How to deal with the Leo Man?

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8/8/2006 10:15:01 PM | More
savagetai

female from Canada  

Hi all..

I am a cappy who really really digs a leo man. He's 8 years older than me (which is fine... I'm 25 and hes 33) and I like the fact that hes stable and seems to have his stuff together.

I've known him for not too long.. and when we talk on the phone, our conversation and laughter, is endless! Our witty repertoire is beyond each other and we are constantly teasing and dissing each other.. but in a fun way! Flirting.. might I say. Anyways, I've never really dealt with a Leo and for me.. for some reason.. I'm an emotional person (for a Cappy that is..). Perhaps my pisces rising does that. Anyways, on our first date, we had an amaing time.. laughing till we both cried. He walked me back to my apt., left me at my front door and kissed me (woohoo). such a gentleman..

The second time we hung out, I met him and his group of friends at a club. He introduced me to some of them and he met some of my friends. Apparently, both sides seem to be cool with us. I've not known him long.. but these two times that we've hung out has been good. I love talking to him on the phone and we talk on msn too.

Thing is... I'm not used to the fact that he seems to be aloof! Maybe aloof in my standards because I dig him alot and seems to be the one calling and initiating more. Anotehr thing, I've never dated an older man.. and he's definitely different from the 20 somethings I am used to. See, I am very upfront with this Leo. I will tell him like it is, good or bad. He appreciates that I am upfront and that I will express myself to him.. and he sometimes does.. but he seems hesistant. I mentioned this to him and he told me not to take it personally because he's guarded. he told me that I need to get to know him to understand. So I'm being patient as I can.

I have a hard time trusting people because of my past.. but I hope that I can trust him when he says he'll be upfront with me too. I told him that if I stand no chance, he has to tell me and I will go away. I hate being led on and he said that he will. The one thing that I can't stand are games. I play none because I don't like wasting my time.

I don't know how or what to do to handle a leo... I am afraid of getting hurt.. but I really like him and he's told me that he thinks we'll get along fine.. and to get to know each other and see where it goes. I love it when he calls me pet names.. and he seems to want to take things slow I guess?

Please advise.. I don't want to screw anything up!!!
8/9/2006 12:24:19 AM | More
wheelhomies

female from a spot in the shade  

was i ever crazy? maybe... or maybe lif

"I don't know how or what to do to handle a leo... I am afraid of getting hurt.. but I really like him and he's told me that he thinks we'll get along fine.. and to get to know each other and see where it goes. I love it when he calls me pet names.. and he seems to want to take things slow I guess?"

Leos aren't into games either. I think he's being honest with you. Maybe he has been hurt before, and because of that, he just wants to take things slowly, and just get to know you, and feel you out, before making a big commitment.

"I have a hard time trusting people because of my past.. but I hope that I can trust him when he says he'll be upfront with me too."

The fact that he seems gaurded actually does concern me a little bit. Maybe there's something he is hiding (an ex he hasn't completely gotten over yet, or something). Who knows. However, I am pretty sure he wouldn't "keep you around" if there was no potential there. You said you don't like wasting time, and Leos don't either. Right now things definitely seem pretty casual..but that doesn't mean that he isn't going to give you a shot. When things do get more serious, it will be obvious. Leos in committed relationships are anything but aloof

I hope everything works out for you. Although a Capricorn and Leo match can definitely be challenging at times
8/9/2006 7:33:25 AM | More
savagetai

female from Canada  

thank you wheelhomies... just wondering.. why are leos and cappies challenging? i'm not a typical cappy you see.....

and i hope things work out too. I really like this dude..
8/9/2006 7:34:31 AM | More
savagetai

female from Canada  

anyone else... has two cents to offer?
8/9/2006 8:50:14 AM | More
purrrfect

female

Ascendant: Virgo Su

...Thing is... I'm not used to the fact that he seems to be aloof!...

I do this in the initial stages of anything. I wouldn't worry about it. It's still early for you two. And aside from this it seems you like each other. I'm not a Leo man but once he decides he wants more this may change if he realizes he is in love.
8/9/2006 8:56:15 AM | More
little_sparrow

female from the sparrow tree

Five planets of Libra

Trust your instincts on this one. The fact that he took you out with his friends on your second date suggests that he doesn't see you as the one.

8/9/2006 9:03:46 AM | More
purrrfect

female

Ascendant: Virgo Su

I don't know about that little sparrow. I may not be a Leo male, but my friends are pretty important to me. And to let someone meet them usually means I want someone to know the important people in my life. I imagine it could be the same for men. Especially if he wants to show her off in "typical leo" fashion.

It may not suggest that at all, in fact quite the opposite.
8/9/2006 10:07:40 AM | More
wheelhomies

female from a spot in the shade  

was i ever crazy? maybe... or maybe lif

"why are leos and cappies challenging?"

Well, there's always more to a relationship than just astrology, and definitely more than just sun signs as well. But leo and Capricorn tend to have different attitudes towards a lot of things. Capricorn usually tends to be more conservative and "classic", while Leo is flamboyant. Capricorns are also much more frugal than Leos. There are a lot of things like this. Also the two signs vary in how they usually communicate. And both signs are extremely stubborn, which means there isn't going to be a lot of give and take in disagreements.
8/9/2006 10:26:31 AM | More
SoftCookie

male from female  

Planetary Positions And Major Aspects Pl

I agree with purrrfect, introducing her to his friends means that he thinks she's a cool girl and wants to show her off. But it also probably means that he wants to be friends first and doesn't want to rush headfirst into anything.

savagetai, you've only been on two dates. It might be a little early to start over-analyzing the relationship. Just relax and be yourself, putting pressure on things will only make him disappear. He probably already gets enough of that from women his own age who want to shack up and start making babies after the first date.
8/9/2006 3:32:48 PM | More
little_sparrow

female from the sparrow tree

Five planets of Libra

After two dates? She is arm candy he is showing off and not really interested in getting to know her.

Guys who are serious want you all to themselves at least for awhile. If it was two months in, I would agree. Two dates. Nope.
8/9/2006 3:42:00 PM | More
purrrfect

female

Ascendant: Virgo Su

Not necessarily if he's the social type. My bf and I shared the same friends right away.


......But it also probably means that he wants to be friends first and doesn't want to rush headfirst into anything..........

This is THE best way to get anything started.

8/9/2006 3:45:18 PM | More
purrrfect

female

Ascendant: Virgo Su

What that should mean is....

Friends were somtimes included in our "dates" right away.
8/9/2006 3:50:18 PM | More
LeoWithCapAndAnnoyed

Savagetai...weren't you with a Cap recently?
8/9/2006 3:51:11 PM | More
SoftCookie

male from female  

Planetary Positions And Major Aspects Pl

LS, you need to put down your autographed copy of "The Rules" and step back into reality. It sounds like he's been hurt before (maybe recently) and isn't necessarily in the mood to wine and dine. She would have been arm candy if they were walking down the red carpet at a Hollywood premiere, but it sounds like it was just friends getting together casually.
8/9/2006 3:57:52 PM | More
SoftCookie

male from female  

Planetary Positions And Major Aspects Pl

Good point purr, if you can't be friends with a lover then you won't ever be able to take it to the next level. At least not successfully.

Maybe that's a lesson he learned the hard way and doesn't want to make the same mistake again...
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