I thought Aquas were all about space and privacy?!

Background: We met in November and we've only been on 3 dates but we are in contact constantly. He's 10 years older than I and has a child from a previous marriage. He's been heartbroken three times and has been cheated on, stalked, and verbally and physically abused by his exes. He also claimed to have trust issues.
Now, he is head over heels for me. He constantly tells me how lucky he is to have me, where have I been all his life, never wants to lose me, I will crack him open , nothing is off limits etc. He has a very busy schedule all 7 days but always makes himself available to me. We just celebrated his birthday together and he said it was the best birthday he's ever had. Now he wants to go on vacation together. We are more than friends but have not been intimate.

I think he is a truly wonderful human being and we have a unusual connection. He seems to thing we are "kindred spirits". I will also say that he is not at all my type physically but I constantly think of him and we often text each other at the same time or finish each other's sentences.. He makes me feel special and happy single day and I really care about him. The thing is, I'm starting to freak out. I love all this attention and affection but his behavior doesn't seem very Aquarius like. I'm afraid he's the type to fall in and out of love too fast.. "If it seems too good to be true, it probably is" is what I'm thinking right now. I really can't figure out how any woman can mistreat such an amazing man. He's really quite a catch.. but is there a catch here? I keep thinking how can he open up to me so soon if he has trust issues? I'm very private btw and not the clingy type. Am I missing smth here? Am I over thinking things? We have plans for Valentine's day and I don't know what to expect.

Forgot to mention that our communication is top notch and he is very outspoken, which is a plus for me because I hate to ask a ton of personal questions and with him I never almost have to, because he tells me what he's thinking every moment of the day. But he's also very outspoken with everyone else apparently and he's recently told everyone and their mom about me. Yesterday he told me he can't wait for me to meet his friends and his daughter... yikes. Is this typical for Aqua men?

Yes for an aqua's best friend. Ive had a few friends that never were physical but were very intimate.

He seems emotionally manipulative... or maybe it's just me.

Not typical at all, imo. Looks like he has strong Piscean/Neptunian influence.

Beware, aquas come on stong in the beginning.

Wow. My Aqua is just like that. But it's his first relationship, and he DOES have a Neptunian/Piscean type chart.

But in your case, I'm afraid I would be suspicious of his toxic dating history. Who's the common element...? HIM.

Posted by truecap
Beware, aquas come on stong in the beginning.

Yup just wait until he runs out of gas then he's gonna loot away into a very deep cave to recharge. That's why people on here complain why we "suddenly disappear"

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Posted by truecap
Beware, aquas come on stong in the beginning.

Yup just wait until he runs out of gas then he's gonna loot away into a very deep cave to recharge. That's why people on here complain why we "suddenly disappear"

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Would it be a good idea to disappear first, and GIVE him that break first?

Uh-oh.. That doesn't sound great. So what am I looking at, another few weeks/ months?
Would it help at all if I tell him to take it easy a bit?

Other info:
Moon / Sagittarius
Mercury / Capricorn
Venus / Aquarius
Mars / Cancer

He was married to a controlling abusive Jaehova Witness and was most recently in a relationship with a cheating unstable pill head. It seems that he attracts women that he thinks he can help better themselves, but I don't have any issues of the sort.. Will he get bored once he realizes I don't really any fixing?

* I don't need any fixing

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Posted by truecap
Beware, aquas come on stong in the beginning.

Yup just wait until he runs out of gas then he's gonna loot away into a very deep cave to recharge. That's why people on here complain why we "suddenly disappear"

Would it be a good idea to disappear first, and GIVE him that break first?

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Good question!

well....he could just be completely infactuated by you which is nice and all but it needs to be harnessed and reeled in....that kind of loving is irresponsible and if u want a relationship out of him u need to set boundaries and take it slow because he has had other relationships that were long term enough for his partners to abuse him lol.....funny how its always the abusing jehovas witnesses or the cheating unstable pill heads you gotta watch out for!....what u need to watch out for is this aqua in love....

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
well....he could just be completely infactuated by you which is nice and all but it needs to be harnessed and reeled in....that kind of loving is irresponsible and if u want a relationship out of him u need to set boundaries and take it slow because he has had other relationships that were long term enough for his partners to abuse him lol.....funny how its always the abusing jehovas witnesses or the cheating unstable pill heads you gotta watch out for!....what u need to watch out for is this aqua in love....

If he attracts those types, what does that say about her? Hmmmmmmm.

well she is a gemini......that in its self is an atrocity 😆

My aqua started off like this..very loving moved to proposing really quickly..wants to inroduce me..buy me a ring and all
it was all cute in the beginning
it took him 3 years and then he started being more aloof cuz of his business. But later on it wasnt just his business thats taking him away it became pretty much anything can take him away.
Just be cautious cuz they tend to love u soooo much in the beginning then things change.

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
well....he could just be completely infactuated by you which is nice and all but it needs to be harnessed and reeled in....that kind of loving is irresponsible and if u want a relationship out of him u need to set boundaries and take it slow because he has had other relationships that were long term enough for his partners to abuse him lol.....funny how its always the abusing jehovas witnesses or the cheating unstable pill heads you gotta watch out for!....what u need to watch out for is this aqua in love....

If he attracts those types, what does that say about her? Hmmmmmmm.

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hahaha I see where you're going with this but you better stop right there! lol
I'm definitely not perfect but I can attest to this: I have no major problems, addictions, habits, trauma etc .. I have high morals and values and I have never hit anyone (except for when someone says something 'thigh slapping funny' I tend to slap people's thigh/knees lol) If anything my problem might be that I'm too picky.. Idk if it's because I have very high standards or maybe I'm just used to being single and every time it's about to get serious I find things to pick at and run away.. :/ Which is probably why I'm opened this thread lol..

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
well....he could just be completely infactuated by you which is nice and all but it needs to be harnessed and reeled in....that kind of loving is irresponsible and if u want a relationship out of him u need to set boundaries and take it slow because he has had other relationships that were long term enough for his partners to abuse him lol.....funny how its always the abusing jehovas witnesses or the cheating unstable pill heads you gotta watch out for!....what u need to watch out for is this aqua in love....

Infatuation... I think you picked the right word. Today he dedicated two R&B songs to me that are so sappy it made me laugh.. Maybe because I'm not into R&B?

Posted by Nouran20
My aqua started off like this..very loving moved to proposing really quickly..wants to inroduce me..buy me a ring and all
it was all cute in the beginning
it took him 3 years and then he started being more aloof cuz of his business. But later on it wasnt just his business thats taking him away it became pretty much anything can take him away.
Just be cautious cuz they tend to love u soooo much in the beginning then things change.

Sigh... this scares me because it sounds so familiar. He's ALREADY started with that mess. Went from "wow.. I'm going to marry you!" to "we should get married in Maui.. Or Paris.. what would you like better?" lol
And he's talking about starting his own business too..
ahhh what to do what to do? Do I have a chance at happiness or should I run for the hills? I'm taking a poll now lol

Posted by Gemsandsugar
Uh-oh.. That doesn't sound great. So what am I looking at, another few weeks/ months?
Would it help at all if I tell him to take it easy a bit?

Other info:
Moon / Sagittarius
Mercury / Capricorn
Venus / Aquarius
Mars / Cancer

He was married to a controlling abusive Jaehova Witness and was most recently in a relationship with a cheating unstable pill head. It seems that he attracts women that he thinks he can help better themselves, but I don't have any issues of the sort.. Will he get bored once he realizes I don't really any fixing?

Yup sag moon he's going to be really independent at one point that's how us aqua sun saggie moon people are. That's the fire he has on you right now. Well if you keep the flaming burning who knows. The part about his exes would be easier to see if you could get his descendant, or Venus and moon houses.

Maybe he likes her because she's different than the others? —

Just relax and enjoy the ride. Try not to read too much into things and see what happens.

Thanks guys!
truecap, I'm taking your advice; trying to enjoy it and see what happens. We saw each other over the weekend and had a long chat. I feel a lot better now that I told him to slow things down a bit and he understands and apologized for making me feel pressured. So no meeting fam & friends for now, just enjoying each other's company 🙂

Also, I don't know his rising sign unfortunately; I don't know what time he was born and neither does he (His birth certificate was destroyed early in childhood) but for Moon and Venus signs I got: Moon 3rd houre and Venus 9th house..

If anyone wants to chime in I welcome more comments 🙂

He might can get a new birth certificate. Try the courthouse - Office of Vital Statistics or whatever department there that works with them. Doesn't cost very much.

same here, i have a similar situation, and i was pretty much feeling the same way. I feel overwhelmed not because of him but rather my internal conflict...The aqua guy im getting to know slowly, seems great already as it is. Intelligent, fun, awesome conversations, caring, and very empathetic, always wanting to help me. Reading between the lines...he lives up to every article on the web "signs that he is really into you". I simply haven't got accustomed to the absence of douche-bag men.

Posted by candi3bb
same here, i have a similar situation, and i was pretty much feeling the same way. I feel overwhelmed not because of him but rather my internal conflict...The aqua guy im getting to know slowly, seems great already as it is. Intelligent, fun, awesome conversations, caring, and very empathetic, always wanting to help me. Reading between the lines...he lives up to every article on the web "signs that he is really into you". I simply haven't got accustomed to the absence of douche-bag men.

This Im afraid is every man's battle with women nowadays....

@notyouraverageaquarius: such a vicious cycle, bad guys date nice girls, these girls in turn become bad girls that date nice men..those nice men then become bad men.

Agree with all the above...
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*****UPDATE*****
He offered me his Facebook password today!!!!!! :O I had asked him about his relationship with his ex wife now and while talking about it he said "I'll show u our texts next time I see you.. or, you want my fb password? You can read our inbox or whatever you need to relax and see that you have nothing to worry about." I refused it of course and told him there's no need because I trust him. I did kind of want to be nosey but I don't think it's right especially since we aren't a couple.. Plus I felt like I would have to offer him mine in return.. no way! But it just made me happy to hear him offering it. Makes me feel like he values me more than his freedom right now.. bwahahah lol It's a strange feeling but I could get used to this 😄

That is amazing!!!! Wow!

Wow mars cancer, venus aqua, how does that work for you?



Happy vday.

**UPDATE**

Ladies and gents.. this weekend my Aqua did the most spontaneous thing. HE MOVED! because he knew I didn't like the man cave he was living in and mentioned how I'm not comofrtable hanging out there. So I went to help him fold clothes and pack yesterday. But he only kept 2 trashbags full of clothing and decided to donate like 6 others.. I asked why he was getting rid of all his clothes and he said that he was ready to start fresh and go shopping with me next weekend. He wants me to pick out his clothes he said because he wants to be more stylish like me, and he wants me to feel good about being seen next to him in public..lol I told him I didn't have any complaints about his wardrobe. He said he's throwing in the towel and admitting that he loves me and is willing to do anything to keep me..
What did I do to get here- i dont know! And why do I feel like I need some reassurance from an astrologer's perspective, that this is going to work out and he's not just totally crazy 🙂