Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by Thoughtful
@Johnthebaptist100 here's a quick run down. We were together years ago, I ended it. He spent the following years saying "Hello, I'm here!!" In various ways..."when are we meeting up?" (No was not a viable answer it seems) "Are you ignoring me!" Non stop!!
So here I am finally...I have spoken to him about not replying before...he starts panicking, apologizing, saying he was going to reply etc etc total opposite to when he was trying to get my attention, so bashful and just kind of whatever I want really. He was so nervous when we met up again since I gave in a couldn't even look at me without turning away and blushing it was weird.
Not only is he jobless, but his ex (whom he has child with) can be very difficult. Not to mention his mother passing with no warning. (Lots of guilt associated with that) so he's alway "fine" which he is not but he tries to show me that side. I feel like saying "I've known you for 8yrs, do you really think I care you're not perfect!" But he is fully aware that one of the reasons we split the first time was he didn't have his butter together and definitely remembers it like it happened an hour ago!
@jeane haha! I know right! To be fair this is only the 2nd time it has been left for weeks. Normally I find if he doesn't respond within an hour he will get distracted happens all the time. Just roll my eyes and carry on, as he normally has a long story to explain when I do get hold of him. Lol
grief has been a huge struggle with me as a bull. i went thru many bouts of depression before i healed and even now i have my rough days. you are doing well being supportive just dont be a doormat. sure hes going thru a lot but remind him you two are a team so he can lean on you in his time of need. i know i didnt/dont bother people with my emotional crap because i dont want to burden them but thats not even giving the person a chance to be supportive. if this lasts or becomes worse, id be worried. for now, you are doing well to be as supportive and loving as possible during this difficult time. hopefully you two can sit down at some point and really express your feelings. i feel like there may be some hesitation on your part bc of his withdrawal. it doesnt hurt to prod us along bc sometimes we need it.click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by Thoughtful
@espresso thanks for this. I must say he is very sensitive to me ignoring him. He thinks I did about 5 years ago (he could have contacted me but didn't and expected me to) and will never let me forgot it...EVER!! So I don't want it to seem like I'm ignoring him but on the other hand I'm not sure what to say that doesn't sound stupid or trivial
As I said above, you have both been down this route before and it does not feel like it has any potential to try and "salvage" what you once had. U are an ex of many years ago... Just stay friends and move on...click to expand
Posted by TauroMale22
its general, people think i'm weird for remembering.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yup especially wishy washy but you said this and two hours or two months it's changed. Blah.