If anyone cares, he ghosted me. And it really hurt.

Water, Scorpio

Something I just read was that if your Saturn is in the 12th house it signals issues with your father being absent physically or emotionally. When I read that it hit me like slap. I've always felt my dad abandoned me emotionally growing up, well that he never really bonded with me, even though he was physically there. I have Saturn in Scorpio in the 12th. I have issues with guilt for stupid little things, or feeling guilty but never being able to identify the cause. I put a horrible amount of pressure on myself and really struggle to engage normally with life. I retreat into myself a lot and when I'm struggling I need to be completely alone.

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Mars in Scorpio here. I get very deeply interested in them, stalk them online as much as possible, but play it cool face to face. I sit back and observe how they behave first, let them show me who they are, before I make a move... I could wait a long time if I really want someone.

That's one of my problems waiting too long, but if you are anything like me you want to make sure there is compatibility and whether they can handle you at your worst.

Yes. I'm an Aries Venus too. So I'm constantly fighting against the impulse to go too fast. I'm very passionate and it's been hard to find someone that can match my intensity...

I've missed out on a lot of opportunities simply because I didn't pursue them. At the back of my mind something told me that person wasn't right for me, but another thought was they're not strong enough.

Whether that is in my head or reality is what I'm not sure about.

I can totally relate. My ex of 8 years was strong enough to handle me but over time I just felt like we lost the quality of our connection due to circumstance. He was a Cap with an Aries moon. He was very into his career and therefore for a while I think we made it because he let me have my own life and he had his. He wasn't very emotionally demonstrative but I always felt his love for me through his actions and responsible nature. We were so independent but solid.

Now I'm single again and comparing everyone to him and it just seems like no one is measuring up. I'm sort of into a Cancer with a Pisces moon but his emotions are so fragile I think I will only end up hurting him in the end. We've already had a huge fight and we've only been talking for three weeks... it would be long distance too, I just don't think it's going to happen...

I've not knowingly been out with a Pisces moon, but I know two well. You find the men can feel emotions on a psychic level to the point where it is like telepathy but they won't express it or tell you what they know.

I find they can be masochistic and cry a lot. Then you have this faux martyrdom where "they are trying so hard but nobody appreciates me". And people accuse Arians of acting childishly!

I think it's the one moon I would be reluctant to start a relationship with. Believe it or not I don't think it works with my scorp moon.

With Aries Venus do you usually attract masculine men or is it the other way round and you attract more feminine men?

When I was younger I used to attract Tom boys. Now I seem to attract outsiders who are unfortunately often a bit broken.

Yeah, when we had our fight, he literally went on and on for days complaining about how he was feeling and how I had hurt him. I mean, we aren't even a couple yet and he's acting this way. I thought to myself, "what a crybaby. Get over it." I need to be with someone more masculine.

I actually seem to attract men who look masculine but are more "progressive" on the inside if that makes sense. I am attracted to "bad boys" like crazy and always go for those that I can't have. ATM I'm wrapped up with a Sag who's in an open relationship and we're long distance. But our synastry/composite compatibility is off the chain. I'm not sure if it's because I'm an Aries/Taurus Cusp and he's a Scorpio/Sag cusp but damn... We have so much fun together and it feels so deep and addicting..

A friend of mine is Libra sun Pisces moon and he bottles up his emotions, but I can feel them. I can see why it's different for a cancer sun. Cancer suns in general take things to heart.

I would have been Aries\Taurus cusp "the cusp of power" if I was born a day or two later. With fire signs for me it's 50\50 in terms of sexual chemistry, friendship chemistry and having a good time it's always 100% as we just understand the need to be top dog and prove ourselves.

TBH I've never attracted barbie girls which would maybe be the feminine equivalent. I understand what you mean I think the bad boy who has a softer side or is open minded is many female's ideal.

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I've been with an Aries in the past, it didn't end well and was a bumpy ride, haha. I attract Leos quite often. And I have many Leo friends, male and female. This is my first go with a Sag, I think it only works because he's also a Venus in Scorpio. We can't get enough of eachother... sigh...

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Mars in Scorpio here. I get very deeply interested in them, stalk them online as much as possible, but play it cool face to face. I sit back and observe how they behave first, let them show me who they are, before I make a move... I could wait a long time if I really want someone.

That's one of my problems waiting too long, but if you are anything like me you want to make sure there is compatibility and whether they can handle you at your worst.

Yes. I'm an Aries Venus too. So I'm constantly fighting against the impulse to go too fast. I'm very passionate and it's been hard to find someone that can match my intensity...

I've missed out on a lot of opportunities simply because I didn't pursue them. At the back of my mind something told me that person wasn't right for me, but another thought was they're not strong enough.

Whether that is in my head or reality is what I'm not sure about.

I can totally relate. My ex of 8 years was strong enough to handle me but over time I just felt like we lost the quality of our connection due to circumstance. He was a Cap with an Aries moon. He was very into his career and therefore for a while I think we made it because he let me have my own life and he had his. He wasn't very emotionally demonstrative but I always felt his love for me through his actions and responsible nature. We were so independent but solid.

Now I'm single again and comparing everyone to him and it just seems like no one is measuring up. I'm sort of into a Cancer with a Pisces moon but his emotions are so fragile I think I will only end up hurting him in the end. We've already had a huge fight and we've only been talking for three weeks... it would be long distance too, I just don't think it's going to happen...

I've not knowingly been out with a Pisces moon, but I know two well. You find the men can feel emotions on a psychic level to the point where it is like telepathy but they won't express it or tell you what they know.

I find they can be masochistic and cry a lot. Then you have this faux martyrdom where "they are trying so hard but nobody appreciates me". And people accuse Arians of acting childishly!

I think it's the one moon I would be reluctant to start a relationship with. Believe it or not I don't think it works with my scorp moon.

With Aries Venus do you usually attract masculine men or is it the other way round and you attract more feminine men?

When I was younger I used to attract Tom boys. Now I seem to attract outsiders who are unfortunately often a bit broken.

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Yeah, when we had our fight, he literally went on and on for days complaining about how he was feeling and how I had hurt him. I mean, we aren't even a couple yet and he's acting this way. I thought to myself, "what a crybaby. Get over it." I need to be with someone more masculine.

I actually seem to attract men who look masculine but are more "progressive" on the inside if that makes sense. I am attracted to "bad boys" like crazy and always go for those that I can't have. ATM I'm wrapped up with a Sag who's in an open relationship and we're long distance. But our synastry/composite compatibility is off the chain. I'm not sure if it's because I'm an Aries/Taurus Cusp and he's a Scorpio/Sag cusp but damn... We have so much fun together and it feels so deep and addicting..

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Mars in Scorpio here. I get very deeply interested in them, stalk them online as much as possible, but play it cool face to face. I sit back and observe how they behave first, let them show me who they are, before I make a move... I could wait a long time if I really want someone.

That's one of my problems waiting too long, but if you are anything like me you want to make sure there is compatibility and whether they can handle you at your worst.

Yes. I'm an Aries Venus too. So I'm constantly fighting against the impulse to go too fast. I'm very passionate and it's been hard to find someone that can match my intensity...

I've missed out on a lot of opportunities simply because I didn't pursue them. At the back of my mind something told me that person wasn't right for me, but another thought was they're not strong enough.

Whether that is in my head or reality is what I'm not sure about.

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I can totally relate. My ex of 8 years was strong enough to handle me but over time I just felt like we lost the quality of our connection due to circumstance. He was a Cap with an Aries moon. He was very into his career and therefore for a while I think we made it because he let me have my own life and he had his. He wasn't very emotionally demonstrative but I always felt his love for me through his actions and responsible nature. We were so independent but solid.

Now I'm single again and comparing everyone to him and it just seems like no one is measuring up. I'm sort of into a Cancer with a Pisces moon but his emotions are so fragile I think I will only end up hurting him in the end. We've already had a huge fight and we've only been talking for three weeks... it would be long distance too, I just don't think it's going to happen...

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Mars in Scorpio here. I get very deeply interested in them, stalk them online as much as possible, but play it cool face to face. I sit back and observe how they behave first, let them show me who they are, before I make a move... I could wait a long time if I really want someone.

That's one of my problems waiting too long, but if you are anything like me you want to make sure there is compatibility and whether they can handle you at your worst.

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Yes. I'm an Aries Venus too. So I'm constantly fighting against the impulse to go too fast. I'm very passionate and it's been hard to find someone that can match my intensity...

Mars in Scorpio here. I get very deeply interested in them, stalk them online as much as possible, but play it cool face to face. I sit back and observe how they behave first, let them show me who they are, before I make a move... I could wait a long time if I really want someone.

I have these aspects in synastry with someone I've been dating for the past 6 months:

MC Square Neptune
Moon Square Neptune
Chiron Opposition Neptune

All under 3 degrees. He is Neptune in all cases.

We also have Moon Square Sun (I'm the moon). I think our Venus Opposition Mars had us both captivated and confused for a long time. We really are total opposites but the pull between us is enormous... It's like we both have no control over what we do when we're together, we just crash into eachother like magnets... We also have nice placements like Moon sextile Mars and Jupiter sextile Venus...

I had read about the difficult placements in the beginning and didn't believe they would have such a huge effect, but wow. Everything just came crashing down and I realized I was idealizing the hell out of him. His Venus is in my 12th house too so I guess I should have known it wouldn't go anywhere...

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What does getting “ bored” mean
Aren’t you responsible for your own boredom

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The Venus I am attracted to relates more to my sun.
My aries Venus is in the 7th house and I have always been lucky in love.
For me the biggest problem was getting bored easily and if I didn’t get what I wanted I looked for it somewhere else.

With bored I mean that I need the relationship to keep moving. I don’t like it when it gets too predictable. I need change and lots of fun and passion.

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Me too. Monotony and routine in relationships is like death.

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Any other Venus in Aries ladies out there?

I feel like I cannot maintain a relationship and am getting very tired of the pattern I'm seeing in my love life. I want a partner more than anything. Last year I went on a few dates, really liked a couple of guys, and each one didn't work out. Before this, I was in a committed relationship for 8 years... But have been out of that for 3 years now.

I have met someone recently that I really like and fell for over the last 6 months. But he lives in another country and is in an open relationship. He's a Venus in Scorpio. He matches my need for intense, passionate relating... He's perfect actually. But unattainable. And it is so frustrating. I keep seeing him because I don't want to lose that connection. For me it's so hard to find. But each time we say goodbye for another couple of months, it's starting to really hurt.

What other Venus sign goes well with Venus in Aries? I feel like right now I need to go in dating time out and learn to make better choices...

I'm Taurus with VIA - what happened in the committed relationship of 8 years ? I would ditch your current unobtainable thing going on but keep that in mind if you do find that VIS is a good match for you. I wouldn't rule any other Venus out and just keep on your path of more self discipline.

My ex was a workacholic (Cap) and wasn't tending to our relationship after a while. I stayed probably three years longer than I should have... Trying to work it out...

why was he a workaholic - due to finances, or just the way he was ? that ironic - and I'm sorry, I do know how that is - I always tried harder than most as well and gave it my best shot but when it came down to end, I was "done" ... because basically the other party wasn't understanding and doing something about it so if the relationship didn't mean anything to them, then so be it - I was gone

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He literally said to me that he didn't know who he was if he wasn't at work. He didn't need two jobs, but wanted to have two. It really hurt after awhile, not being made a priority. I felt like I was the only one trying...

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The Venus I am attracted to relates more to my sun.
My aries Venus is in the 7th house and I have always been lucky in love.
For me the biggest problem was getting bored easily and if I didn’t get what I wanted I looked for it somewhere else.

My Venus is in the 5th house and I also have a Venus sextile to the moon and Juno. I thought that meant I'd be good at relationships but maybe not..

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Any other Venus in Aries ladies out there?

I feel like I cannot maintain a relationship and am getting very tired of the pattern I'm seeing in my love life. I want a partner more than anything. Last year I went on a few dates, really liked a couple of guys, and each one didn't work out. Before this, I was in a committed relationship for 8 years... But have been out of that for 3 years now.

I have met someone recently that I really like and fell for over the last 6 months. But he lives in another country and is in an open relationship. He's a Venus in Scorpio. He matches my need for intense, passionate relating... He's perfect actually. But unattainable. And it is so frustrating. I keep seeing him because I don't want to lose that connection. For me it's so hard to find. But each time we say goodbye for another couple of months, it's starting to really hurt.

What other Venus sign goes well with Venus in Aries? I feel like right now I need to go in dating time out and learn to make better choices...

I'm Taurus with VIA - what happened in the committed relationship of 8 years ? I would ditch your current unobtainable thing going on but keep that in mind if you do find that VIS is a good match for you. I wouldn't rule any other Venus out and just keep on your path of more self discipline.

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My ex was a workacholic (Cap) and wasn't tending to our relationship after a while. I stayed probably three years longer than I should have... Trying to work it out...

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My mom is an Aries. Sometimes I feel hurt by her insensitive way of putting things. I would say that's the biggest issue between Aries and Taurus. And she thinks I'm too sensitive.

Most of the time what Aries people is just impulsive bs. They themselves don't know what they're saying...You need to let a of things slide by when dealing with an Aries, and you'll both be just fine.

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You're right. As I've gotten older, I've learned to just not let my reactions to what she says show. I have more patience than she does, so I have to be the one to do that, unfortunately. In the past we would fight a lot but now almost never.

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I feel you in-terms of what your needs are and how you express and want to receive love! As an Aries Venus, I totally relate. Sometimes I think we can be a little too passionate and let's face it, dramatic at times. I think it's because Aries is like the "baby sign" and a Fire sign and like, we just want what we want and know what we want and if we don't feel like we're getting that we can make very compulsive decisions without even giving the other person a legitimate chance.

Honestly though, I don't care and I don't really see it as much of a problem. Like I'm 25. I know I'm very young but I'm not a teenager anymore, you know? And I come from a backround where people settle down WAY younger than me. I think having this Venus placement (especially if it's in a stable house with some stable Saturn aspects, thank you gosh) can be super beneficial in terms of just knowing what you want and not wasting yours or anybody's time.

I would say it's okay to become infatuated with someone or have these huge crushes or whatever with this placement, and I mean, it is inevitable with VIA, it's kind of our passionate, fiery, loving nature - but it's also important for us to stay grounded and realize these crushes for what they are and not get too invested if you can't ever see it going anywhere.

I totally get you. I've gotten better at catching myself in the beginning stages but still make mistakes. And sometimes I can tell myself the other person feels the same way even without knowing it, almost as a reason for me to charge forward and try to win them. Haha. I know that some people take a very long time to show how they feel in relationships. But for me it's like I know instantly (or think I do) and need to express that.

25 is very young, you're right. You have lots of time to meet people and get to know yourself better. I'm in my 30's now and agree that this placement is actually very good for the "moving on" phase. I do move on faster than the average person after getting my heart broken.

My mom is an Aries. Sometimes I feel hurt by her insensitive way of putting things. I would say that's the biggest issue between Aries and Taurus. And she thinks I'm too sensitive.

Any other Venus in Aries ladies out there?

I feel like I cannot maintain a relationship and am getting very tired of the pattern I'm seeing in my love life. I want a partner more than anything. Last year I went on a few dates, really liked a couple of guys, and each one didn't work out. Before this, I was in a committed relationship for 8 years... But have been out of that for 3 years now.

I have met someone recently that I really like and fell for over the last 6 months. But he lives in another country and is in an open relationship. He's a Venus in Scorpio. He matches my need for intense, passionate relating... He's perfect actually. But unattainable. And it is so frustrating. I keep seeing him because I don't want to lose that connection. For me it's so hard to find. But each time we say goodbye for another couple of months, it's starting to really hurt.

What other Venus sign goes well with Venus in Aries? I feel like right now I need to go in dating time out and learn to make better choices...

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Erm if its long distance there is prolly a time change difference in play which is prolly why there are long lapse in his response time cause he is catching zzz'ssss

Gee whiz, never thought of that before... ya don't say... etc.

I agree... I think it would be so much better if we were living in the same place. But this behaviour makes my Mars go red with rage... His Mars is in Libra... so there's a disconnect there...

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I’m kind of in the same boat just not dating. He’s on another continent and we have been talking through mails for two months. In the beginning he would reply at the same time a few times every day, and now he only replies once a day. It doesn’t bother me that much because we are not in a relationship but we are flirting heavily (we were fwbs before) and he was really hot in the beginning, well he is also hot now (his texts are still sexy and intense) just not so regular.

Well, what I did was start mirroring him. There are days when I don’t reply at all and wait until the next day to do so. I don’t know yet what it will accomplish but I’ll see.

Btw, his moon in also in scorpio.

Well when we first started talking, before we met, he didn't reply to me for a couple of days, and I mirrored him, and then suddenly he was hitting me back right away. I think it will work in the beginning stage but now we've established a lot of intimacy and I think he's afraid of what he's starting to feel for me. Our situation is so complex... I honestly think it's the complexity that is attracting the Scorpio energy in one another to each other...