Posted by EvilHare
Who says they're petty, though?

It's all relative, IMO.



In my case some of its petty lol. I suppose I mean just overthinking everything, even if it turns out fine and you realise it wasn't worth stressing over.
I always tell myself not to worry about how many texts I send when it comes to friends, family and my boyfriend because I'm usually pretty distant and make up for it by sending multiple texts. In saying that, I regret sending so many now and feel I should be mindful about keeping it short and sweet... now I'm over-analysing lol
I stress and stress over minor issues. I'm a scorpio sun, aqua rising and Leo moon. And the problem is I put myself in these situations to begin with; especially in relationships, although sometimes I stress about work. Only to find it wasn't that big of a deal.

My dad is a Pisces and is very similar, and so are some of the other Pisces I've met... although I find with age people deal with it better.

What do you think?
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Eh who cares. You're his number one right now. You can't change his past.


The lady cares.....


Her bf doesn't care so she shouldn't. He's happy with what he's got. She should be confident. I'm sure it's still good sex.
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He said I'm really really good in bed and it's nothing to worry about. But I'm sort of humiliated, it was in front of his friend and I feel like I never should have even asked the question.
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Posted by LePetitFisk
Yes. Be petty and manipulative because you heard an honest answer to a question you probably should not have asked in the first place. Make him pay for making you feel insecure.


Exactly. Don't ask if you can't handle the truth.

Pull him aside and let him know that your sex life shouldn't be a topic of conversation in front of other people. But give him a pass, cause alcohol = poor judgment.



I agree, I shouldn't have even asked.

But due to alcohol my judgement was altered also and it was natural for me to ask him the same question after he'd asked me. I didn't really think of the consequences and I suppose now I'm dealing with them.



Don't think of it like that. Sex gets better with practice. There's only one way to go and that's up.


I said that to him - that I want to improve and believe with time and getting to know what each other likes it'll only get better. But he said "it was due to the circumstances - I knew her for 5 years and isn't anything you can change, she isn't half the person you are and it's nothing to worry about."

But it doesn't make any sense to me.



Makes sense to me. How long have you known him?
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For a year. I understand if you've known someone longer of course they may be more likely to be more compatible with you sexually. But he told me it's something I can't change, I suppose I had the belief over time we'd come to be even more compatible.

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Posted by LePetitFisk
Yes. Be petty and manipulative because you heard an honest answer to a question you probably should not have asked in the first place. Make him pay for making you feel insecure.


Exactly. Don't ask if you can't handle the truth.

Pull him aside and let him know that your sex life shouldn't be a topic of conversation in front of other people. But give him a pass, cause alcohol = poor judgment.



I agree, I shouldn't have even asked.

But due to alcohol my judgement was altered also and it was natural for me to ask him the same question after he'd asked me. I didn't really think of the consequences and I suppose now I'm dealing with them.



Don't think of it like that. Sex gets better with practice. There's only one way to go and that's up.
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I said that to him - that I want to improve and believe with time and getting to know what each other likes it'll only get better. But he said "it was due to the circumstances - I knew her for 5 years and isn't anything you can change, she isn't half the person you are and it's nothing to worry about."

But it doesn't make any sense to me.

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Posted by LePetitFisk
Yes. Be petty and manipulative because you heard an honest answer to a question you probably should not have asked in the first place. Make him pay for making you feel insecure.


Exactly. Don't ask if you can't handle the truth.

Pull him aside and let him know that your sex life shouldn't be a topic of conversation in front of other people. But give him a pass, cause alcohol = poor judgment.

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I agree, I shouldn't have even asked.

But due to alcohol my judgement was altered also and it was natural for me to ask him the same question after he'd asked me. I didn't really think of the consequences and I suppose now I'm dealing with them.

In my opinion, a persons personality contributes so much more in regards to whether or not a person is attractive. But I suppose it's a combination of things. Different people will have different opinions on who is and isn't attractive but overall, yes looks do matter also because it's important in a relationship for two people to find each other attractive physically also.
I appreciate all your inputs. I guess I'm just stuck on what to do now. I can text him or I can talk to him in person, which probably won't be for another week or two since we're both flat out with work.

It's difficult because we really like each other and he has a point in some of the things he's said. But he was extremely inconsiderate. For now I think I'll just distance myself.... virgos are great but they definitely (not all) can be extremely full of themselves and inconsiderate.
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He has the strong belief in honesty being the best policy I suppose


it's a whole lie, the dude preparing a plan. i'm sure in one month he will said.

"maybe we shoud try analzex"

i bet 20 buck on it


I wish I could say you were right but he is always honest, brutally sometimes and he felt bad afterwards.



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He's a Virgo and I'm a Scorpio

Do I just need to get over it and forgive and forget, bring it up to him in by calmly communicating next time we see each other or just leave? I think it's pretty butterty knowing the guy you're with has such a ridiculously high count and that he perceives you as second best in bed even if there are more important things than sex...
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He has the strong belief in honesty being the best policy I suppose


it's a whole lie, the dude preparing a plan. i'm sure in one month he will said.

"maybe we shoud try analzex"

i bet 20 buck on it
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I wish I could say you were right but he is always honest, brutally sometimes and he felt bad afterwards.

He has the strong belief in honesty being the best policy I suppose
He's std free and I'm the only one he's sleeping with now, it was just while he was single post breakup
Hmm that makes sense. What type of girl would be the best match for a Virgo? He's admitted to loving how intelligent, caring, independent and strong-minded I am. But has also said he hates the "other side" to me when I become emotional. I think he has many great qualities but sometimes he's a terrible listener, distant and very stuck in his own ways. His ability to be honest with me is great but he often takes it too far and hurts my feelings.
This ones a very complex situation...

We get along well and have been dating for a year. Many similarities, many differences. Unfortunately the main difference between us is the emotional depth I'm wanting that he can't seem to give me. I'm a Scorpio.

We are quite devoted to each other, both ambitious, both interested in a range of things. But he is "hot and cold" and so stuck in his own ways that sometimes I feel like I'm talking to a brick wall. Things for him have to be his way or not at all. When I've had a legitimate issue that I've communicated with him he's made an issue to change, but in general I just feel nothing I say matters. He has expressed deep emotions from me from time to time but he is just so moody. If he's stressed about work or life stressors, he disappears for a while. Always returns with an apology but it's only me he seems to distance himself from. My friends have even said if they were dating him they wouldn't be able to handle it - I guess I've just always pushed myself and believed I am strong enough. He's a very genuine, good and honest guy.

Sometimes things are perfect between us. The communication, the sex, the affection. But I don't feel like we have the best-friend factor yet that makes a relationship truly work. We are both introverted and I can be over emotional. I feel that he will never change and either I can accept him for who he is or walk away. But I change my mind so often and can't really tell if this is a truly bad situation or something that can be fixed.

I guess his logical over emotional approach to life can confuse me and I get confused by all of his behaviour. I just want to know if with better communication, working on ourselves and time we will work? Or if this is just a toxic situation.
He has many female friends and work is his number one priority. He used to talk to other women via social media but stopped a long while ago, when I told him I felt disrespected. Usually whenever I've been suspicious he's provided me with a valid explanation but nonetheless it is a little worrisome.
I've been dating a Virgo for almost a year. he is affectionate for days and then distant for days.

I sense behind his large amount of confidence he is extremely insecure, he's been hurt by a previous relationship and went on a rampage sleeping with other women, but he's been very open about his past and all of his intentions with me.

Right now he's been ignoring me for a few days. I know he'll be back soon but it is quite annoying. I feel that whenever we catch up it's in his terms when he's not too tired, when he feels like socialising and feels ready. I myself am strong-minded and stubborn and so sometimes this doesn't sit well with me.

He's completely work-focused and so if he's stressed or busy I won't hear from him. I'm afraid he lacks the emotional depth I'm looking for, being a Scorpio. But in saying that, I enjoy space also, I enjoy being independent, we have much in common and the conversations, friendship, sex and everything are great. I just struggle to trust him with his tendency to show signs of insecurities. I'm afraid of getting hurt, I suppose.

My loyalty and commitment to him scares me because I worry that maybe it doesn't go both ways, although recently he's told me he's fully committed to me. He talks to his friends about me often and has done many little, thoughtful things. Took me as a date to his important work event where I met clients, the opposition, etc and so impression is massive - showed me he thinks highly of me. Whenever confronted about anything he's been very, at times even brutually, honest with me. I appreciate this because when I talk to him he really let's me know where I stand. Being a Scorpio I have a very suspicious nature but in saying that I think my reasons are valid considering the circumstances.

Virgos, and women who know them.
Can I trust a Virgo man?
Does it just take time, I understand he is slow moving but am I just wasting it?
Are virgos prone to cheating?
Should I just trust all that he says to me?
What kind of woman is right for a Virgo man?