Posted by MoonshineLeo
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Is being with a Cap guy akin to seeing the negative in almost everything? Like if we were on a beautiful beach somewhere with 5 star service (insert your dream vacation), there will still* be something wrong.



Yep. Some of the most pessimistic people I know-Men and women. Which is ironic because in a group setting they're the life of the party and full of energy, but alone time with them is pretty different. When my cap ex began to open up more, it became a bit draining. And no matter how much I've tried to reassure positivity within a situation or outcome he resorts to a "meh" mentality. That is one example of many caps I know. Sometimes I wonder if it's a tactic to have their ego stroked.


It is, they want you to kiss ass
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On point. I see so many topics of women asking about caps and how to gain their interest, when really it's quite simple.

The key is to flattering their ego. Tell him how handsome he looks, tell him how funny he is, tell him he has great taste in whatever his interests lie. When he is sharing his stories and experiences, listen with enthusiasm and an open mind. The trick is to not overindulge on the compliments where it comes off as phony.

And if you really want to make him swoon: "I really like the way how your mind works. You've opened my mind to different perspectives...please tell me more!"

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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Posted by LePetitFisk
Be less broody. Disarm them through humor.


I like this advice.
I don't even mind them brooding, emo is in 🤷🏽‍♀️, it's the fact that they're so damn bossy


Be honest Virgal - You don't mind a little bit of Bossy out of a Cap,provided he also shows appreciation of your Virgal stuff.

It's when no appreciation is showed the Virgal that "bossy" becomes a big problem.

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Ego and appreciation work as a trade-off. We'll flatter your ego as long as you APPRECIATE how much ego boosting we are giving.
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Posted by LePetitFisk
Be less broody. Disarm them through humor.


I like this advice.
I don't even mind them brooding, emo is in 🤷🏽‍♀️, it's the fact that they're so damn bossy
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The bossiness is a turnoff when in the bedroom. The only exception is for role playing.
In no order. Aqua, Taurus, Cancer.
Posted by capitalism
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Posted by capitalism
What characteristics do capricorns display that appeal to Virgo?

How could a capricorn get under the skin of a virgo?


Drive for passion, ambition, their curiosity, humor.

Why do you want to get under our skins?
It takes a lot to set us off, but when we get there...Being egotistical, petty, nitpicky/overcrtical, and turning everything into a competition.


"Being egotistical, petty, nitpicky/ovoercrtical, and turning everything into a competition"

You're describing virgo right?
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Nope. Definitely cap. We're critical with a purpose. Y'all are just nitpicky for the sake of being nitpicky.
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I'm not sure if its a thing with details or not, but maybe that's why things seem so petty. The tiniest thing can irritate us, and I mean tiny.

It's indeed in the details. The distinction between a Cap and Virgo's critical nature? Caps are nitpicky throughout the plan from beginning to the end. Virgos are critical if the outcome of a plan changes.

Scenario: Taking a road trip to get from point A to point B by renting a car. Arrive at the rental company only to find your car has been upgraded to an SUV with a slight upcharge due to internal miscommunication and no availability of cars. However, it will not delay the trip and will arrive on time as scheduled.

Virgo mentality: I don't agree with the charge, I mean it was THEIR fault. But is it worth it to fight it? Well the upcharge was hardly a dent and it's not messing up my plan. So nah. Plus more room! At least I don't have to resort to plan B and everything else is on schedule, perfect!

Cap mentality: I was expecting to pay 'x' amount, I shouldn't have to be charged more. Terrible customer service, I should be highly compensated for this slight inconvenience. And all this extra car room is unnecessary.
Posted by capitalism
What characteristics do capricorns display that appeal to Virgo?

How could a capricorn get under the skin of a virgo?


Drive for passion, ambition, their curiosity, humor.

Why do you want to get under our skins?
It takes a lot to set us off, but when we get there...Being egotistical, petty, nitpicky/overcrtical, and turning everything into a competition.
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Posted by Virgorean
Posted by SunMoonStars


Is being with a Cap guy akin to seeing the negative in almost everything? Like if we were on a beautiful beach somewhere with 5 star service (insert your dream vacation), there will still* be something wrong.



Yep. Some of the most pessimistic people I know-Men and women. Which is ironic because in a group setting they're the life of the party and full of energy, but alone time with them is pretty different. When my cap ex began to open up more, it became a bit draining. And no matter how much I've tried to reassure positivity within a situation or outcome he resorts to a "meh" mentality. That is one example of many caps I know. Sometimes I wonder if it's a tactic to have their ego stroked.


I wonder that too sometimes.

It's like everything becomes about him, his moods, his likes/dislikes, etc. It seems so petty to me some of the things he complains about. A trip to the grocery store can be filled with negativity from how long the line is, how long someone takes to pick their item (blocking him from picking), stuff like that.

I end up being the positive one and tip toeing, not wanting to talk about my own problems or set him off. It's exhausting.
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Haha those were the exact things my ex would complain about. I've actually seen him complain to the waiter because they put tomatoes in his burger and ask the waiter to bring him a new burger. To be fair, he did say no tomatoes. I didn't understand why he didn't just pick them off, which is the normal alternative. I am careful around people who handle my food.

And that's where I see the selfishness arise and "woe is me," when you try to discuss your problem, which only rings a bell of a similar problem in which they have to bring up and talk over...because it's relevant.

It may sound like I'm belittling caps, but they are very warm and affectionate when they're comfortable around you. It's if you can get past the negativity or not.
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Is being with a Cap guy akin to seeing the negative in almost everything? Like if we were on a beautiful beach somewhere with 5 star service (insert your dream vacation), there will still* be something wrong.



Yep. Some of the most pessimistic people I know-Men and women. Which is ironic because in a group setting they're the life of the party and full of energy, but alone time with them is pretty different. When my cap ex began to open up more, it became a bit draining. And no matter how much I've tried to reassure positivity within a situation or outcome he resorts to a "meh" mentality. That is one example of many caps I know. Sometimes I wonder if it's a tactic to have their ego stroked.
Posted by sierraleone
what do u think of virgos dating other virgoss?


All for it. I know of two couples and they're very much in love. One is getting married next month . His fiancee is very similar to me, although, a bit more shy, but we all get along well.
I feel stuck in a rut with my job. The pay and benefits are good and there is job security. The problem is the environment can be hostile and every other week it's "I'm at my limit." I KNOW what I need to do and how to get there, but I feel I'm too comfortable in my routine to do anything about it because I'm not feeling motivated. I've noticed feeling under pressure is what kicks me into 2nd gear, but I am not feeling threatened. How do you other Virgos get over this hump of feeling stuck?
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy
Why do Virgos drop contact with people and rationalise this by saying it's to avoid hurting the other person? I've seen this explanation a few times on this board. Isn't it just as hurtful not to give the other person closure and an opportunity to improve themselves?

Just curious.


If the relationship was meaningful, I'll give the closure you're requesting, but you'll need to ask directly. Chances are if I've dropped contact it's because I don't see the same amount of effort I've put in returned and I'm mirroring your actions. As for rationalizing it's because most people are sensitive when it comes to hearing the truth. Nobody wants to hear "I've been distancing myself from you because I've lost interest." If we tell the truth we come across as an insensitive jerk. And if we sugar coat it to spare your feelings we come off as having lead you on. It's a lose-lose situation.
Very much...When they're not being manipulative.
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Posted by Virgorean
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Scary Virgo story #173939:

I kinda like this guy and I just found out he's a Gemini #rip
Idk what I've done to deserve this, but I repent


Not all Gems are bad. Some are complete sweethearts. Unfortunately, they know what they want after the fact.


Hmm I guess I just don't know what to expect from them tbh. Like they're wild cards. Every other sign has some trait that I can pinpoint w them, but Gemini? No

And I've never really cared enough to really look them up in detail... I don't really understand air sign love I guess, I don't know what to expect. And especially from mutable air
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Yea, I read lots of negative things about Gems, but tbh, I haven't really quite experienced that. Although, I've only dated one and he was my ex, but we are still very good friends to this day. Maybe I ran into a good one then haha. Then there's the Taurus/Gem cuspers I interact with on a daily basis and they have gem placements. Not sure if that counts for something.

From what I recall he was indecisive. The initial dating phase was awkward at first because he couldn't decipher if we were dating or not, although, he acted very affectionate and like a boyfriend until one day I had enough and said 'I'm your girlfriend, deal with it,' and he never argued it haha. When we were together it was during college and he switched his major many times only to wind up with the one he originally started with. Then there was his indecisiveness about which career direction he wanted to take. He'd land a good job, boast about it and get bored of it a few months down the line and want to do something else like own his own water park lol. The conversations are interesting, however. His mind would float from topic to topic, sometimes it was random and left field, other times he'd ramble on about different facts he retained. He was very knowledgeable about a lot of things and there was always something to learn from him. It was quite amusing. With air signs they have a quality of aloofness to them, which worked well with me because it didn't invade my need for space. I liked the spontaneous side of him on just jumping up and doing something and getting immersed-a positive to his wishy washyness.
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Scary Virgo story #173939:

I kinda like this guy and I just found out he's a Gemini #rip
Idk what I've done to deserve this, but I repent


Not all Gems are bad. Some are complete sweethearts. Unfortunately, they know what they want after the fact.
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Posted by startwars
this thread will be full of insights on the virgos motives and intentions behind some of their actions.

so @ non virgos, save your "facts" for later. questions are welcome though

@ virgos share yours too, state your other placements, whether you're an airy/firey/watery/earthy virgo and your dominant sign.


I've read just about everywhere that all Virgos are blunt and honest but I need to know for sure will a Virgo tell you if they are not interested in you anymore???
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Yes, but you will most likely have to ask directly for confirmation, else, I'll slowly distance myself.
Keep your bubbly personality going, don't change it. That's who you are and it's genuine. He'll see it.

Next time he speaks of his experiences, ask more questions, it shows your interest in him. Give him direct eye contact and lots of smiles while he's speaking. And when you give him a hug, put a little tight squeeze in there
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Stop overthinking it or it will drive u crazy. This happens to me too. Caps are just not direct in their feelings or thoughts about persons of interest. It takes so long for them to truly open up.


Not true. I've had a few caps admit to liking me all within a few weeks.

From my experience, they become interested when you show them indifference because their ego takes a hit.
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
idk about y'all, but I HAVE to be at least good friends w/ a guy before we date. I'm not sure how women can date guys they've just met with instantly... not for me :/

I need to be able to have fun with the guy, teasing and joking and stuff. My best friend 😌
Humor is the way to my heart. It our humor is on the same wavelength 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽


Ditto. I find I'm more comfortable being myself when we start off as friends. There's no pressure of putting on an impression.
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About $ 150-200 every 2 weeks for 2 adults. Very little processed food, a lot I can freeze (meat, vegetables). I batch cook my lunches for the week on Sunday and freeze them in individual containers.


I've been getting back into meal prepping as well. Even freezing smoothie cups for on the go. Taking a few hours off on a weekend to cook has saved me the hassle of cooking after work or grocery shopping after work when it gets really busy. And I stopped for a bit because I was getting tired of eating the same meals :/

@Op, on average I spend about $ 70- $ 100 on just myself a week. Need that protein gain since I've been working out again.



Batch cooking is great. I get up at 4:30 am and have to leave at 6:15 for work. It's so much easier to just grab a container from the freezer and go.

I only do this for lunches though. I know people who do it for all 3 meals during the week! I like the idea but that's just too much time in the kitchen in onr day for me.
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Aye I can't wake up that early on a work week, but props to you! I actually do it for 2 meals 5 days a week-lunch and dinner. For breakfast I have a shake or some protein balls and milk.