Pisces break up comes out of the sky????

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9/18/2009 12:53:10 PM | More
glitterNgold

Hello Everyone,

Im new to Dxpnet!!!! please tell me what you think about my situation with my ex (pisces)

So my ex boyfriend is a Pisces im an Aqua. Hes a really sweet guy one of the nicest guys I ever met. He was really one of my best friends. We had a very good relationship, I wouldnt say it was perfect but we were both very mature and took our relationship seriously ( we are both in our early 20's). He was very passionate about me and we both did our best to communicate with each other.
So this summer he broke up with out of no where. When he came over to tell me he thinks we shouldn't be together he couldn't even tell me why. So later he sends me a email explaining that the reason he had to break up with me was because he had to "manage" things and he didn't have time for me anymore( its not like we spent that much time together but ok) I was the one who supported him and encouraged him to strive for his greatest potential. He told me "he refuses to let anything get in the way of his goal" Like I was in the way or something. I asked him why didn't he tell me he felt he spent to much time together or he needed more space. He didnt even give me to the chance to prove to him that i could give him more space and be supportive.
I was very heart broken for a long time. This was my first love! How can he just throw away our relationship like it meant nothing to him? He told me he still wanted to be friends. Then school starts and he decides is best not to talk to me for a while. He just went from day to night, just like that. ( and I know for sure its not another women he is seeing)

My question is, do you think as a pisces man he is just that heartless(what happened to the man I loved)? and do pisces men end the relationship for no reason. Do pisces men try to go back to their ex after some time has passed especially if there was no reason for the break up?
9/18/2009 2:03:05 PM | More
glitterNgold

Posted by FLeo Lives On
Wow, he VERBALLY broke up with you?! That's new, because usually they don't verbalize they're leaving you. )


actaually he just say there with a dumb look on his face.....i had to get it out of him!!!!
9/18/2009 3:02:56 PM | More
ninjamu

31 years old female

Ascendant: Aquarius Sun: Leo Moon

also take into consideration that he is a male in his early 20's. they're not all like that but i'm sure he's still rather immature in some areas. the hard cold truth may be that he is just not interested in u anymore. i'm sure it has nothing to do with needing space. he just doesn't wanna hurt ur feelings. i don't mean to over-generalize but men do this a lot! i can't tell u how many relationships i've witnessed, including my own, where the guy just plain lost interest but couldn't tell their woman the truth because "they didn't wanna hurt their feelings". the last 3 years of my relationship with my current ex was a total joke/lie because he wanted to spare my feelings.

those other things he told u were just excuses. those excuses made him feel better about the break-up and covered up the fact that he wasn't in love anymore. i've lived long enough to know that when a man really wants to be with u, he will move heaven and earth, and sacrifice some of his time to be with u or connect. men can be extremely romantic and passionate ppl but they speak a different language is all.

so no worries. we all have our first loves and most of us don't end up with them in the long run. our first loves are our stepping stones and first major learning experience. they help us learn more about ourselves and what we want out of a relationship/in a significant other. i'm sure it feels like the end of the world to some degree because u haven't gone through this kind of heartbreak yet. rest assure, it is not. u will love again!

i don't think he is heartless, just immature. i don't know enough about pisces men to answer the rest. i'm currently dealing with one so i'll let u know what i find out. all i know is that he projects the image that he is super positive but broke down to me and confessed that he is incredibly pessimistic the other night. he's also goes on these spaced out head trips and will disappear for a couple of weeks.
9/18/2009 3:04:39 PM | More
Nefer

42 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

That was unfair, FLeo. HE may have been manipulative, but that's NOT a common Pisces trait. We don't use people; we're more likely to GET used.

The thing is, glitter.. there MUST be a reason. We tend to stick it out until the bitter end, until we're just completely empty and have nothing left to give. There's always a reason. Even if he cannot put it into words, because it's just a feeling he has (or doesn't have, because he's empty!), or if he can't find the words to put it in a way YOU would understand.. there's always a reason, usually more than one reason. Pisces have great difficulty revealing their private thoughts and feelings. It's something a lot of us recognize and eventually try to overcome (to varying degrees of success and failure) so it's even worse when we are younger, especially if no one's ever pointed it out to us and we're blissfully ignorant that we do this. A Pisces in his 30s is really very different than one in his 20s, and one in his 40s is different still, unless he just refused to think and grow and change.

I don't know what his reason was, HE may not even be able to verbalize his reasoning. Pisces are very strange creatures, very difficult to pin down or understand. You should read more of the threads here in the Pisces boards. There's a lot of Pisces bashing, yes - try to ignore most of that, because ALL signs have challenges and weaknesses and flaws. Pisces aren't BAD people, but are often very misunderstood. But there are a lot of Pisces lovers, and Pisces themselves that post here, willing to give everyone a glimpse into the mysterious landscape of the Piscean mind.
9/18/2009 3:11:00 PM | More
Nefer

42 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

That was very astute, ninjamu. I tend to agree... with this guy it's probably more about his (natural) immaturity in his early 20s than about his Sun sign at all. He could have been a Scorpio or a Libra (THEY have a bad rep too!) or even a Capricorn or Taurus. No matter how mature a 23 year old guy seems, he's still just 23, with 23 years of experience. What a difference 10 years makes for a guy!

Everything happens for a reason! Every experience shapes us and sets us up for the next. Every experience teaches us something we will need in the future. Even the bad ones, maybe *especially* the bad ones!
9/18/2009 4:53:22 PM | More
glitterNgold

Thank you all for sharing your advice.

9/19/2009 10:48:16 AM | More
PiscesLeoAquarius

Posted by ninjamu
also take into consideration that he is a male in his early 20's. they're not all like that but i'm sure he's still rather immature in some areas. the hard cold truth may be that he is just not interested in u anymore. i'm sure it has nothing to do with needing space. he just doesn't wanna hurt ur feelings. i don't mean to over-generalize but men do this a lot! i can't tell u how many relationships i've witnessed, including my own, where the guy just plain lost interest but couldn't tell their woman the truth because "they didn't wanna hurt their feelings". the last 3 years of my relationship with my current ex was a total joke/lie because he wanted to spare my feelings.

those other things he told u were just excuses. those excuses made him feel better about the break-up and covered up the fact that he wasn't in love anymore. i've lived long enough to know that when a man really wants to be with u, he will move heaven and earth, and sacrifice some of his time to be with u or connect. men can be extremely romantic and passionate ppl but they speak a different language is all.

so no worries. we all have our first loves and most of us don't end up with them in the long run. our first loves are our stepping stones and first major learning experience. they help us learn more about ourselves and what we want out of a relationship/in a significant other. i'm sure it feels like the end of the world to some degree because u haven't gone through this kind of heartbreak yet. rest assure, it is not. u will love again!

i don't think he is heartless, just immature. i don't know enough about pisces men to answer the rest. i'm currently dealing with one so i'll let u know what i find out. all i know is that he projects the image that he is super positive but broke down to me and confessed that he is incredibly pessimistic the other night. he's also goes on these spaced out head trips and will disappear for a couple of weeks.


I have my Sun/Venus and Mars in Pisces and about six male friends who are Pisces and what ninjamu said above couldn't be more true. If you like someone enough, nothing else (dreams/space/time) matters. I broke up with one boyfriend and told him we spent way too much time together, I felt suffocated and couldn't focus on my career. At the time I felt that way, but I also didn't like him and didn't want to date him. So the thing is if we don
9/19/2009 10:49:00 AM | More
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9/19/2009 10:49:46 AM | More
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9/19/2009 10:52:10 AM | More
PiscesLeoAquarius

OK I will start again, I just wanted to say that when I met a guy who I really fell in love with, nothing, including dreams/work/play etc mattered at all. I just wanted to be with him. We are very self sacrificing that way. But at the same time, you know this guy best and with saturn in Virgo, the love lives of Pisceans are difficult at the moment (supposedly until the end of October) so maybe wait it out and see what happens with him. I have said things and then regretted them, so you never know.
9/19/2009 6:05:53 PM | More
P-Angel

55 years old female from Planet Neptune  

Just

"My question is, do you think as a pisces man he is just that heartless(what happened to the man I loved)? and do pisces men end the relationship for no reason. Do pisces men try to go back to their ex after some time has passed especially if there was no reason for the break up?"



He gave you a reason, he said it was because he didn't have the time to manage everything in his life, which includes you .. that is his reason.

Just because you don't wan to accept it .. doesn't equal "no reason"



So, he's got butter going on in his life and wants to be single .. what's wrong with that? You had said you were mature .. are you sure about that?


He wants to be single .. are you mature enough to let him?

9/19/2009 6:34:42 PM | More
Pisces_Dream

43 years old female from Denver, CO  USA  

_/div

Posted by CouldBeMe2f
Theres no such thing as "out of the blue" to a pisces... Usually if we did it, we had been thinking about it for a very long time. We were just trying to either A) See if we could still hack it with you or B)Waiting for the opprotune moment to break up with you.


This about sums it up......I think he was trying to be as polite as he could be. Most likey he did not see it going any where with you and decided not to waste your time or his. Sorry!!

PD
9/19/2009 6:38:22 PM | More
Pisces_Dream

43 years old female from Denver, CO  USA  

_/div

Regardless of zodiac ......If a guy is really into you, he will make time and move mountains to be with you. He did not see a mounain worth moving. I am sorry.....that may sound harsh .......but there is no sugar coating the truth.

The good news my friend ......know that you are worth more than that and find someone who can value you more than this guy did or ever will.

Good luck!!

PD
9/19/2009 7:11:49 PM | More
jamesbond

Hi glitterNgold

I am cancer guy dating a pisces girl. Your situation is familiar to me...
I think we "breake up" w my pisces at least 5,6 times. First time it was out of blue, everything was
perfect we were texting to each other and there she found a pretext to break up because of a "misunderstanding". I was wondering what
i did wrong...i remainded cool (not clingy) and affectionate towards her (implying she could return if she wanted ). Yes, she returned then there were
couple of more "break ups" it got on my nerves then i decided just to ignore her, she returned herself again. I asked her why she does that
when everything is fine she could not explain it herself...i think they want some drama when everything is fine and i like it Now she became kinda stable ...

To your question if he will come back...i would say if he does not have other woman and everything was ok then most likely he will return to you.
Because pisces tend to over analyze things...If i do something wrong to my pisces (sometimes she spoiles me) she does not react to it straight away, i get the "feedback" next day...she will analyze it a day ....

So, stay cool and affectionate if everything was ok and he does not have any other hidden reasons most likely he ll return
9/20/2009 10:08:56 AM | More
virgoheart

Women frequently find themselves disillusioned by Pisces men, that is, they can't believe the guy that was so sweet and caring and considerate could be such a cold and heartless SOB. But its true. The truth is that Pisces are wimps and cannot be upfront from the get go. They allow you to believe what you believe about them to be true, and then one day --- BAM! Everything you believed to be reality is NOT....and if you want to see how cold and insensitive Pisces can be, just read some of P-Angels posts. She's good at deflecting blame and being insensitive to people with a broken heart who come and post on DXP. The bad news is, yes, it hurts and you may question your ability to see reality. The good news is, the Pisces usually ends up screwing himself ultimately. Trust me....seen it time and time again. They have a way about shooting themselves in the foot.

Keep your head up and show this loser that he's worthless....good luck.
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