Capricorn ex husband...dramas!

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9/19/2012 5:46:59 AM | More
sadlioness

Hello Caps!

I was married to a capricorn (been divorced a few years now)and we do not have any contact, except when he is working locally in my area and then he tries to call me. I am with a Taurus man now, which my Cappy ex husband is aware of as when he kept asking me out for a drink i explained i was with someone else and it wasn't appropriate to go for a drink with him.

He spent a few months blocking me on fb, then unblocking me and calling my phone when he was in the area. I didn't answer the phone because he knows its wrong to be calling me when i am in another relationship. He didn't listen. However, he has recently started seeing a new girl so I haven't heard anything for months and again blocked on fb by him, no probs.

I changed my phone number for an unrelated reason but this weekend I got a call from a friend to say my ex husband was in the pub that my new partner and i were due to arrive at. I didn't want to go in there but my current boyfriend said we should. So we did.

Now this is the confusing part, as i stood at the bar I looked round and my ex husband was staring at me with a horrible look on his face, as though I had done something dreadful to him?! He then spent 30 mins staring at me before drinking up and leaving.

I don't get it, why would he behave like that?? Any insight from the caps would be much appreciated!

His chart is below;

Sun Capricorn 15.51 Ascendant Taurus 7.35
Moon Taurus 29.31 II Gemini 8.49
Mercury Aquarius 1.16 III Gemini 27.06
Venus Aquarius 8.14 R IV Cancer 13.13
Mars Libra 9.15 V Leo 2.02
Jupiter Scorpio 6.51 VI Virgo 2.04
Saturn Libra 21.43 VII Scorpio 7.35
Uranus Sagittarius 2.59 VIII Sagittarius 8.49
Neptune Sagittarius 25.22 IX Sagittarius 27.06
Pluto Libra 26.47 Midheaven Capricorn 13.13
Lilith Sagittarius 11.33 XI Aquarius 2.02
Asc node Cancer 22.31 XII Pisces 2.04




9/19/2012 7:22:37 AM | More
sadlioness

Posted by capgirl75
My take: He didn't know you were going to be there. Big surprise. Cap people hate surprises in general, but being in the same space with you, while you are with your new bf, made him feel sad and/or uncomfortable, and he didn't have time to prepare and put on his "cool" act.

I had to have dinner last year with my son, my ex and my ex's then girlfriend, who is his new wife. But it was a cub scout dinner and I knew ahead of time they would be there, so I had plenty of time to prepare and put on my "game" face.

Your ex did not have that luxury. Expecially if it's a place he goes to often, then he would perceive it to be his territory, you were in it.



Hiya

He did know we were going to be there as a mutual friend explained to him that we were due to arrive and he said that it was cool, hence why I was confused at his reaction when we got there.

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9/19/2012 7:52:04 AM | More
lnana04

LoL. Off topic a bit, but this reminds me of my mom. If someone is looking at her, she cant help but looking at them in return.

I bet yall glanced at and watched eachother for 30 min smh lol. i wouldnt have went in there to begin with.

As soon as you glanced and saw the weird look you should have given a puzzled look and never looked back. Whatever he was dealing with is his problem, really. Trying to wrap your head around it is a complete waste of time and distraction.
9/19/2012 9:28:03 AM | More
SatoriFierce

32 years old female

b. 11/16/1981 Sun Scorpio 24.46 Asc

Posted by ellessque
I think you need to figure out what problems are existing in your current relationship that makes you care about every move your cap ex husband is making.

I have a cap ex husband, and to be honest, they are always going to keep tabs on you. Forever. They will pop up when you least expect it, send a text, make a phone call....maybe every year....maybe every five years....could be tomorrow, they will say things that could cause your head to spin, they will do things to get your attention.....and then they will leave again.

I don't know why they do it, there is no consistency and there is no hidden agenda....it just is what it is.

The best thing to do is just accept it and move on.

Don't read it into it, don't pay any attention to it whatsoever.....I believe it's just their way of coping. They are VERY hard on themselves when they make life mistakes like a broken marriage and probably analyze the piss out of it on a daily basis. It *doesn't* mean he wants you back nor does it mean he's trying to screw with your life. Only *you* can hand over that power to him, he can't take it from you.


Totally agreed.

OP, methinks the Leo in you might just be enjoying the "attention", but there probably is no true intentions toward you from the Cap. But even if so, so what?
9/19/2012 10:16:37 AM | More
sadlioness

Inana - I did not look back, I was told by other that he was staring at me.

To the others, this is not an attention thing. He was unfaithful and violent during our entire marriage, hence me divorcing him. I am just wondering the reasons for his odd behaviour as (as I hope you can appreciate) I need to always be one step ahead of him.

My current relationship is fine. I certainly do not keep tabs on my ex husband, I couldn't give a flying one what he does, unless it may have an impact of my well-being and happiness. Without meaning to sound rude, I came here for a cap insight into HIS behaviour, not a character assassination of what is perceived to be mine.

Thanks anyway.

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9/19/2012 10:33:59 AM | More
seraph

36 years old male from Canada  

First Decan, Mercurian and Venusian Leo.

Posted by sadlioness

He spent a few months blocking me on fb, then unblocking me and calling my phone when he was in the area. I didn't answer the phone because he knows its wrong to be calling me when i am in another relationship. He didn't listen. However, he has recently started seeing a new girl so I haven't heard anything for months and again blocked on fb by him, no probs.



The FB blocking/unblocking is a sign of *control* issues. .

This also ties into the violence. In his mind, he might have someone new, but you're still *his*. This is all about ownership.

Posted by sadlioness

I changed my phone number for an unrelated reason but this weekend I got a call from a friend to say my ex husband was in the pub that my new partner and i were due to arrive at. I didn't want to go in there but my current boyfriend said we should. So we did.

Now this is the confusing part, as i stood at the bar I looked round and my ex husband was staring at me with a horrible look on his face, as though I had done something dreadful to him?! He then spent 30 mins staring at me before drinking up and leaving.


Confirmed.

Be careful with this one. Don't be frightened or anything, just keep your eyes open.

9/19/2012 10:41:08 AM | More
sadlioness

Thank you Seraph

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9/19/2012 11:00:23 AM | More
seraph

36 years old male from Canada  

First Decan, Mercurian and Venusian Leo.

Posted by ellessque


If his presense bothers you that much, so much that you seek the advice of others on an anonymous message board, perhaps you need some counseling.


??

That would mean *a lot* of people on this site need counselling.
9/19/2012 11:04:38 AM | More
sadlioness

With all due respect, if you feel the need to come on here with your armchair psychology of posters questions then what does that say about you?

I think a man that has previously broken into my home should concern me. It concerns my friends, hence why they let me know where he was. This is a man who split open my face in front of everyone, so forgive me if I spent 2 seconds to pull his chart and post it in here. He doesn't live near me anymore, he doesn't leave me alone and he had no need to be in my town, which is why I am a bit concerned as to what stunt he'll pull next.

If you feel that makes me a bad person, or "reading too much into things" then that's up to you. In turn please don't feel offend if I think you're a condescending tw@t.
9/19/2012 11:05:59 AM | More
sadlioness

My last comment was for Elle, not you Seraph btw
9/19/2012 11:19:52 AM | More
seraph

36 years old male from Canada  

First Decan, Mercurian and Venusian Leo.

Posted by sadlioness
My last comment was for Elle, not you Seraph btw


I understand, but she's trying to help, and she does have *very* deep experience with Caps. I don't think she understood your position as fully as you might have liked. You didn't mention the violence in your original post, but you did mention it later. I missed it the first time around.

The important thing is that at this point, the only person whose comfort you should worry about is your own. Unless this sort of thing keeps happening to you, don't even waste time trying to understand his behaviour. It'll only hold you back. He's part of your past, and if you can't erase him from your thoughts, at least file him away as best you can so he isn't a part of your daily consciousness. Accept him for who he is, flaws and all, and then let him go. You've got a lot of good things to look forward to. Let go of the negative elements. A garden has no room for weeds.


9/19/2012 11:30:35 AM | More
sadlioness

All I was asking was if this was a typical cap trait, so I could decide if it should be concerning or if it was just a normal cap thing to do.

What has p1ssed me off is that others, rather than take the time to establish the facts, just assumed they knew my motivation for asking the question. Even when I clarified the point, I was still subjected to a diatribe of patronising waffle.

Thanks for being lucid in your answers Seraph, it's greatly appreciated. It's nice that you have grasped that this is an astrology forum and not the "Sigmund Freud for Beginners Club".

That's me out of here, I'll stick to the Leo board where it's less irritating.
9/19/2012 11:58:54 AM | More
lnana04

A typical Cap trait? He sounds like a crazy lunatic that has done and is capable of much more than a stare, and you know that.

He's psycho and you are asking us why this crazy man stared at you? The answer is obvious.

9/19/2012 12:43:57 PM | More
aquapiscescusp

female

I don't understand one thing, why would you go anywhere near the place he was at, I mean if he is such an ahole. I know for a fact I would stay away if he had hurt me like he hurt you. Seriously, this does not make sense, unless....
9/19/2012 12:50:44 PM | More
Nala13

38 years old female from A place called Happy

Fairly Even-3 Fire, 3 Earth, 3 Water, 2

I don't think his behavior was strange. In fact, it is quite normal.

If my ex walked in with a new woman. I am going to stare at her. It might appear that I am staring at them both. I would want to see her. This is just human nature. Eventually, when I had seen all I needed to see, I would leave. Maybe 1/2 hour maybe 15 minutes, heck they might even leave before me. Who knows what I would be looking for or at.

Maybe he wanted to see , with his own eyes that you have moved on. Any answer you get is going to be mere speculation. It's like asking the caps why he abused you. They can't tell you.

I think you are probably a nice person but I have noticed a trend..you ask for answers and then become defensive. In an online forum you are going to interact with many personality types. Try to take what you need and leave the rest.

If you keep coming off defensive, no one will answer your posts/questions. They will fall to the bottom of the topic list.

Again this is just advice, take from it what you will.

I am partial to Leos so I am only trying to help. If you think Elle is rough..girlfriend you ain't seen nothing yet. Wait until P Angle or Tiki or Let it Be or Decan get at you. Yikes.

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