What makes you run?

I love cancerians, you're just so "unordinary" that it never bores me ;o)

So, what makes you run from people? Hide out in that shell of yours? What makes you feel pressured?

And what keeps your interest in a person?

I run...
when I realize someone has stronger feelings for me than I have for them
when a relationship has reached a new level of intimacy, and I'm overwhelmed by the emotions I feel
when I have a personal problem I need to figure out
when I need to recharge

so ya, almost anything can trigger it.

Pressure...
when someone wants to define a relationship I'm not ready to define...
when someone wants something from me and is trying to be sneaky about getting it
putting me in an awkward position

I can handle these pressures and will not run from them. I just don't like it because you won't like what I have to say. I'l try to be gentle in my delivery but if you don't hear my indirectness, I'll let you know straight out.

Then I'll hand you a tissue as you cry...

Things that make me run:

when i need time to figure some things out, i rather not be bothered --by anybody.
when someone does something that changes the way i see them, in terms of being a good friend
when someone i'm friends with develops romantic feelings for me and i don't feel the same
when people demand too much of my time
when people try to force me to talk about something that i'm not ready to talk about
sometimes i just need some space


Things that keep me interested

people who are passionate about something
people with an interesting view on life
people who allow me time away from them, enough to miss them

Thank you :o)

"They're not mean but the unpredictability and aloofness tolerance has become too much. I'm getting tired of figuring them out. Hot and cold, touch and go...no thanks"

I FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT CRABS!!! 🙂

But I still have some patience left for mine 😉

I always kind of tried to understand this as well. The cancer I was seeing (but am still really close with) would distance himself and run at times. However, he would text me that he had been thinking about me a lot; like, they would be random texts at random times of the day; from what I knew about cancers, I never pressured him or asked why he was running; I just knew he was. When we would get together, he told me that he felt very guilty for not seeing me and that he thought about me all the time. He even admitted to distancing himself, and I knew why he was (I was doing the same, but not as obviously). Even now that we're not really seeing each other due to our lives and work and school (but we still live in the same area) he has texted me that he wanted to see me, and when I suggested that we should get coffee together sometime, he immediately texted, "yes absolutely" as if he was very excited by the prospect and the idea of seeing me.

I know for him I never tried to force a relationship upon him or define what we head, but I wondered what he was so afraid of. I never really asked for a relationship, but I loved being with him. He often told me that "He just gets bored." Deep down though, I don't believe it's boredom, but he becomes scared when he gets more involved with someone and the prospect of reaching a new level of intimacy with someone while there is still so much going on is nerve wracking.