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Oh Jesus, lol. 15 pages deep for a simply question? This thread clearly went left...



Exactly. I do not understand why people blew such a simple question out of portion on here
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Posted by whatisthisallabout
"There is no other way to say this: Please stop texting me. I cannot maintain this


Mean? Well, he/she did say "please"..... It's direct and to the point. I wouldn't say its mean.
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That is good to know. I am glad I didn't say anything mean back.
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I don't understand the purpose of this thread


I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.


I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.


If I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).


You said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.


You felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.


I don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.


In other words, you're only reading with the tone of the voice aka the emotional reading, hence you assumed me as "being better than others" part instead reading in the rational way. Is that correct?

You didn't like the tone of mine and suddenly felt judgement because after I pointed out.


You compare yourself to DJ and said you are better than him


Where do I say that I'm better than him? Where do I say I'm better than anyone else? Why would you think that error is a judgement even though it's not?

Clearly you're reading to deep of my part and perhaps I do understand why that guy you're talking to doesn't want to talk to you anymore
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In which now things shines from you of your miscommunication.
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When you consider something an error, it is your judgement. I am done talking to you because I think it is just as good as talking to a wall. Read your own post that you mentioend DJ.
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I don't understand the purpose of this thread


I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.


I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.


If I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).


You said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.


You felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.


I don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.


In other words, you're only reading with the tone of the voice aka the emotional reading, hence you assumed me as "being better than others" part instead reading in the rational way. Is that correct?

You didn't like the tone of mine and suddenly felt judgement because after I pointed out.
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You compare yourself to DJ and said you are better than him
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I don't understand the purpose of this thread


I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.


I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.


If I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).


You said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.


You felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.


I don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.


In other words, you're only reading with the tone of the voice aka the emotional reading, hence you assumed me as "being better than others" part instead reading in the rational way. Is that correct?

You didn't like the tone of mine and suddenly felt judgement because after I pointed out.
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Whether something is an *error* is a judgement. Whether you are better than DJ or not is a judgement. When you compare youself to others, it is a judgement.
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message is on point; and imo not mean. feels like he wanted to be very clear; nothing else.



Thank you! I appreciate that you read and answered my question
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I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.


I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.


If I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).


You said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.


You felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.
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I don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.
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I don't understand the purpose of this thread


I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.


And guess what? Many people text all day long just like many people post on here all day long. It is annoying that you talk as if you are better than others. Are you, really?


If that's so, then I'll be arrogant jerk on this website and I'll be like DJ, Terramine and other douchebags. But nah, I'm direct and straightforward of what I observed and noticed something of what you can't see (or pretending to be in denial).
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See? That's what I was talking about. You talk as if you are better than others. I don't see you being any better than DJ or the other exmaples. I don't see why you have the need to compare youself to them.
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I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.


I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.


If I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).
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You said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.
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I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.



were you making an assumption that he was interested ?

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I was not sure so that's why I tried to make small talks and tell him what I think. Are you asking a real question or are you being a retard too?
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I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.
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And guess what? Many people text all day long just like many people post on here all day long. It is annoying that you talk as if you are better than others. Are you, really?
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I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.


Why do you think I posted the message on here?


I gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?

But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.
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I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.
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I don't understand the purpose of this thread


I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?


Some people, yes.


Perhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.
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Why do you think I posted the message on here?
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I don't understand the purpose of this thread


I got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.



Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.

Who cares why. He wants them to stop.

He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.





Well, the main point was not why.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.


What did you say?




I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


Well, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.

But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.


Well, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.


Do you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?
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Some people, yes.
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You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.


I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


As of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.


I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.



That's not true for me, but those are your values.


Are you saying you don't want to hear from the girl you are interested in? That's bizzare.
I think he's just not interested.


I wasn't trying to open it up to a question of whether he's interested or not but just pointing out that you're assuming he shares your values and you might be able to move past it if you just broke free of that.
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I see. Yes, he and I probably don't share the same values. That's why when I got the message I thought it was mean but he probably just said it as is.
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The first time I signed up for dxp was becasue of a Leo sun Virgo venus.
He never wanted to commit. He later confessed to me that he was talking to 8 girls and he didn't want to put all his eggs in one basket.
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@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.


I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


As of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.


I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.



That's not true for me, but those are your values.
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Are you saying you don't want to hear from the girl you are interested in? That's bizzare.
I think he's just not interested.
cuz they have better things to do with their time
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@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.


I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


How many unanswered texts went by, how many polite, I'm busy's, did you receieve.

No I don't need answers. I said that as a point. This guy reached his end because you didnt listen to him trying to tell you to stop blowing up his phone. Lol

You tend to make threads like this about guys and texting and not understanding what the meaning or intent was behind them. You have a pattern, The Gemini, the Pisces etc. this issue is not them. It's you.

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He never texted me he was busy. He was still responding to my text during the day--the day before I got the "please stop texting me". I think you are making assumptions here.
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@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.


I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.


As of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.
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I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day. Before the last 2 texts, I think I texted him similar stuff, things I was doing, pictures, videos, etc., and asked him to send me his picture and things he liked. I am not asking why here because it is very clear he's just not interested. I totally understand that sometimes feelings are just not reciprocated and I can understand it can be annoying to get these texts when you are not into the girl. I get that. Therefore, I was only upset because I thought the last text from him was mean.