| I have been involved with a Cancer male for over 5 months now (I'm a Pisces).. it's been a rollercoaster, but we haven't called it quits. I've known of lies/excuses he has told.. I admit to being manipulative at times to get my way.. I want to drop all this and have approached him (by email) to have a discussion to "clear the air".. no judgement, just want to get a better understanding of one another, so we can either embrace one another for who we are, or part ways peacefully. Do you think he will be ok with opening up to one another, or will it be too much for him? I can play with the best of them, but I really care for this man.. I would like a chance for us to be able to be open with one another without fear of rejection. |
Approaching a Cancer male to a truce..
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42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
| I am intuitive too.. early on he lied to me and when I approached him about it, he wouldn't admit it.. he got really defensive, so I backed off. We have both been guilty.. so I'm not laying blame. My hope is that all this time later.. and neither one of us has run off.. that we can trust one another enough to be open with one another without fear of rejection. |
female from the fire Moon
July 11th, 2nd Decan Cancer
| Tell him you want to start over. |
42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
Thank you so much for your responses  Here's our charts: So you can see he has a lot of Cancer in his chart. How long should I wait before I ask him again, this time by telephone or in person... simply asking if he would like to start over? I want to give him some time to process it.. |
female from the fire Moon
July 11th, 2nd Decan Cancer
| I would say do it in person, maybe arrange a dinner date. |
male
| I am a cancer with venus in cancer, with that many cancer placements this guy is going to be sensitive as treetrunk. You have moon in aries, so I am guessing you come on strong and straightforward. Cancers get hurt most by the people closest to them because they have no defence mechanism against them. With this guy you will probably have to build up his confidence in your relationship a lot first. Tell him that whatever happens you will always point out his mistakes in private and gently and in return he should be honest about his feelings and emotions with you. I am fairly certain all this manipulation nonsense will disappear immediately and he will feel invigorated. You are an arian moon you should know more than anyone else how to make a man feel like a real man. This is the confidence he needs to get out of this situation. Once he has it he will make you the happiest woman ever, he will cause himself pain to give you something beautiful. This is the true nature of cancer. All this doesn't mean you have to walk on eggshells around him, just be private in what you say, gentle and firm. he will love it. It's not what you say but how you say it! Hope this helps. |
42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
| It helps a ton.. thank you so much! I can be blunt and straight forward, but at times I hide my feelings too.. There are times he will shut down on me, and I don't know what to do.., but we find our way back. It's frustrating, but he means so much to me.. I can't bare the thought of life without him. |
male
Cuddle him, be gentle and be understanding above all. His emotions are not his weakness but the source of the great strength of his heart. He is not less of a man because he is sensitive, something to remember. The cancerian is driven by his big heart which gives him a power of will like none other in the Zodiac. You will be happy with him, do your best to make him feel strong. If he still doesn't understand, then it's definitely his loss, after all you are a great lady yourself for trying so hard for him  |
42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
Thanks Incandescentcancer!  He is a Cancer/Leo cusp with a Leo ascendent, so he can hide behind the lion when he is hurt, and that bothers me.. I would want him to be able to share with me what's wrong, especially if I was the cause. I would never think of him less of a man for sharing how he feels.. I'm a Pisces, so having feelings/emotions is something I know very well. lol |
male
| If you want to go down the manipulation rout, the best would be how you can create a scheme to draw him out step by step like a game. All the leonine facade is BS, totally ignore that. With that much cancer in his chart you can totally guess what he iliek on the inside. Sit back and play the game, have fun chasing him down. Don't be worried at all, you have him! |
42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
| I did that for awhile.. but that's not what I want to do. The rollercoaster effect isn't fun, so this is the only way I can think of to become more stable and grow into something wonderful.. I know it's there, but he has to take my hand and trust me. |
male
Then use the alternative I suggested, if that doesn't work then god alone knows what cancers are made of!  |
42 years old female from Ohio United States
Pisces - Feb 28
| I gotta stay positive and true as much as I can.. it's hard, because I'm really putting myself out there so that he can allow himself to feel safe enough to do the same... that is, if he wants to. I can't imagine that he has sat on this rollercoaster ride too and not feel anything for me. lol |
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