so I need some help. My cancer guy let me go two nights ago and I'm kinda lost 😢 We met about a year ago. It was very fast, we got wrapped up with each other. He lives hours away from me and is in the military. But he wanted to make it work. He asked me to be his gf, but I said no- I didn't know if I could deal with the military thing. Anyway, he called all the time- we texted- and started to really develop something. He then got deployed. And I didn't see him for 4 months. But I told him I'd wait for him. We talked almost every nite over skype and aim and then 3 months into his deployment, I told him I definitely wanted to be with him. And then he said he didn't want to be with me in that way anymore, that we just wouldn't work. Then I told him I couldn't talk with him anymore b/c I kept getting invested and he said, so it's all or nothing? and I said yes. And he said, I'm sorry- I have to chose nothing. So, we stopped everything-stopped calling, texting, skyping everything. Then he came home. Came back in town and talked about me to his friends (we have mutual friends) and said he missed me. He ended up txting me- and I met up with him. When we saw each other again he swooped me up in his arms and started kissing me. He told me he loved me and we spent the whole weekend together. It was the same like when we first met. So- we became "official" and in the following 2 weeks- we hit some minor bumps. and then he went without talking to me again for a full month- I called him to see what was going on and he said he didn't want to hurt me; but he didn't think we should be together. that deep down he knows we aren't right. That I'm so amazing and I'm so smart and so perfect, but that we aren't right together and that he basically knows he's an a**hole, that's he's still young, and he doesn't want to do long distance anymore. So we skyped and he said it had to be over. We were both crying and upset and I told him I hope he has an amazing life and he said I'm not saying good bye. And I told him- what are we going 2 for 2 now? We can't be friends. So we ended it...again. My problem is is that I love him and I miss him. Do you think we have a chance? Is there anything else I can do? Or is it that I can't convince him it'll work now- he'll never be convinced. I'm scared that if he comes back into town- he won't reach out for me again, but I'm scared when he comes into town what's going to happen if he does. I miss my cancer boy. Help?
