Posted by Supes
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Posted by Supes
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Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok



I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.


Don’t be digging through his stuff. I’d have done something like that just to piss you off


immature 40 year old.


Lol. You’re the one invading others privacy and you are calling me immature?

Grow up already. Insecure teeny bopper
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Ur lame af lol.
Posted by 29Leo
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Posted by 29Leo
As a Leo woman, I wouldn't care too much because it's pretty harmless. It's social media and having a good network is good for everyone. Through his actions of not trying to hide the fact that he does have
other girls on SC, I can understand that messaging them can come with that.
BUT if he has the discipline to not use SC to hit on girls, that's the kind of guy I want in my life. If a guy has to use social media to hit on a girl, while that guy is in a relationship already, sends big red flags everywhere. He's still a boy. Bye boy.
Ask yourself, why does he have SC?
Why do you have SC?
If the way he is using his SC bothering you, ask yourself if you trust him.
If you do, then don't complain.
If you don't trust him, it's better to get out of the relationship. Don't settle for less, There are plenty of fishes in the sea.


Thanks,
I did trust him until this, all of the trust i have for him isn't completely lost. I feel like the trust can be rebuilt, it's just up to him to initiate it. I'm mostly just hurt and i feel like i'm sulking right now :/ I'm so hurt because I know the we both care and love one another deeply so why would he risk it all.


He wants you to be okay with it, just make sure that he understands that it's OK if you do it too. Check out other guys, flirt with them, get their phone numbers ECT using SC or not.
If he wants to be in a relationship, he should not be hitting on other woman... using SC or not.
It is NOT okay. if he wants to act like he's single then make him single.
I've been w/ virgo ex for 7 years. I was an enabler...because that's how Leo's love. But he took advantage of that by expecting me to be okay with the things he did while I could not. I look back and wondered why I cave in instead of running away, fast. If you decide to cave in, then get mad when he does it again, you set yourself up to get mad. Just speaking from my experience.
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wow girl thank you for this. Today we are going to have a talk about healthy boundaries for our relationship because this is clearly still bothering me.
Posted by Supes
Posted by sugarwitted
Posted by Supes
Posted by Miaou
Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok



I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.


Don’t be digging through his stuff. I’d have done something like that just to piss you off
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immature 40 year old.
Posted by 29Leo
As a Leo woman, I wouldn't care too much because it's pretty harmless. It's social media and having a good network is good for everyone. Through his actions of not trying to hide the fact that he does have
other girls on SC, I can understand that messaging them can come with that.
BUT if he has the discipline to not use SC to hit on girls, that's the kind of guy I want in my life. If a guy has to use social media to hit on a girl, while that guy is in a relationship already, sends big red flags everywhere. He's still a boy. Bye boy.
Ask yourself, why does he have SC?
Why do you have SC?
If the way he is using his SC bothering you, ask yourself if you trust him.
If you do, then don't complain.
If you don't trust him, it's better to get out of the relationship. Don't settle for less, There are plenty of fishes in the sea.


Thanks,
I did trust him until this, all of the trust i have for him isn't completely lost. I feel like the trust can be rebuilt, it's just up to him to initiate it. I'm mostly just hurt and i feel like i'm sulking right now :/ I'm so hurt because I know the we both care and love one another deeply so why would he risk it all.
Posted by Supes
Posted by Miaou
Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok

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I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Supes
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


It wasn't just a harmless compliment tho. He signed up for a dating app and is complimenting females. That shows intention to cheat.


If you read what she wrote, it was very early on when he did that and already had the app. Do you delete all that stuff after the first date?

Oh, I forgot that you’re perfect


Did he already have the app? Op please clarify. Also please clarify if 'at the beginning' means when you first started dating or at the beginning of the relationship.
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He had already had the POF dating app. We had gotten together in May and later that month, he tried to send 1 girl a message (no other girls). But the girl never responded. He didn't try to message any other girls. I saw this about 2 weeks after it happened.
The second incident was on Sunday. Bitter is an app like twitter, they were having a normal convo, then they proceeded to exchange Snapchat's. I felt like this was done so that I wouldn't be able to see what they were talking about. If you don't know, you can message on Snapchat and the messages will disappear if you don't hold it down to save it. Well the messages saved and I read them. He didn't outright directly call her beautiful, it was more along the lines of him thinking she did model work and the pictures of her are beautiful. I don't think this was anything innocent, but i know that he wasn't about to step out and cheat on me since the girl lives out in California. We live in Texas.
Posted by MiZLeo
I'll give you a very important tip my bestie gave me a long time ago for you to meditate on:

Just because you are ride or die for him, does not mean he is ride or die for you.

You don't have to put up with someone who isn't 100% with you. There are so many other men out there.


you're right. Thank you.
Posted by Chuckcem
Your boyfriend is openly disrespecting you and you're allowing him to continue doing so by validating his behavior. Putting your trust in someone who is untrustworthy will only bring you more pain. You need to start understanding your value and stop condoning this type of behavior.

You're young, so you may not see it now, but this relationship isn't worth defending. Your boyfriend knows what he did was wrong. He is using your pity and empathy to avoid the consequences. It is up to you to stand up for yourself and know when to not accept hollow excuses.


Thank you for your advice.
I tend to forgive a lot, i can't help it i just have a forgiving nature. I care the most and will do my absolute best for my family and friends around me.
Posted by MiZLeo
Dump him


you would put no thought into it, just go for the dump?
Posted by nightowl
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Who's the girl?

What was the message about?


He messaged this girl on a app called blitter, (it’s like Twitter) I felt betrayed because he went out of his way to give her his Snapchat so that I wouldn’t be able to see there messages but the messages end up saving. So I read them they were just talking but he was calling her beautiful, basically he was entertaining her (if you know what that means)
The first incident (when we first got together) i caught him trying to message a girl on POF. But she never responded.


then he's playing field and not ready to commit or be your ride or die

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True, he says that he's insecure too, so maybe his ass was trynna make himself feel better by the attention of another cookiemonster, idk it doesn't make since to me, cause why would your risk the thing that you say you don't feel good enough for, i should make him feel great. but idk i'll see if he's serious.
Posted by piscesmoon2
Beginning of the end. Save yourself some time... it maybe a good lesson for you though... this is why a lot of girls then go for an older guy... however you need to learn to judge the individual over a period time.

Piscesmoon


I sure do hope its not the end. I have more faith in my relationship than that so on behalf of knowing he's a decent person, I hope that he step's up. I will definitely take your advice and keep my eyes open.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
you're a treetruking idiot, he just texted another girl that she's beautiful, and you're telling him you're his ride or die

no wonder virgo/leo relationships fail.


urfffffffffffffff in my case leo moon and all other leo placements

look dude.

with virgos ..never mind

i won't share my secrets with Thirsty ASS leos


peace


I've heard that virgo can be pretty secretive.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
I would let it go and not look at his stuff anymore. At this point he knows what he should be doing and not doing.


right girl so you would forgive him. I don't technically call this cheating, but my feelings are hurt.
i feel like i have forgiven him easily, I really have a big heart and I do love this man. I don't want to throw away 3 years of friendship even though we've been only together for a small amount of time (5 months). If he does this again I most likely will have to walk away.
Posted by nightowl
Dont see the problem, he seems understanding


What do you mean by he seems understanding? I’m the one that’s understanding, he messed up. Did I confuse you?
Posted by Miaou
Who's the girl?

What was the message about?


He messaged this girl on a app called blitter, (it’s like Twitter) I felt betrayed because he went out of his way to give her his Snapchat so that I wouldn’t be able to see there messages but the messages end up saving. So I read them they were just talking but he was calling her beautiful, basically he was entertaining her (if you know what that means)
The first incident (when we first got together) i caught him trying to message a girl on POF. But she never responded.
So i posted in the virgo section but no one cares so maybe my fellow leo's could give me your opinion and input.
Long story short on two separate occasions i've caught my boyfriend trying to message a girl on snapchat, it wasn't super inappropriate but the fact that he was messaging 1 girl made me really uncomfortable. We talked about it the day it happened and then I thought about it some more and we were texting back and forth. As a leo are you also this forgiving?

So i texted my boyfriend,
I said,"I’ve been thinking about some things and in order for us to move on in this relationship I need complete honesty from you.
I don’t want to be that gf that’s looks through your things because you are your own person, and I wouldn’t want anyone to not trust me and do that to me.
Remember how I told you the first time that it took me a minute to get over it, well I felt like I did, and this incident it’s like ripping off the bandaid again.
I know it’s still fresh, and I forgive you but this, tied along with everything else is making me sad
And the attention excuse isn’t really a good enough excuse for me. I give you plenty of attention, what am I doing wrong"

He said,
"The last I want you to think is that you are doing something wrong because you are not. You sacrifice and do so much for me when you really don’t have to. The problem is me being secure with myself and with what I have. I often feel like I’m not good enough for you. I’m not in school and I feel like I’m running in place and it’s gonna take me so long to graduate. I feel like you deserve so much more than what I can provide for you at the time.
I am wrong for entertaining other females. I also know I wouldn’t like it if you were doing the samething.
I’m not lookin to start anything with anybody else.
I’m not going to find what we have with anybody else. If I really didn’t want to be with you. I would let you know."

I said,
Okay, I’m understanding what you’re saying. Baby, we are only 22 and 23, you don’t have to have everything together for me at this moment and time. I don’t even have it all together. Plus there is no rush on school, we both know that you’re taking a break this semester and you will, if not by next semester, be back in school in Fall 2018. I love you so much and since the beginning of our relationship you have become a big emotional support for me. You are more than good enough for me, just because you don’t have all the physical materialistic thing doesn’t mean that, that brings down your worth. So, that being said, pick ya head up, your worth is priceless. I’ma be here with you no matter what, AND I MEAN THIS. I want to be your ride or die, thru thick and thin. I want a partner that I can share everything with, who i started from the bottom with, I want us to be able to grow, learn, and share with each other, and I’ma be here for us.

I do forgive you, I’m not going to throw this incident in your face, because we all deserve forgiveness. But please bear with me and my insecurities as well. I love you dearly, I look at your like my family, and I don’t ever want to lose you."

He said,
"Thank you baby. I know that this doesn’t gain your trust back but I’ll work on getting it back and not puttin it in jeopardy"
Okay i'm writing this because i don't understand my boyfriend's explanation for what he did. My boyfriend is a Virgo sun, with moon in capricorn, leo rising.
Let me take you back to a few months ago when we first got together.
I caught him on POF. He messaged a girl but she never responded, I confronted him about the situation basically asking him to respect me and not try to talk to other girls, he agreed, apologized and told me that he would never do it again.
Fast forward to a couple of days ago.
He made an account on this app called Blitter, he met this girl on there and proceeded to get her snapchat so that they could talk on there.
The way that I found out was how he was handling his phone, for this happened he would usually leave his phone behind and not take it with him, but he was just acting weird. So when he laid down I grabbed his phone and proceeded to connect it to the charger since his phone was dying. As soon as i got the phone to plug it up he jumps up from the bed and acts like he needs to use the restroom, so he takes the phone and the charger out the wall (he never takes his phone to the bathroom). Someone was using the restroom at the time so he couldn't go. (He was sick at the time) So he runs outside to throw up, while he's outside I decided to take a look at his snapchat. I see that he added the girl from blitter on there and they were having a conversation, He was calling her beautiful and a bunch of bullbutter. I confronted him calmly and collectively and he just began apologizing and butter the same as last time.
My boyfriend and I are super close and he has betrayed my trust for the second time, when I asked him why he did this he said that he wanted some attention, and that he's kind of in disbelief that I am with him because he never thought that he would get a girl like me.
This explanation confuses me because if he thinks i'm so great, why is he doing things to mess it up. Is this what virgo men do?
I feel like i give him plenty of attention, sometimes i feel as though i give him too much attention.
I am not a overbearing girlfriend, and i don't try to control what he does, I just love him so much and I don't know understand why he did this. It really bothers me and makes me insecure.