Update for those who are curious - The same Capricorn finally reached out to me via IM through work and asked if I was single, they said they felt I was not interested. At this point it makes subtle sense. I don’t really do well with the subtle approach since I am used to people being open and upfront if they are interested. I still don’t see much interest due to differences in personality however I don’t mind conversation here and there. If you are interested in ore detail please direct message me.
I don’t know her to say that, she was near my job but I was not there so she sent a message indirectly stating she was there. I said shaking my head because it was irrelevant and indirect.
A friend of mine told me that when Capricorn’s want to speak to you they try to make it practical and since the only connecting aspect we have is our jobs, they assumed that’s why that’s usually the context.
@stillstillwater - Well keep in mind I’m a Libra with a Capricorn rising so I’m just as cautious about anyones intent as well. I’m more so curious, it’s easier to ask a forum to inquire and be done with curiosity than sit overthinking. At this point I mentioned I’ve fell back from the situation, perhaps she wanted me to be more direct without her being direct, however that’s not how I move.
@stillstillwater - I understand, I guess it’s all perception which is exactly the feedback I needed. At this point if I see her around I’ll be cordial, however ill keep my distance. I’m not overly pressed just curious I’ve been around Caps but never had one act this way around me. Im used to Gemini/Scorpio/Aquarius being direct and upfront like I’m interested. So just trying to understand.
@stillstillwater - It’s a bit hard to have a conversation as such when you ask questions and answers aren’t being provided directly. She would insinuate something and wait for me to clarify, however when I would ask it would be vague and not direct. I would have been okay with dating/sexual if it’s was a direct conversation as long as she knew I did not want to make it a relationship. To answer your question when she asked if I was thinking about her and assumed I had feelings for her, I told her “I felt she was cool and just wanted to get to know her platonically, I don’t know you well enough to have feelings” she said I get it. I just wish she would have been direct about her intent, I would have been a bit more open but I felt things were off to the point I deleted her number.
@librasupreme - you’re one of the few who makes Libras have a bad name. I specifically mentioned I had no intent on anything but platonic vibes from the situation. If I wanted a sexual connection it would’ve been stayed above. What are you talking about, the feed is not for you. Your advice isn’t warranted.
I am a libra with half of my placements being earthy. I met a Capricorn while at work (she knows one of my friends that works with me.) She initiated casual conversation and requested I get my info from my coworker. I reached out to her casually and for the rest of the week she returned to my job and would text me “hey I’m near your side” and I would be inviting with responses such as feel free to stop be, etc.
We continued with casual texting and she would send me pictures of her or videos of her being out and about when I would inquire about her weekends.
I started to think she was somewhat interested and would flirt a little bit here and there, she would reply with responses such as “you were thinking about me I see, or I crossed someone’s mind. I told her I thought she was cool people and find her interesting but ensured I didn’t give off the wrong impression. (I find her attractive and interesting but am not looking at her in any way other than platonic, due to getting out of a relationship 5 months ago and I’m more stable single.)
Recently I found out she had a boyfriend that she dumped and I felt as if I was a rebound to entertain while dealing with her on and off break up. I found out that they mended some issues distanced myself from her. She asked to call me out the blue to speak on work related items but truly it was irrelevant to me. I figured she wanted to call because I hadn’t initiated conversation. We haven’t spoke since she asked to call so I reached out and her overall vibe was way different, one way conversations, vague responses. So I deleted her contact from my phone.
Does anyone have any feedback, or just overall suggestions. I don’t have her number anymore but may run into around our work environment here or there. Should I continue to be platonic and cordial or just fall back completely.
Your in denial, please heal from the situation and move on. This is how he may treat you when you date and things don’t go his way. Please be smart, use logic and not be blinded by your emotions. People are being helpful, especially other Scorpios and trying to tell you what it may be, but you continue to make excuses for the behaviors. Trust I’ve have had encounters with Scorpios too, you have to know when to accept that the behavior won’t change. It’s too early for these types of miscommunication.
He may have baggage locally, or a situation he is not communicating to you. Driving to you would avoid him opening up about something you may be okay with. (For example if he lives with a partner or potential risk some will see you two together). I would move on, Scorpio have potential to be wonderful ppl but their emotion cloud their logic, find someone who is understanding enough to know things don’t alway work in their time/terms.
@dilettante - appreciate the feedback. i personally feel she wanted to remain friends to have her cake and eat it too — i could be wrong, but having a friendship would not really be beneficial to my personal growth. we were karmatic partners and needed to go in different directions. this is why i was able to accept and mutually agree to ending things otherwise I would have tried to fight to keep the relationship while i was overseas. 3-4 months is a good time frame but unless she reaches out my way, I think it’s best to just keep our distance in this life.
I’ve personally been friends with all exes except the two Scorpios I’ve dated, just due to vindictiveness. My recent Scorpio ex had an issue with me being friends with those exes even when I never gave her a reason to be insecure. So when I declined a friendship she broke down with emotion since I didn’t offer the same as exes I am cordial with, because I felt her friendship would be insincere. So I didn’t see the point of keeping in touch so she can stalk me from afar when I’m overseas and not be truthful. I appreciate the advice.
Opinion: if you don’t mind. i was in a relationship with a Scorp sun aqua moon for a year and we knew each other for two, I got orders to go overseas. We decided to end the relationship due to things not going as well as we liked them and the distance. When I left she wanted to be friends but more so because she would have trouble letting go, I kindly declined due to the fact it would not allow us to move on from one another given she didn’t want to continue a relationship,(which mutually agreed was for the better.) Do you think I am wrong for not keeping a friendship even though I know she would use it to her advantage to have some part of me without being with me? We no longer speak — 2 months.
I was with a Scorpio sun, Aqua Moon for about a year. We knew each other for about 2 years and live together for a year. We have had up and downs, but I have had strong intuition that she had something she was hiding from me. Anytime I would confront her regarding the secrecy she would become very defensive and flip things back on me when she never would do that.
I got notification of a military unaccompanied assignment in June to work overseas for a year starting in September, and had the chance to decline however I felt it is not good to turn away a great life experience opportunity for love. (If it is meant to be the relationship should sustain within the distance).
From June to August she had switched on me and the relationship became different: no affection, intimacy, very cold and distance. This was strange to me because we had talks about staying together during this assignment and what we should expect from each other. I felt she had been seeing someone else but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and just trusted her.
Prior to me leaving the states she had a wave of emotions, excitement, mixed sadness, affection: I had become distance at this point because I felt the intention were being fluffed on her side and wanted to protect my own feelings. I felt that my intuition was telling me this energy wasn't good and that was more to her switching up again.
The night I got overseas I heard from all friends and family except from her, I reach out with her responding as if I was a burden. Comes to find out she thinks it would be healthier is we split ways to heal from things we have gone through in the past and find ourselves. I was a little devastated because I felt this was going to happen, but was in denial. I feel this had to do with the secrecy I had confronted her about -- maybe she was able to not be secretive anymore.
I acknowledged her statement and agreed with it despite how I felt, we didn't speak for a few days and she iMessaged me that she still wants to keep contact with me. I kindly decline and stated that its best if we just move on and being friends is not something I want to be, but I wished her the best in life. This seemed to trigger her saying "she lied about not wanting to be with me and actually misses and loves me, but does want to meet new people if she is given the opportunity." I was not okay with her having her cake and eating it too so I declined again and we haven't talked.
I don't have any particular questions from the scorpio side, I just more so just want opinions on the situation.
@vivi4656 I’m not too concerned with the status of our relationship, we have had talks of marriage but in future times not any time soon. I have no doubts of her loving me, it is more so when we do have these talks she is open to what I am saying but like you have mentioned her fixed nature makes it hard to be consistent. I don’t have issues trying to speak her love languages or compromise things I need but it’s hard to determine if this is worth continuing.
@CancerAquaSagg 1. Goals towards future - I have a career and plans about how I want my life to be, she just takes things as they come. 2. There is not much initiative with things, for example: she is more concerned about buying clouting and shoes prior to ensuring her bills are paid. 3. I enjoy hanging in social gatherings, she prefers to stay home, so I usually spend more down time with her instead of hanging with friends. When she does come out to socialize she seems very socially awkward. 4. We have different love languages. She needs words of affirmation and gifs to feel loved, I am about service and physical touch in my love language.
5. There are more but a lot is already compromised even though I have known her for over a year.
@HearttofTopazz I agree, with your statement on not a lot of time invested. We are better as fiends, but once emotion is involved it doesn't seem to be a match made in heaven being together, even though she feels it is and she is a Scorpio.