Posted by TheGreatSearcher
I kept on rejecting a girl from my class (who, while not atrocious, isn't as appealing character-wise) who likes me, however, I ended up kinda friendzoning her (primarily because I am chasing someone else) about a month ago. She didn't necessarily act desperate during all of this time, but there was some kind of chasing going on.



Interesting!
You said she didn't act desparate during all of this time, but I am curious if your rejcting her ended up fueling her fire? Or was she very persistent/consistent the whole time and was not influenced by your rejection?
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Posted by libragirl37
Welcome to 2016/2017. How we got to be this way, I'm not sure but it's a real problem


It's been a problem for at least a decade I would say... and the internet has only eccarebated it. When girls think they can send nude photos to guys and be sexual with whomever it's not only harmful, it's selfish and delusional. It needs to stop with girls because we have more control over our sexuality then guys and can say "this stops now"


So sex is a tool of power to you? Do you use sex as a weapon? Do you think men are inferior to us because they can't "control" themselves?

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Are you aware that feminism talks about bodily integrity and women's right to say NO to sexual advances?
Are you aware that femanism actually talks a lot about male-female power imbalance?
just like you are telling people to stop
why dont you wrory about your own as you suggested?
You are going back thousands of years to the cave men age to think that being a woman is all about treetrunking.
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Depends on how well you know the person and if you have guinue feelings. If you know each other well/relatively well, been friends for a while, etc. and have sex on the first date, no bigge. But go home with some random guy who you are not even sure if he has STDs--easy.
Animal instinct (I am freaking horny and he's cute/hot) vs. genuine emotional connections-- that's where I draw the line.


But hopefully you are mature enough to know that going home with a guy on the first night of meeting him is not about emotional connections.

And that emotional connections can still come after sex on the first night. It is stifling womens sexuality this perception. Some if not all women like to treetrunk too.


Women who like to treetrunk can still choose legit partners. Just like people who like to eat do not have to eat fast food or junk food. They can still take time to make healthy meals without supressing their hunger. They choose what goes inside their body. It is by choice. treetrunking strangers is just gross. and exactly because it is not about emotional connection, it is gross. Catching/spreading STDs from/to strangers is a real concern. Plus, it is no different than animals that just treetrunk each other cuz their body tells them to. I do not understand people who just treetrunk for the sake of treetrunking--only to take care of your horniness without any meaning to it. It doesn't matter if it's a guy or a girl who just treetrunks random people cuz he/she is horny--equally gross. You can do whatever you want and I am sure there are plenty of people out there who just want to treetrunk. Just find someone who shares the same view on sex as you. You are entiteld to your view on sex. I am entitled to mine. Each to their own. I am choosy when it comes to food and sex--it has nothing to do with power or whatever games. Just like people who eat healthy would think its gorss to eat at McDonalds. But it does not mean people who eat at McDonads do not enjoy their meal. I decide what is good for me and I decide what goes in my body. I hope you have the maturity to accept that not everyone shall think like you.


You think sex without feelings is gross? Like gross for real? Not just something you as a person are not interested in?

I do like your double standards though... I should accept that not everybody thinks like me, while it is perfectly okay for you to be so judgemental 😁
I have no problem with anyone who does not want sex without feelings. I am objektive to judging people and especially women who do, to call them easy so they feel bad for enjoying themselves. And also promoting realizing, that you can't use sex to get a man to love you.


Btw, I do not need to use sex to get a man to love me. I have no problem getting a boy friend. I just take my time to observe them. Just like I look at nutritional labels before I buy food, I *study* the man to decide if he is worth to date. Does he have good valutes? How does he intereact with his friends and strangers? Is he consistent? Does he call when he said he's gonna call etc etc. I just got out of a relationship 5 months ago. I am taking my time to observe my new love interests. I've got plenty of dates so don't worry about me.

YOU are pathetic that you tried to use sex to get a man to love you but FAILED. Who is the one who has NEVER had a relationship? LMAO. I have boys sent me love letters and flowers since I was 12. I have plenty of boys and men who love me without me treetrunking them.

You are easy so embrace it. I have more respect for a sex worker who takes her job seriously and is truly proud of being one than someone who's easy but is too ashamed to admit it. There are plenty of women out there who love wild sex but are NOT easy. I have no problem with women exploring their sexuality, but it is gross you spread your legs for strangers who you don't even know if they are worth of your time or gonna give you stds. You sell yourself short. so yes, I do judge you.


And there we go: a woman telling another woman she is easy. How sad. You will ofcours be blocked as your words are useless to me.


Yeah. Tons of years of feminism have been thrown out of the window I suppose humans cannot agree to each other on too many levels A linguist might add perhaps that it is a limitation of language only and that's why we're only blocked in one mindset.



Acknowleding/exploring one's sexuality is NOT equal to casul sex.
Being a feminist does NOT equl to "I am gonna treetrunk anything that moves because some guys do that too".
Being a feminist does NOT equal to I am gonna freaking copy ANYTHING guys do with No discretion.
Have some self respect.
In fact, the real feminists I know in life they do NOT just spread their legs cuz some guy buy them a drink.
They are the ones in control of when and who will get laid. They do NOT need the guy to buy or woo them for sex. Use your brain please.


I hardly think you have feminist friends... I also think you are very narrow minded and I will leave you in your own company.
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How about I do? I know feminsits of my age, and I have both male and female professors who are feminsts. They do NOT talk about feminism as spreading your legs. It's about equality and equal rights.
Stop spreading the rumor that feminism is all about treetrunking like dogs.
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Posted by whatisthisallabout
Depends on how well you know the person and if you have guinue feelings. If you know each other well/relatively well, been friends for a while, etc. and have sex on the first date, no bigge. But go home with some random guy who you are not even sure if he has STDs--easy.
Animal instinct (I am freaking horny and he's cute/hot) vs. genuine emotional connections-- that's where I draw the line.


But hopefully you are mature enough to know that going home with a guy on the first night of meeting him is not about emotional connections.

And that emotional connections can still come after sex on the first night. It is stifling womens sexuality this perception. Some if not all women like to treetrunk too.


Women who like to treetrunk can still choose legit partners. Just like people who like to eat do not have to eat fast food or junk food. They can still take time to make healthy meals without supressing their hunger. They choose what goes inside their body. It is by choice. treetrunking strangers is just gross. and exactly because it is not about emotional connection, it is gross. Catching/spreading STDs from/to strangers is a real concern. Plus, it is no different than animals that just treetrunk each other cuz their body tells them to. I do not understand people who just treetrunk for the sake of treetrunking--only to take care of your horniness without any meaning to it. It doesn't matter if it's a guy or a girl who just treetrunks random people cuz he/she is horny--equally gross. You can do whatever you want and I am sure there are plenty of people out there who just want to treetrunk. Just find someone who shares the same view on sex as you. You are entiteld to your view on sex. I am entitled to mine. Each to their own. I am choosy when it comes to food and sex--it has nothing to do with power or whatever games. Just like people who eat healthy would think its gorss to eat at McDonalds. But it does not mean people who eat at McDonads do not enjoy their meal. I decide what is good for me and I decide what goes in my body. I hope you have the maturity to accept that not everyone shall think like you.


You think sex without feelings is gross? Like gross for real? Not just something you as a person are not interested in?

I do like your double standards though... I should accept that not everybody thinks like me, while it is perfectly okay for you to be so judgemental 😁
I have no problem with anyone who does not want sex without feelings. I am objektive to judging people and especially women who do, to call them easy so they feel bad for enjoying themselves. And also promoting realizing, that you can't use sex to get a man to love you.


Btw, I do not need to use sex to get a man to love me. I have no problem getting a boy friend. I just take my time to observe them. Just like I look at nutritional labels before I buy food, I *study* the man to decide if he is worth to date. Does he have good valutes? How does he intereact with his friends and strangers? Is he consistent? Does he call when he said he's gonna call etc etc. I just got out of a relationship 5 months ago. I am taking my time to observe my new love interests. I've got plenty of dates so don't worry about me.

YOU are pathetic that you tried to use sex to get a man to love you but FAILED. Who is the one who has NEVER had a relationship? LMAO. I have boys sent me love letters and flowers since I was 12. I have plenty of boys and men who love me without me treetrunking them.

You are easy so embrace it. I have more respect for a sex worker who takes her job seriously and is truly proud of being one than someone who's easy but is too ashamed to admit it. There are plenty of women out there who love wild sex but are NOT easy. I have no problem with women exploring their sexuality, but it is gross you spread your legs for strangers who you don't even know if they are worth of your time or gonna give you stds. You sell yourself short. so yes, I do judge you.


And there we go: a woman telling another woman she is easy. How sad. You will ofcours be blocked as your words are useless to me.


Yeah. Tons of years of feminism have been thrown out of the window I suppose humans cannot agree to each other on too many levels A linguist might add perhaps that it is a limitation of language only and that's why we're only blocked in one mindset.

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Acknowleding/exploring one's sexuality is NOT equal to casul sex.
Being a feminist does NOT equl to "I am gonna treetrunk anything that moves because some guys do that too".
Being a feminist does NOT equal to I am gonna freaking copy ANYTHING guys do with No discretion.
Have some self respect.
In fact, the real feminists I know in life they do NOT just spread their legs cuz some guy buy them a drink.
They are the ones in control of when and who will get laid. They do NOT need the guy to buy or woo them for sex. Use your brain please.
the ones I know are not bad at all.
Posted by sagsagsag
I think it's defense mechanism against rejection..

A likes B, B likes A: they meet halfway

A likes B, B doesnt like A: B pulls away and vice versa.

It has nothing to do with one showing interest. If showing interest becomes a turn off to B, then B is not ready for a relationship to begin with.



that's true. i don't think showing interest itself should be a turn off.
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Posted by firebunny
That's what I assume too but why do girls lose interest anyway? Interesting topic, btw.


Really? That's what you think too?

I think it can be many other things, such as, he is mean to her cat.


Ya then I assume he is a psycho!


Would you call him out on that if you see a guy being mean to your cat or his own cat in front of you?


I would cry.


I see. I was trying to lecture my friend not to be mean to his cat. It totally broke my heart. Serena is the cat.



We must kill him.
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It really really bothers me and I have been thinking about it all day. Maybe we should put him down and save the cat
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That's what I assume too but why do girls lose interest anyway? Interesting topic, btw.


Really? That's what you think too?

I think it can be many other things, such as, he is mean to her cat.


Ya then I assume he is a psycho!


Would you call him out on that if you see a guy being mean to your cat or his own cat in front of you?


I would cry.


I see. I was trying to lecture my friend not to be mean to his cat. It totally broke my heart. Serena is the cat.



UGGGHHH... BE NICE TO CATS! I will yell at her if I were you. @_@
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haha ok. giving him a taste of his own medicine it is.
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Posted by firebunny
That's what I assume too but why do girls lose interest anyway? Interesting topic, btw.


Really? That's what you think too?

I think it can be many other things, such as, he is mean to her cat.


Ya then I assume he is a psycho!


Would you call him out on that if you see a guy being mean to your cat or his own cat in front of you?


I would cry.
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I see. I was trying to lecture my friend not to be mean to his cat. It totally broke my heart. Serena is the cat.

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Posted by Ophiuchus
cause the less ur into a girl the more she wants you

this is relationships 101


but why?
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I wonder the same thing
Posted by Ophiuchus
cause the less ur into a girl the more she wants you

this is relationships 101

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Posted by libralotus
Same


Maybe I have too much Libra in me haha
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I think that's it!
Posted by Vageenka
It makes no sense.

I mean, I was a chubby kid, but I lost so much weight at like 12 years old. And I don't even like food anymore.


This cracks me up
I guess just like in real life, there are always people we like/dislike immediately. It is the same on here. Some user may remind you of a parent, a sibling, a neighbor, a co-worker, a friend, etc. and you react to that user similarly.
Posted by Ophiuchus
cause the less ur into a girl the more she wants you

this is relationships 101


Has this been true based on your own dating experience???
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Posted by PeanutButterandElly
It sounds like that dude was saying it as a defense mechanism. Almost like he wanted to be corrected and assured the feeling was mutual or told it was a reason aside from that.


This is genuis! Haven't thought about that. I think it is possible.
Just like when a beautiful girl asking a guy, is it because I am not beautiful so you don't like me? waiting for the guy to say, no no no you are the most beautiful girl I have met. something like that?


Yeah pretty much.

Water mercs do it a lot. Mercury in Gemini/Virgo do to a lesser extent as well.
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Spot on! the guy has mercuy in Pisces. Impressed!!
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"I just feel somethings off to be honest" lolll.


What is so funny?


She's not interested, but the way she said it was pretty amusing. Nice girl who doesn't want to hurt anybodies feelings.
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