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odboland
10/27/2009 9:20:31 PM | IP

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Hi everyone. I do need some help. My ex is an Aries. We went through a lot together but he broke up with me because he said he had no feeling for me then. However, I have been very nice to him, so he doesn't not want to let go off me as a friend. We are on very close terms. We go out and have also sex.

Recently, things took a change. He was hospitalised. When I visited him, I saw him kiss someone. I kept mum. When he was discharged, I told him that I would leave after he was well. He is recovering from cancer. That was the only reason I stayed behind to take care of him. He was very anxious and kept calling me not to go when he got better, but I told him my mind was set.

I visited him at home yesterday. He told me that the other person was someone whom he just knew. He has no feelings for her yet. He still loved me a little but not to the full extend. He did not want me to leave him. He cried. It's rare for me to see him cry. He did not even cry in front of me when we broke up. He told me to give him time to think it through.I told him that I loved him to the extend that I cannot make myself treat him as a friend, no matter how hard I tried. I would mind seeing him with someone else. I would be jealous and I wanted him to be happy. I asked him if he prefer I go or if he wanted to let ourselves try to start all over after he recovered. We kissed.

I love him a lot, but I do not want to hinder his happiness.

Please share with me your views. Who do you think he will choose? Should I just back out myself? I really cannot stay around as a friend. I will be jealous. I still love him a lot.

Ovi_Spring
10/28/2009 2:42:46 AM | IP
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how about your happiness?
I wouldn't do that to a girl I really love. Make him take a decision. A fast one. Take you or leave you. You'll feel better.
ramfishtwins
10/28/2009 10:47:39 AM | IP
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I agree completely with Ovi...
I would let him know that you care for him very much and will be there if he needs it, but you are unable to fully be there for him because it just hurts too much.
You need to take care of you too.
odboland
10/28/2009 10:24:31 PM | IP

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I was very mad with him yesterday because I went thru all the effort to buy him dinner but when I arrived, he was chatting via webcam to the other person, and made no effort to ask me to stay behind. He was supposedly to be having severe headache and resting in bed. I flared up and later in the night, I asked him for an answer whether he wanted me or her. He told me he 'doesn't know if we could be together like we used to be, but he is willing to try with me.' He said he chooses me but not sure if we can still be couple again.

I know it comes from fear from losing me. I also know it is not possible to force him to say he loves me now, given his ARIES character.

Guys, please tell me. Apparently, I guess we would start dating again, but is it possible for Aries to fall in love with the same person again and start on a fresh note?
 
Ovi_Spring
10/29/2009 1:03:44 AM | IP
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Move on. He doesn't even have the dignity to tell it strait in your face. Leave he's ass. There are better men for you out there.
xtina
10/29/2009 2:47:48 AM | IP
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Aries men are very different from Aries women and generally from person to person everyone's different.

I agree with Ovi though I have a feeling he's holding on to you (through selfish means) for emotional and physical comfort but he does not love you. Men and women communicate differently, we as women communicate with emotions, men they communicate with their actions. So if he's kissing other girls, but telling you he still cares, I'd say he's just holding on to you until he can land that other girl. Don't wait around to see it happen.

But I understand what you're going through, it really is difficult to let go of someone you really love. We as human beings are very selfish creatures. He will say what he needs to to keep you even if he doesn't care for you as you do him. So I say act selfishly, love yourself more and walk away. For good, don't remain friends.

You seem strong enough to me where you can do that.
ramfishtwins
10/29/2009 1:41:28 PM | IP
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"Guys, please tell me. Apparently, I guess we would start dating again, but is it possible for Aries to fall in love with the same person again and start on a fresh note?"

In general? I'd say probably no. Aries can forgive, but it's very tough for us to ever forget. It would not be 100% fresh. We also don't do anything we don't really want to do. He sounds apprehensive and that's not a good sign.
odboland
10/29/2009 9:12:31 PM | IP

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Would Aries choose to completely lose contact with someone who has helped him so much or would he patch up to remain contact?

Which one would an Aries choose?
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10/29/2009 9:16:02 PM | IP

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ramfishtwins
10/30/2009 8:43:02 AM | IP
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Posted by odboland
Would Aries choose to completely lose contact with someone who has helped him so much or would he patch up to remain contact?

Which one would an Aries choose?


Depends on what happened. If you hurt me and don't acknowledge it, then see ya! If you come back and recognize what happened and try to make it right, you have more of a chance of getting back in my good graces. Once you've wronged me, you will not hear from me again. I will not initiate contact.

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