Posted by CancerCancer
I met this scorpio man two weeks ago and this is the first scorpio I ever dated. We hit it off right away and have been inseparable since. Like we saw each other 10 out of 14days. Staying the nights together most time.
We both are in 40s and went through enough in our lives.
He asked me to be his gf just after 5days and dropped the L bomb after 12days. Though I know it is way too fast It felt natural and genuine.
Here is one problem though. He is very untrusting towards me. When we are physically together, everything is almost perfect. I am so into him and show him that.
Once we are physically apart that’s when the problem starts. He gets paranoid and starts his negative imaginative play. I literally spent every single minute of my free time since I met him. I feel he wants to pick a fight and when I get upset he feels reassured. As if that’s the proof of me caring for him.
He gets angry and says mean things. Nothing too aggressive or violent or never yell but things such as you don’t care, do you want to break up with me etc and always questioning my intention. Once I did not text him or call him till later in the morning thinking he was sleeping in being a day off and bit unwell. He got so upset when he got up saying I did not care. I didn’t want to disturb his sleep was all. Sigh…
He gets angry when I miss his calls but I always call back. He went overboard last night saying I must be talking to others. Oops!! He even questioned me if I went to work….he saw me in my uniform in the morning….!!!
I get that he feels insecure probably after pouring his emotions and feelings out on me…but he pushed me so badly last night I almost broke it off.
One positive thing is that I told him please not to say I didn’t care when he was angry. Just simply ask if I cared then I’d say yes of course. Also asked him not to say mean things while angry just take time to himself and come back to me later. He actually did go quiet last night after I told him to think about how he wanted to be with me when he couldn’t trust me. So at least he tried to reflect on what I said I guess. But what I meant was to come back to me to have a good conversation after thinking about the issue. This morning he said good morning and called me. Like nothing happened. Lol. I did not say much as I didn’t want him to have a bad day. But I will talk to him in person tonight about his trust issue.
I can handle it for a while if it is only because we are at early stage but if he is going to be like this forever there is noway I will put up with it.
I believe any relationship should be based on trust and open communication. I really hope he understands what I mean.
Would he calm down once he feels more secure? I hope he does. I will ask him what I could do for him to feel better in that manners.
Any comment about your scorpio man experience or scorpios perspectives would be much appreciated. Thanks guys!
Posted by stardustmop
I like Leos. Maybe I’ll go find one for myself.
Posted by black773
Your charts are actually the definition of compatible.
Posted by ElvisStalinWoodsPosted by Sunmoonrising
Im alittle more on your side tbh. And im a female. Seems like the women were abit babyish to me unless you came on very heavy. But even so to demand drinks is rude. Maybe you could have offered. Go somewhere where and be a gentleman you should be fine.
Pretty much this. Few times I've gone out in a place like that, I work things out and have a fun and welcoming approach. Once I knew they felt entitled to drinks before even being spoken to, my approach was pretty much careless when I came back at em. Like "treetrunk you, I'll show you what using someone for what I want is" ...I did not.
As someone mentioned, they probably picked up on my utter disdain for her.click to expand