Leo- Can't sleep, clowns will eat me...



Honestly, would be happy just with getting engaged...
And then Literally never actually getting married, like talking decades maybe tying the knot when we're 89 or somethin
One thing to really appreciate is when a guy tells you he's angry and why... bonus when it's not something you've done lol
Sooo much better than when your partner shuts down and acts passive aggressive, without any information at all.
Just focus on how well you're communicating with each other, it's a lot more than some other couples
Just working and then crashing at my boyfriends parents place with him, cos it's convenient for our work week lol nice to catch up with his fam too... 🥔🥔
First valentines, so I have written him a little love note with snails and inside jokes.
It'll be interesting to see if he does or suggests anything spesh but I don't think it's really our thing so should be nice and quiet- some dinner and early bedtime 🤷🏽‍♀️
What is stability to meh.
I move house every two to three years sometimes more often. My own mother doesn't know where I live at the moment.

But I always have the same job, a car, pay my bills...
My sag mars thinks it might get quite boring, but my Virgo Venus and Merc really like it.
In a partner not so sure - they have to keep up with me I guess
Posted by RooSagicorn
It starts with the feelings, when you feel a connection.. whatever that is, you just like this person & want to spend time with them.

As you get to know them better, you see if you really click. As in you can function well together. Not fighting & arguing all the time, but feeling comfortable like you can be yourself. Like you just fit together. You become friends too as well as lovers & you care what the other wants. This is all important because to last long term you must have these. The friendship carries you through the low points. The caring must be there or why be there? It’s like a rollercoaster the ups and downs. But you just still want to be there. It’s always about wanting to be there & caring

I was married 17 years/ relationship was 20. So yeah connection.



Nice reply.
So on a daily basis what were some of the things you did to maintain things?
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You just tell him you love his face and his dick and you think he is the one but you don’t have to marry him! You just love him for his personal qualities!
If he says nothing in return - you treetrunked up baby! Sorry!


That's definitely a unique approach haha


It’s quickest way to see what he is made of! Keep it to yiurself and come to Dxp asking...does my sign likes me or he is just confused because we can’t talk about ‘...feeeeelings?
butter! Keep it hidden! Waste your time!
Just to find out after a while - there weren’t ANY feeeeelings...
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Oh yeh cool,
This wasn't specifically having to be about romantic partners, I'm interested in viewpoints on colleagues, family and friends too tho

Posted by Gemitati
You just tell him you love his face and his dick and you think he is the one but you don’t have to marry him! You just love him for his personal qualities!
If he says nothing in return - you treetrunked up baby! Sorry!


That's definitely a unique approach haha
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I have no idea


Does that worry you? Or is it something you've thought about before and are exploring in your own time and way?


i think after falling in love and being forced to fall out i have tough time trying to connect


Very relatable
If someone came to you and wanted to establish something would you be open to that or are you afraid the amount of work they'd need to put in to do so might scare them off


i'd be open but it will be really difficult for me to just give in, I don't trust myself anymore


So, maybe I've learned something here.
Trusting yourself is just as important in connecting with others as everything else discussed in this thread.
Do you think this will ever change for you?

idk I think it will take time and a patient person to allow me to feel safe


Call me crazy but I have a feeling it will happen for you x


yeah, you are crazy


🥔


😂 potato?
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Always potato
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Posted by clownloyal
I have no idea


Does that worry you? Or is it something you've thought about before and are exploring in your own time and way?


i think after falling in love and being forced to fall out i have tough time trying to connect


Very relatable
If someone came to you and wanted to establish something would you be open to that or are you afraid the amount of work they'd need to put in to do so might scare them off


i'd be open but it will be really difficult for me to just give in, I don't trust myself anymore


So, maybe I've learned something here.
Trusting yourself is just as important in connecting with others as everything else discussed in this thread.
Do you think this will ever change for you?

idk I think it will take time and a patient person to allow me to feel safe


Call me crazy but I have a feeling it will happen for you x


yeah, you are crazy
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🥔
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Posted by clownloyal
I have no idea


Does that worry you? Or is it something you've thought about before and are exploring in your own time and way?


i think after falling in love and being forced to fall out i have tough time trying to connect


Very relatable
If someone came to you and wanted to establish something would you be open to that or are you afraid the amount of work they'd need to put in to do so might scare them off


i'd be open but it will be really difficult for me to just give in, I don't trust myself anymore


So, maybe I've learned something here.
Trusting yourself is just as important in connecting with others as everything else discussed in this thread.
Do you think this will ever change for you?

idk I think it will take time and a patient person to allow me to feel safe
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Call me crazy but I have a feeling it will happen for you x
Posted by Xyreturn
Posted by wagtail
I always say 'maybe you're right' and then pause.
If they're looking for a fight they won't get one, if they're genuinely interested in a debate I find it often forces them to play devils advocate just to keep the conversation going- which is hilarious when they start making all your points for you, and you haven't uttered a word since the beginning of the argument.

Which, for a peace loving potato like myself is the ultimate goal really.
Of course I don't mind apologising either - strong proponent of rather be happy than have to be right.


Some people can't be happy unless they are right. I was at work and my coworker kept pointing out my "error". I showed her proof then she went to go ask other people who corrected her but she put the L on me. Then she came back to me acting like i'm still the one who made a mistake. I felt like slapping her but caught my petty feelings which I threw in the trash. I just stared at her and said nothing. It's exhausting.
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Yeh well, it is exhausting.
She's obviously having a bad day lol don't let it get to you her problems are not your problems
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I have no idea


Does that worry you? Or is it something you've thought about before and are exploring in your own time and way?


i think after falling in love and being forced to fall out i have tough time trying to connect


Very relatable
If someone came to you and wanted to establish something would you be open to that or are you afraid the amount of work they'd need to put in to do so might scare them off


i'd be open but it will be really difficult for me to just give in, I don't trust myself anymore
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So, maybe I've learned something here.
Trusting yourself is just as important in connecting with others as everything else discussed in this thread.
Do you think this will ever change for you?
I always say 'maybe you're right' and then pause.
If they're looking for a fight they won't get one, if they're genuinely interested in a debate I find it often forces them to play devils advocate just to keep the conversation going- which is hilarious when they start making all your points for you, and you haven't uttered a word since the beginning of the argument.

Which, for a peace loving potato like myself is the ultimate goal really.
Of course I don't mind apologising either - strong proponent of rather be happy than have to be right.
Posted by clownloyal
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Posted by clownloyal
I have no idea


Does that worry you? Or is it something you've thought about before and are exploring in your own time and way?


i think after falling in love and being forced to fall out i have tough time trying to connect
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Very relatable
If someone came to you and wanted to establish something would you be open to that or are you afraid the amount of work they'd need to put in to do so might scare them off
Depends.
As a general rule I bury myself in work and go to bed early.
I can be so closed off about the breakup it might take months or years before people realise I'm single again.

If it's the love of my life I have a tendency to move towns, city or house. Maybe pick up a study course or hobby as well. Packing up and relocating tends to help.

If it's just a passing relationship my mindframe is different and there's usually a couple of other guys lined up in the wings and I'm dating again in no time which helps a lot -as long as every one is on the same page.
Posted by justagirl
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Spend time with them, share experiences i've been through, listen to theirs, try to be there for them as much as i can, sometimes that isn't enough, so i will try to make sure to set aside time just for them. Communicate with them, exchange of ideals, goals, dreams. Be supportive, even if i don't necessarily agree with everything, listen to understand not just be heard.


So in one way you create a space you can both go into that allows for communication without confrontation.
When you exchange ideas or opinions do you feel it builds a connection or does it take you in seperate directions that somehow meet up down the line?


Sorry for delayed response, I was sleeping then been at work today

I try to, doesn't always work, some stuff is confrontations no matter what or how you approach it. But yes I try to do that.

I find for me and those I have done this with it builds the connection. I do have life long friends that we have sort of faded in and out of each others lives depending on life stuff, but we always reconnect, which I find is due to the original connections established. Occasionally though, even after building connections, things can happen when life goals or outlooks can take us in different directions. I get sad when this happens, but I also understand people change and grow at all times, or at least I hope they do, and if there is no change that usually means no growth. Does that help answer what you are asking ?
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Oh yes that answers my question thanks Jag 😘
Posted by Therealjane10
From my experience?

Just people I click with naturally, we could go months or years without speaking but when do speak or meet, the connection is still there. There are certain people you will always naturally click with, and unfortunately not click with.


Do you tend to focus only on those natural pathways with people or have you ever done something out of the ordinary to consciously create a connection with someone? Did it work? Why and if not why do you think that is