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CapSoul
12/30/2011 8:49:21 PM | IP

female

A Cappy...With a Moon and Venus in Sag.

As I approach a new year following my 31st B-day. I reflect back on past situations and relationships and began to wonder......


I have too much PRIDE!


I am beginning to believe its ruining my chances of ever being in a good relationship with a man.I'm too proud to express my feelings in fear of being taken advantage of so I carry an aloof and "the devil may care" attitude when in relationships and the end result does not work in my favor. I am also beginning to believe this type of attitude carried over into my more recent situation with this libra male I was seeing.

Is this a common Cap trait???

Have any Cappies on the board feel the same way I do??


Where are all my prideful CAPPIES????!!!!!!!!

lnana04
12/30/2011 9:23:24 PM | IP

My Cap friend told me about a week or two ago that his fiance is starting to get spoiled by him. He always caves into what she wants and its starting to get old because she won't even try compromising. Basically, she's slowly starting to take advantage. He said that he doesn't want to go into his "I don't give a f@#*" mode because whatever she wants, whatever she does(cry etc) won't matter then. My question was, why is there either or in extremes? Either he's taken advantage of, or he doesn't care and no in between.

I have similar feelings and extremes. Can't find a balance and I think that's why so many of us are scared to let that guard down. Not sure why there's no grey area, but maybe it'll be a learning process for those of us who can't balance it in the new year.
CapSoul
12/30/2011 9:46:24 PM | IP

female

A Cappy...With a Moon and Venus in Sag.

Posted by lnana04
My Cap friend told me about a week or two ago that his fiance is starting to get spoiled by him. He always caves into what she wants and its starting to get old because she won't even try compromising. Basically, she's slowly starting to take advantage. He said that he doesn't want to go into his "I don't give a f@#*" mode because whatever she wants, whatever she does(cry etc) won't matter then. My question was, why is there either or in extremes? Either he's taken advantage of, or he doesn't care and no in between.

I have similar feelings and extremes. Can't find a balance and I think that's why so many of us are scared to let that guard down. Not sure why there's no grey area, but maybe it'll be a learning process for those of us who can't balance it in the new year.


I see what your friend is going through. He sounds like a cappy thats in too deep. I noticed from my past relationships that if I really loved the person I am careful not to rock the boat even though I know i'm not getting treated right...but once go into my IDGAF mode it is over for that person...i'm cold, aloof, and somewhat mean, its no going back with me. Once i'm done....i'm done. I call it the wrath of the Goat...lol

I feel sorry for your friend's fiance once he gets to that point.
BlazingGoat
1/2/2012 8:55:20 AM | IP
BlazingGoat

36 years old female from Denmark  

Married, 3 sons, Danish, ½ American fam

I was going to mention that sudden detachment thing. I don't bother to get mean first during or after though. I just go cold and that has a scary effect in itself so I don't have to actually get overtly nasty. It could be the Sag influence but while it takes a decade+ before I really let people begin to get to know me, I open up and shower people with passion really early on...verbally that is.

Grey is one of my favorite colors to wear (the dark shade) but there are no grey areas in my mind. I was hoping that if I could slow down to a Cap tempo, that I'd actually see some grey shades. I guess that's not so.
BlazingGoat
1/2/2012 9:45:55 AM | IP
BlazingGoat

36 years old female from Denmark  

Married, 3 sons, Danish, ½ American fam

Posted by BlazingGoat
I was going to mention that sudden detachment thing. I don't bother to get mean first during or after though. I just go cold and that has a scary effect in itself so I don't have to actually get overtly nasty. It could be the Sag influence but while it takes a decade+ before I really let people begin to get to know me, I open up and shower people with passion really early on...verbally that is.

Grey is one of my favorite colors to wear (the dark shade) but there are no grey areas in my mind. I was hoping that if I could slow down to a Cap tempo, that I'd actually see some grey shades. I guess that's not so.


I guess reasons for the same behavior among different Caps vary greatly though. This has nothing to do with pride for me since I'm not guarded around people once I become comfortable with them and that happens at very different rates so to some I'll always appear cold and aloof and some just think I'm too much, right from the beginning. Everyone seems to agree that it takes a long time go get to know me. Don't know what I can say to give people the feeling that they know me.

ScorpioFish
1/23/2012 11:40:52 AM | IP
ScorpioFish

35 years old

"I've been arrested by you, take me in..

Posted by CapSoul


I have too much PRIDE!

I am beginning to believe its ruining my chances of ever being in a good relationship with a man.



Then stop acting like an arrogant marker, and try some humility for a change.

Most folks enjoy being with modest people because they are likeable.

Being a selfish marker is sure to alienate folks away from you.

So, shut your mouth and try to put the needs of someone else above your own.

 

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