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|How guilty are you of playing games while dating? I don't mean Parcheesi and Yahtzee, lol! I mean head games. |
I'm pretty straight forward and honest, although cautious, but I don't play games with people. I don't insinuate a commitment when its not there and I will tell someone if I am dating other people as well. If I think a man is playing games with me, I lose interest pretty quick.
I just read all these people complain that Caps play games, but I just don't see it. I think they refuse to believe us when we are telling them our intentions.
What are your thoughts?
|I was really referring to head games and manipulation. |
As far as "the game" you are talking about, I do understand that certain behavior by a woman ellicits the way she is treated and gains respect from a man. I'm not talking about that. I don't consider that as playing games.
|i think it can come off as game playing when, after the initial rush, we slow things down and evaluate whether we truly like this person relationship-wise. that usually doesn't take very long but sometimes they are already invested or impatient for an indication.|
|i think if your love interest has not FULLY captured you thn there is always a possibility of game playing - wether you know it or not. |
i have never intentinally played mallicious games. I might have been guilty of game playing which i did not recognize - but again i think if the love intrest had me fully captured then there would have been NONE of this BS!
plus believe it or not i am a wierd about sharing personal things/feelings emotions. It largely depends on where my emotional state is at the moment ( ans it changes a LOT). But mostly i think it is none of someones business sometimes for no valid reason! that could also have come across as game playing
ans i will also not explain it to them afterwards. Sometimes i know i am promoting misunderstanding but feel like i lack the energy to set it right!
|i dont play games while dating. however while in relationships... im probably guilty of playing head games. i'll admit. it's not my intent, it's almost reflex and i try really hard to keep it at bay because it's entirely unfair.|
i agree truecap... games are a big turnoff. HUGE.
A guy i quasi dated a couple years ago thought i played games with him... i have no clue where his head was assuming and accusing me of all of that, but I was absolutely not. I clearly thought less of the two of us than he did.
So it's happened where people have thought I was playing games when it was all in their own head. There's one of the problems with head games... you CAN in fact be playing a two person game solo because of your chickensure assumptions. easy to do when you are keeping your playing cards close to the chest and trying to predict someone else's hand.
I do what I feel I should do as decidedly as possible, and whatever I decide should have nothing to do with what someone else is up to.
games = disrespect
if i'm really into someone i'm dating (or not into them), there's no way in hell i'm going to start the relationship off on the wrong foot by playing games. up-front ftw
|hrmmm... now that i think of it... game playing is kinda cowardly. you can easily get lost in the psychological dynamic of whoever you think you're playing with and point the finger at them when things go awry... which it inevitably will.|
|All my life I been accused of being a deceitful pos and none of my actual feelings were ever sincere, but the nuts I were "seeing" were the ones who were actually playing the biggest games ever. Every time each one of them said I had fake tears (how the hell is that possible lol) that'd actually piss me off where I'd stop feeling sad and just want to kick their asses. lol! And some of them I did, all too well as well. hehe. Many just don't understand us caps, as we rule the astrology chart. When they get into that gig of thinking we are handing them their mind on a platter, it is really them trying to succeed at some lame attempt of a game they think they have power on us over. They really know, we will hand them their @$$ ten times back and then some. Figures, right?|
|I don't know what I be doing, but I get the impression that guys eventually start to think I'm screwing em over. I'm not about to sit and lie about much of anything, but I'm not about to lay it all out there either. If I don't want to answer something I won't...ill just change the subject or gloss over it. If I need time, I take it. I guess it can sometimes make for un-readable behavior, but I have yet to come across someone I'm 100% sure about, so I stay true to what I feel at all time about whatever situatuon, which may be a bit wishy washy, unfortunately. I seem to attract guys that start off extremely nice and genuine, then try to adjust to my behavior, then start playing major games.|
|Just know that when you express interest and start speaking in flirtatious or more intimate tones...you do something to a persons brain chemistry.|
Meaning they are compelled be it right or wrong to believe there is interest.
The person will begin to think and analyze you, perhaps fantasize about the relationship.
SO, if you cannot be clear and honest and direct in communicating where you stand in your interest & attraction, or are not able to answer direct questions when posed to you regarding your feelings, this in & of itself can be percieved as a game.
I think its really irresponsible to start a ball rolling with a person, then become a mystery to them.
I dont see how this is fun, or even honorable.
Even if you just said "for now, I just enjoy our flirting, I am not considering a serious relationship at this time..."
Thats fair. Otherwise the other persons mind starts playing tricks on them, & you appear insensitive or cruel to some who may have a genuine interest & may have initially felt those same signs from you.
|Good point Metoo. I agree.|
I think if I can get hold of my off/on feelings I'd be good to go.
Posted by Metoo
|If I wanna play games, I'll get on my playstation 3. That's why I bought it.|
Posted by Metoo
Thumbs up to you MeToo...AS ALWAYS!
|I dislike "games" and don't play them, unless the other party chooses to play them first. Then, I will either just drop them flat right then, or play games right back, depending. I don't think I'm really very good at it though |
I guess the dividing line for me is manipulation... if I get a whiff that I'm being manipulated, that's when I play games right back at them. I take manipulation personally, and get pissed off. There's usually a price attached when someone thinks I'm stupid enough to be manipulated by them, and I try to make sure they pay it. I guess that's about the best I could describe it.
I try to be honest, forthright, and truthful, even when giving an honest answer about something isn't so convenient. I appreciate and seek the same. Stick to that philosophy and if you want me, you'll probably get me. Deviate from it and think you are being sneaky... and when I bust your ass I WILL make sure you know it.
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