I once posted problems with Leo male with a gf

yeah!! i remember you!!!! you go gf!! i remember that whole ridiculous 'easy' comment and who said it actually cos there aren't many leo men who actually post as far as i know. it put my back up cos it's the most ridiculously antiquated sexist argument in the book....and it's not just the men who have the opinion that women who are 'easy', as in having the audacity to enjoy sex as much as a man, have nothing more to expect than to be treated like butter. i thought then it was the biggest load of bollocks i'd heard in a long time

how you handle the situation now is up to you of course but congratulations on being the just like me of babylon and actually holding a man's interest.....and welcome to my club, LMAO!!!

course, you know he's on the rebound now and he's probably out hunting generally but if you play your cards right, you could re-establish yourself as the chasee and let him do the chasing and if you make it hard for him and he overcomes every obstacle you throw in his way, you'll know he genuinely wants YOU.

donggri84

7/17/2012 6:09:28 PM | IP

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R1g0rM0rT1s

7/18/2012 4:25:17 AM | IP

words fail me

yes well once the damage is done, it's done and he has to appreciate that him hurting you changed the way you felt about him. it's hard accepting someone back in those circumstances unless they prove over time that they're not hurt you again.

i was chatting to a cancerian friend yesterday and i told him that all men are fundamentally selfish. he said that actually EVERYONE is fundamentally selfish, lol.....made a very good point. there's absolutely nothing wrong with you looking out for yourself with this man...that's exactly what he's been doing. i don't know why it is but many women forget they have the right to be selfish when it comes to romantic involvement. at some stage you have to ask yourself...what's in this for me and if you don't know the answer to that question then there's NOTHING in it for you and you have to go with your gut feeling.

and being indecisive is ok too. it's down to him and his actions to alter your judgement.

seraph

7/18/2012 2:10:01 PM | IP

35 years old male from Canada

First Decan, Mercurial and Venusian Leo.

Posted by donggri84

And I recall one of the leo male here telling me that I should move on because my leo male thinks I'm too easy (apparently) because I didn't keep him at bay for long enough. That he doesn't respect me enough to be with me (was the jist of what I gathered).
I'm here to say, He has broken off with his gf and is begging to be with me.
But Now I'm not having him.
Or he is going to have to work reeeeeally hard for it.
Because I've decided, gf or not gf he is a self centred, egotistical creature that likes power games and I'm not sure
If I want to be with someone like that. However, He is also very charismatic, giving and protective person....
May be I should see how things go slowly? If things will be different without the gf situation?

1) So you actually followed this Leo male's advice, or you're choosing to follow it now. Good.

2)

Posted by donggri84

But Now I'm not having him.
Or he is going to have to work reeeeeally hard for it.
Because I've decided, gf or not gf he is a self centred, egotistical creature that likes power games and I'm not sure
If I want to be with someone like that. However, He is also very charismatic, giving and protective person....

So he's an "egotistical creature that likes to play power games", meaning that you think he'll probably end up using you for his amusement. But you want him anyway because he's charismatic and uh . . . "giving", or something.

Looks like you and R1g have a lot to discuss . . .

R1g0rM0rT1s

7/18/2012 6:17:57 PM | IP

words fail me

LOL @ seraph. what is it like to know everything i wonder?! don't get your mane in a twist!!

donggri84

7/18/2012 6:32:53 PM | IP

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7/18/2012 6:47:35 PM | IP

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seraph

7/18/2012 7:52:56 PM | IP

35 years old male from Canada

First Decan, Mercurial and Venusian Leo.

Posted by donggri84
Heeey R1g0rM0rT1s!

Well, we've been together (together meaning, spending time with each other pretty much everyday) for round about 9 months now. While he was gone for this 3 weeks, I came to see things more clearly.
I pondered, even if he did come back as a single man from the trip (which he did), was he the type of man who I want to be with?
I'm having hard time saying Yes to that question.
We spoke on the phone after he didn't have much luck trying to contact me via msg.
My demon got unleashed, he was confused he thought I'd be happy.
He cried a little in the end said he wants to try to make things right and make me feel loved.

The problem, donggri84, is that *your* story is almost an exact duplicate of scores of other stories about experiences with Leo men. It tends to be the same concerns over and over again. Moreover, these stories are often told from the perspective of what the (confused) woman *wants* to happen. That is, we not only get partial information, but it's related through a haze of wishful thinking, an innocent, questioning attitude - when the answer is already known but difficult to accept, and an almost complete unreadiness to accept any response other than a neutral or positive one. In other words, the seeker isn't really interested in truth - in taking to heart some of the obvious warning signs, but in *hope.*

Here's your original thread, at least one of the early ones about this relationship:

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/Can-Leo-be-put-to-place-Can-you-deal-with-it!-3130337.asp

Just one of the oddities that comes to mind immediately is this:

Posted by donggri84
Same Taurean girl (man I love leos, thats why I hang out here!!) who posted about
breaking up with a leo who had long distance gf overseas.
its been a week and he's been sending me msgs saying he's thinking of me and he even told his share mate
to tell me that he misses me.

You've been spending time with him every day for 9 months, while in the meantime he was also in a long-distance relationship with someone else? What, exactly, was the holdup? And what was he doing - or rather, saying, to this overseas woman *while* he was professing his undying love for you? And how on earth did he make you wait 9 months for him, while he all the while *did not* take the

seraph

7/18/2012 7:57:59 PM | IP

35 years old male from Canada

First Decan, Mercurial and Venusian Leo.

(continued)

. . . opportunity to end it with her and start up with you?

In other words, once again, we're seeing that you're a) being strung along, and b) perfectly ready to jump and post your heartfelt all over dxp *at a time of his own choosing*.

R1g0rM0rT1s

7/19/2012 7:55:37 AM | IP

words fail me

'confused woman'.....lol @ you seraph on your soapbox. you seriously need to get laid and lose the male superiority complex. it's very unattractive.

ellessque

7/19/2012 9:00:45 AM | IP

Scorpio with an Aries Moon Pos

I don't know, Rig....personally, I think it's hella-attractive.

If she can get past the wishful thinking and all the bullbutter she's telling herself to justify the situation, Seraph's advice is quite relevant.

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