Virgo Stalker?

First, I know that anyone has the potential to do weird sh!t. I just want to know a virgo's perspective.

I broke up with my aqua boyfriend around June 08. We had been on again and off for the last 3 years, still, I truly wanted to move on.

I met the Virgo in July. From the start, I loved talking to him. He made me wanna be open with him. I told him about the recurring ex and that I was not ready for a relationship.

Still, the Virgo came on SUPER strong even as I was telling him to slow down.

Fast forward to early September, guess who's bizzack after a disappearing act? Yes, the Aqua. Yes, I still loved him. Yes, right after the Virgo left one morning, the Aqua moved back in. And yes, I told Mr. Virgo all about it.

At first, he pretended to be understanding, he even encouraged me to work it out with my ex. Well, I got back with my ex, but me and the Virgo continued to talk on the phone, as friends. We never talked about anything romantic and I never brought up my current relationship, out of respect.

Then came the cutting remarks and the insults. Eventually I had enough and ended all contact with him. Then, I started getting text from him saying that he had lied and he was not over me and that he was basically going crazy over it. I responded once and told him that I was sorry he felt that way, but I repeatedly told him I wasn't ready for all that with him. He continued sending unanswered text saying he wanted me in his life. Then came the hang ups on the phone.

My question is........do virgos tend to get obsessed or is this some out of character sh!t? He's starting to scare me.

Starfish, how long did it take for him to finally fall back? Even tho this guy is worrying me right now, one day, I might like to continue our friendship because it was so refreshing to be able to talk to him about so many things.

"Still, the Virgo came on SUPER strong even as I was telling him to slow down.

Fast forward to early September, guess who's bizzack after a disappearing act? Yes, the Aqua. Yes, I still loved him. Yes, right after the Virgo left one morning, the Aqua moved back in. And yes, I told Mr. Virgo all about it."



I'd like to know why you kept in contact with Virgo on the phone, when you that Aqua goes bizzerk. I'd like to know why you would move one guy in the front door, while another was leaving out of the back door? I'd like to know why you'd tell Virgo man that you wanted to take it slower, and then continue to contact him to keep his interest hieghtened.


And mostly, I'd like to know if you're related to fumingli_scorpio?

The Virgo man invests a lot of time and effort into what he does. You let him believe there was something possible.

I have little doubt he consoled you and pointed out the flaws in the Aqua man. He thought he was making progress with you and there you go right back, head first into the mess he thought he saved you from.

In the beginning yes, he would be supportive. However, ultimately he would criticise you for making the same mistake over again.

This is how the Virgo thinks.

yeah the Virgo out the door and the Aqua back in straight after?

sounds like you lead the virgo on when you were still in love with the aqua. simple.

I told the Virgo from the beginning that I did not want a relationship and that I was just getting over one and we should take it slow. I don't know what more I could have said.

And he didn't necessarily console me while I was broken up with my ex. I hardly talked about my ex because I was actively trying to forget him. When the Aqua came back, the virgo told me to try and make it work, said that it's hard enough to find someone you love and I should at least try. I agreed that I should try one last time. Not one time did he mention any attachment or emotion toward me.

What more could I have done?

Too late to do anything or what ifs, etc, but if this happens again (hopefully not), do the guy you're with a favour and wait a while before moving the new in after letting the old one out.....no matter how casual, how sex only related it is NOBODY wants to know that was the case. He'd have pretended at first it was ok but then the analyzing would have taken place and Im not here to judge but it wouldnt have been the nicest feeling.

I have to ask the question why would you move a guy in that has been on and off with you for years straight back in with you as soon as a guy you were casual with left? Did you miraculously "work things out" that soon after Virguy left that morning? how can that be? Was being with Virguy the night before the last hoorah before he moved back in? Does Aqua know about Virguy?

Personally none of it makes sense.....how can you work things out, yet you were sleeping with another guy the night before? You wanted Aqua out of your life - I dont get any of this.

I agree, lesson learned to give myself more time after a relationship.

The Aqua simply needed somewhere to stay as he doesn't have any family.

When he moved back, we began to try to work out our differences. And I did tell him about the virgo that I had been spending time with.

u hurt the virgo u let him think things were more than they were then u just dismissed him. the reason he offer advice at first is because he wanted u to sort shyt out then come bad to him. when he realized you werent gonna do that he start insulting you, u basically hurt him.

Maybe I'm just not getting it. So please explain HOW I made him think it was more than it was when I repeatedly told him I didn't want a relationship—?

You told him you did not want a relationship YET at the same time, you want to "take things slow".

This hinted to him some sign of hope.

A sign of hope ^^^ yes, coupled with sleeping with him.


After reading everything here .. I'm beginning to suspect that this was all about trying to get Aqua man back.


I hope not .. I hope like hell you didn't use this man (Virgo) to fuck up Aqua's head into running back to you ... because it seems pretty suspect to me that Aqua would wait 3 months to go bizzerk.

"I broke up with my aqua boyfriend around June 08."

"early September, guess who's bizzack after a disappearing act? Yes, the Aqua."

Disappearing act? It took him 3 months to realize you had disappeared on him? This makes no sense to me. However, it would make perfect sense that Aqua man would go bizzerk after 3 months if you were trying to make him jealous by sleeping with Virgo man .. and it would make sense why you'd have one slipping out back door, while moving on in the front.


It would make sense because getting him to move back in the front door was the whole plan ..... and now you have gained some power here, for Aqua man knows that another man might want you.

Another thing that doesn't make sense .. if you still love Aqua man as you claimed, then why are you so determined to keep Virgo man around as friend? Why try to keep him?

Oh yeah, so Aqua man stays reminded that there's another man who might want you.


This is the impression I get from your situation .... because otherwise, none of it would make any sense.

I understand how it can be seen that way. U are absolutely right. And P, even tho I will miss talking to him, I will let him go completely. The Aqua didnt know about the virgo until AFTER he moved back in. So there was no baiting him using the virgo. None of this mess was intentional. Now that I've seen another perspective, I know why he's acting the way he is. Thanks