I had to let him go... :(
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|For anyone that was following my other post "Need advice please!" I ended meeting up with the Libra today... I went on lunch and text him from where I was at and asked that if he was close by to come see me. He showed up a few minutes later. We sat and talked and it was just like old times and he acted the way he always has. He has never changed the way that he is towards me but the only thing that kills me is he says he is unsure about committing to me and I just take that so personal when he was supposedly 100 percent sure before.. So anyways, the lunch went fine and then when we walked back to my car and he was trying to kiss and hug me and asked what was wrong.. I told him that I just want things back to how they were and he said "you know what it is right now and I just don't know what to say.. it is what it is".. I tried to keep my composure but I couldn't.. I didn't get all crazy or anything but there were some tears and I just let him know how I felt and that I care about him too much to pretend that I am ok with just being friends or taking step backwards when we were supposed to be together. He says that he still cares about me and wants me in his life and that just because he isn't ready to commit to me right now that doesn't mean that he wants to end everything. I just can't wrap my head around how someone could want nothing more than to be with me and then have doubts about it.. It just hurts me so much and I take it personally.. I can't take my feelings "slower".. It's too late for that.. I already care so much about him! I can't pretend that I'm cool with taking a huge step backwards when I'm not cool with it! I told him that telling me things like that and constantly calling and texting me just gets my hopes up that things are going to go back to how they were before all this and that I just can't move on until he is out of my life completely. He said that he is not going to stop contacting me and he hopes that I don't stop but if I do he understands. I can tell that he still cares about me so I just don't understand why he is doing this. He says that it's not me it's just a whole bunch of stuff and that he wouldn't feel fair if I decided to commit to him and he wasn't all he was cracked up to be and then I would resent him. I resent him NOW for making all these promises to me and then letting me down!!|
|I hope I don't end up regretting cutting him off and always wonder what could have been if I had just listened and agreed to take things slower but it just hurts me WAY too much every time I see him to think of going through all this and not ending up with him.. I would rather end it now before I end up any more hurt then I already am.|
|Thank you.. I feel good that I said what I had to say so that atleast I know that he tried.. He's going to be the one to have to eventually live with knowing that he let someone go that cared about him and who he cared about without even knowing why. Or maybe he wont regret it who knows.. I figure what is meant to be will be and if he cares about me as much as he says he will be back when he knows what he wants. If he does and I am still available at that time then maybe we can try again.. If not then oh well but I can not allow him to string me along until he is ready and risk being hurt again..|
|I mean I feel good atleast knowing that I said how I honestly felt and that I tried.. I didn't want to push him out of my life and say things just out of anger. I want him to know that I do care about him and that he is losing someone who cares for him and if that's ok with him then what can I say..|
|The hard part is that when he talks to me, holds me, EVERYTHING that he does still shows that he cares about me.. He is still calling me right back, texting me everyday, he came to see me today as soon as I asked. He still looks at me the same as he did before. Just the confusion thing hurts me.. I don't see how someone can be confused about wanting to be with someone that you care about.. Either you do or you don't! |
I really don't want to play games but knowing he still has feelings for me I guess I'm kinda hoping that the distance with help him to decide what he wants and that he will come back.. I'm so confused.. Ugh.. I hope I don't live to regret this..
Posted by QLIbraMale
were you raised by a single mom ?
(if I'm not being intrusive)
Posted by KingofLibras
LOL.. Actually we were not in public anymore at this point.. I don't feel I was too clingy.. Even when I would say that I was busy or tired HE was the one that would push the issue and want to see me and HE is still the one who keeps calling and texting me when I try to ignore him.. HE is the one that is saying I will have to change my number or he will keep calling so I don't think it's that.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
Thanks.. He was the one who begged me the whole time until I gave in and I'm sorry I don't understand it. Has nothing to do with being hot or not.. I'm just confused..
|I think you did the right thing. I'm sorry you're hurting, but if he doesn't want to commit to you then there is no way your needs were going to be met by him and why would you settle for that? |
I'm glad you showed him how you felt...no reason to hide the disappointment.
|By the way, he may very well care about you. That's not a sign of anything other than the fact that he cares about you. It doesn't mean he wants a relationship.|
|But anyways.. I DO KNOW that insecurity and crying and all that is unattractive and its not going to help.. I'm obviously not going to understand why he's having doubts now and that's another reason I feel its best to cut all ties for now. I'm not trying to make anyone feel sorry for me I am just genuinely confused after things had been going so well and he is still confusing me by refusing to let me go but at the same time saying he doesn't know if he's ready.. I'm just trying to understand that's all!|
Posted by Shadows
Thank you! I completely agree! That's exactly what I told him today! I just wanted to let him know that I do care just in case he decides to come around but I am not accepting less than what he originally promised me and I will not wait for him!
I'm still hurt but feel better now that I got that off my chest!
|you're welcome, I guess..|
many libras I know are quite nonchalant in their life approach
(love, work, etc)
they may know when they want to be w/ somebody,
but becuz of their indecisive drive, they tend to go back and forth.
back n forth..
even though he's an adult,
you may have to pressure him into making a decision.
(take me or leave me)
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