Taking a chance with cancer guy, please help !?!?

I'm a cancer female, and he is a cancer male and his name is rick. We met through one of my best guy friends. Me and rick hit it off the first night we hung out, we both had a lot in common and had so much fun the first night I ever met him. Then because we got along so well my best guy friend ( the same guy who introduced us ) invited him and his friends over our friends house, from that moment on we started hanging out in a group every weekend and exchanged numbers. He never really texted me much but I didn't care cause I knew I would see him every weekend and we would have a great time hanging out, he even picked up a few times and opened the door for me and brought me breakfast once. I really started to like him a month within hanging out and we would always kiss and hold hands and act like we were in bf n gf. Then out of where he tells me there is other girl he likes to that he works with, but because he wasn't dating either of us he didn't see the harm in kissing me and stuff. He said he was confused because I came out of no where and he started to like me. But he likes her more then me because he's like her about a year and he wanted to tell me cause he didn't want to hurt me before I started to want something more with him and that he was sorry.

I was really upset with him and even yelled at him a bit but then I told him fine and that he would never have to worry about me liking him again and I wish him and that girl well. We still hung out in our group of friends after that and pretty much acted like that talk never happened and I treated him just like a friend, I was moving on and done with it. So about a week after that I noticed he started texting me more, so I was okay this is cool. Then I asked him how him and that girl where doing and he said he hated her and I asked why, he told me that she pretty much told him that she's liked him and has been liking him for a year ( and they work together ) but she never acts like she likes him at all, and he said he got sick of liking her and her just playing games with his head and that he feels stupid for even messing up something with me for her. I told him that he should just move on and if he ever needs anyone I was there for him, and he said how much I a wonderful person I was for being there for him.

Then last friday we had a halloween party and I was doing my own thing flirting and talking to other guys and I could tell he was kinda jealous but I didn't really care because I felt like he had his chance once with me and I owe him nothing. Then once the party was nearly over he pulled me aside and told me how much he stills likes me and always likes me and wants me to give him another chance, and that we could start over fresh. I told him I don't know because Im scared he's just going to like me but then his old feelings will come back for that girl. I mean he works with her, hes going to have to see her most likely on a daily basis, and that scares me. He even showed me text messages he sent to her saying that they weren't going to work out and it's best that they don't talk anymore. Right then all my feelings for him came right back. I just don't know what to do now because I do like him but I'm sure that I can trust his feelings for me are real. I don't want to get played, or get hurt or be someones rebound. Please help with any advice ?

QLibra, I dunno what it is about this place, but it pretty much attracts many a hot woman!

The hard lesson you cancers need to learn is that no matter how much you want to avoid getting hurt, it's gonna happen. Especially by those you love and care about for the mere fact that they mean more to you than anyone else. So accept it and move on. You will also inevitably hurt others but hopefully unintentionally.

I would let him know exactly where I stand and where I'm coming from. You cancers are usually sensitive and understanding so use that to your advantage. He will be more likely to work with you if you let him know how you feel and where you're coming from. Spell it out. Tell him exactly why you feel the way you do. Then, after you state your case, take it easy. Relax. Don't go putting your heart on the line in a foolish way but allow things to grow and evolve. He will now know what to expect, where your mind is on the matter, and what to do from there. I find that open communication is fruitful in any relationship regardless of how new or old it is.

"take your time a set certain respectable standards"

@Q:

damn, on the advice, couldn't we have gone w/ ... "fill a room full of jello shots, every time someone finds a vodka spiked blob they get to make the other person take off and article of clothing and eat it..."

... to clarify ... eat the jello shot, not the clothes

This is why I never date Cancer men. If I am not #1 - then it's done. Once you came onto the scene, if he wasn't 100% blown away by your very presence, if the clouds did not part to a beautiful sun filled sky and the birds did not sing WHEN YOU WALKED IN HIS LIFE - then goodbye. The moment you went from being a necessity to an option would be our last moment together.

If that doesn't seal the deal - take this information with you:

1) Cancers are great judges of character. Once he noticed that he can like her, and still keep you around - it's unlikely he 100% respects you. If he did, he would have dismissed the other girl and most likely never have told you about her. (for what reason? she's history - right?)

2) YOU are a Cancer. When it comes to choosing a date - Aren't the men practically knocking your door down? =]