tiziani

Posted by Juzzkea

Posted by tiziani
Also if you have a gut feeling that he's going to show a different side of himself to you then yeah it's probably going to happen lol

There aren't many people who can hit our triggers but it's just part of getting to know one another. I think after the first year you generally know if you can put up with each other's flaws or not. For now he's probably still playing it cool.

He has said this as well. He said, I said I want a relationship but a woman has to have substance and wisdom. We talk about flaws and all. That is exactly what I am looking at. Because I also heard his "player" is his cover from getting hurt. I don't know what to believe anymore. I just don't want the melodrama of living my life too.

It takes about a year to really learn someone. We are seeing enough of each other to really see the BS up close. I have my aloof craziness too. He supports me too. I feel like riding the wave to be sure and date others in the meantime. I do find other personalities who accommodate me well. Like "calmness and peace". I like the guy who has an ego that doesn't need to be stroked. And God forbid I point out stuff he is missing - he goes to great lengths to show me that side. I said he doesn't have a humble giving nature.

"Oh, I give to the poor and homeless weekly. Let me show you." LOL this guy.

Don't get me wrong I do ENJOY him. Otherwise, I wouldn't be around. I just want my freedom too. I want to get him to understand that without the drama. Live and Let Live. Doesn't Libras Live by this too?

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Oh so he's one of those types that likes to prove himself against a challenge.

Well everything you've shared sounds like these are things you get to know where both your TRUE wants are in time. Just as along as you don't expect to be changing for one another, that never happens.

As long as you know what you want and have to put up with dramatics for knowing yourself and enjoying yourself, it's all good. I think it's contradictory to say you'd only enjoy yourself one way when single, and another way when in a relationship but that's not important. you'll both figure it out.

There's no real advice I want to give. I'm a Libra but we all have our different brand of bs, mine sounds very different to his own. Thanks for sharing your story, it was presented differently to what we usually get around here.

Also if you have a gut feeling that he's going to show a different side of himself to you then yeah it's probably going to happen lol

There aren't many people who can hit our triggers but it's just part of getting to know one another. I think after the first year you generally know if you can put up with each other's flaws or not. For now he's probably still playing it cool.

Damn, it's an interesting story. I dunno what more I could say than that. You guys have a lot going for you and just see where you can both take it next really.

I don't see immaturity there. When I first met the woman I love, she had spent 2-3 years being beaten into submission by people around her saying she has to be "mature" and "proper" because she was pushing her thirties.

Fact of the matter is she was happier than ever when she was getting the attention of multiple dudes, the dudes didn't even matter. She just has a wild side and a very stable side that both feed each other in one great person.

So I just told her, do your thing really. You don't have to pretend. For the first year she tried to be really offended by that but adjusted. Then she tried to impose standards on me about who I should be with, but gave that up too. Now we're a lot better as a team.

Immaturity is when people cannot commit or can't live up to their commitments. But if you can commit and dedicate your time to more than just one person I admire that. And if you can't or decide it's not for you then there's no shame in that either. You don't want one person who secretly is hoping for a monogamous romance, and the other not, or vice versa. That just feeds into backbitey energy and trying to one-up each other. It's too much of a headache.

And yeah I never understood men or women who have that double standard of wanting to be with many people, yet only wanting their partner to be with them alone. But that does work for many couples, some double standards work some do not. It's on you both to decide and be damned what "mature" people think it looks like on the other side. Most monogamous people can't even manage commitment to even just one person without sabotaging it, you can't stop and listen to their expertise on commitment or maturity for long before you have to get back to your own life. Best of luck to both of you. Already being friends and running business together is a lot of trust in the bank.

woah, the censored version is garbage. I just heard it, sorry.

Posted by febie
But to answer your first question, I am the type of woman to go after other women in the sexual way, or any way.

I feel like that time for me will either reappear or has already ended and the door has closed though so all I know now is I'm in a totally different mode atm.

I remember the stories lol

Maybe you feel like you got it out of your system.

Posted by febie

Posted by tiziani
well I dunno, I made it as a pro astrologer and I don't think it's much of an achievement in such a cottage industry.
I appreciated the experience but if you don't "make it" as either of those, honestly you're not missing out so don't worry about it.

lol what happened? I read the first post and became intrigued and confused at the same time

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Some people had sex, I watched (not watched, my bad, listened).

Then two women I think wanted to have sex never had sex, and dragged a ton of men in between them for sport.

but i think they worked it out now so all's well that ends well.

The rest was just me opening up about some stuff in my own love life. It's a work in progress.

Posted by Jules-ll

Posted by tiziani
Nice one on just confronting it directly. Minimal drama maximum romance.

And people say virgo venuses aren't romantic...

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LOL

well I dunno, I made it as a pro astrologer and I don't think it's much of an achievement in such a cottage industry.
I appreciated the experience but if you don't "make it" as either of those, honestly you're not missing out so don't worry about it.

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Posted by tiziani
I can't remember anything big, only petty stuff like pranks.

I've never regretted it but at the same time I can say revenge in itself didn't mean much.

It's a nice feeling for a while, but then it's "ok best to just sort what actually needs sorting now. Didn't actually achieve anything here."

yeah mine always ends up like ~~ I will have my revenge! ~~ and elaborate plots in my head... but nothing comes out of it, only pranks as you said.
There's always a good reason why I can't exact my revenge; looking back it's a positive intervention from somewhere, who knows where

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hey chere!

yeah i wouldn't worry about it.
This is the second thread i read today where the man is being dramatic attention-seeker.

Maybe some people just can't handle how chill you are without making it about them.

I can't remember anything big, only petty stuff like pranks.

I've never regretted it but at the same time I can say revenge in itself didn't mean much.

It's a nice feeling for a while, but then it's "ok best to just sort what actually needs sorting now. Didn't actually achieve anything here."

sounds like he's attention seeking.

Nice one on just confronting it directly. Minimal drama maximum romance.

It sounds like the guy is just well mannered, but that's about it.

Everything about the sound was good the whole way through.
And it was tense till about halfway.
Then the film dragged on too long, even if based on real events.