he may be a bit insecure and unsure if you want to hang out any given moment so he's waiting for you to express desire.. Insecurity from his part about the age gap, he may not be sure you are all in and may not be trusting yet, young girls are air headed, someone mature would expect anything. Not saying that's what you are but in general..

This makes sense

Posted by LadyNeptune
Only he knows that.
And 11 years isn't that big of a difference so go for it.
I wouldn't worry about the mentor/teacher vibes. He wants the best for you and is giving you advice. Soak that up, especially if he is successful in business. Be taking notes.

Yeah I always forget he's way older hehe

Posted by MareInfame

Posted by LadyNeptune
Only he knows that.
And 11 years isn't that big of a difference so go for it.
I wouldn't worry about the mentor/teacher vibes. He wants the best for you and is giving you advice. Soak that up, especially if he is successful in business. Be taking notes.

This... I dated a Pisces in my early 20’s that was older than my (10 yrs) and also was a huge mentor for me... he was amazing. Very protective of me. Were together for three years.

I also say go for it.

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The mentoring thing is so crazy tho, like I just want to have fun playing pool for example and he'd be correcting me and fixing my pose every single time.. I did end up improving greatly by the end of the game tho, so I get what you mean aha

Is it normal for me to be the one having to initiate contact (eg texting, Meeting up) everytime of he always replies enthusiastically and says yes to hanging out?

He's 34, I'm 23. We get along very well, and have the same interests in weird music and shows.

We were initially just hooking up, but he initiated going out on dates, and doing fun things outside the house. He has given us pet names and loves to touch me and give me little pecks. He keeps trying to teach/mentor me when we do things which I find a little overwhelming at times, like he's my dad instead of a love interest haha..

I'm wondering if that's just how he treats all the women he meets and I'm being played, bc he replies to my texts super slowly (albeit with lots of enthusiasm), and I'm usually the one asking to meet first.. Would he consider anything serious and longterm with someone much too young?

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Posted by Scorpiogrlll
I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.

I understand why you would feel that way.

You loved him and started seeing a future with him. I’m sure it wasn’t light on your end. But, he wasn’t very kind in how he handled you. Very disrespectful and unloving. It was obvious enough that you had to clearly come to defend yourself, set boundaries of how you should be treated. So in effect, he also became an enemy. Those are conflicting roles that he holds in your heart.

So, be kind and patient with yourself. It will take some time where you will continue to feel that duality. But a constant feeling will also be pride, because you know deep inside that you did the right thing. You are now your best ally and you can always depend on you!! Bravo girl!!! Bravo👏🏻👏🏻

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Pride's something I now feel thanks to you. This forum's really helping me get through a crappy but temporary phase in my life. Thank you so much everyone...

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I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.

these things take time and eventually you'll start feeling happy more often and not and the devastation will fade away.

deep down you know that it was time. deep down you know that you deserve more and that you were settling.

a friend of mine said this to me probably a couple of decades ago but it always stayed with me. this is the person you are going to spend most of your life with, share your days with, the ups and downs, and give the most secret, deepest parts of you, don't you want them to be the best person you can find? this person is so important, do you want to settle for second best when there is better out there?

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So true.. I'd probably spend the rest of my life feeling insecure and unappreciated

I'm currently bouncing between feeling devastated and happy that I did what was right for me. It's a horrible feeling.

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I just broke up with him. Thanks everyone. I feel completely empty

Girl you better tap into that Scorpio resiliency, you will bounce back in no time. I guarantee this wasn’t the first time you had your feelings hurt and certainly won’t be the last. You’ve gotten over heartbreak before, you can do it again. You will be just fine! Mind over matter

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Thanks :/ Currently trying my best to look for rebounds lol