- Astrology Houses
- Chart Interpretation
- Chinese Horoscopes
- Moon Signs
- Astrology & Crime
- Astrology How-To
- Relationships & Astrology
- Vedic Astrology
- Zodiac Cusps
- Fashion & Beauty
- Food & Drink
- Science & Technology
- The Arts
- Personality Types
- The Man Cave
- The Powder Room
|this question goes out to all aries men and women |
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?
recently, a loved one got angry with me over something very small, he became really frustrated, completely shut off and didn't want to communicate. the next day he was totally fine, he knew it over nothing but didn't want to admit that , so it's done and over with. in the moment, i just acted calm and left him alone. i'd like to know what's the best way to deal with an aries temper next time, what do you love and prefer ?
|A calm reminder to either not bother an unworthy topic or come back with a calm demeanor to talk.|
Just as easily as my fuse can be lit, it can be put out. My ex would walk into the next room when I explode over ANYTHING, count 20 seconds, walk back in and ask me if I am still mad. LMAO! I would say, 'why would I be mad? What for?' Hahaha I get a kick out of it everytime he points it out, makes me feel so silly to lose my composure that way.
|DO NOT ADD FUEL TO OUR FIRE, if you don't want to be patient with what will occur.|
We need to act on the emotion because obviously someone/something stupid or a total douchebag has done us wrong and we are LIVID.
Some people like to push buttons further, okay well, better duck soon, or close your ears.
Some people get all bent out of shape when they see us mad, and I am thinking, "oh really? you didn't want to soothe or help the matter, but you want to think bad of us now after the fact?"
Then we make peace with the event, and sometimes against reason, like say when someone had made a jackass argument and acted all high and mighty, when we know they will do something just as stupid in the future.
I guess when we make peace that is a good thing about us, because otherwise we would be too ready to level the playing field with all the disrespectful folk in this world.
I like it when people let me get it out of my system. Cuz then its over, I go, phew, I needed that rant
i like our way of doing things, it gets things out and done with and doesn't make a messy month, year, whatever. Would rather get it out now and move on!
|I don't get mad easily. Irritated, yes, while driving or donkeyes who try to take advantage of a speedy check-out when they have more than 10 items. I'm trying to make things right again. You know, support justice in this world and be the voice of the downtrodden. Sit back and wait until the storm blows over is the best thing to do. |
But if it's something real then you need to respond but make sense. Our bark tends to be worse than our bite. So don't be afraid to confuse us with logic. We may not appreciate it at the moment when we're knee-deep in emotion, but I tend to think about it later and will come hat in hand, ready for an apology.
|Yeah we are rather chill folk, or at least I feel I am. I tend to take a step back usually. I have a lot of Sagittarius influences which might be why my temper can flare up more than most or not, but regardless yeah I can't see us getting mad often or over nothing at all. I tend to get passionate more than anything, anger I save for something important like people pushing others around etc.|
|I've never seen an Aries angry for long... they always seem to get over it real quickly and back to their jovial, popular selves.|
|I'm usually polite and will just tell you that you're pissing me off calmly, and that you should stop. If I think that that won't work, I go quiet in hopes that you'll run out of argument with no input from me. And when I go quiet, that means I'm an inch away from upping the ante. I could cause a huge scene and embarrass the hell out of you as the next stage, but usually it means I'm holding back from swinging, and am plotting on you at the same time. Luckily I only got physical once after getting sorta chewed out by a good friend. A couple weeks after the incident I just stood in front of him then clocked him (A Cancer/Leo) in the side of the jaw, hard enough for him to feel it, but not cause any damage or knockout, and it didn't cause us to fight any further. We haven't argued like that since, so it's all good.|
|I can get frustrated and angry when things get slow, not going my way... I can punch a table to release my frustration and anger, it's just throwing out the bad emotion. Aries has to dispose of an anger, a thought, or anything, never thinking of overloading him/herself with something not important or negative to him.|
|In doing a solo project I blow off steam; I paint or write. Normally people don't want to talk with you if you can be obviously busy.|
If someone makes me angry I have to walk away and talk a few breathes. Sometimes I need a few weeks, months....years, but I do get over things eventually. I don't know why I have held things. I know it is not typical Aries, but I suppose I get back to happy quick, even if I am still thinking about it.
|it's no big deal. they only blow up and get mad for like 2 seconds. then it's over and they forget why they were pissed.|
Posted by beachkisses
You did the best thing. Walk away
|Yea, I just be quiet. In the case of my dad, I can't walk away if he's talking/yelling at me- that's disrespectful. So, instead I keep quiet until he's done. I respond by distancing myself for a bit. Then we're back cool again. We get along quite well actually, in comparison to other astro combos. Just can't be around each other for too long at one time. Must do it in intervals. |
Aries will work your nerves, but for some reason I still seem to love them to little bitty pieces.
|^^^Speaking of which, a particular Virgo friend of mine has the social finesse to know how to not piss me off, despite him being 6'5" weighing ~250 lbs, me only being 5'11" 190-200 lbs. Tried to make himself useful as well, and that's what I like best about Virgs. Cool as hell, when they aren't bugging out about small stuff at least. My Scorpio brother gets annoyed by him rather easily though, which is odd that he does and I don't. I guess it's my Taurus Rising.|
Posted by ScorpSuperior
Sounds like me and my brother dead on, except he argues with me more than I him usually, and I'm the one who just shuts up after I state my point, but that's prob. his Sag. Rising.
Posted by seksiPosted by zenalchemyPosted by beachkisses
You can contact the admins directly by clicking here if there is a matter that needs more immediate attention.