**Asexual** Leo --- How to Get him to Talk?!

luckystar007
Just met him online a couple of weeks ago. He contacted me first, "I am an Asexual man, it will take time but I hope you be my friend.Hugs and Kisses." He got my attention by being unique "Asexual" Leo (+very handsome)...

Then I started asking him some questions about himself, but he always picked easy questions to answer and skipped the rest. I got mad, so I told him if he was playing games with me, then I will be OFF since I have NO patient for games. He replied, "I'm sorry if I seemed shallow I would love to get to know you.Your friend. Hugs and Kisses." Honestly, I don't think he needs to play game since he never wants sex at all as an asexual man.

However, he still does the same..."ignore some of my questions"...his acting is NOT like a LEO? Why he is NOT open to talk??? Every time when I stop responding, he would send me a "greeting" message..."Hello how is my lucky star..."

I told him that I want him to be my "brother", he replied "more than any thing els I would like to be your asexual boy friend other than your brother.you look very cute and nice if you would like my phone number just ask me." He also repeated a few times about "I want you to know I think you are very cute and pretty and would love to be your life partner if I lived in your city..." We live at least 3000 miles apart.

I got very confused by him. What does "life partner" mean exactly from a Leo's mouth??? Is that a kind of "commitment"??? So far, all of our contacts are just online...maybe we will meet in person later. How does he know "he would love to be my life partner" without seeing me??? All his talking is just sweet BS??? Why does he keep doing that???

He became a mystery for me, I really want to explore such a mystery, I would like to keep him as a brother or platonic lover ......but don't know how to make him open to talk???

Any suggestion would be appreciated!!!
seraph
I did a double-take when I saw this, followed by a combination of disbelief and out outright laughter.

You'll have more luck finding a unicorn with an elf on top trying to give you investment advice than you will finding a Leo that isn't interested in sex, or who is, by definition, "asexual."

Here's what your "asexual" Leo said:

****"more than any thing els I would like to be your asexual boy friend other than your brother.you look very cute and nice if you would like my phone number just ask me." He also repeated a few times about "I want you to know I think you are very cute and pretty and would love to be your life partner if I lived in your city..." ****

And here is the intended reaction:

****"He became a mystery for me, I really want to explore such a mystery"****

He's found a sexual loophole. The distance between yourselves is obviously an issue, however. Which *may* point to a possible interest of his in voyeurism and physical self-gratification. Meaning he wants a sexting partner with whom to exchange sexy pics. In which case you're not really needed. Just your 4 x 6 run through a sharpness filter.

So it's either an act (with good results so far), or he's really into flying solo.

You might have fun with this, though. It's like one of those stationary bikes at the gym. You're working up a sweat, but you're not really going anywhere. Which is the point: you don't have to go anywhere.

sheathedclaws
It's only been a couple of weeks - of course he's not open yet.

Leos are loyal partners.

You're forcing the Lion's mouth open. Too demanding. Not every Leo is an open book. Personally I know I appear to be, but truthfully that's an image I've worked hard for. I'm warm, liberal, and open minded - but I value my privacy, internal thoughts, and secrets far too much to open up on many things.

You're accusing him of playing games when he's probably not even the type to dream of it. Accusing a Leo and demanding is a quick way to become ignored.
sheathedclaws
Seraph, some individuals are born asexual; why do you seem to demean the matter and mock it as though it is a 'choice'?
seraph
My first reaction is that it's baloney. I've heard this excuse used (though not in so many words) several times.

Yes, the phenomenon *does* exist. For example:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/sep/08/relationships.healthandwellbeing

But don't take it at face value. Give it time. This is something that can all too easily be abused.
seraph
If he's asexual but pulling it to porn, for example, then he's being quite disingenuous, even though the OP might be perfectly fine with that because she might be getting what she wants anyway (platonic relationship.)

The point is that even a harmless deception, is still deception. I'd advise the OP to dig a little deeper.
luckystar007
Posted by seraph
If he's asexual but pulling it to porn, for example, then he's being quite disingenuous, even though the OP might be perfectly fine with that because she might be getting what she wants anyway (platonic relationship.)

The point is that even a harmless deception, is still deception. I'd advise the OP to dig a little deeper.


But how to "dig" him.......I don't know how to open his mouth to talk more about himself??????????

I just assume he is a real Asexual.........pls stop laughing, seraph, just give me some useful suggestion...
luckystar007
Posted by sheathedclaws
It's only been a couple of weeks - of course he's not open yet.

Leos are loyal partners.

You're forcing the Lion's mouth open. Too demanding. Not every Leo is an open book. Personally I know I appear to be, but truthfully that's an image I've worked hard for. I'm warm, liberal, and open minded - but I value my privacy, internal thoughts, and secrets far too much to open up on many things.

You're accusing him of playing games when he's probably not even the type to dream of it. Accusing a Leo and demanding is a quick way to become ignored.


I don't think I did force him...I guess he is not very confident to talk honestly...but he is good at giving sweet BS
seraph
Posted by luckystar007
Posted by sheathedclaws
It's only been a couple of weeks - of course he's not open yet.

Leos are loyal partners.

You're forcing the Lion's mouth open. Too demanding. Not every Leo is an open book. Personally I know I appear to be, but truthfully that's an image I've worked hard for. I'm warm, liberal, and open minded - but I value my privacy, internal thoughts, and secrets far too much to open up on many things.

You're accusing him of playing games when he's probably not even the type to dream of it. Accusing a Leo and demanding is a quick way to become ignored.


I don't think I did force him...I guess he is not very confident to talk honestly...but he is good at giving sweet BS


Then you're golden.

You've accepted the situation. Keep doing what you've been doing. Let him open up a bit on his own. Let the thought of you marinate in his mind in-between conversations. Just let things go at their own pace for now. It's still early.
luckystar007
I am "impatient" Sag........it is a big challenge for me to be patient...

If there is only way...then I have to do for a good reason.......

R1g0rM0rT1s
OMG!!! sorry but i couldn't read the entire thread for laughing. wtf is asexual??!!!??? (it's ok...i have a degree in microbiology so i do know the term really). but ARE YOU BEING SERIOUS RIGHT NOW???????

a male human with a dick claiming to be ASEXUAL??? wait....does he have one?

and WTF is an 'asexual boyfriend' when he's at home? omg woman....you need your head read!! that is the best ever opener...hi, i am an asexual man....LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLZ.

if he's asexual, why is he trawling for women online?

tell him to go treetrunk himself....maybe that's his preference!!
luckystar007
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
OMG!!! sorry but i couldn't read the entire thread for laughing. wtf is asexual??!!!??? (it's ok...i have a degree in microbiology so i do know the term really). but ARE YOU BEING SERIOUS RIGHT NOW???????

a male human with a dick claiming to be ASEXUAL??? wait....does he have one?

and WTF is an 'asexual boyfriend' when he's at home? omg woman....you need your head read!! that is the best ever opener...hi, i am an asexual man....LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLZ.

if he's asexual, why is he trawling for women online?

tell him to go treetrunk himself....maybe that's his preference!!


LOL........I can see your points...

but I am interested in some uniqueness .........I guess. I never heard the word "asexual" before, and I did some research about it...there are some asexual ppl on the earth......NO sexual desire.......interesting kind of humans.
deezie
Indulge my presumptions here... but...

If he is indeed a genuine asexual being - without all that need for sex clouding up his pretty little male mind - he'd PROBABLY have a whole lot more interests than looking online for women to befriend (like Rigormortis said).

If you are actually buying into his BS... best of luck to you. It's not uniqueness, it's an angle. I'd be stunned if Seraph's synopsis up there wasn't the exact thing going on here. Absolutely stunned.

But hey - I've come across some real pieces of work in online dating. So perhaps I'm just being jaded. hahaha

Good luck!
R1g0rM0rT1s
asexual males have generally been castrated lucky....like eunuchs in a harem. otherwise i would imagine it to be some kind of brain dysfunction issue perhaps...in all seriousness.

one thing though...what on earth is a platonic lover??
sheathedclaws
Well, I'm also not one to conform to gender binary or sexual classification.

However for me it still stands; I have family members of the sort. But this is absolutely not the thread to discuss gender and sexuality beliefs.

I do hope he isn't being untruthful for your sake. You'll learn about him through time.
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