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Treplev
5/16/2012 1:54:20 PM | IP

27 years old male

So, here's my story:
I'm a Pisces male, and about a month ago, i just met this absolutely wonderful Aries girl. We clicked instantly, she was very into me, and in a typical Aries manner she told me right up front that she's interested. She told me that i was only the second guy to stir up such a reaction in her, and that she found this fascinating.

So, we started conversing on IM, phone, sending an awful lot of texts to each other, and everything was going swell. Until i got it in my Piscean head, that things are moving too fast, that is, and getting scared that such a wonderful thing could end too soon, i started testing her. Trying to see how she'd react if i talked about other guys with her, not returning her compliments all the time, "jokingly" musing on the lack of compatibility between our signs, and assuming that we won't work out. Idiotic things like that, that at that moment, seemed ok to me. I mean, "i gotta be sure", don't i?...

Well, obviously these kinds of things started wearing her out, especially since we were actually talking for only about two-three weeks. And she started backing off too. And told me she doesn't like to be tested, and made a scene once. And from then on, it went down hill. Which, in turn, scared the crap out of me, and i stared panicking, and getting in all sorts of dumb fights, and so on. Until a few days ago, when she told me that she doesn't think it's working out anymore, or worth it, for that matter, and that we should get a break, at least, to think things over.

That freaked me out big time, so, in the morning, i texted her, saying she's an awful person, and made me fall in love with her, only to dump me. Some really crazy butter, that I didn't even believe. That pissed her off big time, and then said that she doesn't even want to speak to me anymore. I did appologise, i did explain, but it was no use. So, i professed my love for her again, i told her that i hope we'll get another chance sometime, and didn't say anything else.

And i, of course, am miserable right now, because i really love this girl, and before i started freaking out, she was really almost perfect for me in every sense. And i for her, because she told me that. So i'm not ready to leave it like that. I want this girl back, and i'm willing to fight for her attention again. But i do know quite a lot about Aries, to know that constantly pursuing won't solve anything.
So what do you think the chances are, based on what i just said?
bkbella86
5/16/2012 5:07:09 PM | IP

27 years old female from BK, NY  

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0

It's a shame you played games with her. I just don't understand people who play games with people who don't want to play and are upfront and honest, go play with other manipulators and game players.
ReallyNiceAriesPerson
5/16/2012 5:26:10 PM | IP
ReallyNiceAriesPerson



thrill seeking dare devil who loves to l

Posted by bkbella86
It's a shame you played games with her. I just don't understand people who play games with people who don't want to play and are upfront and honest, go play with other manipulators and game players.



This. Maybe try a Gemini next time?
Treplev
5/16/2012 5:32:46 PM | IP

27 years old male

Well, i obviously learned that lesson. It's probably because other girls didn't react so badly at these kinds of "games". They seemed pretty innocent to me, i mean. They weren't meant as tests, or the like. Just "feeling her out", without asking things upfront, and well.. ruining the "mystery"
ReallyNiceAriesPerson
5/16/2012 5:42:23 PM | IP
ReallyNiceAriesPerson



thrill seeking dare devil who loves to l

Posted by Treplev
Well, i obviously learned that lesson. It's probably because other girls didn't react so badly at these kinds of "games". They seemed pretty innocent to me, i mean. They weren't meant as tests, or the like. Just "feeling her out", without asking things upfront, and well.. ruining the "mystery"



Oh dear, I feel weird just reading this...."games".. "feeling her out"....ick.

If we are into you we are into you. We don't kinda act like we sorta might like you a bit, kinda.


Just keep it real Treplev. I do hope things work out for you, whatever happens.

bkbella86
5/16/2012 6:08:42 PM | IP

27 years old female from BK, NY  

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Posted by Treplev
Well, i obviously learned that lesson. It's probably because other girls didn't react so badly at these kinds of "games". They seemed pretty innocent to me, i mean. They weren't meant as tests, or the like. Just "feeling her out", without asking things upfront, and well.. ruining the "mystery"



Oh dear, I feel weird just reading this...."games".. "feeling her out"....ick.

If we are into you we are into you. We don't kinda act like we sorta might like you a bit, kinda.


Just keep it real Treplev. I do hope things work out for you, whatever happens.


+1

We don't play bs games were in or out. When were out you will be wondering Wth happened to the person who liked you so much and that's because you took it for granted. If given another chance I hope you do the right thing.
Treplev
5/16/2012 6:46:20 PM | IP

27 years old male

Posted by bkbella86
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Posted by Treplev
Well, i obviously learned that lesson. It's probably because other girls didn't react so badly at these kinds of "games". They seemed pretty innocent to me, i mean. They weren't meant as tests, or the like. Just "feeling her out", without asking things upfront, and well.. ruining the "mystery"



Oh dear, I feel weird just reading this...."games".. "feeling her out"....ick.

If we are into you we are into you. We don't kinda act like we sorta might like you a bit, kinda.


Just keep it real Treplev. I do hope things work out for you, whatever happens.


+1

We don't play bs games were in or out. When were out you will be wondering Wth happened to the person who liked you so much and that's because you took it for granted. If given another chance I hope you do the right thing.



So, what i'm actually getting from all you're saying, is that she's probably been completely put off by my "game-playing". And i kind of figured that out myself too, because... well, she told me. Yeah, i know it wasn't the greatest thing to do, but i had some trust issues from past relationships, and i just wanted to be really sure about it, before diving right in. Because, when i do dive in, i do it completely, and i've made that mistake before, with people that "seemed" to be very interested, only for them to change their minds, and the like.

What i was actually asking, of course, is how can i proceed to actually get in touch with her again, without ruining any slim chance i may still have? Ok, i made a mistake, i'm aware of it, it was mostly because of insecurity on my part. And i'd like another chance at it, because other than this "little thing", we were absolutely great for each other. And i don't know how to get about it. And this is where i need your insight, as people, who, up to some point (as i have clearly been proven) think quite a lot like her.
bkbella86
5/16/2012 6:49:02 PM | IP

27 years old female from BK, NY  

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0

Posted by bluemoon9043834
Posted by bkbella86
It's a shame you played games with her. I just don't understand people who play games with people who don't want to play and are upfront and honest, go play with other manipulators and game players.




Yea them ! LOL
bkbella86
5/16/2012 7:08:20 PM | IP

27 years old female from BK, NY  

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0

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bkbella86
5/16/2012 7:09:37 PM | IP

27 years old female from BK, NY  

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0

It really depends has she been hurt before? For me though its really hard for me to like someone again after I have detached my feelings. Actually I have never gone back to any of my exes except one and he didnt hurt me so it was easy to give it another try. The second time around he did and now he would like another shot and as bad as I would like to give it a third try I can't seem to let go of what happened ( he's a Pisces too btw. I would do what you just did in this message, lay it all out ( the truth) if she has any feelings left for you then I think it will work if not then you may have to chalk this one up to a lesson learned. I do think Pisces and Aries can be an amazing match though lots of chemistry, passion, understanding, romance I could go on. Although I have been hurt by a few Pisces I still think its a great match minus Pisces games and deceit.
bkbella86
5/16/2012 7:16:45 PM | IP

27 years old female from BK, NY  

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0

Posted by bluemoon9043834


lmfao!


LMAO look at those smiles
Treplev
5/16/2012 8:46:11 PM | IP

27 years old male

Posted by bkbella86
It really depends has she been hurt before? For me though its really hard for me to like someone again after I have detached my feelings. Actually I have never gone back to any of my exes except one and he didnt hurt me so it was easy to give it another try. The second time around he did and now he would like another shot and as bad as I would like to give it a third try I can't seem to let go of what happened ( he's a Pisces too btw. I would do what you just did in this message, lay it all out ( the truth) if she has any feelings left for you then I think it will work if not then you may have to chalk this one up to a lesson learned. I do think Pisces and Aries can be an amazing match though lots of chemistry, passion, understanding, romance I could go on. Although I have been hurt by a few Pisces I still think its a great match minus Pisces games and deceit.



Yeah, she was hurt before too. Pretty badly, as well, by a fellow Aries, too. And she told me that it was that particular bad relationship, that made her think twice about me. But then, when she was angry, she went as far as to say that she doesn't think she could love anyone as much as she loved him, or get hurt by anyone as much. Well, he was her first real relationship, so that kind of explains it, though.

As for the telling the truth part, i always did that. I mean, aside from the two or three conversations that could have been called "game-playing", most of the time i was very honest, and i went to great lengths to explain all my reasoning for doing all that, and assuring her i intended no disrespect with it. She seemed to understand it too. On a rational level only, i guess. Because subconsciously, once the line has been crossed, she started drifting off, and i felt it. She even told me that she absolutely hates herself for drifting off, because she really liked me very much, but couldn't help herself, and actually tried not to do that. But, as it turned out, the mixed feelings got the better of her, in the end.

So, it does seem a bit redundant to try and explain it all again, seeing that she has already acknowledged it.
And i know that all the signs say that i should probably let this one go, and "chalk it up as a lesson learned", but it's such a waste, 'cause i really didn't feel such a strong connection with a woman for quite a long time. And the thing that really bugs me to b
Treplev
5/16/2012 8:47:59 PM | IP

27 years old male

*yes, you damned text limiter! i know i'm writing too much

And the thing that really bugs me to bits, is that she said she felt the same for me. And we quarreled over some really stupid things, that had nothing to do with our feelings for each other. They were only past baggage residues.

Oh, and bkbella, you do seem to think quite a lot like her, with that unability to let go of what happened. I also found a very special connection with Aries girls, in the past. And that's one of the reasons, i was confused when she acted so weirdly over such arguably small matters, because it didn't happen before.
paries
5/16/2012 8:53:19 PM | IP
paries

Posted by bkbella86
I would do what you just did in this message, lay it all out ( the truth) if she has any feelings left for you then I think it will work if not then you may have to chalk this one up to a lesson learned.


I agree with the earlier comments that those kinds of games and testing would piss me off. But this ^^ might work. Be honest and explain that yes - you made a mistake because you were insecure. As a side note, if you told me after only a month that you were falling in love, warning bells would be ringing in my head. Way too soon.
Treplev
5/16/2012 9:12:34 PM | IP

27 years old male

Posted by paries
Posted by bkbella86
I would do what you just did in this message, lay it all out ( the truth) if she has any feelings left for you then I think it will work if not then you may have to chalk this one up to a lesson learned.


I agree with the earlier comments that those kinds of games and testing would piss me off. But this ^^ might work. Be honest and explain that yes - you made a mistake because you were insecure. As a side note, if you told me after only a month that you were falling in love, warning bells would be ringing in my head. Way too soon.


Well, i didn't exactly said the "l" word out loud. I just told her that i have feelings for her, feelings i haven't had for quite a while, that she's dear to me, and that she comes very close to my idea of "the perfect match". And yes, although i felt such things from way earlier in our small relationship, i didn't tell them to her, until the last week, when she was starting to get distant. I did it because i feared that i've been too mysterious, myself, about this, and because i wanted to reassure her that i really was for real, when it came to her.

 

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