Posted by saggurl88
Sagittarius F and Virgo M
I can’t stand being told what to do and he’s already told me that he can help me with life in general since he knows so much about lots of things.
He told me I need to let him help with stuff.
I don’t want to. I’m too independent and not some codependent broad.
So I let it go in one ear and out the other and he feels butt hurt.
I’m not sure what to do to remedy this.
I don’t even know what he wants to try and help with, but the answer will still be no 🤷♀️
He can help me plan a vacation, how bout dat. 💅🏽😏
Posted by IxionPosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by IxionPosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by IxionPosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by IxionPosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by IxionPosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by IxionPosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by ellllePosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by PurplePassion38Posted by Black-MambaIt was January. You were here at this time. The part of the conversation missing was us discussing the pros of you being invited by everyone. The only part you received were the cons, and positive thing that were said about you were intentionally left out of the screenshots. In the end we went with the consensus. The only time we did not go with the consensus was with dazed, and oh what a mistake that was.
Why are you all talking about me when I was deleted from DXP for 6 months last year
I re-joined Late JULY
why am i even part of the discussion
I feel like you’re a fair person and honest but I don’t think you understand why CC is so upset
She did not choose to participate, did not ask to join and was unknowingly judged, labeled and “decided on” by people she thought she was cool with.
It’s just degrading to a person, especially a sensitive soul. I’m not sure how anyone on here would feel if they found out their characters were put into question and deliberated on without permission or even knowledge of the situation
Spot on ^^^
CC and I have had our moments openly on the boards and neither of us had to humiliate the other.
This was just wrong.
Yeah, no one gets to "vote" on you as a person and determine whether or not you're "worthy" of joining something you never even asked to join in the first place ~
Oh my gosh can you imagine if there was like this social experiment and like people who you're acquaintances with sat around and discussed your traits, political views, etc and then determined whether you're "good enough" or "acceptable" enough to "join" them is like flat out lame asf tbqh
And I am pretty sure if anyone was critiqued like that by acquaintances and had to read their brutally honest thoughts, and not even all of them, with you having no idea and unable to defend yourself, you would be #mortified
Or most people would be, anyway
The situation you are referring to is commonplace.
Tried out for anything? Then you have been voted on? Been chosen or chose someone for accolades? You have been voted on and voted on some one. Gone to a job interview, had it? Same dynamic... How about shot your shot with a crush? For the crush they have a vote...and you voted for your crush.
Its more or less like that.
There is no shame to be had here, save that feelings were hurt...the conversation was necessary, the conversation was had.
Was the conversation really necessary and did she choose to be "voted on" or have her personal views dissected by acquaintances or did you guys make that choice for her?
I have no problem accepting people making mistakes, we ALL do
But no need to be stubborn and hard headed. If you hurt someone's feelings and she didn't deserve it, just apologize and move on
Most people would have NOT liked to be in her position
I will let you know then what Most people would say about this situation.
No need to let me know. I wasn't the one being degraded. lol! Don't gotta explain yourselves to me but please let's not pretend to be innocent because CC did not sign up for a wrestling class or the soccer team to put herself up for judgement and "examination," and even they get judged on their athletic abilities and not their potential personal beliefs.
Then I won't let you know. And she personally wasn't degraded, she was neither treated with contempt nor with disrespect. We did no character assassination, whatsoever no matter how folks are trying to characterize it. It seems you are seeking a statement of remorse from me, I have none to offer for having the conversation in question.
Her views (as everyone else who was recruited/invited) were judged upon their merits with respect to the facts as we understand them and as a result then and only then was she found wanting for the purposes of the group.
Considering that the context of our conversation had much to do with the nature of her commentary and not her character, and not for the purposes of propagating gossip or petty beefs I will not be offering an apology for the conversation occurring.
If you don't think having a holier than thou mindset and believing you and whoever have the right to judge and dissect someone's potential personal opinions and character that you do not even 100% factually know of since this person is only an acquaintance then I don't know what to say.
That ego is huge, that's really all I can say.
Take responsibility. No one cares. We all make mistakes.
I already have for my part in that discussion. In your position I would demonstrate my non-care, LF.
I have given my view and why regardless of what you perceive to be my ego massive or otherwise.
I am telling you explicitly I don't see it your way and your stance on this particular matter does not engender a mind change.
Your stance is noted though and I will review, if at a later date I think and feel differently I will take it up with her directly.
Not looking to change your mind. Just responding to your thoughts/views on the situation. I cannot not respond because I personally just do not feel like that was the right or the coolest thing to do and I honestly cannot understand the justification!
But thank you for reviewing my stance x
Tis what I do ole homie.
Lol I can tell! I remember talking with you. We have so many of the same house placements yet such different views on things. Like I am sooooo jealous in relationships and you are not. What kind of 8th House Sun and Mercury are you?!
Mercifully a calm one lol.click to expand