Posted by GemitatiPosted by Scotteh007
Girl messaged me today seeming desperate to get out of her relationship. Sounds like she lives with her current bf and mom and things haven't been going great since September. She currently relies on them because her car is crap.
I thought she was cute in highschool but I dont think ive seen her since we graduated in 2009...
Should I...
1. Find a day to hang out/ catch up on life and see what happens from there
2. Avoid that situation like the plauge
You haven’t SEEN her since 2009 AND she found you to ask about that?
Think. wTF???click to expand
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
Well good luck in your endeavors. You never grow of you don’t take risks
Posted by ellllePosted by Scotteh007
Kinda hard to make new friends at this age.
Forcing things. I think I've heard that from someone so its most likely true.
I've read on a website that said I had some kind of aspect with the description.. something like I can't tell between someone being plainly platonic vs sexual opportunity.
Something like that. I don't remember what website it was.
All I know is cafe astrology but it wasn't that one.
If you know of any different ones please tell me. I like reading what aspects I have.
Astro.com has a nice one for beginners...
Horoscopes>Astroclick Portrait
You touch the different planets, aspects and houses and it gives you the detail.click to expand
Posted by elllle
Dude....do you have some capricorn in your chart? If so, I want to slap you silly.
Please, just chill. You are trying too hard.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Scotteh007Posted by LadyNeptune
"I'm not trying to control anything. I'm not trying to sound like an ass. I just want everyone to have fun when we all hang out.
So basically I said something in the group chat about it yesterday. They said we can talk in person next time we see each other. Because texting over it can lead into miscommuication."
Sitting everyone down to have a talk about how they have to make you feel the fun is literally the best and fastest way to kill fun.
Lighten up.
If you feel awkward in the group cause your shy and introverted, thats on you.
Work on yourself.
This is a you problem. Not a them problem.
Yeah that why I said I wasn't blaming them entirely. You're probably right.
Im going to stop drinking pop for a start.
I know caffeine doesn't help at all.
Maybe focus on hanging out with these people more one on one so that when you are in a group environment your part of the conversation.
It can be awkward/annoying if everyone is sloppy drunk and your the only one sober.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
"I'm not trying to control anything. I'm not trying to sound like an ass. I just want everyone to have fun when we all hang out.
So basically I said something in the group chat about it yesterday. They said we can talk in person next time we see each other. Because texting over it can lead into miscommuication."
Sitting everyone down to have a talk about how they have to make you feel the fun is literally the best and fastest way to kill fun.
Lighten up.
If you feel awkward in the group cause your shy and introverted, thats on you.
Work on yourself.
This is a you problem. Not a them problem.
Posted by Redbull
If its not your "scene" or whatever, one option is not to go/stay away from it. Not saying what you should do but I know when Im in uncomfortable environments...I try to stay away from them. May go to party somewhere once or whatever but if its not my scene, sometimes it feels better to...I know I feel relieved when I get away from certain circles. I realized it when I was younger hanging out. Ok now too many people have come around let me get away in low key way...ok did it Im in car by myself driving away whew what a relief.
Posted by hydorah
I think you'll be a lot more accepted if you just cut your balls, you'll feel closer to the group. and you don't seem to need them anyway
Posted by tctaapPosted by Scotteh007
Okay so this is me trying to write out what I think whats going wrong currently. I'm suppose to talk with my friends next time we hang out about it. So if I can write out my thoughts correctly I might be able to say what I need to say to the group so changes can be made and I can feel a lot more apart of my group.
Anyway at the last party:
Mainly it was me and 4 other girls.
The start of the party it almost felt like musical chairs. Every time I went to the bathroom and came back people were sitting in other spots. But the problem was every time I sat down by anyone, they stayed there for a few and got up and sat with someone else, leaving me by myself.
Anyway it pretty much ended up with all the girls sitting with each other while I was left out sitting alone. I almost felt like I wasn't really meant to be invited to that party, like it was meant for the girls to get drunk and mess around with each other. But thats like every party. They're all together. I'm left out sitting alone on the couch. Its not right.
Usually another couple is apart of this (They didn't come this time) and even the guy is usually apart of this girl thing sitting along with them and possibly doing whatever.
If all of the party is sitting being close with one another, everyone should be there. Not leaving certain people out.
I'm feeling like I'm being run over by girls. If you really want to use the term, like a beta male (I don't believe the alpha/beta bullbutter that is everyone spats out on this site)
So if the plan was to get drunk and mess around with each other. Everyone in the party should be included.
Part of it is I should change my own behavior and the group should change how they treat me.
So basically I said something in the group chat about it yesterday. They said we can talk in person next time we see each other. Because texting over it can lead into miscommuication. We usually hang out on Fridays.
Last time though one of my friends got pushed out of the group due to he was hitting on a girl that didn't want it (Shes in a relationship). They talked about like they were going to talk to him about it. But that never happened because no one wanted to confront him about it. So eventually it just ended up him not hanging out with the group anymore. He also had a girlfriend so that shouldn't of been happening in the first place.
So I'm hoping we actually talk about it instead of having the same butter happen to me.
stop hanging out with want to be friends but can't stop trying to cause drama and controlclick to expand