Hey I answered your post to me last week then deleted it in the morning. Did you see it before then?
I saved in case you didn’t 😐
Posted by BAV
OK, so this is getting ridiculous. I feel like a jackass. Just 3 days ago she was saying she loves me a lot, told her that too and then boom, she is ghosting me. She "doesnt feel like going on a 2 days outing with me, at this moment". She doesnt feel like seeing me at all, she doesnt initiate any conversation, BUT she talks with me over the phone a lot, silly things, like what she did at home, what she is buying etc. Whenever I try to bring up a subject about us, she changes that. She is not sweet like a few days ago. And this is getting worse and worse.
I feel that there is no more respect for me or for my feelings. She is very egoistic.
One question: I am trying to find out from where this is coming from. So, a few ideas:
1. she is scared butterless of a relationship and does everything to sabotage it. She has told me she is scared a few times and thats why she runs away. She is scared of success. And probably now she finds all kind of stupid mistakes from my part to convince herself that this is not going to work out.
2. she is testing me to the limit to see if I go back to my ex. She said something about testing me a week ago.
3. she is bipolar. Told her that 3 days ago, as a joke. She took it rather serious and said she's not that bad, but not very far.
4. this is who she is really. And all that last couple of months were a joke.
I will ask her out to tell her that its not going to go like this and have closure. I bet she doesnt want to meet. So, I will text her. But I can not go on like this.
Posted by TinnedglassPosted by BAVPosted by Aquarelle
I think you should give her space. You want to control the relationship and she is not letting you. Stop with the power struggles.
Also it's not so strange not to want anyone around when you are sick and not feeling well.....
Of course you can be in love with someone, but planning a move to another country would make any person hesitate to start something romantic in the country they are leaving. She is having a hard time deciding, but you seem to want to be her no.1 boyfriend already. Let her breathe for a while, it's a hard decision for her too. People can change their mind, you seem to have a problem with that too. Not so strange considering Taurus is a fixed sign.
OK, interesting pov. You sound like her ) I will do just that for a week or two. So as to have no regrets. I always have a feeling that she is bullbuttering me, that she is just a very good liar. I dont know how, she knew this, so yesterday she said something like: I know you dont believe me but I always speak the truth. This was out of the blue.
On the other hand, I still think its just crazy not to want to spend a few days together with the person you say you love. After all that chasing until 2 weeks ago... To see if you like to live with him, if it doesnt bother you when he eats, when he wakes up, etc etc.
OK, so lets see what happens in the next week. I will have my heart and mind open for anything. After that I will decide for good.
Ive had a bad experience with an aqua too, i know the hot n cold games, the space, the indecisiveness, the secretive feeling.
You know what i learned from her erratic behavior? If something feels off, it probably is.
Trust your intuition, not your heart, not your mind, intuition comes from the gut.
I don't know how to explain it, but its like your head doesn't hurt, nor your heart but your diafragma feels full out of the sudden and then comes a thought but of awareness and you dont feel any panic(that would be anxiety), thats proper intuition right there.
Hope it helps mate.click to expand
Posted by tizianiPosted by STILL
I mean normal conversations. Random small talk.
It’s weird for me to explain because people come to me for advice. I speak well amount then.
I hear you.
Not that great with smalltalk myself, but it can be loaded with social cues where people look for acknowledgement.click to expand
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
put libra and gemini women in constant NOH8 Campaigns I say
Posted by tizianiPosted by Antiphates
One of the things I've noticed over time is that I tend to say less and less the more I get to know and care about a person because I'm switching to listening. Or some other reason. Not sure on that yet.
It can be a cookiemonster when that happens in a romantic relationship and it comes across to them as waning interest. Not saying that applies to you, it's just an area where i've had to push myself to say less at the beginning in order to keep a consistent pace.click to expand
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by STILLPosted by aquarius09
I think it’s fair to say just based on looking at my notifications that I have an understanding with these users, so they’re my Valentine 😘
And I’m expecting 6 likes on this post for reciprocity. LOL
lol i love this so much.click to expand