Understanding Mercury in Virgo using Astrology

Cap Sun gives me intuition. Virgo ascendant gives me attention to detail. Pisces moon gives me intuition and the ability to read people on a deeper level. 3rd house Pluto makes me very investigative on a communications basis. Mercury in Sagittarius gives me a gift of gab and wit.

All together, they give me the ability to read people very clearly. It's very easy for me to talk up a storm and seem like I'm revealing a lot while not saying much of any worth.
It also makes me easily manipulate people (though I avoid that as many of my aspect and placements make for me being absolutely pissed off with dishonesty). But, I can immerse someone in conversation and emotional ease (grand trine in water mars, moon and Pluto also helps me set the appropriate emotional undercurrent or reactions) in order to direct them to providing the information I need for whichever goal/reason.

Well this week I've spent time with and talking to a Virgo ex close friend that moved to Africa who is in town visiting

Our connection is still so tight, hadn't seen her in 5 years

I lost a few Virgo friends over last 5 years but i actually like this one

She's complicated and selfish but loyal

Is it mercury retrograde?

For me its pretty specific. Probably unachievable for most, which is why I will either settle for something thats just "ok" or simply die alone.

I don't need a woman in my life for any reason. I don't need someone to cook for me, clean, or help support me financially. I can do that just fine on my own. I don't even need someone to have sex with. I live perfectly fine without it. Don't get me wrong, I would love a woman who can cook, clean, and is sexually active with me, but bottom line I dont need it. So if a woman is coming to me thinking she has me in her grasps because she enjoys good sex with me, she will instantly get the chopping block. Also if she thinks stroking my ego while manipulating my kind loving nature in the background will be good for her, my Scorpio moon, Virgo mercury, and Cancer venus will destroy her mentally. If she doesn't need me for any reason, or anything at all I will feel like she is perfectly fine without me, and leave her. If she doesnt have her butter together at all, is mentally unstable, narcissistic, overly egotistical, or weak in general I will also leave her. If she is shallow and has no depth I will get bored and leave. I could keep going on, but I wont. I fully realize I expect too much from a human when it comes to love and commitment.

I guess the perfect woman for me would be one who is deep and has lots of emotions, but also lots of self control and maturity. She needs to have flaws and obstacles in her life, but also a drive and willpower to keep overcoming them no matter what the situation is. A woman who can feel deeply, but who is also strong and brave is extremely attractive to me. She also has to make me feel like I matter. No every day, or in every word, but those little beautiful moments that make you feel loved and create good memories. I'm all about the good moments and being shown that im loved and appreciated. Not too much that it seems fake, and not too little that it isn't there. I like to be shown that all the times I go out of my way to make her feel safe and loved is truly respected and appreciated. That kind of butter will give any woman a few get out of jail free cards in my heart. She also has to be pretty consistent and stable. The last thing I want is a wild card in my life. I know that seems a bit too specific, and hard to find in a human. All the friends and relatives I keep close to me are like that though, and I expect nothing less from a woman I keep for the long term.

Not sure if i posted on this but

Mars and Mercury have a connection in the universe

Mars rules Aries and Mercury rules Virgo

But those two planets also rule Scorpio(2nd ruler besides Pluto) and Gemini

Also why you see lots of Scorpio and Geminis

Totally incompatible because Gemini is basically the masculine Mercury while Virgo is the Feminine Mercury

In my experience...

Best boss:
Leo sun at 0° (so she is Cancer/Leo cusp)
Taurus moon (could be Aries/Taurus cusp)
Cancer Mercury
Virgo venus
Gem mars

Worst boss:
Leo sun
Pisces moon
Leo Mercury
Libra venus
Sag mars

The worst boss was a bully and she lied a lot. I also saw her make several of my coworkers cry. She was also super socially awkward. HR had to get involved. When I left my job, I promised my coworkers that in my resignation letter I would give them a voice and I wrote in my resignation letter what I had witnessed and sent the copy to my boss and HR. The letter was not written in a negative or destructive way, but to help them learn and grow from the experience.