Understanding Mercury in Virgo using Astrology

A few things:
1. Many describe Aquarius moon as being detached and humanitarian, but I am what I think / feel and a lot of times when I think I'm being intellectual I'm just rambling on and on about how I feel. In fact, the kind of people that I'm repelled by tend to be people who ask me a lot of "whys" from a logical standpoint and try to tear down what they see as logical inconsistencies. I also don't see a broader, humanitarian spirit in me at all. I don't think I have a very good sense of public / global consciousness at all, and I'm much more attached to people than I am to humanity. When I help someone, it's 1. To make me feel better and reflect my own nature. 2. To not feel guilty by doing the right thing. I think I have a lot more sympathy than "empathy". I also don't think I have a lot of tolerance for very weird / unconventional people and things, unless they're unusual in a sense that I can relate to in my own values.

2. Something I've noticed is that pretty much all mid-to-late degree Aries, Taureans, Geminis, Cancers, and early degree Leos born in 1996 have Venus in Gemini. Venus stayed for an usually long time in Gemini in 1996, according to Cafe Astrology I'd have to be born a Leo or Virgo in 1996 to have Venus in Cancer. I was born prematurely, had I been born on the scheduled date I'd likely be an early 2nd decan Virgo. It sucks to have Venus in Gemini because it adds an element of instability to Taurus or Cancer Sun. And I admit a few years ago when I was 18-19 I did go through a very flirty and unsettled phase. I've had a late start with relationships so I didn't really know what I wanted, I chatted to lots of women online and went out with some IRL. I was battling with depression and insecurities, unhappiness in a foreign country / with life in general, and the thirst for novelty which led me to idealize foreign women and countries I had absolutely no idea about / was in no realistic position to visit. To this day, I feel guilty for the way I behaved towards my exes, due to how indecisive and unsettled I was. The guilt remains, but my need for security and being looked after is growing stronger. I still bear scars. I am afraid my Venus and Mars in Gemini will return to wreak havoc in the future.

3. I also don't identify much with Sagittarius rising. Maybe it's because chart rulers in Capricorn? I mean, the first impression I give people isn't exactly a very shy or reserved one. However, it's anything but headstrong and adventurous.


4. I tend to have a worrying and obsessive personality. Emotionally I'm easily swayed to the point where someone's getting emotional with me, I put down everything I was planning to do and I dive into the other person's emotions and try to comfort them. I'm not good at getting stuff done, if it's someone I at least somewhat care about and they're upset, I feel like I can't be at peace until whatever lies between them and I is resolved. I've gotten tougher, I used to cry a lot when I was a kid and a teenager even if someone said a few harsh words at me, now I try to be a bit more stoic at times, but deep down it still hurts. I think I can be a bit too forgiving, which has led me to be easily deceived by sob stories, costing me time and money. I'm still learning how to be more assertive.


5. What do you think my marriage will be like? What kind of person will I be compatible with, and how will I likely behave? Will I have a lasting and enduring marriage for the rest of my life? (it would be nice if you could give the placements for someone who could be ideal for me)


6. What else do you think stands out in my chart, and how do you think they'll impact my life? (I know many will mention Saturn in 4th, and without telling too much yet, I do come from a rough background with divorce and emotional abuse / role reversal in family dynamics)

7. What aspects stand out?


OK, here's my chart:
Born on July 3rd, 1996 in Chongqing, China. (Chinese-Canadian, Vancouver)

Time of Birth-6:10 PM

Sun-11.45 degrees Cancer (VII)
Moon-13.55 degrees Aquarius (II)
Mercury-2.18 degrees Cancer (VII)
Venus-11.48 degrees Gemini (VI)
Mars-14.42 degrees Gemini (VI)
Jupiter-12.54 degrees Capricorn (I) R
Saturn-7.12 degrees Aries (IV)
Uranus-3.05 degrees Aquarius (II) R
Neptune-26.46 degrees Capricorn (II) R
Pluto-0.42 degrees Sagittarius (XII) R

ASC: 18.03 degrees Sagittarius
DSC: 18.03 degrees Gemini
2nd House: 20.22 degrees Capricorn
3rd House: 26.05 degrees Aquarius
4th House: 0.52 degrees Aries
5th House: 0.40 degrees Taurus
6th House: 25.34 degrees Taurus
8th House: 20.22 degrees Cancer
9th House: 26.05 degrees Leo
10th House (Midheaven): 0.52 degrees Libra
11th House: 0.40 degrees Scorpio
12th House: 25.34 degrees Scorpio

Lilith: 1.05 degrees Leo (VIII)
North Node: 12.43 degrees Libra (Midheaven) (R)
South Node: 12.43 degrees Aries

Chiron-9.50 degrees Libra (Midheaven)
Ceres-3.47 degrees Sagittarius (R) (12th house)
Pallas-21.47 degrees Libra (10th house)
Juno-12.33 degrees Aries (4th house)
Vesta-17.33 degrees Scorpio (11th house)
Fortune-20.07 degrees Cancer (7th house)
Vertex-5.31 degrees Leo (8th house)

Ive been interested from this girl I met at work for a while now, she has a lot of tattoos and thats all I seem to know about her right now, and I want to know what her love " style " is and a deeper look into her personality, she seems to have trust issues because she's not very open sometimes well talk and some days she'll ignore me and work, what vibe does she give off to you and what does her chart say about her interests, does she have a lot of people interested in her or do I have a shot ?

Sun trine Ascendant, orb -8° 15'
Moon bi-quintile Mercury, orb 0° 57'
Sun bi-quintile Moon, orb 1° 27'
Sun conjunction Mercury, orb 0° 3'
Sun conjunction Venus, orb 5° 59'
Sun square Uranus, orb -2° 59'
Sun square Neptune, orb 5° 36'
Moon bi-quintile Mercury, orb 0° 57'
Moon inconjunction Venus, orb 1° 26'
Moon trine Saturn, orb 3° 2'
Moon sextile Uranus, orb -1° 33'
Moon square Mars, orb -6° 39'
Pluto conjunction Moon, orb 5° 05'
Pluto square Ascendant, orb 7° 42'
Sun inconjunction Pluto, orb 0° 33'
Mercury conjunction Venus, orb 6° 29'
Mercury square Uranus, orb -3° 29'
Mercury square Neptune, orb 5° 06'
Mercury inconjunction Pluto, orb 0° 03'
Mercury trine Ascendant, orb -7° 45'
Venus trine Mars, orb 5° 13'
Venus square Uranus, orb 2° 59'
Venus square Jupiter, orb -7° 18'
Venus conjunction Midheaven, orb 9° 31'
Mars inconjunction Jupiter, orb 2° 05'
Mars sesqui-quadrate Neptune, orb -1° 49'
Mars trine Midheaven, orb -4° 18'
Jupiter sextile Saturn, orb -5° 25'
Neptune inconjunction Ascendant, orb 2° 38'

Sun- Taurus 9th house
Moon- Sagittarius 4th house
Mercury- Taurus 9th house
Venus- Taurus 9th house
Mars- Virgo 1st house
Jupiter- Aquarius 6th house
Saturn- Aries 8th house
Uranus- Aquarius 6th house
Neptune- Capricorn 6th house
Pluto- Sagittarius 4th house
North Node-Virgo 2nd house
Ascendant- Leo
Lilith- Virgo 1st house
MC-Taurus

Asking for advice from a forum is new to me, but I know that some of you do give good advice, so I'm giving it a try.

For the past 6 months I have been seeing this Scorpio guy on and off. There have been periods of silence (for about a month), but we see each other quite often and I can't stay away. He has done things that I do not find acceptable, but I can feel the most intense connection ever. He has opened up to me a lot and confessed that I know him more than most people in his life. Though, he is still very indecisive, it seems. I know that he is a very deep person and probably overthinks everything, but I can't do anything about it, because well... you can't really push a Scorpio. So I am stuck in his hot and cold behaviour. Right now I am just trying not to do anything myself and wait for him to come around more.

What made me post is the fact that, well, Scorpios are supposed to know when they want someone. I know that mine got scared s**tless when we became closer, but come on, it has been 6 months. Should I let it go? As a Cancer, I would probably die if I had to do it, because I am attached, but maybe it would be for the best (not dying, just letting go).

I will attach our birth charts. As long as I see, we are a good match, but feel free to have your say in this. I really appreciate your answers!

Mine:
Sun Cancer
Moon Libra
Mercury Gemini
Venus Cancer
Mars Virgo
Asc Virgo
Jupiter: Sagittarius
Saturn: Pisces

His:
Sun: Scorpio
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Libra
Venus: Scorpio
Mars: Leo
Jupiter: Scorpio
Saturn: Pisces

I’m posting this in the Virgo section, because this guy I’m interested in is very earthy, with Mercury, Mars, and Venus in Virgo (Leo Sun, his only fire).

He is gorgeous. I’m typically confident, independent, and have no problem pursuing what/who I’m interested in. (I’m a Virgo/Libra cusp sun, with Mars/Venus in Leo). I would never label myself as hot or sexy, I’m cute, simple, and naturally youthful. Either I’m confused or he’s just not interested in the same way, I can’t tell. This seems to be pretty typical from what I’ve read. Hence why I’m here seeking your insight.

Stupid thing is, after 2 months, I still have not met this guy in person. We’ve grown up in the same city, have mutual friends, and met on a dating app (cringe, judge away). We’ve been texting sporadically, every few days to once a week. So one question I have is, if he wasn’t all that interested, wouldn’t he just stop responding? Or would he still respond to be nice, but not ever come out and say that it’s not going to happen?

I’ve read that with earth/virgos, they operate very slowly and to stick with it...He knows I find him attractive, want to get to know him better, and I’m trying to respect his space and time and let things progress at his own pace. I’ve invited him out a couple times, but if he’s not working, he’s also in a band and back in school, so time is limited. I know he’s been single for a while now, but had a couple of relationships some years ago. Despite my infatuation, I do have a busy life, I work and have a daughter, which he’s aware of.

Is this timeline typical/normal/super slow such that I should get the hint and give up by now?
Is there a magic trick (advice) on ways to stand out and peak his interest via text?
What more can I do here? Talk to me Virgos and people who have experience with Virgos! Thanks.

What does it mean when you mess up with someone who is Virgo dominant pretty bad, but they randomly will text you back. Last weekend he and I got in a big fight because he thinks I purposefully wasted his time and lied to him. In reality there was just a lot of miscommunication and strange technology glitches (really convienent it happened during mercury retrograde and i happen to be gemini/3rd house dominant). I spent all week apologizing to him and the only time he would reply was to essentially keep going about how wrong I was to him. But any time I tried to offer any type of solution, which included us not seeing each other again, he wouldn’t reply. He refused to see me or even talk to me about it on the phone. So then I texted him essentially telling him that I thought it was funny that he could reply when it comes to criticizing my behavior when I apologize over and over again but when I ask for solutions or offer some so we can move on in any way he wants to remain quiet and ignore me. He replied to me “I’m driving right now” and the proceeded to ignore me. He is really blunt when it comes to everything which is why I didn’t understand why he couldn’t just straight up say to me “I don’t want to see you anymore after this incident”. So me being the impatient gemini dom I am, told him that i felt like since he was ignoring all my efforts to talk about anything except how i treetrunked up with him i was just going to take that as him wanting to end things. I guess my question is do virgo dom’s ever forgive? especially if they have a leo sun and pisces moon? he was someone i really did vibe with and liked a lot as a person, i would like to be able to talk things over a beer with him one day because he is someone i would eventually want to end things on a good note with.

i have dated a virgo with a leo moon before and he would always pop back in randomly after giving me the silent treatment after an arguement but it had to be on his time, so i have some hope but would like to know other virgo like reactions! thank you!