@Wildd_Flo - I like your perspective, I do think I need to keep busy so I am not allowing my Aries moon to rush things. We have talked about continuing to live our lives but making time for each other when necessary. We don't have any plans to link back up yet since I just moved, and we will both have distance for a long time with no specific window of time when we would be able to be together consistently.
@LittleStar_ I am hoping we are able to keep longevity long distance, we tend to flirt a lot and we do talk on FaceTime every so often. I think we had enough time prior to build a level of allureness for each other to the point we can still want to get to know each other despite the distance.
@aquarius09 - Keeping in consideration of placements I don't have intentions on controlling her, I told her I think she should still enjoy her time while she is still there. I plan to do the same, but have intention on keeping a place to build a foundation for something, Im not planning to stop living for the potential of it.
I have been talking to an Aquarius sun, Aquarius moon, Leo rising for about a month. I have recently moved away due to work and we will have distance for a long time. We have clicked pretty well despite the distance and have kept in touch via text and FaceTime. We have talked about our intentions and whether or not we are interested enough to invest in something long term. Do you think this is something I should invest in as a Libra sun, Aries moon, and Capricorn rising.
I find her very attractive and sweet, and will be willing to visit as needed. I know Aquarius are known to be detached, but can be loyal if we build a friendship foundation. Looking for feedback or personal opinions on if this is realistic and could this potentially work.
Your in denial, please heal from the situation and move on. This is how he may treat you when you date and things don’t go his way. Please be smart, use logic and not be blinded by your emotions. People are being helpful, especially other Scorpios and trying to tell you what it may be, but you continue to make excuses for the behaviors. Trust I’ve have had encounters with Scorpios too, you have to know when to accept that the behavior won’t change. It’s too early for these types of miscommunication.
He may have baggage locally, or a situation he is not communicating to you. Driving to you would avoid him opening up about something you may be okay with. (For example if he lives with a partner or potential risk some will see you two together). I would move on, Scorpio have potential to be wonderful ppl but their emotion cloud their logic, find someone who is understanding enough to know things don’t alway work in their time/terms.
@dilettante - appreciate the feedback. i personally feel she wanted to remain friends to have her cake and eat it too — i could be wrong, but having a friendship would not really be beneficial to my personal growth. we were karmatic partners and needed to go in different directions. this is why i was able to accept and mutually agree to ending things otherwise I would have tried to fight to keep the relationship while i was overseas. 3-4 months is a good time frame but unless she reaches out my way, I think it’s best to just keep our distance in this life.
I’ve personally been friends with all exes except the two Scorpios I’ve dated, just due to vindictiveness. My recent Scorpio ex had an issue with me being friends with those exes even when I never gave her a reason to be insecure. So when I declined a friendship she broke down with emotion since I didn’t offer the same as exes I am cordial with, because I felt her friendship would be insincere. So I didn’t see the point of keeping in touch so she can stalk me from afar when I’m overseas and not be truthful. I appreciate the advice.
Opinion: if you don’t mind. i was in a relationship with a Scorp sun aqua moon for a year and we knew each other for two, I got orders to go overseas. We decided to end the relationship due to things not going as well as we liked them and the distance. When I left she wanted to be friends but more so because she would have trouble letting go, I kindly declined due to the fact it would not allow us to move on from one another given she didn’t want to continue a relationship,(which mutually agreed was for the better.) Do you think I am wrong for not keeping a friendship even though I know she would use it to her advantage to have some part of me without being with me? We no longer speak — 2 months.
I was with a Scorpio sun, Aqua Moon for about a year. We knew each other for about 2 years and live together for a year. We have had up and downs, but I have had strong intuition that she had something she was hiding from me. Anytime I would confront her regarding the secrecy she would become very defensive and flip things back on me when she never would do that.
I got notification of a military unaccompanied assignment in June to work overseas for a year starting in September, and had the chance to decline however I felt it is not good to turn away a great life experience opportunity for love. (If it is meant to be the relationship should sustain within the distance).
From June to August she had switched on me and the relationship became different: no affection, intimacy, very cold and distance. This was strange to me because we had talks about staying together during this assignment and what we should expect from each other. I felt she had been seeing someone else but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and just trusted her.
Prior to me leaving the states she had a wave of emotions, excitement, mixed sadness, affection: I had become distance at this point because I felt the intention were being fluffed on her side and wanted to protect my own feelings. I felt that my intuition was telling me this energy wasn't good and that was more to her switching up again.
The night I got overseas I heard from all friends and family except from her, I reach out with her responding as if I was a burden. Comes to find out she thinks it would be healthier is we split ways to heal from things we have gone through in the past and find ourselves. I was a little devastated because I felt this was going to happen, but was in denial. I feel this had to do with the secrecy I had confronted her about -- maybe she was able to not be secretive anymore.
I acknowledged her statement and agreed with it despite how I felt, we didn't speak for a few days and she iMessaged me that she still wants to keep contact with me. I kindly decline and stated that its best if we just move on and being friends is not something I want to be, but I wished her the best in life. This seemed to trigger her saying "she lied about not wanting to be with me and actually misses and loves me, but does want to meet new people if she is given the opportunity." I was not okay with her having her cake and eating it too so I declined again and we haven't talked.
I don't have any particular questions from the scorpio side, I just more so just want opinions on the situation.
@vivi4656 I’m not too concerned with the status of our relationship, we have had talks of marriage but in future times not any time soon. I have no doubts of her loving me, it is more so when we do have these talks she is open to what I am saying but like you have mentioned her fixed nature makes it hard to be consistent. I don’t have issues trying to speak her love languages or compromise things I need but it’s hard to determine if this is worth continuing.
@CancerAquaSagg 1. Goals towards future - I have a career and plans about how I want my life to be, she just takes things as they come. 2. There is not much initiative with things, for example: she is more concerned about buying clouting and shoes prior to ensuring her bills are paid. 3. I enjoy hanging in social gatherings, she prefers to stay home, so I usually spend more down time with her instead of hanging with friends. When she does come out to socialize she seems very socially awkward. 4. We have different love languages. She needs words of affirmation and gifs to feel loved, I am about service and physical touch in my love language.
5. There are more but a lot is already compromised even though I have known her for over a year.
@HearttofTopazz I agree, with your statement on not a lot of time invested. We are better as fiends, but once emotion is involved it doesn't seem to be a match made in heaven being together, even though she feels it is and she is a Scorpio.
I am a Libra sun Aries moon, I am dating a Scorpio sun Aquarius moon, We have been together for 6 months now, however we have known each other for a little over a year. We begun our relationship as friends and really have gotten to know each other over a span of time prior to making things official. I really wanted to invest a long term relationship with her. However, these past 6 months have truly been difficult for me and I’ve been honest about them, Im very open and honest about everything with her. She is aware and open to the things I discuss with her such as: miscommunication, lack of intimacy, goals, etc. I have spoke with her and attempted to end things stating I don’t think we are meant to give each other what we need in the relationship, and also have different love languages, but she is determined to continue this without any real direction. I am having a difficult time because I love her, but I know we are not meant to be together. I am solely looking for Scorpio sun, moon, venus placements perspectives. Is this something to continue to invest in or do I need to end things despite how I feel about her.