Posted by LadyNeptune
Erm if its long distance there is prolly a time change difference in play which is prolly why there are long lapse in his response time cause he is catching zzz'ssss

Gee whiz, never thought of that before... ya don't say... etc.

I agree... I think it would be so much better if we were living in the same place. But this behaviour makes my Mars go red with rage... His Mars is in Libra... so there's a disconnect there...

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I’m kind of in the same boat just not dating. He’s on another continent and we have been talking through mails for two months. In the beginning he would reply at the same time a few times every day, and now he only replies once a day. It doesn’t bother me that much because we are not in a relationship but we are flirting heavily (we were fwbs before) and he was really hot in the beginning, well he is also hot now (his texts are still sexy and intense) just not so regular.

Well, what I did was start mirroring him. There are days when I don’t reply at all and wait until the next day to do so. I don’t know yet what it will accomplish but I’ll see.

Btw, his moon in also in scorpio.

Well when we first started talking, before we met, he didn't reply to me for a couple of days, and I mirrored him, and then suddenly he was hitting me back right away. I think it will work in the beginning stage but now we've established a lot of intimacy and I think he's afraid of what he's starting to feel for me. Our situation is so complex... I honestly think it's the complexity that is attracting the Scorpio energy in one another to each other...

Posted by Jade_Alexander
I say hes done.

Id just stop initiating, give him space.

His last text ended with a question. So I'm just going to wait a couple of days and answer it and not try to continue the convo. Just give him space.

I'm involved with a Venus in Scorpio who is doing the hot and cold thing. I think it's worse because we are currently long distance and haven't had "the talk" where we define our status.

He is now doing this thing where he doesn't respond to my text for like a week at a time. He doesn't even open the chat app to read it, so there's no read receipts on them for a week. It feels like he doesn't care. I don't do follow up texts, I just let my text sit there and wait. Before he would reply every day. I can't tell if he's losing interest or playing games. Each time he replies like it's the same day and never acknowledges the lapse, and I also never say anything or allude to the time lapse.

I have a Scorpio rising, Mars, Pluto, and Saturn, so I am very familiar with Scorpio's energy in my own life. I personally think he is testing me and taking time away to sort out his own feelings...

My question is: Should I start to mirror his behavior?

Experiences? His moon is in Virgo... sun in Gem...

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I’m a Cap Sun with Aqua Venus woman. Arielle is right- it’s true that we take forever to commit. In the instances that we jump in impulsively to a relationship, it won’t work; Period. We might be semi committed, but that’s surface level.

You Have to get to know each other, be friends, and then develop genuine feelings through bonding over time. Then you will know it’s real, when your Cap fully gives in and will be 100% committed. However, we have to be able to see you as someone we can have a future with. Usually that’s when the typical Capricorn disappearing act happens. We are processing everything, and deciding if we can live without you or not, and if you’re just a lust for us.

Build the relationship, Do Not give him drama of any kind, give him space, Don’t pressure him about anything, Don’t be a hindrance.

Do- Be the person he can come to and be there for him when he’s stressing about things, make his life easier not complicated.

I know for me when I’m in a situation where I find that I’m unhappy or stressed out, I will address it and then leave if things don’t change. No one is worth, sacrificing your own happiness. So it’s important to not drag him down. Add value to his life, and he will give you everything. If you’re a liability in his life, he’s going to drop you fast.

I don’t speak for every Cap with Aqua Venus, but that’s how I am as one.

Thanks for seeing I’m not heartless ❤️

Of course, ❤️

But some people do prey on the weak and will use you, regardless of their starsign and that.
I thought I was being a good friend and helpful, but turns out I got used instead for being too kind. That's why I say also just to be herself.

I read some of the comments to you, and from you. You pressured him? That was a big no no. You lost him right there, no matter what his initial intentions were with you. Sorry, but being pressured will turn us off immediately. He hadn’t decided on you yet, you made the decision for him.

Again, sorry. He’s just not a good fit for you.

I am actually not sure how much preassure I put on him. I put it on myself. And I also am quick to take all thr blaim and act like I am the one making mistakes. But I have got to stop doing that. He got to know me more when I was in a real insecure state and didn't like that. I don't blaim him for that. But he has been a real butter to me this past month, and I can't let it slide. We went frol friends, then we hooked up, then the friendship was more and more ruined, and after today I'm not gonna hear from him again except fot work. Again I'm not losing anything important since he just doesn't care, but it's not a nice feeling, I genuinly thought we were friends. He def. took me by surprise there. .... Or did he really🤔

He used me for my big heart knowing he was not interested in me. And that's no lie. But it would have gon further if I was to try and be his shoulder to cry on.

Don't torture yourself...he couldve also continued using you for your big heart and never committed. I know you liked him but your needs are important too...do you really think he could suit your needs?

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This is a good point to consider. I do really like the guy I'm talking to now. But there will come a point after a while where I'll have to consider the long-term viability of things. Everyone needs different amounts of attention and communication. And it sounds like in your case he was just a jerk. I think from what I've read that you'll be able to find someone a lot better than him, who can make you feel respected and loved. Never settle

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Aquarius

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Their emotions are too detached for my liking. Like I know they have them..but I need to see and feel them. I imagine other people feel the same?...

They're not really detached from their emotions - they just like to rationalize their emotions a lot. They can be VERY emotional - but not as a response to other people's emotions.

I was and am constantly surrounded by Aqua moons so I've had time to observe them. They remain my favourite moon sign, on top of the other air signs. Taurus moon comes a close second.

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That's me. Aqua moons analyze things to death. It is mentally exhausting to have an Aqua moon at times...

Scorpio is really tough

If the sex were more engaging for her, she might feel more compelled to give head. BUT it's also true some women just do not like doing it. And you shouldn't expect her to do something she doesn't want to be doing in bed for your benefit only if you actually care about her.

8 years - Capricorn
5 years off and on - Aries (but it ended with him cheating)

I dated a Virgo for two years. There was a ten year age difference (he was older). I loved his sarcasm and he overall was a good man. But he struggled with depression really badly, wanted to always be alone toward the end. He was also very picky about things, very particular about how he wanted things done and how he wanted me to be. Eventually his sarcasm made him cold. I always hesitate when I realize someone is a Virgo in the dating sense, the experience was that bad. I go best with Caps. Supposedly I'm supposed to be compatible with Cancers also but I got involved with one and what a mess...

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I’m a Cap Sun with Aqua Venus woman. Arielle is right- it’s true that we take forever to commit. In the instances that we jump in impulsively to a relationship, it won’t work; Period. We might be semi committed, but that’s surface level.

You Have to get to know each other, be friends, and then develop genuine feelings through bonding over time. Then you will know it’s real, when your Cap fully gives in and will be 100% committed. However, we have to be able to see you as someone we can have a future with. Usually that’s when the typical Capricorn disappearing act happens. We are processing everything, and deciding if we can live without you or not, and if you’re just a lust for us.

Build the relationship, Do Not give him drama of any kind, give him space, Don’t pressure him about anything, Don’t be a hindrance.

Do- Be the person he can come to and be there for him when he’s stressing about things, make his life easier not complicated.

I know for me when I’m in a situation where I find that I’m unhappy or stressed out, I will address it and then leave if things don’t change. No one is worth, sacrificing your own happiness. So it’s important to not drag him down. Add value to his life, and he will give you everything. If you’re a liability in his life, he’s going to drop you fast.

I don’t speak for every Cap with Aqua Venus, but that’s how I am as one.

Yeah. Thank you for this. When I tap into my Aqua moon I feel like I can see things from his perspective more easily. It's honestly my Venus in Aries that makes me charge forward when I see someone I want. His Moon is in Aries, so he has more of a fire under his ass in some ways. Even the way that he walks is very strong and determined. Honestly I think it was a big part of what pulled me in, his brash confidence and fearlessness. We both have that sort of childishness about us that makes it fun to be together.

We're talking now through text. Earlier he texted me and I mentioned I was about to go out, and he said, "Have lots of fun, you sexy busy woman. I'll text you later." And he did. I think he is just doing that thing where he comes and goes while he weighs everything. He even asked me if I missed having him in my apartment. I take that as him asking me if I liked having him around, maybe so that he feels safer coming forward a bit with his feelings in his own mind, not necessarily ready to express them, but just sorting them out for himself. I think this is going to be a long process but now that I've removed my expectations it's going better for me. I fully expect him to fade again for a few days and probably come back again. When he fades, I don't text him. I think that's why he's come back.

But I also say: be who you are! No point in pretending, 'cause it will come out at one point.
And also: don't take all his comments and gifts and stuff as emotions and feelings. They are just words and things. Don't read so much into it.

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Yes! I am still myself but just more chill. Honestly, I do need to just chill and this experience is teaching me a lot about myself. I have pluto and saturn in my 12th house, so, yeah

Posted by BlankForNowButYouKnowMe
I’m a Cap Sun with Aqua Venus woman. Arielle is right- it’s true that we take forever to commit. In the instances that we jump in impulsively to a relationship, it won’t work; Period. We might be semi committed, but that’s surface level.

You Have to get to know each other, be friends, and then develop genuine feelings through bonding over time. Then you will know it’s real, when your Cap fully gives in and will be 100% committed. However, we have to be able to see you as someone we can have a future with. Usually that’s when the typical Capricorn disappearing act happens. We are processing everything, and deciding if we can live without you or not, and if you’re just a lust for us.

Build the relationship, Do Not give him drama of any kind, give him space, Don’t pressure him about anything, Don’t be a hindrance.

Do- Be the person he can come to and be there for him when he’s stressing about things, make his life easier not complicated.

I know for me when I’m in a situation where I find that I’m unhappy or stressed out, I will address it and then leave if things don’t change. No one is worth, sacrificing your own happiness. So it’s important to not drag him down. Add value to his life, and he will give you everything. If you’re a liability in his life, he’s going to drop you fast.

I don’t speak for every Cap with Aqua Venus, but that’s how I am as one.

Yeah. Thank you for this. When I tap into my Aqua moon I feel like I can see things from his perspective more easily. It's honestly my Venus in Aries that makes me charge forward when I see someone I want. His Moon is in Aries, so he has more of a fire under his ass in some ways. Even the way that he walks is very strong and determined. Honestly I think it was a big part of what pulled me in, his brash confidence and fearlessness. We both have that sort of childishness about us that makes it fun to be together.

We're talking now through text. Earlier he texted me and I mentioned I was about to go out, and he said, "Have lots of fun, you sexy busy woman. I'll text you later." And he did. I think he is just doing that thing where he comes and goes while he weighs everything. He even asked me if I missed having him in my apartment. I take that as him asking me if I liked having him around, maybe so that he feels safer coming forward a bit with his feelings in his own mind, not necessarily ready to express them, but just sorting them out for himself. I think this is going to be a long process but now that I've removed my expectations it's going better for me. I fully expect him to fade again for a few days and probably come back again. When he fades, I don't text him. I think that's why he's come back.

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My bf has Cap sun, Aries moon, aqua Venus, Pisces mars.

12 years older and independent.

He told me he isn’t attracted to the type that needs him.

These types don’t like feeling obligated out of need rather than want.

They take forever to commit.

The fact that I’m commitment phobic made it easier for him to move forward with me, I guess.

I’m the one that pulls away.

Ah you're so lucky to be a commitmentphobe😄😄😄 everybody wants to be with you!

The cap sun aquarius venus guy I know and had a littlr thing with is getting colder and colder. Like he seems amost crazy to me with how he is interacting with me im such a cold way and then thinks I want to bang him! 😄😄😄 I'm just like wtf just happened?

I don't need him or any guy in my life. But I only see that now when it's over. Maybe I was a little needy... hmmm.... will think on that.

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I can actually relate to this "Aquarian" fear of emotional connection because my moon is in Aqua. I dated a Pisces Venus once that was as sweet as can be. He declared his love for me, called me beautiful, and was very affectionate all throughout the day, every day. At first I thought, "Wow, this is a nice change," but then pretty soon it became smothering. I needed my own space and he was not able to give it because he felt the need to express in his own way. It put a lot of pressure on me and I crumbled under it. It eventually lead to me breaking up with him, even though we are still good friends, I just needed more freedom in the relationship and room to breathe.

I also HATE it when people cannot control their emotions. Growing up, my mom would always lose her temper really fast and it was so embarrassing to me.

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You’re pressuring him. You’re actions, words, and responses make me feel uncomfortable and I’m not the one dating you. Just be a lot more chill and go with the flow. Let him chase you if you didn’t push him away too far already.

Thanks but is texting someone once a day too much? Just to say how are you? I’ve archived our messages, so hopefully now it’s out of sight, out of mind for me and I can move on.

It’s not how often. It’s what you say. And it comes down to what your feelings. You felt like he was just a friend when he gave you a gift. That’s such a sweet gesture. Not a lot of guys think to do that. He probably didnt feel appreciated and it then it became bad first impression. No guy wants a difficult too hard to please girlfriend.

No, actually, I thought the gift was a symbol that he wanted to continue seeing me. When I found it in my apartment, I texted him to say thank you and that I love it.

It was other people on this thread who told me to relax, and said it was just a friendly thing to do and a symbol of thanks for my hospitality and allowing him to stay with me in my flat. I really don't understand that interpretation, but that's how other people see it, not me.

So you can maybe understand now why I think he's being confusing. He gives me this gift, I mean he could have chosen to give me anything but he decided to give me jewellery, and now suddenly he's backed away and his communication is sporadic. I didn't want to come across too strongly, so some days he will text me first, and others I text him first, just so he doesn't feel like he's doing all of the work in reaching out. Our conversations are light and friendly because I'm following his lead. I know that I feel things for him, I mean we spent every day together for almost two weeks living like a couple, but I'm not going to blurt them out and demand anything from him. It's mostly just talking about how our day was and then typically I send him an interesting article/podcast I know he'll like. He's unemployed, lives at home, and is not in school so I don't feel like texting him once a day is being too demanding, you know?

Sometimes I feel like I don't get modern dating, that's true, but with him I thought it would be different.

He gave you the gift right after the date. So he liked you then. But didn’t like you as much after and pulled away. I’m sure he has a reason, but you may never find out the 100% truth.

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He texted me today first and mentioned something really sweet about when he was here with me. I'm going to text him back but keep it light... I think even though we slept together and shared a lot with each other about our pasts, etc. he is wanting to build up the friendship aspect first before he decides if there is any future there. We're in a weird position because of the distance.

I really don't think he's the type to string someone along. He is very honest, to the point that he says things that are pretty tactless sometimes (but I like that actually and am blunt too)... I just think the way we go about relationships is very different. Maybe I met him so that he can show me to be more relaxed in this area of my life.

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Girl, he could have gifted you with the ownership of disneyland. It doesn‘t matter in the end!

He is not that into you and he is not serious, move on. His lack of involvement speaks loud af.

You can do better 🌷

Yep! I get it. Thanks

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You’re pressuring him. You’re actions, words, and responses make me feel uncomfortable and I’m not the one dating you. Just be a lot more chill and go with the flow. Let him chase you if you didn’t push him away too far already.

Thanks but is texting someone once a day too much? Just to say how are you? I’ve archived our messages, so hopefully now it’s out of sight, out of mind for me and I can move on.

It’s not how often. It’s what you say. And it comes down to what your feelings. You felt like he was just a friend when he gave you a gift. That’s such a sweet gesture. Not a lot of guys think to do that. He probably didnt feel appreciated and it then it became bad first impression. No guy wants a difficult too hard to please girlfriend.

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No, actually, I thought the gift was a symbol that he wanted to continue seeing me. When I found it in my apartment, I texted him to say thank you and that I love it.

It was other people on this thread who told me to relax, and said it was just a friendly thing to do and a symbol of thanks for my hospitality and allowing him to stay with me in my flat. I really don't understand that interpretation, but that's how other people see it, not me.

So you can maybe understand now why I think he's being confusing. He gives me this gift, I mean he could have chosen to give me anything but he decided to give me jewellery, and now suddenly he's backed away and his communication is sporadic. I didn't want to come across too strongly, so some days he will text me first, and others I text him first, just so he doesn't feel like he's doing all of the work in reaching out. Our conversations are light and friendly because I'm following his lead. I know that I feel things for him, I mean we spent every day together for almost two weeks living like a couple, but I'm not going to blurt them out and demand anything from him. It's mostly just talking about how our day was and then typically I send him an interesting article/podcast I know he'll like. He's unemployed, lives at home, and is not in school so I don't feel like texting him once a day is being too demanding, you know?

Sometimes I feel like I don't get modern dating, that's true, but with him I thought it would be different.

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You’re pressuring him. You’re actions, words, and responses make me feel uncomfortable and I’m not the one dating you. Just be a lot more chill and go with the flow. Let him chase you if you didn’t push him away too far already.

Thanks but is texting someone once a day too much? Just to say how are you? I’ve archived our messages, so hopefully now it’s out of sight, out of mind for me and I can move on.

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Why don’t you women stop holding on to needing a relationship and do something to make yourself have more value.

What do you mean by that? everyone "needs" healthy physical/emotional relationships, are we wrong wanting the same? We have a job and busy life but it doesn't fill the void in our heart. I honestly don't know what are you talking about. One only can go so long not having someone beside at the end of the day.

What makes you stand out from the rest?

You’re just talking about what you NEED.

Not anything about what you BRING to someone else’s life.

All I see is a bunch of women whining about “ME ME ME”.

You all look self involved.

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You’re heartless.