pisces men, abusive and jealous?

Princess__Aries
Well hello there everyone :3
first off, I want to make sure that I don't sound like i'm pointing any fingures here.
Me and my boyfriend are soulmates from previous lives...But, since being with him its been a very, let me make that clear VERY bumpy road. And I know alot of you are going to get the whole, oh jeez aries pisces mix that of course wouldn't work out. Well, hes born on the cusp actually, the aries cusp so he has a little mix in him. (actually hes exactly 3 weeks older then me >> I'm also, alot softer hearted then most Arians, my brother is one, and let me tell you, I can control my anger pretty well, Ive never hit anyone in my life time, or hurt anyone to porposefully hurt me with words, unless if im defending myself when they have taken enough jabs at me first. Anyway, so here we go...
I know, over a million times how sensitive pisces is, but there should be no excuse to this...
He once punched me -.-; and again he also has smashed my 400 dollar phone, wich was given to me by god, because i found it for 180 (the my touch) and im broke as hell, and I have to pay for a new one, why did he break the phone? because he thought I was texting a roleplayer from myspace that HES JEALOUS OF! when I dont care about that person, its like making up a novel, and they even said, he can talk to me about it, because i dont like you that way in real life either. Ive never liked anyone else, and in fact hes the one who has been noted to look around at other girls in the past, though I will admit i'm proud he HAS CHANGED that. Hes changed alot of bad things with himself actually, he even stopped the famous 'escapist' act that all pisces tend to have (believe me guys...thats hard to deal with, when someone just wants to give up on you, because they ask you not to run away from your problems) Hes always saying hes going to change his anger for me, really? really? I know change dosn't happen over night, but its been two years now! He hurt HIMSELF over this matter because he paid halfway for the phone at the time as a gift. So, in order to appease him I left my roleplay friends, who are currently all I have, I literally have no IRL friends, because I moved from my home state just to be with him, and of course he lied to me, telling me he had a place to stay when I got there I had to find out the hard way. Hes always saying he dosn't want anyone else, truthfully I don't either, but I have yet to see that romantic passionate side of him
Princess__Aries
oh and sorry i went kind of on ^^;
but, I was wondering are there any aries women out there, who have had a similar problem? as being an aries when your hurt badly, you build up a wall, i've noticed pisces are VERY against that. They want your trust completely, well its kind of hard when you've shattered it so many times, He is sensitive, I am sensitive too...
but, today I got a message from him:

I love you,

I'm not angry or mad at all, nor am I speaking in an marker tone anymore.
I understand what I've done wrong and i am serious about changing. So don't worry i'm not mad at Sarah or you or anyone.

I realize my mistakes and I will owe up to them, and about the phone, of course I'm going to pay you back for the phone, I'm not going to dodge that so don't worry, but I really would like to be able to use my phone once you get a new one, and I only ask that because I really will need a phone to call you whenever with, and by the time my second paycheck comes it'll be close to a month without a phone.

When I get my paycheck I'll try to give you a hundred back and then again the next paycheck okay?

I'm not going to say its fine I'm worthless or anything like that, I have not thought like that at all while reading what she wrote. I love you and I miss you I'm sorry for what I've done to you and everyone (spirit guides as well). I'm trying to stay positive, because I realize what I've done and I think me throwing that phone was a necessary lesson for me, although sadly your phone and my wallet will ultimately have to take a hit for it.

as sweet as this sounds, i've heard something like this before, look I just dont want to be his target of anger anymore, I suggested when Im angry or upset, just either give me some space (wich arians ALWAYS need when feeling emotional) or, to atleast try and calm me down. But, he just gets up in my face : / of course, I dont blow out on him like most would, but I keep it inside then I cry, and he gets mad when I cry, I dont understand...I also get annoyed with the whole 'secracy' trait, I know, its not anything serious like cheating, its just little things like joining a club or something...but that bothers me because i have NO secrets from him, he dosn't see it that way though, I know it...Hes also very clingy and so am I...but im kind of not at times? and he gets mad when I want to be with him saying oh you dont need to be around me 24/7! when he is the one who asked me to go out with him that weekend, and
Princess__Aries
oh and sorry i went kind of on ^^;
but, I was wondering are there any aries women out there, who have had a similar problem? as being an aries when your hurt badly, you build up a wall, i've noticed pisces are VERY against that. They want your trust completely, well its kind of hard when you've shattered it so many times, He is sensitive, I am sensitive too...
but, today I got a message from him:

I love you,

I'm not angry or mad at all, nor am I speaking in an marker tone anymore.
I understand what I've done wrong and i am serious about changing. So don't worry i'm not mad at Sarah or you or anyone.

I realize my mistakes and I will owe up to them, and about the phone, of course I'm going to pay you back for the phone, I'm not going to dodge that so don't worry, but I really would like to be able to use my phone once you get a new one, and I only ask that because I really will need a phone to call you whenever with, and by the time my second paycheck comes it'll be close to a month without a phone.

When I get my paycheck I'll try to give you a hundred back and then again the next paycheck okay?

I'm not going to say its fine I'm worthless or anything like that, I have not thought like that at all while reading what she wrote. I love you and I miss you I'm sorry for what I've done to you and everyone (spirit guides as well). I'm trying to stay positive, because I realize what I've done and I think me throwing that phone was a necessary lesson for me, although sadly your phone and my wallet will ultimately have to take a hit for it.

as sweet as this sounds, i've heard something like this before, look I just dont want to be his target of anger anymore, I suggested when Im angry or upset, just either give me some space (wich arians ALWAYS need when feeling emotional) or, to atleast try and calm me down. But, he just gets up in my face : / of course, I dont blow out on him like most would, but I keep it inside then I cry, and he gets mad when I cry, I dont understand...I also get annoyed with the whole 'secracy' trait, I know, its not anything serious like cheating, its just little things like joining a club or something...but that bothers me because i have NO secrets from him, he dosn't see it that way though, I know it...Hes also very clingy and so am I...but im kind of not at times? and he gets mad when I want to be with him saying oh you dont need to be around me 24/7! when he is the one who asked me to go out with him that weekend, and
Princess__Aries
AHHH sorry ;_;' it repeated because I thought It cutt of my message >X< just read the seconed one after the first post..Im not sure how to deleete it X__X;
Gemini Godess
Dump him.
thefish
Punching or hitting is no good and theres no excuse for that. That said and done. He tried to convey to you that the role playing thing bothers him immensely on an emotional level. You ignored him ... thats a no no. Anything fantasy is still cheating to a pisces period. If i found out my lady was role playing i would ditch her no questions asked. Second you then talked to the other person involved about it even further belittling him. Of course the other guy would say whatever it takes to be on your side......

He broke your phone because you do not realize how important it is to him. You two cannot communicate emotionally verbally maybe. But 90% of pisces communication is verbal based. Emotional betrayal twice! Never discuss your personal relationship with your Pisces man with someone who is of ethical and emotional question to your relationship. For pisces fantasy is real and reality so anything you are fantasizing with someone else is real to him no matter how you spin it.

Ive never hit a woman nor broken anything of hers. However definitely would consider your my space interaction as infidelity. If you want this to work in any sense of the matter at all. You need to tune into what hes feeling. Right or wrong logically has nothing to do with it. If something about another girl was bothering you and he went and talked to the other girl about it or if he was role playing with girls constantly would you have a positive reaction?

If you cant tune into him then you should take off as soon as you can. If you frustrate him enough to get outbursts like that and your not willing to see your mistakes as well its a lost cause. From what i read your not feeling him. Yeah your phone got broken yeah you got hit bad form i agree he shouldnt have. But also realize that your poor perception and lack of communications skill contributed to it.

Youve made sacrifices i get it. But sacrifices in one section do not allow mistakes in another. A road is only as bumpy as you the drivers allow. If its absolutely nuts pull over check the map and then head in the right direction. You both have fair grievances. Hell change as you do. Much of his change will depend on you as well. Its just how it works. In a perfect world hed be changed tomorrow on his own no work involved. If you cant handle him at his worst you definitely do not deserve him at his best. The same for the reverse.
Lidia

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Lidia
In my experience One from my friends is aries girl who i kno for 2 years, she is very popular, outgoing, and social party personality can be kind and sweet. Most of the time carefree. The Difference between air and water signs is that we take relationships very seriously and in love r loyal to one person. Give them most of our time. Your style of partying with evryone your pises can perceive as you running around playing games, getting together with somewone else other men pises dont want to lose you they get worried and check your phone and other things to make sure you are his.
Lidia
My advice is if u love him make sure he is on your first place after have your friends becuz we need constant reasurance that feelings are still there.
Lidia
your phone should be second matter and your your money.
Pisces_Dream
I dunno I am not even going too talk about the whole zodiac thing but just the whole rage actions. I would run regardless of what sign he is. When we are new in relationships people present who they are. Not likely he is going to change who knows maybe he throws you to the ground next. If I were you I would not stick around to find out. He even justifies "I had to throw the phone" what kind of crazy bullbutter is that? No, he did not have to throw the phone. He could just learn how to keep his anger in check. To me he sound like trouble and I would get out before you get too vested.

Best of luck!
Pisces_Dream
I dunno I am not even going too talk about the whole zodiac thing but just the whole rage actions. I would run regardless of what sign he is. When we are new in relationships people present who they are. Not likely he is going to change who knows maybe he throws you to the ground next. If I were you I would not stick around to find out. He even justifies "I had to throw the phone" what kind of crazy bullbutter is that? No, he did not have to throw the phone. He could just learn how to keep his anger in check. To me he sound like trouble and I would get out before you get too vested.

Best of luck!
tubbyscubby
ok, my eyes zeroed in on he punched you and broked phone. that's the only two things i read and i think that's all i need to know...

i don't understand the discussion here. i don't care about the details. i don't care if you provoked, hit him, spat on him...

leave.

he can't control his hands....maybe you can't control your mouth....maybe you were just sitting wrong, hell i don't know, i didn't read it and again, don't need to.

leave.

toxic people don't belong together. you'll end up hurting one another and sometimes when you love someone, like in the case of an addiction, the best thing you can do is walk away.
MsPisces.
I can't believe people are condoning him punching you in the face!

What was his reason for that one? You didn't say it was related to the internet issue.


So, basically every time he gets mad he gets violent...

I don't care how much you two love eachother, the bottomline is, he can't control his anger. Everytime he gets upset he gets violent...that will not stop, no matter how much you try to 'change' and be a 'good' girlfriend.


Please ignore those that tell this is actually about YOUR actions. If that is in fact the case, does that mean you have to suffer his abuse everytime you treetrunk up, which you will eventually do as you are only human? Even if you were cheating, that doesn't warrant a punch in the face.
MsPisces.
"it's hurting him and I can understand why,so you need to decide how much you care about him."



:O


In other words, if you love him you'll cater to his sensitive feelings, and get punched in the face when you don't.
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