Motherly women = Strong women??
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20 years old female from United States
I'm a Cancer born on July 13, 1992. *
| Men tell me I'm "motherly". I do enjoy taking care of people but I've never thought of myself as motherly. I actually don't like being called that. I don't mind offering you comfort and doing things for you but don't start relying on me for everything like I'm your mom. I'm a strong-willed, independant woman who takes care of responsibilities. I take initiative and do what needs to be done. Is that why men think I'm motherly? Do men naturally associate strong women with their mothers? Is being considered motherly a good thing or bad thing? |
| I've always associated the term "motherly" with being natural at providing comfort and care. I don't however, associate it with being responsible for or making decisions for another adult. So for me, being motherly and being a strong, independent woman - can - but don't necessarily go hand-in-hand. |
22 years old male
march 22, 1991 sun-aries m
| if you're TOO motherly then you start attracting men who wanna be babied all the time so that's not good lol i know a couple of women who constantly feel shortchanged in relationships with men because they do way too much shiit for them. when it comes down to who takes care of who in relationships, i think women should go by the 80/20 rule pareto's law lol give 20%, get back 80% from him. in other words, do 20% of the nurturing and the man will do 80% of the nurturing for you in return. dont get me wrong i love a strong, independent woman but don't be afraid to rely on men. we like it when women rely on us. it gives us a strong sense of purpose and something to strive for!!  |
20 years old female from United States
I'm a Cancer born on July 13, 1992. *
Posted by Jesse91 That's actually all I seem to attract. Men who expect to be babied! And these men aren't even my boyfriends. Just friends and acquaintances. I'm really liking that 80/20 rule. I want to be nurtured for a change.  |
20 years old female from United States
I'm a Cancer born on July 13, 1992. *
| thx for the replies everyone. |
26 years old female
Geminis born June 15 possess the proverb
| Barbie, have you ever considered dating older men? And by older I don't mean 3-5 years older but more like 10-15 years older. Because honey at your age, trying to find a nurturing young man would be fairly similar to looking for a needle in a haystack. They simply don't possess the maturity level required to be nurturing in the ways that us women want them to be. I'm sure a beautiful girl like you would be able to find an accomplished, mature, sophisticated older man in a heart beat. |
25 years old female
Sun-Libra/Moon-Sagittarius/Ascendant-Vir
| Generally, 'strong' means the ability to prevail or adapt under adverse circumstances. Certain(admirable)maternal characteristics fall under that definition--looking out for others etc. |
54 years old female from Planet Neptune
Just
Posted by GreekBarbie You admit that you offer comfort and do things for the "men" <<< notice you referenced plural. Just because you don't see yourself that way, doesn't mean you aren't that way. People in general, have no clue how they are percieved, and erroneously believe that how they are viewed is exactly how they see themselves. Wake up call .... how you see yourself is directed by your ego, in which makes you falsely believe you are perfect. Fact, according to you .... MEN, view your not minding to do things for them as motherly .. which means, you are ACTING like a mother, doting on them. You treat them this way, in order for them to say that ... and then turn around and get all pissy about it, like they just randomly picked this out of the air to say to you? get real |
female
Even After All this time The
Posted by CherryOnTop +1 I'm very caring by nature, which makes me attract a lot of younger guys... except I, like you (GreekBarbie) want to be the one being nurtured in a relationship. So I did end up dating guys who were in their 30's last year (when I was 18)... they def were more caring. |
20 years old female from United States
I'm a Cancer born on July 13, 1992. *
| I wouldn't mind dating an older man. Preferably someone who's not yet looking to find a wife and settle down. He doesn't have to be successful or accomplished. Just someone who's passionate about what they do for a living and a really good listener. I'm usually the one listening to everyone else's problems and concerns but I don't really have anyone I can express my own fears and doubts to. I kind of hold everything in. (I blame my Cap moon) I actually like someone right now who's around my age but he's kind of in a complicated situation and I don't know when it'll all be sorted out. I know my words and actions are contradicting |
26 years old female
Geminis born June 15 possess the proverb
| You seem lonely |
26 years old female
Geminis born June 15 possess the proverb
| What kind of situation? |
54 years old female from Planet Neptune
Just
Posted by GreekBarbie Complicated as in ...... he isn't single? |
54 years old female from Planet Neptune
Just
Posted by GreekBarbie Do you also know that how those men view you is in accordance with how you act? meaning .. if they see you as motherly, then it means you are acting like their mother. So, your words aren't as contridicting as they are ignorant .. ignorant in the aspect that you've no clue why these men tell you they think you are motherly. Perhaps, rather than pondering why these men see you as motherly ..... instead you should be focusing on self awareness |
