Cancer man and games?

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7/21/2010 11:01:20 AM | More
VirgoVixxxen

So, please tell me what is the difference between the "push/pull" and the pull back (as in he is not interested)? Is there a difference? I hope I didn't confuse anyone. Does the push/pull indicate that he could be interested but is not sure? If he tries to keep in contact with you when you leave, is that a good sign?
7/21/2010 11:03:31 AM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Sorry, meant to say a bit more. What if he does like you but is not sure of your feelings for him? Will that then cause him to hide his feelings and do the disappearing/pull back thing? The push/pull thing. You guys really are confusing.
7/21/2010 11:43:46 AM | More
Cancer1986LeoCusp



Question seems to be a little general to me. Anyway, speaking from my experience yes push/pull means that he is interested but not sure...

If he is not sure about your feelings towards him he will probe you a lot...during simple covos...He may not even want something but he will ask you for that stuff...be giving and if he is a typical cancer he will double return it..


JUST BE YOURSELF/SINCERE/SUPPORTIVE DO NOT BEND A LOT. No need for confusion if he loves you gonna know about it.
7/21/2010 12:49:37 PM | More
Cancer1986LeoCusp



i mean being selfless and supportive
7/21/2010 12:55:06 PM | More
Cancershorti27

female from Brooklyn

Fun Loving caring Person

If a Cancer guy wants u...trust me... you"ll know...they will make it known
7/21/2010 1:15:05 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp


Question seems to be a little general to me. Anyway, speaking from my experience yes push/pull means that he is interested but not sure...

If he is not sure about your feelings towards him he will probe you a lot...during simple covos...He may not even want something but he will ask you for that stuff...be giving and if he is a typical cancer he will double return it..


JUST BE YOURSELF/SINCERE/SUPPORTIVE DO NOT BEND A LOT. No need for confusion if he loves you gonna know about it.


Thanks so much Cancer1986,

Yeah, my question is pretty general. I guess I'm just so confused. I'm a virgo and we analyze everything and believe you me, one thing we virgos don't like to be, is confused. Funny thing, I have asked this question to a few cancer men and I've recieved different responses from each one so I dont know what to think...

There is a cancer guy that I think may be interested in me but I am just not sure. Another cancer man recently told me that if I am not sure that it means that he is not sure (?) He said that it was 'weird" and that cancer men pretty much let the object of their affection know that they are interested in very upfront ways(?) If so, why have I always read/heard/been told that cancer men are anything but direct?

He has done quite a few things that made me think that he is interested (flirting, teasing, improving his appearance for me, showing signs of jealousy & cutting communication with me when I talk to other guys, finding reasons to come around me, laughing at my jokes that are NOT meant to be funny, showing his vulnerability, compliments me, gets very nervous around me when we are alone and much more) but he also seems like a player so it's hard because I don't know. Don't want to get my heart broken. My intuition tells me that he likes me but I could be wrong. What should I do?

Also, I have never really shown him my feelings so I pretty much have given him nothing to go on. At first I didn't even realize that he was flirting with me until days later and of course I had to intellectualize it. I analyze his every move forward and backwards and pretty much just end up at the same place. I don't want to be just another 'girl' so that is the reason I have not been very open. Cancer men have a rep. for being flirtatious players.

It's sad because I feel like it's almost as if he wants me to jump throu

7/21/2010 1:16:08 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Continued from above

It's sad because I feel like it's almost as if he wants me to jump through a ton of hoops (I feel like he's always testing me and playing games) in order to find out the true person that lies beneath and if he is sincerely interested in me or not.
7/21/2010 1:23:39 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Posted by gemtaur
"He may not even want something but he will ask you for that stuff..."

Hunh? Her kitty? Her heart? Her pencil? What "stuff" do you mean Cancer???

Aren't you glad you asked a Cancer guy?

*banging head on table*

In my experience, Vixen, he'll make his feelings/intentions known but in very indirect ways and if you don't reciprocate, he'll pull back. If he really likes you, he'll get frustrated by your seeming lack of response, but he'll try again in his roundabout way. I found all of this manipulative and got frustrated but I'm a Gem, maybe Virgos are betting at dealing with the indirectness.


Gemtaur,

You are hilarious. While I am extremely greatful to all of the cancer men who have given me their take, I still just don't know. Perhaps I will have to walk straight up to my guy myself and ask him flat out "do you like me?". Take the risk. Put my heart right out there on the line. After all, what's the worst that could happen? He's a great guy btw, with the exception of all the indirectness. He's extremely shy around me but not so around other girls. And he stares at me when I'm not looking. Caught him doing this a few times. Who knows. Maybe it's all in my head. Cancers have a special way of making us virgos feel like we're going nuts. ;o)
7/21/2010 1:24:26 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Posted by Cancershorti27
If a Cancer guy wants u...trust me... you"ll know...they will make it known


Yes, so I've been told. Thanks for your input.
7/21/2010 2:14:59 PM | More
Cancer1986LeoCusp



VirgoVixxxen,

I can only make a guess here as a cancer, i think that he already knows that you have a crush on him. He can see it
already that you are confused/clueless it gives him a pleasure. That is why he acts like you described above (jealous...).

If you decide to tell openly that you love him i have 2 scenarios:

1. He will disappear
2. He will be terribly happy and will be smiling for a long time, your words will be sounding on his ears repeatedly.
BUT let me warn you so that you would be ready, he may have just sympathy towards you otherwise you would already have known about his love...
7/21/2010 2:30:08 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp


VirgoVixxxen,

I can only make a guess here as a cancer, i think that he already knows that you have a crush on him. He can see it
already that you are confused/clueless it gives him a pleasure. That is why he acts like you described above (jealous...).

If you decide to tell openly that you love him i have 2 scenarios:

1. He will disappear
2. He will be terribly happy and will be smiling for a long time, your words will be sounding on his ears repeatedly.
BUT let me warn you so that you would be ready, he may have just sympathy towards you otherwise you would already have known about his love...



Cancer1986,

I figured he was "on to me" and perhaps just using me for an ego boost. Oh I would never tell him that I love him. That would be too dangerous and risky for my heart. Really? If he liked me he would have told me already? Wow...

7/21/2010 2:35:46 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

They have a special way of making everyone think we're going nuts.

Nooooo. Take it from Gem: don't do that. He will put up a million barricades and reject you. That's what happened to me Also, don't be direct about your feelings for him: he will RUN lol And of course I learned all of this after the fact. If you really like him, just be there and get to know him; you cannot push and prod them to do anything they don't want to. Don't listen to what he says, WATCH his ACTIONS. Don't analyze his every move, dear fellow Mercury-ruled sign, it will drive you absolutely crazy. Just be there, be you, and see where it goes. If you really like him that is; if you don't, pull the cord and find a more direct person.


Gemtaur, really though? So from reading my posts, you think it's all a game? For him? Ouch.

No, I won't be direct at all. I get the sense that he loves attention. Gosh, I am so greatful for this advice, dear fellow mercury-ruled sign. I don't even think that I want to try being his friend now after knowing this. I think I may just pull the cord before I find myself in too deep. ;o)
7/21/2010 2:38:36 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Posted by gemtaur
^^ Absolutely. But if you don't reciprocate in the way that they expect, they PULL back. That was my experience. This may be what Vixen is referring to? Don't mean to keep interjecting...

LOL CancerLeo - Thank you!


No, please. Interject! interject! This is so helpful. Damned be any woman who has to go through the "tests" or "games" of a cancerian man for the first time on her own! It's like you have to be armed with knowledge and a kick-as.s support group!
7/21/2010 2:49:34 PM | More
VirgoVixxxen

Posted by gemtaur
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Continued from above

It's sad because I feel like it's almost as if he wants me to jump through a ton of hoops (I feel like he's always testing me and playing games) in order to find out the true person that lies beneath and if he is sincerely interested in me or not.


Yes, yes, and yes. And the more he likes you, the more and bigger the hoops. At the end of the day, you have to decide whether it's in you to do this or not. Have you ever hinted that you liked him? If you haven't, you might want to try that - just a HINT - and see what happens. If he doesn't take the bait, I'd say he's playing games and likes the attention.




Gemtaur, I think I am going to just stop everything completely. Seriously, this is too much for my fragile virgo psyche. I don't want to be made to look foolish by someone who is just out for an ego boost.

No, I never told him or hinted that I liked him. Ever. However, like Cancer1986 said, I think that he could tell (damn you cancers with your intuition) because it's like he slowly crept into my heart and perhaps my behavior did change, giving my true feelings away. Not change in the sense that I was flirtatious or anything like that, but just that I began to act more akward. Like aloof and weird. I am quite shy around my crushes so, I guess there is no doubt that he picked up on it and just used it for his own emotional pleasure (can you say selfish?). Oh well, what's a girl to do? We can't help who we like but I did keep myself pretty controlled so, I feel alright about that. Funny, sometimes he treated me like a baby. Like he was "suffering" me almost. I don't have many experiences with men and I think it shows. Perhaps he thought I was just a little girl.
7/21/2010 3:01:55 PM | More
Cancer1986LeoCusp

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp


VirgoVixxxen,

I can only make a guess here as a cancer, i think that he already knows that you have a crush on him. He can see it
already that you are confused/clueless it gives him a pleasure. That is why he acts like you described above (jealous...).

If you decide to tell openly that you love him i have 2 scenarios:

1. He will disappear
2. He will be terribly happy and will be smiling for a long time, your words will be sounding on his ears repeatedly.
BUT let me warn you so that you would be ready, he may have just sympathy towards you otherwise you would already have known about his love...



Cancer1986,

I figured he was "on to me" and perhaps just using me for an ego boost. Oh I would never tell him that I love him. That would be too dangerous and risky for my heart. Really? If he liked me he would have told me already? Wow...






Hey, you are getting too harsh now..."using for ego boost"...he may just like you , to hang out with you, be friends...
personally i enjoy virgos company..
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