Just google antidepressant and sexual side effects
If he was/is on anti-depressant for a long time then he prob is damaged for life.
I have a sag friend who's damaged for life. It's very hard for him to get hard and even if he gets hard, he gets soft very easily. I feel sorry for his wife. (My sag friend has a much younger wife and it makes it even worse.)
It doesn't work that way. Most of my exes came back to me at least once.
With every one of them, I realized that if it didn't work out the first time, it won't work the 2nd time, or even the 3rd time. What made it not working out the first time usually remains an issue.
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What is his placements?


I don't know his birthtime. This is what cafeastrology gives me by his birth date, year, place:


Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Gemini 20°53'
Moon Sagittarius 28°02'
Mercury Cancer 13°55'
Venus Gemini 1°25'
Mars Cancer 14°25'
Jupiter Aries 22°56'
Saturn Sagittarius 17°38' R
Uranus Sagittarius 24°54' R
Neptune Capricorn 7°04' R
Pluto Scorpio 7°30' R
Lilith Cancer 22°27'
Asc node Aries 8°47'


I didn't expect this, but it make sense

I don't know about other people with sun oppsite moon, but I can't be with someone who is seeing other people, it's just something very hurtful, I will never do it.




What are your placements?

I don't think I am able to do it either. I am very possessive. That's why I was blown away.
It does make me wonder what love means. Sometimes I wonder if it is healthier that way--let the person do whatever makes him/her happy....


I'm sag with gem moon ..
Venus and mercury in scorp and mars in Aries tho ...
They can do what ever they want, but I will leave without any word.

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Hahaha. interesting that you are sag with gem moon...
I think maybe its your Scorp and Aries placements that don't like to share
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I have a Gemini best friend, male, who still loves madly his ex, after almost a year, even though it turned out she had been a red flag. And the way she ended that 2,5 year relationship had been purely cruel (via SMS). Somehow he still sees best in her, even when me and our mutual friends tell him that she was just a c**kiemonster and no one really liked her. So yeah, Gemini love quite unconditionally.

And he had told me that to be in relationship, there needs to be an instant chemistry (kinda like Hollywood films). It doesn't work for him that well, as it often turns out that women aren't attracted to him that much, though he could manifest that love in them - something like "I thought I love you but I don't" or "I don't love you but I thought so because you made me think that". I hope that makes some sense...


The last part is very interesting... "He could manifest that love in them-something like 'I thought I love you but I dont'..." Are those what the girls said to him?


Pretty much. His ex-wife after divorce told him she didn't really love him. She thought so, but only because he made her think that. Girls usually tell him he's "too good". His mere presence influences people instantly, and he literally reads people - their intent and emotions. If he falls in love, for him it's not infantuation - it's love at first sight and all that... He usually goes for women who on the exterior are calm and almost saint-like, but turn out to be not so good. I told him so and he admitted I was right. I'm afraid he may be unable to break that pattern :/


That's very unfortunate...

I had a gem bf in the past. I think he was similar to your friend. He loved with all his heart but for some reason girls did not feel the same...

I was his 2nd gf and his 1st gf moved in and got engaged with another guy a week after they broke up... (obviously she didn't love him that much to be able to detach that fast. her new guy was a singer. he said that she was starstruck and just felt for that new guy like that...Ironically, his first gf came back to him 6 months later but he refused to take her back...)

When I was with him I didn't feel I was in love with him, but I did feel he might be the one because I never felt the kind of love before... It did hit me one day that I might not meet anyone like him after we broke up, that realization did make me feel very sad... I wish I didn't take him for granted.

I wonder if your friend's exes ever come to that realization later down the road?


It might be he came off as too "needy" - in fact he loved them with all his heart (he still does). I was with him for the last year as fwb - I care for him, but don't love him and we're really great friends now - helping each other with dealing with problems and emotions. Sadly, these girls moved on quickly, right after him finding their love. But I'm waiting for karma to do its job...
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He's lucky to have you in his life who sees his value

I can relate to the "needy" part because my ex wanted to be around me all the time. He lived with his first ex, and he wanted to move in with me after we just dated for a few months... It did cause more frictions when we were together all the time.

I didn't understand the way my ex loves, but now I feel I have a lot more respect and understanding for that, especially from discussions with my gem friend. My ex never explained to me the way he loves so it felt suffocating. Now that I am seeing a gemini love just an observer, a friend, I feel I am able to see the beauty of this kind of love... I now think it is amazing
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What is his placements?


I don't know his birthtime. This is what cafeastrology gives me by his birth date, year, place:


Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Gemini 20°53'
Moon Sagittarius 28°02'
Mercury Cancer 13°55'
Venus Gemini 1°25'
Mars Cancer 14°25'
Jupiter Aries 22°56'
Saturn Sagittarius 17°38' R
Uranus Sagittarius 24°54' R
Neptune Capricorn 7°04' R
Pluto Scorpio 7°30' R
Lilith Cancer 22°27'
Asc node Aries 8°47'


I didn't expect this, but it make sense

I don't know about other people with sun oppsite moon, but I can't be with someone who is seeing other people, it's just something very hurtful, I will never do it.


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What are your placements?

I don't think I am able to do it either. I am very possessive. That's why I was blown away.
It does make me wonder what love means. Sometimes I wonder if it is healthier that way--let the person do whatever makes him/her happy....
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Geminis in my exp if they want to be there for you they will tolerate a lot of butter before they have had enough.


This is so true.
In the past, I thought gemini is a player sign, but now I realized that once they are in love, they can be so devoted that it almost looks like they are devoted blindly (e.g. Even if everyone tells him/her the person is bad news, they will fight until the end of the world to be with that person and they'd be willing to turn their back to everyone else...family, friends, whoever is in the way...).
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Posted by Harukka

What is his placements?


I don't know his birthtime. This is what cafeastrology gives me by his birth date, year, place:


Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Gemini 20°53'
Moon Sagittarius 28°02'
Mercury Cancer 13°55'
Venus Gemini 1°25'
Mars Cancer 14°25'
Jupiter Aries 22°56'
Saturn Sagittarius 17°38' R
Uranus Sagittarius 24°54' R
Neptune Capricorn 7°04' R
Pluto Scorpio 7°30' R
Lilith Cancer 22°27'
Asc node Aries 8°47'


I think it may be Sag and Gem placements, I can relate to that open relationship thing and imo it's because of my Sag venus
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Yea, I wonder if his sag moon actaully prefers this kind of relationship.
Some sag guys I know seem to be drawn to girls who are emotionally unavailable :p
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Freedom of will & choice.


You mean they freely choose to do so? Have you been with a gemini before?


Yes the partner should freely choose to be committed because they want to, rather than exclusivity being forced upon them. I have not been with a Gemini.
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I see. I am just amazed that they give the other person so much freedom. But on the other hand, it makes sense-- ideally, the person should want to be with them exclusively not because they are forced to.
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Posted by Liriell
I have a Gemini best friend, male, who still loves madly his ex, after almost a year, even though it turned out she had been a red flag. And the way she ended that 2,5 year relationship had been purely cruel (via SMS). Somehow he still sees best in her, even when me and our mutual friends tell him that she was just a c**kiemonster and no one really liked her. So yeah, Gemini love quite unconditionally.

And he had told me that to be in relationship, there needs to be an instant chemistry (kinda like Hollywood films). It doesn't work for him that well, as it often turns out that women aren't attracted to him that much, though he could manifest that love in them - something like "I thought I love you but I don't" or "I don't love you but I thought so because you made me think that". I hope that makes some sense...


The last part is very interesting... "He could manifest that love in them-something like 'I thought I love you but I dont'..." Are those what the girls said to him?


Pretty much. His ex-wife after divorce told him she didn't really love him. She thought so, but only because he made her think that. Girls usually tell him he's "too good". His mere presence influences people instantly, and he literally reads people - their intent and emotions. If he falls in love, for him it's not infantuation - it's love at first sight and all that... He usually goes for women who on the exterior are calm and almost saint-like, but turn out to be not so good. I told him so and he admitted I was right. I'm afraid he may be unable to break that pattern :/
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That's very unfortunate...

I had a gem bf in the past. I think he was similar to your friend. He loved with all his heart but for some reason girls did not feel the same...

I was his 2nd gf and his 1st gf moved in and got engaged with another guy a week after they broke up... (obviously she didn't love him that much to be able to detach that fast. her new guy was a singer. he said that she was starstruck and just felt for that new guy like that...Ironically, his first gf came back to him 6 months later but he refused to take her back...)

When I was with him I didn't feel I was in love with him, but I did feel he might be the one because I never felt the kind of love before... It did hit me one day that I might not meet anyone like him after we broke up, that realization did make me feel very sad... I wish I didn't take him for granted.

I wonder if your friend's exes ever come to that realization later down the road?
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What is his placements?


I don't know his birthtime. This is what cafeastrology gives me by his birth date, year, place:


Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Gemini 20°53'
Moon Sagittarius 28°02'
Mercury Cancer 13°55'
Venus Gemini 1°25'
Mars Cancer 14°25'
Jupiter Aries 22°56'
Saturn Sagittarius 17°38' R
Uranus Sagittarius 24°54' R
Neptune Capricorn 7°04' R
Pluto Scorpio 7°30' R
Lilith Cancer 22°27'
Asc node Aries 8°47'
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we were hanging out with my man's friends, one of them is Gemini dominant.

and we were looking at some paintings that had a woman stabbed THROUGH the heart.

I thought omg this awful!!!

and he said basically in so many words...., "I know what it means, he found out she was cheating and he STABBED her."


XD


he's Taurus moon.

heehee.


he knows what's up. haha.


oh my goodness. you sure he doesn't have heavy scorp influence lol


might be an 8th houser. and yeah maybe scorpio rising.
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That makes sense
I just find gem people very tolerant and forgiving.
I am a scorp so yea, I def can see myself being that gal who stabs her bf (I remember picturing myself doing that in my head when I found out one of my exes was cheating on me... I wanted to kill him or cut his penis off... but I was too cowardly to make it happen, otherwise I'd probably be in prison now).
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we were hanging out with my man's friends, one of them is Gemini dominant.

and we were looking at some paintings that had a woman stabbed THROUGH the heart.

I thought omg this awful!!!

and he said basically in so many words...., "I know what it means, he found out she was cheating and he STABBED her."


XD


he's Taurus moon.

heehee.


he knows what's up. haha.


oh my goodness. you sure he doesn't have heavy scorp influence lol
Posted by Capri-sun
Freedom of will & choice.


You mean they freely choose to do so? Have you been with a gemini before?
Posted by Liriell
I have a Gemini best friend, male, who still loves madly his ex, after almost a year, even though it turned out she had been a red flag. And the way she ended that 2,5 year relationship had been purely cruel (via SMS). Somehow he still sees best in her, even when me and our mutual friends tell him that she was just a c**kiemonster and no one really liked her. So yeah, Gemini love quite unconditionally.

And he had told me that to be in relationship, there needs to be an instant chemistry (kinda like Hollywood films). It doesn't work for him that well, as it often turns out that women aren't attracted to him that much, though he could manifest that love in them - something like "I thought I love you but I don't" or "I don't love you but I thought so because you made me think that". I hope that makes some sense...


The last part is very interesting... "He could manifest that love in them-something like 'I thought I love you but I dont'..." Are those what the girls said to him?
BTW, my gem friend is often perceived as a playa (he slept with like 40 girls over the past 2 years) but he's actully emotionally committed to this gal Shea who doesn't want to be exclusive with him. I think they met a year ago and my gem friend recently decided that he only wanted to see her, even if she continues seeing other people. It just fascinates me.
Had a conversation about love and jealousy with my best guy friend, who is a gemini... My feeling is that as long as a gemini truly loves someone, he/she'd do whatever it takes to be with the person. They are more than willing to put aside any negative feelings (e.g. jealousy, hurt, pain, etc.) but focus on the good.

Can any of the geminis here relate?





it took me at least 5 years to get rid of mine. just ignore and keep him blocked on everything if you don't want to be stuck for llife.