my college bf was an aqua. the WORST relationship EVER. wasted 3 years!!!
Posted by Sheever
It's not even clear in physics which one is actually the correct formalism :causality or retro causality. Guys be rational please.


hahaha, we try
Posted by greylatern
A real physic will never tell you obsolutes for 2 reasons. 1. To know the future is to be trapped by it. Some people rebel because they feel like it is then not in thier control. The flip side is if they accept it and pick the wrong thing to focus on. They twist it to thier perception and misunderstand. You must be truely open to all possibilities, keep a positive frame of mind, and still trust your intuition.

2. People and events are always changing. That reading maybe true at that time but if some one who is aware interacts with you or the other person they can change things. So if you want that thing to actually happen you will need to counter that influance. If I told you who the love of your life was, you might run at them crazy and spill the beans and scare them away instead of getting to know them the right way.



Thank you so much for the thoughtful reply. I can relate to both points you brought up. Regarding the 1st point, I think I have rebelled in the past to prove a point. The 2nd point that you brought up--I totally am guilty for that as well. I have had scared people away because a psychic told me the person liked me and we'd have a long relationship together.
I was very in love with him and it was one of the best relationships I have ever had. I was happy at least 90% of the time. I have never dated anyone that much younger than me till I met him. He brought me a lot of happiness for the time being. He was very romantic and was a lot of fun. I don't regret it.
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Posted by whatisthisallabout
My ex bf was 9 years younger. We were very compatible in most aspects except that he had no goals and ambitions in life so I broke up with him. He graduated from college last year, but he told me he just wanted to be a Uber driver or he'd ask his dad to find him an internship somewhere. I was very disappointed that he was too lazy to even try to find a job that he could apply the knowledge/skills that he learned from school. So, my tip for younger guys who want to date older women is that regardless of how amazing you two get along, you need to have some ambition and be inspiring to her.


Oh yes yes yes! That can be a big deal breaker. I may be young but I am driven and future-minded. We are both studying right now, and while our paths might seem different, they're very similar. Physical health and mental health are two sides of the same coin that is life. Healthy mind, healthy body. My SO has already helped me greatly with easing my mind of various worries, as well as other people in my life. My partner is the real deal.

It's a shame your guy felt so out of touch, but he could have just needed a bit of prodding in the right direction. Not everyone is in tune with what they ultimately want, it can take a bit of searching.

Do you think you might've reacted a bit prematurely? On the overall side of things, do you think he could've had long-term potential?
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If you are driven and future-minded, then I think you won't have the same problem. My ex just lives at the moment. He is the youngest child in the family so he is quite sheltered by his family and always gets what he wants. He just wants to have an easy life and have a girl by his side. I personally vaule hard work, but he is the kind of person who'd only do enough to get by. He used to be a good balancing factor for me since I am very uptight and a workholic. However, over time, his view of life just scared me. I want and need stability in life and I feel if he and I ended up being married, we wouldn't have much stability in life. He likes finer things in life and always wants the newest toys (e.g. the lastest iphone), but he doesn't want to work for it. I was scared that if we were married, we'd fight over money all the time. I just didn't see us being happy longterm. I mean, he wouldn't be happy if he couldn't get all the coolest new stuff to be with me. I wouldn't be happy seeing him spend all that money while not showing me that he could afford the life style ...
Sag father, Cancer mother. night and day basically. my mom said that my dad was into her because she always has big tits (not surprising for a cancer). they are still married but they don't get along.
My ex bf was 9 years younger. We were very compatible in most aspects except that he had no goals and ambitions in life so I broke up with him. He graduated from college last year, but he told me he just wanted to be a Uber driver or he'd ask his dad to find him an internship somewhere. I was very disappointed that he was too lazy to even try to find a job that he could apply the knowledge/skills that he learned from school. So, my tip for younger guys who want to date older women is that regardless of how amazing you two get along, you need to have some ambition and be inspiring to her.
omg. dxp is back!!
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Also here's some hypocrisy for you -

"Truly confident women wouldn't compare themselves to someone"

" you look probably size 6-8, if not bigger.
I am a size 2. Should I call you fat then?"

While you came in here to judge what youve deemed "judgmental people"

Can't fix stupid


I was trying to put you in your place when I made that comment. But you are right-- I was being judgemental of you being judgemental of others so I was being judgemental too.
See? No body is perfect

Wel nobody puts me in my place, ok ? ?♥️
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Yes, Ma'am
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Also here's some hypocrisy for you -

"Truly confident women wouldn't compare themselves to someone"

" you look probably size 6-8, if not bigger.
I am a size 2. Should I call you fat then?"

While you came in here to judge what youve deemed "judgmental people"

Can't fix stupid


I was trying to put you in your place when I made that comment. But you are right-- I was being judgemental of you being judgemental of others so I was being judgemental too.
See? No body is perfect
"But in reality she's fat because she's lazy and eats like livestock. " => if this statement is not judgemental, tell me what is judgemental.
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You're really dismissed
Go choke on dick with your "confident size 2" ass




Look, who is offended now? Ms. Judgemental.

Not at all offended

Just feel compelled to call out hypocrites who talk out of their ass such as yourself

If you read the thread you would realize this isn't about fat shaming as much as it is self awareness - but that's also going to be a hard concept for you to grasp since you apparently have none

Best of luck

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Interesting, I commented in the first place to call out hypocracy, too.
You are not perfect, either, but you feel entitled to complaint about fat people.
Obviously, you don't have any self awareness that you are not perfect, either
I am sure there are people out there eating healtheir and living healthier life than you are, too. Do you have that self awareness?
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You're really dismissed
Go choke on dick with your "confident size 2" ass




Look, who is offended now? Ms. Judgemental.
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This is a mean post. Are you skinny yourself? Do you look like a fitness model?
If not, what's up with the fat-shaming?


You're an idiot


And I have seen your pictures and guess what, you look probably size 6-8, if not bigger.
I am a size 2. Should I call you fat then?

I'm a size 4 actually but was a 6-8 at my largest and yes that is too big for someone my size which is why I've stated numerous times I have PCOS which caused the weight gain and I did something about it

I didn't chug venti frappucinos and say "durrr I don't know why I can't lose weight"

Again, you're an idiot
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Yea, ironically, average girls are the most judgemental. Truly confident women wouldn't compare themselves to someone who they think is worse off and give themselves a pat on the back and say, yea, at least I am better than her. Anyways, you are pathetic.

No you're pathetic ? You're the one who mentioned size and compared yourself to me!!! Ya treetrunking retard

omg I can't

I haven't mentioned what size anyone wears
I said she is obese and unhealthy and wonders why but eats like butter and I find it hard to listen to because I want to scream YOU EAT LIKE butter



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Well, that's her body and her health. She can eat whatever she wants. Why does it bother you then? It's not like she shoves unhealthy food down your throat.
Just like you don't need to live by my standard, she doesn't need to live by your standard, either
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Posted by whatisthisallabout
This is a mean post. Are you skinny yourself? Do you look like a fitness model?
If not, what's up with the fat-shaming?


You're an idiot


And I have seen your pictures and guess what, you look probably size 6-8, if not bigger.
I am a size 2. Should I call you fat then?

I'm a size 4 actually but was a 6-8 at my largest and yes that is too big for someone my size which is why I've stated numerous times I have PCOS which caused the weight gain and I did something about it

I didn't chug venti frappucinos and say "durrr I don't know why I can't lose weight"

Again, you're an idiot
treetrunk off my thread
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Yea, ironically, average girls are the most judgemental. Truly confident women wouldn't compare themselves to someone who they think is worse off and give themselves a pat on the back and say, yea, at least I am better than her. Anyways, you are pathetic.
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Posted by whatisthisallabout
This is a mean post. Are you skinny yourself? Do you look like a fitness model?
If not, what's up with the fat-shaming?


You're an idiot
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And I have seen your pictures and guess what, you look probably size 6-8, if not bigger.
I am a size 2. Should I call you fat then?
I don't get why people need to put other people down while they themselves are not perfect, either.