Can 2 Cancers work???

statistics say nothing of their happiness. Cancers are more likely to stay together a) to avoid failure/lonliness and/or b) for the children. Most of the cancers I know barely get along with other cancers as friends because there's too much emotion and they view each other as weak and needy and don't trust one another. My cancer friend at work has been married to another cancer for a little over a year and things fell apart very quickly but they've stayed together for the reasons I mentioned.

prettyladii

11/4/2009 5:59:32 AM | IP

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It can work.

Sekhmet

11/4/2009 4:47:37 PM | IP

43 years old female from WA

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I met my cancer back in 1988. I was married then (to a scorpio) but knew it was a bad relationship (alcoholism & depression). We (cancer & I) had a bit of a 'thing', but she was under a lot of pressure to date men, not women, and I obviously needed to deal with my marriage before getting involved further.

So she left the state for a bit, and my then-husband found out that i was ready for a divorce and begged me to stay.

We lost touch after that, until one night in 1999 she called me. She had been married a while, I had been divorced a while but was getting into another relationship (with a man). She mostly wanted to apologize for running off back then, instead of being a better friend and dealing with our respective issues. She also said she had never forgotten me and wished she hadn't been so intimidated by circumstances. We talked off & on, emailed a bit, but she lived across the state (not far from where I bought recreational property) so we never visited.

A couple years later I was trying to get out of horrible marriage #2 and emailed something to her about it. She had just divorced her husband and was planning to visit Seattle again (where we're both from). So we were finally going to meet again after all those years. She showed up at my house, and soon-to-be-ex must have sniffed trouble. Long story short, she helped me get rid of the bastard, and I ended up moving to her place across the state in 2003.

We've been together ever since, and it's a solid productive fun rewarding relationship. No unhealthy jealousy, good conversation & negotiation, understanding of moods, complementary work styles, etc. I've never been so satisfied with a partner, and she says the same about me.

MissMaryMack

11/7/2009 6:00:30 PM | IP

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I was married to a Cancer for over 15 years. Some of them were great and some of them were terrible. We STILL 'get' each other and are each others biggest supporters...we just couldn't live together anymore. We stayed in the marriage wayyy longer than I suspect many others would have-neither one of us could admit that it was over.

pretty713

11/9/2009 7:56:53 AM | IP

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Given you guys responses or most of them.....it doesn't sound so good!!!! Hmmmmmm

Sarinka_Moon

11/11/2009 3:18:39 PM | IP

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Only if both parties are willing to speak up and say what's on each other's minds because I believe this is one of the most unique combos I've ever experienced!

I dated a Cancer man for 10 years. We broke up when I moved away. There were good times, just like there were bad times. Nobody said it would be perfect.

You just can't be lazy in a relationship like this.

crabshell

11/12/2009 11:43:47 PM | IP

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Why not.

cancerguy

11/13/2009 12:58:12 AM | IP

28 years old male from CA

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Hell yeah it can work. Is she hot? Is she not a freaking basket case? Things look good already don't they?

The-Dream

11/13/2009 8:35:21 AM | IP

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It can work only if both of you are not lazy in the relationship.

pretty713

11/14/2009 4:50:01 AM | IP

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Posted by The-Dream
It can work only if both of you are not lazy in the relationship.

Someone else made a similar response like this a few post up........What do you mean by...."not be lazy".....do 2 Cancer's in a relationship require a lot of work?? and tip toeing handling everthing with soft gloves????

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