**Asexual** Leo --- How to Get him to Talk?!
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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
relationship without sex. just love. when I tell my best friend that I love him, it is implied that the love is platonic (because it's been discussed).
And yes, it is a brain dysfunction and also can develop from traumatic experiences. That's how I meant it when originally speaking to Seraph.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
Should I ask him to send me his "naked" picture??????????? I won't...
"platonic lover" is just "platonic friend"...which means "NO sex involved friendship"...good for a long distance relationship.
I got more interested in him...when he said "I'm very proud to be an asexual..."
So for my purpose, I don't care about his physical part......missing or not.......
|whatever that is real. Not everyone needs sex to have a romantic relationship. geez. |
If this guy is lying or not who knows but that does exist.
Posted by TaurusManUk
Guys always like BS, are they??? so it doesn't matter the BS from USA or from England...
however, I want to find out what's wrong with him.......very curious...
Posted by TaurusManUkPosted by sheathedclawsPosted by R1g0rM0rT1s
Uh sure, duh. I'm marrying my best friend of 15 years. The friend I'm referring to in the prior example was merely given to answer her treetrunking question. So why push the matter? Seriously? All I said was that I loved my friend very deeply without romantic or sexual nature.
And no, FWB is FWB. If I'm FWB then I'm just fooling around for convenience, fun, and decent company. I'm not ever romantically interested with any FWB I've ever had.
There is a huge difference.
I think you're naive in this situation, period.
|@ sheathedclaws..."So why push the matter? Seriously?"|
I didn't push... but I was annoyed by his "sweet" BS...
So I am wondering if he dare to contact & keep BS on me, why dare NOT to talk about himself---"how/why" he became asexual---that's all I want to know in such situation.
Wish he can open to talk...before I lost all my interest & patience...
Posted by luckystar007
This is almost adorable.
"why dare NOT to talk about himself---"how/why" he became asexual---that's all I want to know in such situation."
Well I certainly hope you've got more substantial plans than that. The poor guy, if he *is* genuine will think he's a circus sideshow. Let the truth reveal itself on its own. Cornering him directly will probably make him clam up. And if he *is* laying game on you then he'll just do it harder in order to deflect the conversation.
You're clearly interested, so whatever he's doing is *sustaining* your interest. You're getting a mental and emotional payoff. So let that payoff continue and let things unfold on their own. That's really all you can do. So satisfy your interest, but keep vigilant.
|Sure, I am really interested in what I am going to find out.........|
I have never seen a Leo can be such a chicken!!!!!!!!!! He is much different than my Leo neighbor...I wish he would be my neighbor...someday...
Posted by luckystar007
WOW, Lucky - I wasn't implying that body of text to you! It was in response to TaurusMan.
And honestly it's probably either from trauma or he was born with that 'programming' in his brain. There's not really a set reason to ask him how or why.
I hate how people are told or expected to explain their sexual orientation. It's absolutely nobody's business but their own, and those they openly CHOOSE to tell. It's like people feel like they have the right to know - ugh...
37 years old female from A place called Happy, the journey was all about getting to know me
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|I have a funny feeling about this. I think dude is married. By stating he is asexual you are not expected to talk about sex. I think this is his way of not committing adultery. He knows that neither of you will travel 3000 miles only to go to the movies. You have zero chance of ever meeting. Thats why he said it. I suspect he is not answering your questions to avoid entrapment. This "mystery" is pretty easy to solve.... next time you talk to him and he asks you what you are doing tell him you are touching yourself. His response should answer most if not all of the questions you have. He should be shocked. If he starts asking you what you are doing wanting to know specifics then you know the deal. If he is lying you should block him asap. I know you said you dont care but really you should. It is the equivalent of a heterosexual person pretending to be homosexual. I do believe there are asexual men in this world. I dont think they would use the term boyfriend. I really hope I am wrong about him. I can imagine it would be difficult to find other asexuals. I understand why you would be excited.|
|OMG.....excited about meeting an asexual man????!!!???|
if i were going out with someone and he announced he was asexual, i would be DEVASTATED!!!
i don't get the attraction unless it's just pure curiosity and to be honest, you make the guy sound like he's a test case you're reviewing.
people shouldn't have to defend their sexuality or justify it but when they introduce themselves along the lines of 'hi! i'm asexual'....they're kinda asking for it aren't they??
that's the biggest red flag for me. it's not like the guy is acceptably gay or anything...he's not into sex at all and so i don't understand why he includes that information in an online introduction to someone 3000 miles away.
it makes absolutely no sense.
and i queried the term platonic 'lover' for the use of lover...the two words just do not go together at all. you can only every have platonic friendships.
i like nala's advice...say you're touching yourself and see what he says.
|yeah...my friend used to tell girls he was a gynaecologist or a masseur as an intro..he and another guy friend had some business cards made, their 'company' was called called 'orgasms 'r' us', LOL. i think it's fair to say a single guy will say just about anything for effect and the thing about being asexual is that he might be laying down the gauntlet to women to 'turn' him back to 'normal', lol. if that's his game, i think it is a rather cunning plan LOL.|
Posted by sheathedclaws
It isn't really the idea of asexuality that's throwing people off (although it's something people are very unused to hearing about.)
It's his words:
"I told him that I want him to be my "brother", he replied "more than any thing else I would like to be your asexual boy friend other than your brother."
This is very new. Having him "like a brother" and "asexual boyfriend" sound like exactly the same thing. Why did he go out of his way to make the distinction? The answer is that he's suggesting she actually *commit* to him as a girlfriend, which won't happen in a brother/sister relationship.
Further, I doubt anyone here is poking fun at the guy. But the suggestion (the idea) of a sexless relationship is so foreign to some that hearing about it (often for the first time) will send heads a-spinnin'. If education on the matter is required, then people need to avail themselves of that.
All anyone is really telling the OP to do is to be vigilant about the matter. A lot of women are subject to all sorts of lines. A lot of men will claim no interest in a relationship or sex just to ingratiate themselves with women. So there's going to be some snickering going on until the idea of "asexual" sinks in. No one's attacking the guy, but people *are* expressing concerns about whether he's being truthful.
|I got more attention from you guys... Thank you for all your thoughts! |
I am trying to figure out why he became asexual...I believe everything has its reason. I did some research... Asexual can be real but not evil...1% of adults are asexual. I don't think he is using "asexual" to attract a non-asexual woman...make NO sense at all.
He is single, never married, he said he is looking for a life partner...has a good job, and some special hobbies...seem like a normal nice guy with good-looking & smart head. That's all I know.
So far, nobody really answered my questions from my OP......you are more focusing on "sex" too much......why???
As a Sag, I have lots of interests..."sex" is not a big deal to me (I can get it anytime I want and from any guy I want). The ONLY condition for me to make REAL friends is if the person can be HONEST with me!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am interested in the asexual Leo...just because I feel "safe" to deal with him......so I want/need to verify if he is a real asexual. If so, I will keep him. If not, I will dump him. Sag girls can attract all men around us...so I don't need to find a sexual man from 3000 miles away.
I guess only thing I can do is to wait...until he is open to talk the real thing honestly rather than just BS. I have NO reason to hurry...