Understanding the Libra Man

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2/27/2012 4:13:50 PM | More
ALibra

Tisk Tisk Tisk. Ladies Ladies Ladies. You are in for a treat, if he hasn't already charmed you right out of your panties, has you doing and saying things you said you would never do and say, jumping in and out of your world, and making you feel as though he never left when he returns after days or weeks of nothing. Leaving you with question marks on where you stand in his beautiful sociable word. Why he seems hot one minute, and distant the next. Well here are the answers….

The Famous Disappearing….
If your libra man has disappeared he has most likely done it for a couple of different reason, and if you are not his girl yet then this wont be the last time. Reason number one: You became clingy. They hate it. Even if you are their woman, they do not want to be up under you all day everyday. They do however want to see you everyday, sometimes all day, but not allll the damn time. He needs time to regroup, think, process, and plan. You need to give him that space. The last thing you want is a libra who is confused, hasn't had time to plan, either you going to let him or he'll disappear simple as that. Reason number 2, You have turned him off. And this could range from a whole lot of things, from not keeping yourself, starting out one way then turning out to be another. This means if you started out being a diva everytime he saw you, a couple confortable days are okay but he will not tolertate you letting yourself go, because he wouldn't do it to you. Fair is fair. This may also include, being sweet, fun and independent at first, then transforming to naggy, fussy, and dependent on him for your own happiness. Whatever you did to get your libra, keep doing it if you wish to keep him. The 3rd reason and most common, is you fell for him before he's had a chance to fall for you. As I've stated in some of my comments and post, Libra feels the need to ALWAYS be on the same page with their partner. We don’t like to be out of balance, emotionally, physically or even mentally. Something has to come to a common EVEN ground. If not, it will drive us nuts. So if you fall hard for you libra, and you let them know it before making sure its mutual they will become distant in an effort to stop you from falling any harder before they've even made up their mind about you yet. They may still have something they want to weigh out about you and they cant do it with you jumping the gun before they are finished. So they are not doing it to be mean, play games, they are doin
2/27/2012 4:14:28 PM | More
ALibra

What to do when he disappears:

You can ask him why, if he doesn't respond then leave it alone. Do not nagg him, or curse him because it will only make him stay gone longer. He will respond when he's good and ready. If you do curse him out or let him have it, you better be ready for the consequences. If they are wrong they will accept it, but yelling at them or nagging them about being gone will only make them pull away further. The more you push, the more they pull. So mimic them. Match them when they do this. If they become airy or show a carefree attitude then do the same. They will think "This is more like it". It will put the tenderness of emotions at ease. If they become mushy then you have the green light to be mushy. If they are constantly disappearing on you, then chances are they are taking advantage of the fact that you keep letting them back. Sometimes you have to be strong and shut the door on a libra. Meaning, don’t let him come back so easily. They need and even crave a challaneg every now and then. But being a challenge to a libra is different than other men. They don’t react well to total silent treatmeant they will suck the relationship up as a lost. So just spread it out. Answer one day and don’t the next. Text back to maybe 2 text, and don’t respond to others. Always be sweet, and have a carefree attitude until he's back to mush or all over you again. Be carful though because you don’t want him thinking you don’t care at all when you do, so if he says something careing and sweet its cool to respond. Just be careful not to read too much into his soft words because they are ultimate charmers, and to tell if they are being sincere is to watch their actions not their mouths and the words that come out. If you do only listen to them and not watch them, then sistah you’re a goner.
2/27/2012 4:15:54 PM | More
ALibra

Getting a handle on the irresistible charm:

If you haven't noticed that this a charming little joka. He can charm his self out of the stickiest situations with one winning smile. Don’t make the mistake of letting him know you’re a complete victim to that charm. He will use it every chance he gets. And he will step right over you to the next exquisidley dressed beauty, with great convo and and independent nature with a no b.s type of attitude that can knock right back over his heels. You must be that girl. You have to stand out. Do not baby him. If he's been bad, then so be it. No your worth, and stand tall. Drift away only checking on him from time to time, and even then no mushi business. Leave all that up to him. Remember you are not even close to homefree until he makes you’re his girl. Because at that point, chances are he's already in love,and all you have to do is keep him in love which will consist of keeping yourself up, smelling good, being clean, affectionate, independent, and strong. He will adore you. He adors any woman whom is sweet, looks damn good, and doesn't really need him or at least that’s how she acts.

THE ATTRACTION:
Forget about saving that gorgeous head turning outfit for a night on the town with your girls, your libra man is well worth the tags being ripped off and even buying nice pair of shoes to compliment it. He will surely show his appreciation and you will win points all around the board. He can tell when a woman has actually took time in her appearance, and if he feels it was done especially for him, it’s a bonus. If your toes are out, polish must NEVER be chipped that goes for nails to. He's checking it all. He may not say anything but heck you might as well be standing on spinning panel because thats how deep he will be sizing you up. Hair should be done, if not professionally It should at least be neat. Even if you didn’t have time to shop, just make sure you look as though you tried your best, only because he will be doing the same for you. Please splash on the perfume, don’t take a bath in it, but by all means apply some. He's smitten by a woman that has a plan of her own and has ambition and drive to acheieve it. He will want to be apart of it, because he will want to be apart of your life. For convo he's game for anything, just nothing to raunchy unless he initiates it.
2/27/2012 4:17:08 PM | More
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SEX:

The ultimate people pleaser goes double for his lover. His only goal is to please. He will get his, but you first. He loves to see his lover panting and staring at him with stary eyes from the orgasm he just gave her, and then he will be on for his own. He's up for trying new things, he will even be game for outside sexual fun, just make sure theres a blanket if its on grass or sand, and no one is around, he doesn't like his sex to be a show for others. To this man, sex is an adventure and is a display of ones emotions displayed physically. Chances are he's planned out how he was going to make love to you from the very first time he saw you. He's planned it down to the wine you two will drink, the sheets it will be done on, and what new position he will try on you. He's into kissing while love making only if you know what your doing. A bad kisser is a deal breaker, unless it can be fixed. So if your not good a French kissing, then stick to long passionate pecks, he'd prefer that then you drowning him with saliva and tongue. He's into sensual massages, looking into your eyes, kisses on your neck and ears the whole nine, you may feel as though he making love to you, but if you haven't established love or a relationship don’t get it twisted he's still a man, until then its passionate sex, not love making.

Break up-

It’s the same a the Libra woman. He will break up if the relationship has began to drain him emotionally. They wont stay in something negative or stuffy for long, no matter how much they love you. A libra is capable of loving you and leaving you if you deliberately hurt them, lie, manipulate, or nag until they are ready to yank their hair out, or walk around like you have a gray cloud over your life. They love to help with problems, but try not to dump negative issues into their lap every single day. It will make them depressed.
2/27/2012 5:52:00 PM | More
chemengin

34 years old female from inside my chem lab

Planet Longitude House

Posted by ALibra
if he hasn't already charmed you right out of your panties, has you doing and saying things you said you would never do and say,




LOL he has been doing this for the last 3 years

you know, I never experience a disappearing act with him. tbh, the only game he played with me was making me think i had the charm and i was leading the relationship. which was essential for getting me to where we are now. he told me he had to change the game plan with me, because he thought i could match him game for game and he felt that i can see right through him.
2/28/2012 8:14:02 AM | More
LibraSid

33 years old male from Upstate, South Carolina  

I support this thread.

Good stuff.

2/28/2012 9:55:19 AM | More
DESTINY0809

GO AHEAD GIRL WITH YOUR BAD SELF!!! LOL...SO SO SO SO ON POINT AND I KNOW FROM FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE AS YOU ALREADY KNOW AS WELL!!
2/28/2012 10:04:21 AM | More
ALibra

LOL!! ^_^
2/28/2012 5:43:48 PM | More
MzDiana

female from FL  

I am a Libra in search of understanding.

I do not think I would date another "me" LOL..
Never dated a Libra man. I do need some, ok, a lot of difference to help balance me out. But, really informative thread. Thanks.
2/28/2012 5:55:57 PM | More
straightshooter

female

I conceived in the backseat of a 1967 Ca

Posted by MzDiana
I do not think I would date another "me" LOL..
Never dated a Libra man. I do need some, ok, a lot of difference to help balance me out. But, really informative thread. Thanks.



So...you Libras need total opposites or what? I mean what makes you people tick? What can I do to make this Libra man STAY AROUND? What are the right buttons to push? What are the wrong ones?
2/28/2012 6:42:39 PM | More
ALibra

Some of us do need a complete.opposite. Heck I'm crazy in love with an aries we couldn't be more opposite. Like night and day emotionally n how we love. But yet its a challenge for me everyday.to try to understand him. Sometimes I like it other times it drives me nuts

2/29/2012 2:53:33 PM | More
sweethearts

female

NZ born Kiwi living and loving life in A

Total opposites...maybe when I was younger NOW I'm happy to be with someone that I am in sync with. We have similar moods and appreciate a lot of the same thing. He doesn't do hot cold, in fact I did at first and he hauled me up on it. It's also nice to be able to read what the other is thinking and wanting...you just know!

And love without constant battling gives more time for loving!
2/29/2012 3:19:59 PM | More
LibraSid

33 years old male from Upstate, South Carolina  

Posted by sweethearts
Total opposites...maybe when I was younger NOW I'm happy to be with someone that I am in sync with. We have similar moods and appreciate a lot of the same thing. He doesn't do hot cold, in fact I did at first and he hauled me up on it. It's also nice to be able to read what the other is thinking and wanting...you just know!

And love without constant battling gives more time for loving!


I'm thinking this too... I'd prefer someone just like me. I treetrunking love me, why wouldn't I want someone like me?

I've done the opposite thing and I like a challenge but if you are different at the core it doesn't really matter how hard you work. The whole challenge was trying to find or create a deeper connection between people who basically speak different languages. If I had somone like me and we didn't have that struggle (or it was lessened) there would be more time and energy for loving. We can challenge each other in other ways to deal with that aspect.
2/29/2012 3:23:51 PM | More
ALibra

Well spoken @ Sweethearts. I didn’t purposely go after my aries because I knew he was opposite. I fell for him because we knew each other since childhood, and I felt I could honestly be myself with him an not be judged for it. He seemed to truly be into me for me. However, by the time I found out how different we were I was already smitten in love. I mentioned needing a challenge because for me things can get boring when being with same person for too long, I don’t like arguing but a good healthy debate with someone with complete different opinions and outlooks exercises my mind.lol. I love it. I don’t know. My aries being my opposite has this as a positive. But your right, the negative side is we are opposites in ALL areas, which is not good. Some areas are okay, but love and emotion I think needs to be in sync and this is where he and I have a problem. But im seeing a taurus too, who seems to be just about perfectly in sync emotionally.
2/29/2012 4:01:29 PM | More
MzDiana

female from FL  

I am a Libra in search of understanding.

Posted by straightshooter
Posted by MzDiana
I do not think I would date another "me" LOL..
Never dated a Libra man. I do need some, ok, a lot of difference to help balance me out. But, really informative thread. Thanks.



So...you Libras need total opposites or what? I mean what makes you people tick? What can I do to make this Libra man STAY AROUND? What are the right buttons to push? What are the wrong ones?


I LOVE me and Yes, my daughter even says that I am conceited and all that jazz. However, I like my scales balanced. And for as many people as you have, you will have just as many opinions on the topic. I know that I can get along with almost anyone and I KNOW that I need something other than someone with my same idiosyncrasies. I am by no means in my 20s (41 as a matter of fact) and I get bored with someone like me. I do not want to MIRROR me. I want someone who is going to bring out the me that I do not want to readily bring out. I like my space, so then, with differing interests. I have my space cos he is doing his thing and I am doing mine. JUST ME! No other person exactly like me.
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