So I have a old Cancer friend that just came out publically on fb and instagram of being in an open relationship with his girlfriend.
They got some support to be fair, but he also got a lot of judgement and looks. And people talking sh--t about them being open.
These people are treating them like they were monogamous and cheated with the attitude.
With the way people think these days, Im beginning to think cheating is more accepted than people who are non-monogamous.
"I could never do that! Good luck on the break up!" That's the kind of bs I saw on his feed. Believe it or not there are successful non-monogamous relationships What doesnt work for you may work for someone else.
People need to chill. My respect for my cancer pal went up even more for coming out like that. I respect people who know who they are and dont try to pretend to be something they're not and do down-low stuff.
I take notes as well or put my headset down when they are screaming and ranting at me. The volume and their voice is loud enough to wear I can hear them when they take a breath.
I work on getting their issue resolved while they rant. My problem is its 15 mins later and I am done They are still screaming and wont let me tell them it is taken care of That garbage gets on my nerves.
Working in the medical field officially has confirmed for me that I deal better with children then people 50 and up who are patients. The level of arrogance, lack of accountability for mistakes they made, and entitlement is unreal.
I had a guy scream at me about UPS running late in the evening just to pick up an item from him yesterday In my mind I am thinking "WTF is wrong with you? We are in a pandemic. Considering they are risking their lives to do deliveries you should be thankful they are even working." If there was no pandemic or christmas time, then I could see why he would be upset
I am also risking my health going to work as I cant work from home. These patients dont care, they just act like a pandemic is not happening and they are the only person having problems.
No wonder my father used to say if he was getting out of mind enough to be put in a rest home, to just old yeller his a-- with a shotgun. He hated being around people his age as he felt "they are bitter, given up on life and are narrowminded to the point where they are not open to any new ideas"
One last pet peeve I have is people who try to lie to get their way on the phone, and you catch them in it with rock solid proof, they deny it then try to escalate the issue
I had this daughter posing as her dead mother trying to get a medical item replacedfrom us. When mother's acct was marked as deceased. I played along and just had my mgr do a call back Explained the situation to mgr and before the call he was able to pull up a online obituary for her mother that matched exactly
When confronted with this evidence, she denied she was deceased and requested to speak to corporate mgmt. I swear the level of scam people do is unreal
I listen, but its one thing when its a few minutes of complaints and another when they are giving a seminar.
And then when you either are working on fixing the issue or have the issue fixed, they want to go endlessly on about the situation.
Ive never lost control with a patient over the phone and have been called every derogatory term in the book including racist ones. The only I disconnected a call was when a patient that lived in the area threaten to come down and his 38 special to teach me a lesson in patient service. His little tantrum was all over the fact that it was past the cut off time for us to submit a delivery for next day air with. UPS dictates the cut off time, not the company I work for.
I explained this to him and offered their # to voice his concerns But he still assessed it was my fault even though he had the issue all day long and waits to call into early evening to take care of it.
I already did judge before but I am on complete watch now if a girl I am dating is unjustly rude in any small way to anyone that works in a service industry. If you are nasty on the normal to tip to these people that is all I need to know and will kick your a-- out the door promptly. Dont care how hot she is or if I am desperate to get laid, being terrible to service people without justification is a huge no-no to me.
People get too happy with their misery and trying to envelope other people that are trying to help them.
I want to get something off my chest, before I do though I would like to preface it with this. I work part of the time as a medical phone service rep with patients Other part of the time I am reviewing orders for errors online as well as making orders for patients.
I want to say first off, I do get that there are some horrible phone service reps out there. Lousy attitude, or just giving out misinformation. I get it and there are a lot of bad ones out there.
However.... At the same time there are a lot of service reps who are good and want to help. But the problem is we get callers who decide to use us for a therapy session instead of just getting down to business to resolving the issue. With that in mind, here are a few suggestions for your friends and relatives who make a habit of being nasty to reps.
One- When we ask for your date of birth, address, or whatever is used to verify the account, for the love of god, please stop saying "Should you already have that in your system?" There is a reason we verify and that is called identify theft. Imagine your bank not verifying who your information over the phone first and everybody has access to your bank account. Are you still good with having that type of set up then?
Two - Keep your Primal Screen Therapy session to about a minute or two We get you're upset and need to vent. But we also are here to try to resolve the issue. Stop taking it personal if we acknowledge, then apologize and change the subject to actually helping you. Keep in mind we have a handle time to resolve issue and to take as many calls as possible when it's busy We are not here to discuss why your life went wrong.
Three - Be respectful when we ask questions about the issue. We are not saying you didnt do such and such We are not saying you are stupid We are REQUIRED by our company to ask these questions before anything can be replaced And when a rep mentions they are required to ask the questions and you say you refuse to work with him and want it replaced. Then the rep says he cant replace until the questions are asked, and you want to speak to a mgr as well as report the rep, Well I hope you sir/maam end up in jail and be someone's pound puppie in there
Four - Forgive me for the following caps, but this needs to be yelled -STOP TAKING REJECTION OF SOMETHING YOU ASK FOR THAT IS DENIED AS A PERSONAL ATTACK FROM THE REP. I hope I dont have to say this louder. If someone says they cant replace an item or refund you, and explain in DETAIL that was the MANAGER'S call, Breathe, have a Twix, ask for a supervisor and STFU Do not go on calling a rep names, using manipulation tactics such as these winners - "I hope you can sleep well at night" "My life is completely ruined because of you" Dont name call, use racist terms or make threats of physical violence Save it for the supervisor instead, that is what they are there for.
That was all I can think of at the moment But I am sure I will remember more. If anyone else works in the same field and would like to add on, feel free to do so
Sorry for bringing a thread back from the dead, but just want to clear up some things.
I wasnt seeking a relationship with her this is just smashing. 2nd my impression from what mutual friends have said (BTW they dont know she has been flirting with me and that I am thinking of banging her) about the significant other is he already mentally checked out of the relationship and is looking for any excuse to leave at this point.
With 30 somethings I meant it is easier to do casual as 20 somethings are either easier to get clingy based off good sex alone or they flake on meeting in person. Not saying 30 somethings cant get attached but at least they flake way less for date or meetups than 20 somethings from my experience.
I havent made a move yet regarding this But the sense of how easier it would be if she is wanting to take the flirting into the bedroom is tempting.
I may have a option with a single girl right now so pursuing that instead However because she is 20 something I get the feeling we'll set up a meet and she will flake then ghost I dont care if someone starts ghosting me after I ask if they want to meet up.
My pet peeve is when a meet up is set up then gets cancelled by them Then get ghosted. My feeling is if you werent interested in me and were not going to meet up, why bother setting it up in the first place3?
They can just ghost me if I ask to hang out via text and they are not interested and I'll take the hint. This is why I dont like dealing with trying to date 20 somethings. 30 somethings can flake too but again the ratio is much lower
We'll see what happens but for now the thing with the taurus gal is in limbo
Could be unevolved energy She has been with the guy from high school to now and is married
I think she is having that feeling of missing out on casually dating in her 20's and settling down too soon. Cause she was always super interested in my stories from traveling around since she hasnt been out of state in a long time
When I went to my 10 yr reunion, I got a strong sense of the married people that I went to school with not being happy since they all married in early 20's It's not surprising since where I am from is a small city not a lot of people move away like I did.
I am just glad I never married young as Ive been recently finding out that everyone I went to school is currently divorced or divorcing
sorry for late reply, but I created this thread right before getting off work.
@dillpickle - Very true but depending the moon and mars placements, the chance of cheating can be greater.
I'm trying to be cautious as I am very aware people can have just flirtatious personalities in general. If it's light flirting I dont even assume interest.
But when it goes a little deeper such as constant physical contact, consistent compliments about looks, and her giving the impression in conversation that she is bored with her significant order makes me think otherwise.
But I dont want to be arrogant either and completely assume she's wanting to get plowed on the side
Hence why I am asking on here. I know how to test how serious the interest is once we are able to meet in person again.
If I actually am right, I would have no problem hooking up with her. I guess the attraction for me is to be able to have sex with someone who is in my age range for a change. Since most women I meet that like me are usually in their 20's.
I might be looked at for being a douche for hooking up with a taken gal, but unless a girl is in her very late 20's I am just not interested anymore When you are either dating or just fooling around with someone that is also in their 30's, its just easier period from my experience
Has anyone here ever have dating experiences with or know someone that has a Taurus Sun and Moon In Gemini?
If so, have you ever seen someone with those placements cheat?
Reason I am asking is there is a girl I used to go to high school with. I didnt know her well really back then.
She was popular considered one of the hottest girls in school and I was just this introverted awkward dude that is why I never really associated with her
Anyway flash forward to our class reunion years ago. I look physically different than I did then She didnt recognize me at first and started just flirting with me And then was shocked when I reminded her who I was
That didnt stop the flirting though but she was with someone. I didnt pay it any mind at the time.
But now in the years since ever since when running into each other at mutual friends she has kept up the flirting And we have now exchanged facebooks as of a few days ago. And her birthday was on the 1st of this month which is how I know the chart
But the flirting seems to look now where it may be more than that. If restrictions ease up more in a few months I am thinking of testing the waters to see if there is actual interest and not just a personality tick.
That's why I wanted to see if anyone has any experiences or have friend that have Taurus with a gem moon who cheated.
I understand the snark and eye rolls. But when you are not living in a high risk area like Los Angeles or New York, it can be tempting to date if a person is getting interest from others.
For example, I had a really attractive blonde in a laundry mat who kept showing interest. But I feel weird because we are required to maintain our distance and I wasnt sure if I should even bother approaching and risk getting in trouble with staff.
The only upside with this nightmare is more women are being direct with interest where I live.
I live in a smaller city, so the case count is low and I am already at risk with having to go to work. Because even though I have a face mask, its not tight and still loose in corners to where particles can still travel through the open part of the mask
Masks are only effective to me if you have a tight fitting one with no corners open at all I am already at risk anyway since all i have is the generic loose fitting one.
All I can do at this point is take my 1000 mg Vitamin C when I go out to work and the store and hope for the best at this point
Writing off being able to date for the rest of the year thanks to CO-VID? I think we may have a 1-2 month break in summer potentially, then back to full blown isolation in fall for the rest of year due to flu season and temperatures lowering.
Being somewhat introverted, I dont mind the confined to home part when i am not working or shopping. But being single and lack of fornicating sucks big time.
Do you think if there is no break from isolating that our hormones will eventually get the best of us? And we will end up not caring anymore about the risk to get some vitamin D or P if we are in a area with low cases?
I am not going to lie, it is tempting to date where I am at right now. Since our case count is massively lower than other places. If you were living in a low risk area and we are still full isolating 6 mths later, would you take a chance to at least try a date?
It sounds stupid to ask, but do you honestly think anyone that is single will be in a rational state of mind if there is no isolating break in the next year and their area has a low case factor?
That's what I feel too. If you want to do pot in the house why not just do edibles?
There is still a little bit of smell but it doesnt make you want to deodorize the room like a mad person.
I'm sorry to the potheads that smoke in house but it smells nasty. That is fine if you live alone, but if a boyfriend or girlfriend is living with you that doesnt smoke, I think doing edibles instead is a good compromise.
I feel like potheads have been smoking for so long they forget how nasty it smells kind of like with cigarette smokers
Ironically enough, I had a friend quit weed as they were focused on getting in shape. They had been off weed for like 2 months I think when they smelt it from someone else
And he was like "I forgot how bad that s--t smells man, no wonder you cant stand the smell How could I go smelling like that outside before? Good god!"
Sounds stupid, probably is a stupid question but I will still will ask.
because I know only one person that lives with his girlfriend who is a pothead and he is not. It didnt bother him before living together, but the constant smell in the house and on her body is starting to drive him nuts.
For the nonpotheads like me, doesnt the smell repulse you if you are dating a pothead? Most of the pot Ive smelt from others smoking smells like someone hasnt wiped their butt in day.
To me, if I was going to live with a pothead she would have to do it outside and not inside. If it looks like we may be going in the direction of knocking boots, and she had smoked pot earlier, then she would need to put on some perfume and pop a breathmint
Because that smell is overwhelming and a turn off to me if i am going to do the deed with someone
If someone I am dating cant compromise just doing that, I dont think I could hang living with them
Was wondering if any other non potheads are the same or different when it comes dating to tokers
He is a dirtbag and she is a calculating gold-digger They deserve whatever bad karma comes their way
If a girl asks me how much money I make on a first date, I will ghost like no tomorrow Fine if she wants to ask if i have a job to make sure im not K-Fed jr
But anything more specific than that is alert for gold-digging hussy. Im always amused by men that pursue models As a majority of them are gold-diggers or hooking on the downlow to billionaires in countries like Dubai.
When John Mayer denies dating you then that person must be really bad. Given that he loves attention from media
He denied dating her but everyone that lived in west hollywood knows that is a scam. Because he was seen more than once kissing her and other stuff.
I am not going to lie say I would be above doing a one and done with her because that is a lie as she is attractive. But you could pay me a million dollars and that wouldnt be enough to date the long lost child of Gargamel
Anyone that pursues being a reality star as long term career is f---d in the head
That's a red flag if I present to someone a mutual prenup option for both of us. And they get angry about it. Especially since I am signing one for them so i dont get any.
I feel like most people that are in their 20's get married for the wrong reasons. The women do it so they can have a wedding without thinking about how they are compatible long term with their partner Or the men and women get married because everyone else their age is so they think they should to.
I've never been more happy that I never married given all the divorces and current misery I see with people that are still married
I've always believed if you take care of your looks and finances that a person can be single for a long time and not just go into a partnership out of fear of being alone.