Hello, I had been with a cancer on and (VERY briefly here and there) off for 3 years. I am a girl leo and he is a male cancer. We have been very serious the past 2. He was my world. He is currently in the army stationed in iraq. Since he was in iraq ive been extremely unhappy from being so far away from him and he has been unhappy being away from me as well. he responded to it by being extremely overbearing, and posessive and i would complain of being suffocated and constantly tell him to let me live my life and to trust me. We had our problems, but other than these occausional fights we were extremely happy. A few months ago he told me I was his soulmate, that he always loved me, that he had to find me, and theres never been a moment because its always been there. A few weeks ago he became talking to a brief ex of his from high school who he dated around his junior year. They were only together a month but did sleep together. She only dated him to make her exboyfriend jealous. Her ex scratched his car and my boyfriend punched him in the face and got suspended from school. Their entire relationship all they did was talk shit about each other. She has been dating an aquarius for 3 years as well and living with him. She is a cancer. She recently left him out of the blue and packed her stuff, said it was over and started to talk to my boyfriend whom she has not spoken to in over 3 years. He recently ended it with me a few weeks ago by writing a dear john letter on facebook saying he is no longer happy with me and wants space. That it may not be forever and he still loves me. Immediately after he began a relationship with this cancer ex of his from high school. They are already saying i love yous are saying they are happier together than with their recent exs. He blocked me from everything, refused to talk it out, would not reply to my messages. He blocked me from aim, myspace, skype, facebook. I made fake accounts to try to get him to listen he just blocks them too. This is very sudden and though we have been fighting these past few months, Ive told him even the last time we had a conversation that I loved him, I was sorry, i didnt want him to leave me. He said he wasnt going to leave me, he did love me, that he was going to work things out with me then that dear john letter out of the blue a few days later.I am very devistated and suicidial. I dont understand why this suddenly happened, if their going to be together forever or if he intends to come back
Leo woman and most precious male cancer love.

Well I read your old post but first of all forget about suicide no one is worth dying over.
I see he already did this thing of leaving you for an ex and coming back. Stop approaching him, disappear for now focus on making yourself feel better. Since he likes exes so much and you are now one of them he'll be back it's only a matter of time.
I see he already did this thing of leaving you for an ex and coming back. Stop approaching him, disappear for now focus on making yourself feel better. Since he likes exes so much and you are now one of them he'll be back it's only a matter of time.
This whole cancer/cancer relationship of their is freaking me out though. I see that some sites say they are the perfect home cozy couple and others that say different. Their already telling both sides of family that they are so much more happier with each other and it's working really well. It's only been 2 weeks, I feel the entire thing is artificial but he already deleted wall posts from me on his facebook and pictures and making me seem like a ghost that never existed. I'm just afraid this will really work out between them and they are good for each other. Because I know I will never get over him. I've tried to before, it never works. Her aquarius ex is just as distraught as I.

Dear, you will get over him. Dont repeat that over and over again because you are actually going to end up believing it.
This man obviously is not sure of what he wants, maybe your relationship got complicated, he had a lot in his mind, and couldnt face the responsibility of a soul mate, with all that involves, COMMITMENT. So he went for an easier , lighter thing. They are all lovey dovey now, but his problems and issues will transpire later on and it will all blow up. Dont fantasize with them being all happy and forever together...just put your thoughts and energy in yourself. Stop trying to see what is going on, creating false accounts, just focus on YOU. You are what matters. I know what it is like to have a broken heart, been there myself. It passes. All in life passes. now, you are in the eye of the storm , so you cant see this clearly and won't believe it. But it will.
You dont need a man like this in your life, who will suddenly leave you for another. If he has already done this before, it is a pattern and it won't break. You have to break the pattern by leaving him behind.
Suicidal— no man is woth that. The universe will make sure he pays , have you heard of the Karmatic law?' all returns.
You now FOCUS ON YOURSELF.
Treat yourself..pamper yourself. You are a Leo! a strong fire girl. You can and will move on!!
This man obviously is not sure of what he wants, maybe your relationship got complicated, he had a lot in his mind, and couldnt face the responsibility of a soul mate, with all that involves, COMMITMENT. So he went for an easier , lighter thing. They are all lovey dovey now, but his problems and issues will transpire later on and it will all blow up. Dont fantasize with them being all happy and forever together...just put your thoughts and energy in yourself. Stop trying to see what is going on, creating false accounts, just focus on YOU. You are what matters. I know what it is like to have a broken heart, been there myself. It passes. All in life passes. now, you are in the eye of the storm , so you cant see this clearly and won't believe it. But it will.
You dont need a man like this in your life, who will suddenly leave you for another. If he has already done this before, it is a pattern and it won't break. You have to break the pattern by leaving him behind.
Suicidal— no man is woth that. The universe will make sure he pays , have you heard of the Karmatic law?' all returns.
You now FOCUS ON YOURSELF.
Treat yourself..pamper yourself. You are a Leo! a strong fire girl. You can and will move on!!
I understand that i'm not going about this healthy. But I honestly don't want to get over them, I just want to reconcile things and I want him to realize he made a mistake. He was with me for we broke up for a 3 month period briefly the first year we were dating but after that had 2 happy years with no interruptions. I'm not gonna blame him for leaving me, I got really mean after awhile because it was easier to get mad than to miss him. I made a mistake; and I just want a second chance and to be forgiven for it. I hope to god it blows up and they realize how immatture their being. His mom won't even talk to me. I'm devistated. Even when he broke up he said that it may not be forever, he still loves me. Yes he keeps blocking me and it seems like he's cutting me out and everyone says its cause he cant deal with the pain im in right now. But he still has my stuff in his room in iraq. He hasnt even put it in a box. Yeah publically it seems like he's over me but some part of me sickly can't believe that. I'm afraid something might happen to him and the thought of him dying while he's with some other girl makes me naseous. i'm a nervous wreak and every day i have a pit in my stomach. I suffer from frantic nightmares every night. We were each others everything and we suffered one of the toughest army relationships with no cheating at all where many have failed. I got his initials tattooed on me and he has a tattoo thats a rememberance to me. There is so much between us that this can't dissapear and he thinks he's happier like this, he thinks that we're an illness to each other and we only make each other unhappy but he doesn't understand the distance makes us unhappy we are not unhappy with each other! I'm just so frustrated because of all people I would have ended it, I thought about it constantly and I never did because I know we are really meant for each other. I know there is alot to stay for and I want to scream it at my lungtops but no one will listen. We had the most emotionally intimate relationship I ever had with anyone, and he loved me endlessly. I'm completely blindsided and I don't know how to react. I just hope if I give him the space he asks for he won't forget me and he will come back to me. All his friends told me without promises that he probably will. I'm just so anxious. I miss him so much. I still have so many gifts all around my apartment from him. I worry about him. I just want him to realize what we had and not get married to her.

Hm. This post was made on my birthday. sad 😢
I wonder if they're both really young. I am NOT a huge fan of very young cancers in a romantic sense. They blow so much hot and cold that it can really fuck up a person's (especially a young leo's) emotional state. Although young leos can often be a hot mess as well. I know I sure was and the combination is tragic. Ugh. Been there!
I wonder if they're both really young. I am NOT a huge fan of very young cancers in a romantic sense. They blow so much hot and cold that it can really fuck up a person's (especially a young leo's) emotional state. Although young leos can often be a hot mess as well. I know I sure was and the combination is tragic. Ugh. Been there!
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