PE

and i'm not referring to phys ed!

this thing called "premature ejaculation". i googled it and read some literature on it. i hear it's pretty common but i've never experienced it! then again i've only ever slept with 3 men so maybe i just lucked out. of course everything i read was contradictory in one way or another. it seems no one can get the facts straight.

this recently happened to a friend of mine. she's in a new relationship with a man. he's extremely attracted to her and claims that she is the most beautiful woman he's ever been with. he seriously is in awe of her and can't believe that she chose him. well they've fooled around a couple of times but then they tried to have sex this past weekend. it started as them doing the usual kissing, heavy petting stuff and then she progressed to giving him head. she says he came in less than a minute. she says she was going slow and was just warming him up but then all of a sudden he grabbed her head, pushed down on it, and he came. just like that. she says he wasn't apologetic and kinda blew it off sarcastically. she says they didn't talk about it though. i guess he tried to have sex with her the next morning but she was a little concerned after what happened. she didn't wanna get into it only to not enjoy herself.

she's trying to be sensitive about it but is like me and has never experienced this before. she's had more sex partners than i have but not by much. the guy is in his early 30's, has had a couple of long-term relationships, and several casual affairs so he's not lacking in experience. he is on a med for mild depression but from what i've read it actually decreases sex drive and causes delayed ejaculation. we're not sure about the last time he's had sex but we do know that he has this one chick that hangs around for booty calls. the last time we heard he hooked up with her was in late july-early august. don't believe he's gotten any since. any ideas about what's going on here?

sweethearts

9/30/2009 4:27:32 PM | IP

109 years old female

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The guys a CLOWN!!!

From the way you have descibed it, why stick around and give him any other chance, he's a selfish lover and that dont sound like it's going to change!

LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved

9/30/2009 4:29:48 PM | IP

38 years old female

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If he's that attracted to her like you say and it was their first time, I'm sure he just blew his wad so quick because he had been anticipating the moment for so long! I wouldnt think too much into it unless it continued to happen time and time again. Tell her to give him another shot, but this time don't give him head first and see what happens!

ninjamu

11/3/2009 3:47:43 AM | IP

27 years old female from seattle, USA

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well, i got hit up with this topic again from the same friend and there's an update.

so they didn't hook up again for an entire month. she gave it another shot, and because it was her time of the month, she opted to give him head again. she pretty much received the same result as the time before. he hadn't gotten any since her so she thought maybe it really was because he wasn't getting any. he called her up this past friday and she decided to give it one more chance because her period had ended. she spent the night at his place sunday night.

so this time they get down and everything is going smoothly. it gets down to game time where he's pulling her pants off and he's got the condom on. he entered her then pumped slowly a couple of times. then she said he went really fast for a few seconds. he stopped and started kissing her breasts and then slowly pulled away and out of her. she's pretty turned on cuz she thinks he teasing her and is taking his time. he then moved away from her and laid on his back next to her. so she gets up, mounts him, and is getting ready to ride him. she reaches down to grab his chicken so she can get to it and notices that it's half limp. this temporarily confuses her and she suddenly finds herself thinking that she's not turning him on. she looks at him worriedly, he smiles at her sheepishly, and says,"um, gimme 20 minutes". it hits her like a ton of bricks. he already came! this is where she gets pissed. she's all like,"are u treetrunking serious?!" no apologies and no attempts to get her off.

unfortunately the impact of everything didn't really hit her until last night. which is when she called to vent to me. she says it's really weird with him because he doesn't seem to be doing it on purpose. he treats her well, is respectful, and is very sweet to her. she's not sure that he even knows what he's doing is a bad thing. she plans on discussing things with him but she wants time to cool off. she says she's not gonna get with him again but she does plan on telling him how it makes her feel used. if they weren't already friends she would just drop it.

BellaBulleautiful

11/3/2009 10:10:01 AM | IP

41 years old female from A view of you making an ass of yourself.

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If the guy couldn't help it,it would be worth working on.....thinking of baseball or the queen (lol) or whatever.but it looks like he might act embarrassed or at least apologetic if it was a real problem for him.I'd say he's just an assclown looking for a quick sperm receptacle.he doesn't care for her much,that's pretty obvious.

enfant_terrible

11/3/2009 6:55:29 PM | IP

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Haha gotta love that dude! But if I was him I'd spend a few hours of make-up time with my face between her legs.. but hey, that's just me!

ianthefish

11/3/2009 7:31:34 PM | IP

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if hes blowing his load to quick, then he probably doesn't have to much experience getting women off...

probably doesn't want to disappoint her with that also..

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