Please have some class and do not call people names. This is not 8th grade. I refuse to lower myself to your level by coming back at you with name calling and insulting comments. Quit hiding behind a screen.
Sorry but this is not a Disney fairy tale or rom com! Its' true. No one is grasping for wishful thoughts. Do you know how many times I have a confused a man by my actions, when all along I was into them??!! But played it coy so I didn't come on too strong?? Then the guy tells me..."I didn't think you were interested" Or I said no to dates, because I didn't want to seem to eager, but guess what I was eager, just trying to play it cool..or I was truly busy, don't you think the guy was feeling confused and rejected by my actions, and of course I was into him. Just hiding it for a while.
Trying to illustrate a point, that there are way too many situations to jump to the conclusion that they are not into you. What an overused phrase...
I am not feeding into any crap..just keeping an open mind. Something you should try. You are one of the meanest people on here.
Krys..thanks for bringing some common sense here. The gut thing is true, but believe it or not it can be wrong too...met this guy once..would not even talk to me and I thought "wow he does NOT like me..." going with my gut.
Later he calls me and I was totally wrong, I got off the phone and thought "I thought wrong" we ended up having a relationship.
Do not agree with this BS. Its too black and white.
True story I posted on here months ago.
Guy and girl go on date, seems to go well. He never calls her, she is CONFUSED, (see above) She thought she had felt a strong connection!! Talks to her friend and the friend says "Call him, what have you got to lose?"
She gets up the nerve and calls him.Notice she calls him..no TEXT.
He tells her, "I thought you weren't interested in ME!!" "So I was reluctant/scared to call YOU!"
Guess what they actually converse on the phone..no Facebook cr*p, and a relationship ensued...
And another thing p*sses me off...a woman can't sleep with a guy right off the bat..she has to wait until he is invested in her. BS..we are physical and passionate too. We want it when we first meet him..its chemistry. I get that it has to wait etc., but 2nd or 3rd date it is hard to suppress it.
You could wait 6 months, do it and then never hear from him again as well!!
Agreed! For some reason a lot of women can't through their heads that men can really just be in it for the putang and nothing more.
It is exactly these kind of comments on here that has made me lose my trust in men completely. I wish the negativity would stop. NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS.
Before I started to read all of this I never had trouble finding dates and having good relationships, now every time a man looks at me I think...he has no real interest in me, he just wants in my pants! No one ever makes it sound like there could be another reason a guy fades..
To compare its like saying a woman fades on a guy because he spent money on her and thats all she wanted. He spent, she got spoiled and left. She never answered his calls. Some women do this..most don't.
I take the advice I read on here seriously cause feedback is always good, but no lie, it has made me lose my faith in men completely and two promising relationships wilted because all I could think of was he doesn't care about me, he just wants it, because of what I read on here!!!!! Knock it off please... There a a million dif scenario's out there...don't generalize.
She is not desperate..just wants to know if there is anything worth pursuing. Sounds like she likes him.
Why are women not allowed to "like" men anymore? We're supposed to play it cool all the time and all we are doing is confusing the hell out of them and then they confuse the hell out of us from reading our mixed signals. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Please enough already....
Who the h*ll cares what he called his kids..I just wanna hear what he has to say. He might be right and frankly I can use all the knowledge I can about how men think...they confuse the h*ll out of me...
NO you're not doing it wrong. A Washington Post columnist wrote a blog after her divorce about either Match.com or online dating in general.
She claimed she went on 700 some dates, and did not meet one male worth her time. Ha the first one she met said to her..."Your breasts are etc etc." dont know exactly what it was word for word, but it was cheesy"
IT'S NOT YOU!!
Meet someone either doing what you like to do or thru friends, family.