I started seeing a Cap man about 4 months ago. It started out very fast.. mutual attraction.. He's 2x divorced and cautioned from the very get go that relationships at this point in his life are difficult (custody issues, etc.)
He is Cap.. with Venus in Cap and Mars in Taurus. So I know that he is going to be very, very cautious. He was also born in a dog year (Chinese Astrology).
I'm a Scorpio with Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Leo.. so I'm not cautious. I'm very passionate and emotional. I was born in a Tiger year (Chinese). I want what I want and I want it now. :-)
I have read that the Cap/Scorp match up is great.. and that the Cap Dog/Scorp Tiger is fabulous. I have also read that there is great compatibility between our Venus signs.
Anyway, we'll get together, have a great time, then he pushes me back. If I ever make any invitation, he always has an excuse to decline. We only get together if it's on his initiative (is this part of Cap's traditional nature).
He declined an invitation last week and I said.. look, if you're just not into being with me, just tell me. So, he says "If that was the case, I would tell you. But it's not."
So, what is it? I talked with him today for the first time in a week and he seemed distant and emotionally unavailable.
Is he interested in a relationship or should I just move on? I'm okay with waiting if I know that he is really interested in me.
Oh boy... this is the $ 64,000 question for us all really... no, the $ 1,000,000 question! It is so typical for them to want control and be in charge. I don't see how accepting an invite or picking up on a call is losing control but they don't like to do these things. They'll avoid, ignore, seemingly reject you, and then come after you on their own and make a move. I am really finally seeing this pattern repeatedly. I'd say he is interested and he's just a typical WEIRD Cap.! I had the same thing happen- starting out 'fast' with him showing intense interest and wanting to see me every night, and then it got "bumpy" and sporadic. 4 months... you got a long road ahead, if judging my most's experience w/ these guys.
So.. what do you think. Just stay busy with my own life and wait til he decides it's time to call? Should it be no contact from me, or should I stay connected?
I've noticed that sometimes I've called to ask a question about something or just see how he's doing (not an invitation), and at the end of the conversation, he'll say "hey want to go eat lunch?" or "wanna come over for dinner?"
It seems that he doesn't mind my contacting him.. but he doesn't like me to do any inviting.
Of course, there are times I will text him or leave a msg or send an e-mail and he won't immediately respond. Sometimes it goes several days.
But you know what.. if I call his cell and I don't leave a message.. he'll call back almost IMMEDIATELY saying "I see that you called.. give me a call back." It's as if it drives him crazy wondering what I was calling about.
Another... $ 1M question... no contact or stay connected. Struggling w/ the same dilemma right now. I think it's going to go at the same pace- his pace- SLOW- whether you limit contact or call regularly (i.e. few times a week max.). They do love the impromptu, spontaneous get together... It's been pretty widely agreed that when they call, they want to see you. I could never get this guy to plan ahead, even like 3 days, to have dinner. Read the "playing games" thread too started by TaurusGirl, and take the advice of do not play games- it will set things back and cause even bumpier roads ahead.
Exactly, Sagangel. That's my question.. is he slow or luke warm. I can be patient (I think).. but I cannot live with luke warm. I'm a scorpio. I just want him to TELL me so I can either wait or move on.
But, your post is reassuring that it seems like what I am experiencing is very common with Cap men. So.. I guess it's not that he's not into me, but that he has to have control, consider seriously the relationship before deciding where it will go, and doing it all on his own time/terms.
Of course, it would be hard to walk away from him. He's charming, witty, successful, attractive, and the best kisser/lover I've ever had. What's not to love here? It's the pull closer.. push away thing that's making me psycho.
Oh, boy, SagAngel, that changing plans thing set me off bigtime. This was a while back but it caused me to tell him off. He called me up, and I finally got the balls to just blurt out, "meet me for drinks!" bc. we had been playing this phone thing for over a month. He told me to call him later after work; I did; I asked where we'd meet but he suggested he come by and we walk over to a place near me; he called a 1/2 hour later and asked if I'd gotten ready yet bc. he'd forgotten that he'd promised to have dinner w/ someone and could we do it tomorrow night. He sounded all sheepish, apologetic and concerned. But I felt like he was juggling and had another offer. I acted like it was cool which I should have addressed my anger right then and there. I have passive/aggressive issues, I think! lol I get off the phone and end up texting him, "You're a low class ass. Don't bother ever. Out of your league which we both knew all along." LOL He called a couple times, once right after the text. But I refused to answer and then changed my number the next day!
Uh, yea... these guys can make you psycho!! 3 weeks later, we're talking again and he's begging me to come over when I'd gotten back in contact, but ... I still didn't trust him and wasn't in the mindset to go over there. It's a vicious circle- their issues create it and if you don't have the patient, level-headed, confident demeanor to handle it, then it's a real battle for both people. 😢
"I just want him to TELL me so I can either move on or wait." AMEN!!! AMEN!!! I would love to just hear... " I can't do a relationship, I don't want a relationship." But he won't reject me outright and more often has said, "I've got it all wrong."
Yep.. I've gone through the change of plans thing. Last time, I got upset about the change of plans and said I wasn't sure it would work with MY schedule. I'd have to check and get back to him. Of course, I called and said I did in fact have time for lunch (as he had changed it to). Then he called and said, "I got free a little early. Why don't you meet me now?" I ignored the message and then called him about 5 min. before we were meeting and said.. "I'm on my way. I just got your message about meeting earlier." He was okay with that.. but gee.. why do Cap men have to control everything?
I've read through earlier threads that Cap men will tell you if they don't want a relationship. Is that true, in your experience?
LWCA~ yea, but the little ahole seems to be getting me back for it... he has NEVER asked directly why I changed my number or confirmed it was bc. of him, he knows, but he has made a total issue since out of not being able to call me bc. he doesn't have my number. He's dialed the new one, he's been given it a few times, and I've called him from it. But he plays this GAME, and is either totally getting me back/revenge w/ it, or he's too insecure to call it now bc. he feels like a stalker/unwanted due to having to change #s. 😛
Scorpio~~that's what they say... that they'll tell you if they're not interested... Mine has said before, "well, I never told you I WOULDN"T go..." in reference to an invite, as in like silence and non-responsiveness is a good thing and not a rejection. Huh—?
Yep.. I sent an e-mail invitation a couple of weeks ago. No response. While at lunch one day I said, "you totally ignored my e-mail." He said.. "I didn't ignore it, I just haven't responded to it yet. So, I say.. do you think you'll go with me? He looks at me with this heart-melting gaze/smile and says "probably." When time came to go, he declined saying, "It's not that I wouldn't love to go. Just the timing is bad for me right now. Hope you understand."
UNDERSTAND?
I became emotional and he said.. "it has nothing to do with you personally."
Umm.. YES IT DOES. What does he mean? This is the psycho part.
Scorpio~ I've had a similar comment of, "I've just been busy with work and school, nothing against you." That "I didn't ignore it...I just havent responded to it yet." Damn- that's good, that's clever. I do feel like they just "take in" the invitation(s), the contact attempts as like for use or responding to at a later date. Weird- they are SOCIAL MORONS!!!
LCWA~ holy moley- I did the same and have felt he's been doing that too. When we first started dating, he was on me like white on rice, and I joked about him monopolizing my time... he joked about being totally in love with me, making it official of being his gf, and it was really intense and I didn't take him serious. I just laughed, brushed it off, and didn't tell him anything in response. I was also very tightlipped about how I felt about him, and I was playing it very "close to the vest". Heck, I was just still trying to figure him out and what his deal was! And boy, when you say, "exacting his own revenge and doing it ever since..." - I couldn't state it more perfectly. The tables have turned and they're not turning back from what I can tell, yet he won't let me get up from the table and leave the damm restaurant either!!! LOL 😉
LWCA~~ LOL, how'd you manage that... to teach him to text like that? My cap. has never text ever, doesn't know how, doesn't do it. He will just pick up the phone and call if he's going to respond to a text. And he's really not so keen on leaving voicemails, as if he's too cool or it's not manly to have one's voice recorded for playback. lol He had discovered the "paging" option on my outgoing voicemail and had taken to just pressing the # for a page. These dudes are clever, overall, with their game-playing which could be revenge or maintaining their image of control and cool detachment.
Oh, no, LWCA, I haven't heard from him in ... 12 weeks. I am on my way out... fading... Ever since that damm 'love letter', it's been MIA for him. 😢 And here I am still haunted and wondering, that's when you feel psycho a bit.
Girl, I'm getting out of town this weekend for 4 days, and I am glad for it. LWCA~ I just don't get it... I thought you had it going well w/ him... and was so glad to hear it and find someone who did... you are crossing some rough road perhaps?
Scorpio~ I LIKE YOU! 😉 I love that show, of course, and is that french? I am recognizing it as similar if not. But Mr. Big is the classic commitmentphobic man in that show, and was probably also a Cap.!! That relationship is so similar to what you hear being played out on this board. God, can you imagine enduring, hearing about a marriage to another woman (Natasha) in the middle of the what 4-5 year long saga w/ Big, and then end up w/ him in the end, but only after witnessing him marry another woman after he'd been through so much w/ you??! I would be in the looney bin by that point for suicide attempt! LOL
LWCA~ I wrote... "Nate, I don't feel like there's anything else I can do, but I still think of you. A. " (Meaning... I don't feel like I can call him, text him, or show up again or anymore... ) What constitutes a "mega-disappearing act"?? How long was that one?
CapGirl.. I almost wrote in my earlier post that I'd bet money Big was a Cap. Has to be. And no I can't imagine enduring that long saga... I thought the best thing that happened to her was when she met Aidan (John Corbett).. She should have dumped BIG then and never looked back. I know I would have.
But Carrie must be a masochist.
Maybe I am too.
Yes, La Douleur Equise is French.
And, when I analyze this, and I constantly analyze it, if my guy was more attentive/attainable, I probably wouldn't be as interested. Catch-22. The more distant he is, the more I want him. If I could only treat him like the guys I am not the least bit interested in, then maybe he would be running back.
I was married to a Libra and thought that was hell. Libras are indecisive.. can't ever decide because they're always weighing the pros and cons. But at least they are more attentive than a cap. Or at least in my case.
I say the same, Scorpio. "It shouldn't be this difficult." That's what I have trouble with. Another $ 64M question is... (yea, I upped the value bc. this is a mindbender), are these Cap guys purposely being elusive and mysterious bc. they know how women are and that nice guys, clingy guys, attainable guys "finish last"/aren't attractive? Or is it just by nature, their own personality and "busy careers" that they end up seeming elusive and unattainable, ending up attracting and keeping the women around?? When I first met my Cap., he sure seemed quite attainable and he even made the comment, "why do nice guys always finish last?" referring to himself as being one. I strongly suspect that he'd read alot about dating and knows 'the game' and is being smart about women... He's divorced and had to get back into dating, after being out of the ratrace from like age 20-26.
Too funny... i was married to an Aquarius and thought that was hell too!! He was aloof, emotionally unavailable, but at least he wanted to be with me and spend time together all the time, and would commit to me!!
Stick around here, Scorpio. TaurusGirlWithCap has good advice and I've told her to check out this thread of yours. She has been my nemesis and is a great woman!
Ooops, it's late and too much wine. Nemesis is a rival and enemy!! LOL I meant mentor or something along those lines... I can't come up w/ fancy lingo right now! haha
CapGirl, I think it's in Cap's nature to appear aloof, emotionally distant. It's interesting that my man said most people don't know that he has a sensitive side. I thought this was a riot. I told him I knew immediately that he has a sensitive side by the way he relates to his kids and other people in his life. He said, well most people don't know this about me. I think Cap tries to stay aloof and reserved to protect themselves. He also cares so much about what other people think of him. It's so weird. He loves praise, although he will act like it's not important to him. But I can tell it is. I see how he beams at praise and how he goes nuts if a colleague doesn't return his calls. He wants to know if I think he's pissed them off somehow. I say.. they're probably just busy.. get over it! Funny.. does he not think people wonder about him when HE doesn't return calls.
I am so into him at this point that it's nauseating.
He's so confident... utterly confident and I find that so attractive.
But are they truly confident on the inside, or just projecting it as an outward appearance? Obviously, I'm a Cap. (through and through) and I've been described as having confidence and I know that I give off that impression, but most times my insecurities are there running through my head. Yet I maintain appearances, suppress what's going on inside, and if I'm really feeling threatened or hurt, then I am aloof and cold and ignore someone.
Oh, it's something the way they SHOW on their faces what they're thinking and feeling. I don't know that I do that as a Cap. female... I hope and think I have a good "poker face"... LOL But these GUYS, you can just see not only love, happiness, but displeasure/disapproval. I think perhaps they're better at masking hurt and anger but if they're happy, surprised, in love, they have a hard time hiding it.
Scorpio..I am a scorpio dealing with a cap as well. Trust me I understand where your coming from with regards to the patience thing and luke warm thing..I don't have the patience for the games..so my suggestion is carry on doing what you wanna do but just make sure he knows your around and can be trusted..how long you want this to go on, is entirely your choice..I have been dealing with mine for 9 months now..only confessed I liked him more than friends about a month ago..and to this day no answer although we speak every day..so you just have to you carry on as though you never met him really..otherwise you'll go insane..if your anything like me, you like to remain in control too...just as they are..All or nothing..no shade of grey..i hate grey..
i think you answer lies in the first line of your post. he told you that he is having a rough time right now. he is a cap, and caps are responsible people. he is probably focused on what he has to do, and it probably has nothing to do with you. you're just focusing on getting this guy. i think you need to realize his priorities. from an astrological point of view, you two are very compatible. i think you need to ask him about what he's going through, and understand it from that angle, and not just your desire. but knowing that he's been divorced twice, might also be a red flag that you should take notice of. best of luck.
I've stopped worrying about it now..yeah theres an ache in the heart..but at least he's not poofing..and as pato said..put your own desires aside and let him breathe..he will be back..I am going back to study and am generally really busy with life at the moment..so many big decisions to make in the next 3 months..so just as he's busy..so am I..its all good...
Is that what it is ladies. Is it really just about control! I never thought of it that way. I always thought they did those silly things to see when we would snap and become psycho.
Hey MM~ Oh...I'm fine. I alternate between feeling calm and like you- got alot going on, and then being forlorn, confused, mad that he's doing this again and/or that he's just rejecting me altogether. Like I've said so many times, I'd be better off probably if he just stays away permanently. Don't know what I'd do anyway if I heard from him- it'd either be laugh or scream.
Lol..yah I hear you..I haven't spoken to him for 2 days..thats like a really long time in our so called friendship!..lol..I chose not to speak to him yesterday although he sent me an email..and today he's not choosing to talk to me..fine..I don't care..The less you think about it..the better it is...at times, coming onto this capricorn board makes me depressed...but its nice to chat to you ladies..
The sun is out, my legs look fab, my sandals are fantastic..just went out to lunch with the girls and everything is fab..Oh the beer helps 😉
I am so appreciative of all these comments. Certainly helps put things in a different perspective -- knowing that I'm not alone in my agony of being involved with a Cap man.
Have any of you noticed that while the Cap man may disappear or not return messages, when he sends a message or calls he expects/wants immediate gratification? One day I wasn't home and he sent an e-mail. About 5 hours later (no response from me because I wasn't home to check e-mail), he called and said "Where are you?"
Now, imagine his response if I had done that to him. LOL
Scorpio~ OMG, yes!!! He called me 4 times in 8 hours one day, even though I'd acknowledged his first attempt and told him I'd call him later. And then another time, he had called in the evening and the next morning I emailed him that I'd try him later after work and he was calling me that evening before I got the chance. Strange, strange behavior. He's always full of questions in general about who I've been hanging out with...the one time he got the nerve to actually say, "are you dating anyone?" he stumbled over his words and I had to ask him to repeat. LOL How old is your man-boy-goat?
MM~ If your LEGS are looking FAB, then your world is in perfect order and life is GREAT!!! 😉
CapGirl -- I'd prefer not to post age on this board. Superstitious, I guess, but I feel if I give too many concrete details it may somehow come back to haunt me. Nothing is private online. He is not a young goat, though. But I've read that they get younger (attitude) and lighten up the older they get. I guess he's not old enough yet. LOL
Thanks for that link Capgirl..certainly more success over there in scorp/cap relationships..Just what one needs..
LOL @ Capgirl..yep my legs looking fkn fabulous man!..I have sexy ankles somebody told me today!..lol..
Scorpio - I did the disappearing act on my cappy for 4 days..he was nearly in tears..he left me endless messages and I made my sister listen to them..she just told me off for being so cruel!..hahaha..she said call the poor man back he sounds as though he's about to cry!..love it..oooh the power! The best thing really IS to put them out of your mind..they will always be there right at the back..but don't let it come to the forefront..
Love it, MM. I don't know if I could wait 4 days before returning his calls. But I'm with you.. scorpios love power as much as cap does.
Everytime I think I will decline an invitation or not return a call.. I never heed my own advice. When I hear his voice, it's as if I momentarily forget all the other insanity and I immediately agree to see him. Then we have a great time and I want to see him more. And he disappears.
I think next time he leaves a message or sends an e-mail, I'll come to this board and chat awhile and let him stew!
"I did the disappearing act on my cappy for 4 days..he was nearly in tears..he left me endless messages and I made my sister listen to them..she just told me off for being so cruel!..hahaha..she said call the poor man back he sounds as though he's about to cry!..love it..oooh the power! The best thing really IS to put them out of your mind..they will always be there right at the back..but don't let it come to the forefront"
MM Girl you got it going on. I so agree.
Scorpio -
Don't take this the wrong way but it amazes me to hear you speak of such weakness, we as scorpios pride ourselves, on our morals, values not to mention how strong we are, maybe you will toughen up when he disrespects you or you get tired of the way he's treating you, and testing you, you know you are a loyal preson, so why do you feel you have to prove it to him.
Letting someone have that much control over you is not good because all it takes for him to do something to set you off and you will lose him for good, you know what I mean.
Anyway, we'll get together, have a great time, then he pushes me back. If I ever make any invitation, he always has an excuse to decline. We only get together if it's on his initiative (is this part of Cap's traditional nature).
He declined an invitation last week and I said.. look, if you're just not into being with me, just tell me. So, he says "If that was the case, I would tell you. But it's not."
HI Scorpio, welcome 🙂
I'm new to the boards too, but I think I can give you some insight🙂
Honestly, I've done the same thing too. I would make excuses, and I did it to my friends too. Well, I don't know about your cap guy, but I did it because I felt that needed to focus my attention on more important matters instead of having fun. It's not the fact that I didnn't want to spend time with my boyfriend or friends but I thought WHAT I WAS DOING had to take top priority or else it wouldn't get done until the last mintute
True we Capricorns will wait until the last minute but generally WE CAN'T STAND IT .... OMG, I'm really to just say the hell with it all if I get too stressed out. No, that's not a normal Cap trait but I guess I just have way too much of an Air influence 😉
However, cap women and men have similiars -- LOL, contrary to popular belief we are not THAT different ... our approaches are just very opposite.
In my opinion, your guy is probably into you but he's just trying to get things done. Try talking to him and letting him know where you stand ... if he starts to act odd, then you may have to re-access your relationship.
BUT HEY! This way you know where you stand with him 😉
I am new in this website, but i am curious about the cap guys. I am a cap girl and I am with a cap man for more than 2 years.... everything that I read sound familiar, but are all of you in a long relation with the cap man or is just dating.
Don't take this the wrong way but it amazes me to hear you speak of such weakness, we as scorpios pride ourselves, on our morals, values not to mention how strong we are, maybe you will toughen up when he disrespects you or you get tired of the way he's treating you, and testing you, you know you are a loyal preson, so why do you feel you have to prove it to him.
Letting someone have that much control over you is not good because all it takes for him to do something to set you off and you will lose him for good, you know what I mean.
Some of you know that I am a cap girl who's got it for a cap man. Well, hes in the police academy out of town, la la la... I talked to him last week.. and he was telling me how tired and stressd he was.. and he asked me how I was.. (he actually remembered some of the things i do.. which was surprising since I hadn't talked to him in like two weeks..) and he was telling me how he couldn't even come back to his dad.. he's so busy. And that his summer is a rightoff until the academy ends. Because of this, I've been understanding and I never push for anything.. because I know the timing and situation SUCKS. (read my previous posts for more detail..)
Anyways, I call and leave a message once a week.. and it sucks because I don't necessarily hear from him. I don't want to plead.. but I always tell him that I am in full support of him and his career... and that I hope he is well.. and that I hope to maybe hear from him. sometimes, I do. Sometimes I don't. When I don't, i take it personal.
RIGHT NOW.. I'm taking it personally. I feel like I've done something wrong maybe? and when I called yesterday.. his voicemail in box was full!! My opinion was that he must be too busy at school to even check messages..
I don't know.. I feel like leaving a message saying "Hey, if you don't call me back, I'm going to take it personally!!" but i don't like to threaten people.. and ultimately.. I do know that he's busy... i just want attention from him right now.
So should I leave a messsage and say that? or the next time I talk to him if I ever do? At this point, I'm afraid he's poofing for good.
but being a cappy girl.. i always pursue what i want. Unless he tells me to screw off, I don't back down. and since he says hes always brutally honest and straight up.. i have to trust that he'll tell me to screw off if he wants me to. I'm just scared.. and taking things really personally..
Good answer Scorpio.."Yes, I'm getting a bit bored, but I want to regain power and control before I step away. That's why I am trying to figure him out because I want to wind up on top. At the same time, I'm human and I do have emotions and doubts (is he in to me or not-- my original question).."
He confused the hell out of me too..I am just glad I told him in a non-emotional/affectionate way that I like him more than a friend..that way he will still be unsure whether I am head over heels or not..Why should I give him complete control..Trust me, I wasn't even going to do this because I've never had to do it before..Now that he knows how I feel the next move is his. Glad to see another Scorpio/Cap couple..lets see how it progresses..It will take a while from what I've read..patience is the key..He has taught me to be patient..and I do believe he was put into my life for that very reason. All or nothing attitude pervades my entire being..but now I am learning to persevere..
I don't think he will directly ever tell you anything..Your suppose to make that decision yourself.
I just can't advise on the poofing cap. I don't have to deal with one so I don't know..All I can say is gather your thoughts and stop letting him control your mind. You should start analysing the patterns of his call etc. See when he calls, how much of a gap he leaves etc so your more prepared..I don't think I would give anyone that much of my time but seeing as your quite stressed it may help.
I am so glad I am not intimately involved with mine..
I know exactly what youre going through. I am so glad I found this site, I have been pulling my hair out trying to find answers or just a common thread amongst his odd behavior. When we first started talking I was an asshole to him merely because I didnt realize he was being serious. Come to find out he was doing his cappi type of dating. He is so odd, his behavior can drive you nuts, but I do try to be patient. I dont ever call him, although he has given me his number, gave me his address to his house, and I was like, uhm what am I supose to do with this. I mean he didnt say come over and visit. He was like, hey put this in google and see where I live. Uhm okay. lol.
My question is, he messaged me on my yahoo messenger, after not talking for at least 3 weeks. I was asleep at the time he messaged me, but my name said online/idle. He left a message, " I love u" Oh my god!!! What the hell was I s'pose to say to that. lol. I messaged back like, you really love me? no response to my question, he just asked did i want to come over. And of course knowing him as well as I do, I said sure give me a time and I will be there. They do love their control!!! Anyways, we had the most incredible time, he is such a great kisser and lover, he drives me so wild.
But I am so confused about what to do. Is he taking the relationship to the next level. Do I just hold on for dear life and enjoy the ride? Is he just messing with me, I mean do capps say they love you just because or what?! I mean I want to show him that i feel the same way without overwhelming him with my Scorpio intensity.
Possezzere... are we living a parallel existence? Good grief, I could have written your post, except for the love message on IM. Haven't gotten that yet. But the rest sure fits my life.
The attraction is SO strong, yet I'm so confused. If other signs did this to me, I'd already have left them in the dust. What is it about the pull of the Cap/Scorpio attraction?
Possez..are you a scorpio? lol..well done for making him say I love U..lol.. I agree with the controlling and not returning his calls. Doesn't really bother me..I had a fight with him yesterday and he called at 6pm and 8pm..and we had a fight again..love..such is love..lol...
But I am so confused about what to do. Is he taking the relationship to the next level. Do I just hold on for dear life and enjoy the ride? Is he just messing with me, I mean do capps say they love you just because or what?!
Well apparantly they don't unless they really mean it..but how long have you known him? if only for a short while, I would tread carefully..he may just be trying to get into your pants..Remember there are two types..player/ye faithful..lol
What does this "marker" term mean?? I see it used alot.
How long have you known him, Possezzere, when you got this "ILY" message? I agree w/ MM that you have to watch out for them just trying to get what they want when they want it. They will trample over a weak woman...
Week 13... F--- him! He's seemingly quite busy as he's missing all of his bball games; I'm sure his teammates just love him too. He can't even commit to a team and a sport! Ha! I'm pissed and ranting.
What's going on w/ everyone else's soap opera? Scorpio?
I have read so much about cap men and what seems to be a common thing is that they won't let you in until they are sure they can trust you. What if he started off very much saying all sorts of lovey-dovey things, then pulled away and just calls you friend
Every breakup is hard but damn?_ this one is really hard. He was a good looking, bright, 30 something Capricorn man. I am a sexy, care free also 30 something Sagittarius female. here is our brief history.. My friend saw hi
Just hoping for some input from the very evident amount of Cap lovers out there...My little Sis is dating a Cap man and complains all the time that he never shows her any affection in the small areas of everyday life. Ex: Doesn't say that he loves her eve
Helllo All. I just wanted to thank you all for all your encouragement and advice, it was so helpful and I've done alot of things that brought alot of understanding in the relationship I had with my cap man. I'm so tired and beat down because of all the ar
I started talking to this guy who is a capricorn and he cant get enough of me. Its sweet but its way too much now. He is smuthering me like crazy! He says he likes me so much (thats not new, everyone likes me so much haha)He was so reserved when we frst m
I don't know how I feel anymore about my ex cap man. He says I try to push him to be open and I don't see how I do that. All I ask of him is to call me more and tell me (which I do believe I HAD a right to know as a girlfriend) who these girls were callin
I have a quick question. Why would a Cap man who've you had a previous relationship with but recently broken up, want to kiss you? I'm an all-or-nothing type girl and even though he was my significant other, I'm very strict about kissing outside relations
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I'm new to the board. I like this board a lot!! Great advice. I would like to give my take on Cap men. I dated 3 in the last 6 years. We all know that Cap men take FORE
I am disappointed?I found this wonderful message board and my goal here is to try to get some insight and try to understand better Capricorn men as I have read here and there they are ?difficult? to deal with and frankly, I am mixed up about the "mixed me
Ok, My Capricorn man speaks of the future alot (often with me in it) like he'll say "I need to get my own apartment so you can move in with me" or "Yea,my uncle's real cool. You'll meet him soon." Or something like that but he's sends me mixed signals. He
Hi, I'm new to this site and a capricorn male has caught my eye. He seems to like me, but I want to know what capricorn men want in a women and what keeps them there, oh, and how can I be sure if he is really interested?
I've been following your post since this weekend (just found this site) I notice GEG hasn't posted since 9/16/05 when she and her cap man got back together. Just want to find out how things are going?
He is Cap.. with Venus in Cap and Mars in Taurus. So I know that he is going to be very, very cautious. He was also born in a dog year (Chinese Astrology).
I'm a Scorpio with Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Leo.. so I'm not cautious. I'm very passionate and emotional. I was born in a Tiger year (Chinese). I want what I want and I want it now. :-)
I have read that the Cap/Scorp match up is great.. and that the Cap Dog/Scorp Tiger is fabulous. I have also read that there is great compatibility between our Venus signs.
Anyway, we'll get together, have a great time, then he pushes me back. If I ever make any invitation, he always has an excuse to decline. We only get together if it's on his initiative (is this part of Cap's traditional nature).
He declined an invitation last week and I said.. look, if you're just not into being with me, just tell me. So, he says "If that was the case, I would tell you. But it's not."
So, what is it? I talked with him today for the first time in a week and he seemed distant and emotionally unavailable.
Is he interested in a relationship or should I just move on? I'm okay with waiting if I know that he is really interested in me.